I was reading this book from Sherry Argov (why men marry bitches).
The word "######" was used as an acronym for "Babe In Total Control of Herself".

The book refers to independent women who could do things on their own.
Women who are smart enough to decide and stick to their decision.
Someone who could stand on her own feet.

It was like a "smart man" would choose an "independent princess" than a "damsel in distress"..

What do u guys and girls think?

Well, since I'm the Paris Hilton of VJ I will say that I'm an expert on this matter. However, I have no comment at this time

I was reading this book from Sherry Argov (why men marry bitches).
The word "######" was used as an acronym for "Babe In Total Control of Herself".

The book refers to independent women who could do things on their own.
Women who are smart enough to decide and stick to their decision.
Someone who could stand on her own feet.

It was like a "smart man" would choose an "independent princess" than a "damsel in distress"..

What do u guys and girls think?

Hi... It was a pleasure meeting the Paris Hilton of VJ ( i am quite a newbie and don't know much of the members)...

It's a new titled I was given last night.

I think my husband is lucky - he never has to think for himself again. I'm in total control of everything.

I try not to.

..hmmm.. i'm thinking whether i'm an independent princess or a damsel in distress

oh.. congrats...

hi wendy....how are you today??.....hmmm...i can say im independent princess....my fiance love me and accepted me for who i am and what i am....

hmmm... my hubby thinks that i am in control of things too...

my husband just hands over control so he doesn't have to think

hi ann.. i am good thanks.. how about u?
i am an independent princess as well.. like you my hubby loves me for being independent and hard headed... hehehe



hmmmm.... maybe somewhere in between??...

my husband does that too... "baby, that is why you are my wife.. know you could handle things".. hehehe

im an independent princess! girl power!

hi joan.. sige chat tayo one time...




yes.. yes.. i totally agree... GIRL Power.. PINAY power...

It's simply saying..........."YES DEAR".

I don't like a man who lets me walk all over him.....once they do that, I wanna tell em to knit a set.

i do not like "feeble" men as well..
i guess women should have a balance between independence and respect (of hubby's authority)..
while men could be giving, they should also be firm enough if they think that their ego is being overly damaged.
i love doing things independently (like working for me not to ask my hubby to buy my whims) but at the same time i do respect his feelings and opinions..
we compromise on things..

..heheheh ...a bit of extremes. Thanks i love this thread.

butches can pretend to be "damsel in distress" to catch atttention....:)but bitches are not desperate.

yeah.. so ur proud to be a "BIT BITCHY".. heheheh...
and i am so proud to be one of the "FILIPINA BITCHES".. heheheh

Babe In Total Control of Herself.....

What up #####? I'm the Ron Jeremy of VJ.

i see... ok...

...heheheheheh

I feel honored to be surrounded by such an esteemed group of "members"...

I would have to say that we are equal. That's not to say I don't sometimes let him think he has more control.

I'm with Lisa. I'd never have any respect for a guy who let me walk all over him. Nor would I let him walk all over me. Though a strategically placed "whatever you think, dear" can sometimes be a good thing.

ok! count me in as one of the Filipina Bitches

HI Wendy Gurl,

hell yeah.. im so much of a biatch. hehehehehe and i dont care if it means literally..

Jomay..

welcome to the group gurl.. hehehehe!

i know you are one gurl...hehehe..

I am 50 / 50!!! Ninfa

I am very independant and the country my hubby is from- i don't think he likes that to much.

?????????????? independent is a virtue

Now that I am older, I can say I am well established. I know who I am, and what I am and I have never felt the need to depend on others for a dang thing. I enjoy having a man in my life, not that he can do things for me or give me things because I don't feel the need for that. What can a man offer me that I can't get for myself? I do not need to have children to prove or feel I am complete as a woman. I don't need to conform to any standards in society that says I must do this or that in order to be ' acceptable ' .

yay.

Confidence, whether it's shown in men or women, is attractive. That's the real issue here -- not being a "######" or "assertive" or a "princess." If you know what you want and you're confident in your abilities to go about getting it or doing it, then that attitude generally shows through. However, there is a stark difference between confidence and arrogance. Many people (often men) make this mistake, and while a confident man will usually seem appealing to women, an arrogant one will most likely be a major turn-off. The same goes in reverse, as well.

Defintely an independent princess. Can't even imagine me being a damsel in distress. Hubby likes me the way I am.

To each his own, though.

Duplicate topics have been merged.

The issue is about confidence.. YES but we kept on using the word ###### as this thread was inspired by the book "WHY MEN MARRY BITCHES"..

oh jesus. thank god. I thought I was crazy for a minute. I swore the thread's title didn't have b*tch in it last night.

Amen!

I was looking for the other one as well...Realized that topics have been merged. I posted the same topic in 2 forums (Philippines and Off Topic)..

there was 2 versions of this thread, one in a different forum. also another duplicate of another thread that i moved to ot. i moved them both to ot and asked mags to merge the 4 threads into 2.

I remember when I got married, a much older friend of mine advised me that in order to have a "happy and successful" marriage, there are two things I should learn to say:

• "Yes, dear"
• "No, dear" (to be used only after the wife says "You're not going to do/wear that, are you?")

Of course... this is also the same friend who told me to toss a brightly colored sock in with my wife's laundry, so when it screws her stuff up, she'll never have me do it again.