This is my story - I meet my SO July 2006 and we corresponded and in August 2007 he proposed. We got married February 2008. My husband is from Jamaica and once he got here he explained to me that he didn't expect me to have as much as did (home and two cars)

It took a couple of months before his work permit was processed so therefore I was providing and paying all bills - without complaint because that's what you do when you're married. But now he has two jobs and figures since I'm his sponsor he doesn't have to pay any bills. So I have file for divorce which here in Texas it takes 60 days to be final.

The straw that broke my back - my husband told me yeserday that he was setting me free and that he was going to do what he had to do - and he was leaving. Then last night a police escorts him to our home - and I was thinking so that he could get his things and go - oh but no. He told the officer that I signed a affidavit of support and that he wasn't going anywhere. The officer told me to contact my attorney and see if I could get a restraining order. He was threatening to go and he was going to set me free - but now he decided he will stay put and cause havoc on health.

20/20 hindsight - too late. I too had red flags but just gave them the old "it's just a culture difference" once he starts adjusting things will be better. And CSC hasn't completed the conditional green card yet - is there any chance I could stop them from completed that process?

I'm sure Texas is the same as many states...it is his home also and you can't just throw him out. I dont understand why the cop was necessary, but do as he sez....see a lawyer, like today, and file for divorce. Ask for a temp order to get him out f there since he can support himself. Don't even worry about the aff. of support at this stage, it is meaningless unless he asks for free govt services.

He will have to return to his home country if there is no marriage when he shows up at his AOS interview....just dont set yourself up where he can claim abuse.

Some people was given green card without AOS interview. How about notifying the service center about you filing for divorce?

maybe remove conditions without an interview, but for th4e initial AOS an interview is required.
No marriage, no AOS.

I'm so sorry things have worked out this way for you. Heartbreaking after all the mountains you climbed to be together.

I think tom&tata are referring to those of us who had our AOS petition transfered to CSC. No interview is required. According to the timeline of the OP, there is no way to know if the petition is going to the local office or wil be transfered. I agree that she might want to notify USCIS once she is sure she wants to proceed with the divorce and cancel AOS.

Not necessarily. We were approved without interview.

Im so sorry you are going through this. My heart and prayers goes out to you.
Barb

I would contact: a lawyer first and foremost. I did my own divorce; but in this case, I would not recommend that.

Have them draw up a seperation agreement immediately. This may be one way to get him out of the house.

Learn to play the game now: whatever bills you pay for him, stop. Cell phone? Car payment? Clothes? Food? Whatever. If he wants to be his own big man, let him. If this was me, I would also start taking steps to protect myself. Lock up anything really valuable and not replacable.

Be safe and like someone else said don't give him anything to use against you.

I'm sorry, girl. It is heartbreaking and I feel for you.

Sorry, I missed that you filed.

I would call, e-mail, and write everyone I could think of till I stopped his AOS. It looks like a pretty clear cut case of visa fraud since it's happening so soon.

Maybe visit your local office and talk to someone face to face.

Thanks for the advice - I've got two appointments today so with the grace of God I will get some temporary orders.

I thank each and everyone for the advice and support. This too shall pass. My breakthrough is here - today in Jesus name.

Great advice! I totally agree! So sorry this is happening, hang in there!

So sorry to hear your story, but thank you for having the courage to share. I think it is more important to share the good, the bad, and the ugly.

Be very careful of his games. He might be trying to get you for abuse, which will give him automatic residential status. I know there are several post in regards to this.

Every journey will happen for a reason. He will never find true happiness in America for the simple reason of what he has done to get here. Use this fact to keep you strong and focused on you and not him. Let God handle him, while you handle you.




Take care & God Bless
Mr. Jibowu



AMEN

This is a great way to dupe people. They utilize confusion with the cultural differences. I dated someone here in america who already had his GC, but had some seriouse mental issues. I chalked them up to Cultural differences, which took me a year to figure out. As I kept trying to leave him, his issues got worst. I look back and think..."what were you thinking"... OH yeah I wasn't.

Thanks for your advice and support.

My local office is in San Antonio - I trying to get a human on the line to see if it's possible to stop his AOS. Do you have an email address or phone number other than 1-800-375-5283?

You can withdraw your Affidavit of Support any time before the approval and it will kill the adjustment of status.

Who do I contact about withdrawing the Affidavit of Support?

I would make an Infopass Appt.

damn...I didnt know that was possible...guess I dont follow the AOS threads.



Send a letter (notorized) to the service center that is processing the AOS application.

Put it in writing, sign it AND make an infopass appointment.
Restraining order against him would be good in case he will play the abuse card.

I finally got a human from the NCSC and the representative told me I would need to request in writing to cancel the AOS. She told me to mail two letters one to the National Benefits Center and my local USCIS office. I'm all on it at this moment. She said seeing that it in the pending phase it a good possiblity that it will be cancelled.

I see God working on this situation already. Lift me up in your prayers.

Good luck with this - I was going to suggest as well that since the AOS hasn't been approved you can still withdraw the affidavit of support and that will guarantee the AOS will be denied, as well as getting you off the hook financially. Fortunately, you have already received that advice. Good luck with everything - and I am very sorry that this has happened. It is sad when a relationship you worked so hard to make happen fails, and doubly so when you realize you were the only one treating it seriously.

Sorry to hear about this. At least you are now on the right direction and have high hopes that the AOS process will be cancelled. Send him back where he belongs and move on. You deserve better.

We are praying for you .

This really ticks me off when someone plays with a persons heart for a green card. One benefit, he doesn't sound like he is the smartest fella. If he was he would have held out to have the approval.

Please keep us up to date. I would love to see that one more visa fraud is stopped dead in its tracks.

{{hugs}}

Yes, I agree. But, I bet he thinks he is the smartest fella.

One word of advice, West.....do not fall for any quick apologies once he figures out that he should've waited for approval. You know the sweet words are coming.

i agree so much with the step that you are taking, this man wanted his paper and not your love and effort in all that CR1/IR1 process. jom i totally agree with you send him back to where he belong, these are the type of people who add to the backlog and cause the delay in the processing of others. more braveheart should be there like you westmorelandlove.

I'm so sorry to hear about this. I'd follow Jomo's girl advice on this, do everything you can to stop him and protect yourself.


Good luck to you and stay strong.

I am so sorry to hear this westmorelandlove...i read your signature story and your relationship felt so sincere to me...what "red flags" did you start noticing if you don't mind me asking...I love my husband dearly and I could honestly swear that our relationship is genuine but sometimes seeing this gives you your doubts which is sad but true...

I'll keep you in my prayers. Unfortuntely, I've heard this story too many times .

Very rough situation. I hope it works out the way you want it to.

My heart goes out to you. Stay strong

Sorry......Hope you are able to resolve the situation soon. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.


Robin

It is this kind of behavior on the part of the visa recipient that makes you wonder if the embassy interview shouldn't resemble the TV show "Moment of Truth" . It is terrible when anyone gets used in this manner. Hopefully he will end up with a lifetime ban.


Good luck WestmorelandLove You deserve so much better.

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He did not know..

First, I am sorry to hear about this. How heartbreaking.

I am a little concerned about the lack of clarity in what the USCIS employee told you. Gee, how surprising. The AOS application is not your application, it is your husband's. I do not believe you have the authority to cancel it, nor can a USCIS employee cancel it on your say-so, unfortunately. I think what you need to document clearly for them is your withdrawal of the Affidavit of Support (I-864), which you signed. Of course, as part of that letter, you can also state that your support of his efforts to adjust status are officially terminated, but I think the US Govt is, frankly, more interested in whether this guy will become a public charge or not than any other aspect of the situation (unless perhaps you have a good case of visa fraud to show them). Be sure to send these letters registered mail and keep a copy in a safe place.

I still think an Infopass appointment at your local office is still a very good idea... I just wouldn't trust that combination of USCIS and USPS.

I agree with Jomo's Girl, too... excellent advice. Be very wary of an abuse claim... he will find out soon enough that that is his last option.

I wish you luck in resolving this quickly and with as little pain as possible so that you can begin to heal and move on.

Maya

Wow, your husband sounds like a real piece of work! He said "he is setting YOU FREE" and then REFUSES TO LEAVE YOUR HOUSE???? LOL!! Sounds pretty arrogant.

Don't tell him anything about what you're doing in cancelling the Affidavit of Support (not even if you are angry and want to let him know you have an ace up your sleeve). Now is the time to have a poker face and do what you can to get out of this mess quickly and quietly.

Make sure to send those letters to stop AOS by CERTIFIED or REGISTERED MAIL so you have a record of sending them in case the USCIS loses the letters.

Good Luck!

Note to self. dont tell them what the affadavit of support is

Thanks for the information Maya62. You never know what the correct information is when you call USCIS. I am so greatful for this correction. I will ask to have the Affidavit of Support cancelled and am sending the letters off certified.

Very arrogant - he's not really to let go of his "cash cow" (he thinks I am a ATM). He commented that he was going to get himself established like I am and do what he has to do. Believe me my poker face is on. Even though he does get to stay here in my home until the temp orders are done (couple of weeks) I don't have to take him no where (work, shopping, etc.) the officer stated last night. He yelled and said "so you're going to spite me" WTF

I stated earlier that I had already filed for divorce (did an intake application with my local legal aid office and was denied services - income level too high) so today I officially file with a local attorney. Just some clarification for everyone.

Get your Senate or House Rep on the phone. . .they have special email access to the local offices that we cannot get. They WILL help you with this.

Just for clarification of my other post, getting the rep involved also helps keep a paper trail and support, as well as being faster than the speed at which the USCIS office will process your letter alone. You can attach a copy of the letter you sent for reference in the letter your Senate or House representative would send. They can get same day recognition, whereas our letters to a USCIS office get processed slowly like our applications.

This is something that needs quick attention so that you don't get "stuck" with more legal wrangling. . . I wish you luck in this horrible situation.

I concur with the advice already offered, to withdraw the Affidavit of Support and your endorsement of any accompanying applications, BUT please indicate in your request that the marriage has not been viable for X number of months and that you have reason to believe your husband entered into the marriage for immigrant benefit alone in your correspondence, and give as much evidence in terms of timeline and situations as you can. If by chance the approved AOS notification and the correspondence of your request to withdraw crosses in the mail, it just could prevent an automatic approval from sticking.

Thank you - I noted this in the letter.

Your husband's critical mistake was thinking either the I-134 or the I-864 before AOS approval were binding in any way. They are not. I assume you were also smart enough to cut him off from any access to your funds.

I am so sorry for your current situation after such a "visa journey." I will keep you in prayer.

Westmorelandlove, so sorry to hear -

In addition to your letter, copy the letters to ICE (Immigrations and Customs Enforcement). When you actually file the divorce, most states alllow for pendente lite orders, which means you can ask for immediate alimony from him - let him see that he isn't going to live in your house rent free and bank his paycheck - The judge can order payments.

I have been married before - so no transactions - (adding him) on any accounts had been made. He just started working - now that he's getting money - he doesn't have any plans to give me any at all.