I know this may be an odd question to ask. I was talking to a woman about a year ago on here and she told me that she went to visit her boyfriend in his country and he twisted her _____ in an argument. When she returned home she got x-rays of her ____ and it showed that she had a hairline fracture. Anyway, she told me that it was her fault for getting him upset and apologized. I couldn't believe my ears. She said she would still petitioned for him for he did not mean to do what he did. I am wondering now if there is anybody that has the same issues as this person did and is still willing to go on with this process. Just very curious.

I'll never in my life understand why the hell woman stay with men that abuse them! That goes for men who stay with abusive women as well! My ex did hit me once. Got it? Once and I was out of there. People that go back are just asking for it to happen to them again because the abuse will not stop. And to go across the world for this abuse? That just blows my mind. He abused her in his country you can count on him abusing her in her country too.

She's nuts!

Well she had so much low self esteem and maybe she put so much into the relationship that she thought that it really wouldn't happen again. I never heard from her again and don't know the outcome of the relationship but I often think of her and what happened.

I also went to another country and met a (supposively) nice man and I got him upset about something and he threw the remote across the room. Didn't lay a hand on me but I thought to myself if he gets this upset at my first visit what will happen if I continue with this relationship. I broke up with him later.

If my husband would of touched me bad in any way then I would of broke up with him end of the story.

Sad to say but some woman don't think like that

Certainly not!

YES, THE LAST TIME WE WERE TOGETHER, SHE ALMOST SEXED ME TO DEATH!!!!
DAYUMN WHAT A WAY TO GO...

i have never been physically abused but i have watched my sis go thru it for many years..........if perviz did something like that would be the only time cuz i would be gone married or not.........when that fine boundary line is crossed they never stop.....if u forgive them once it happens again and again.........also there is not just physical abuse there is also mental abuse sometimes i wonder if that is not worse than the physical.....

OH #### dude you could of spent alot less and paid a prostitute to sex you death.

Very true

this time and the next time and the next time....he can get happy in the same pants he got mad in

people dont change

I was watching a movie and this girl was abused by her husband for years. She believed that it was his right to abuse her and because she loved him she put up with it. She did eventually kill him and was aquitted. Some women just don't know what to do. These men isolate women from any kind of support system so that the women feel all alone. They only have these abusive men to lean on.

I can't believe that she still petitioned for him but maybe she is afraid of him or believes that he will change. He will NEVER change and the abuse will only get worse once he gets here. 2ond journey you should talk to this woman and help her to see that if he comes here her life could be in serious danger. My best to your friend.

I don't know what's worse.

The woman putting up with the abuse or not being able to see she's a greencard wife.

It's sad to me that this is such a problem for some people.

On a different level, it's like the people who feel the need to check up on their SOs online, because they don't trust them.
I just don't get it.

I feel blessed to not only 100% trust P, but to also feel safe and secure in his arms rather than scared....

Never been physically abused, and would never allow it to happen to me. I would rather live alone for the rest of my life than live with an abusive partner, whether it be physically, emotionally or any other way.

I have way too much respect for myself for that!!!!

I've never had it happen to me.

6 men have been physically abused by there S.O's? Do tell how they abuse you guys. Did they sex you to death like that last poster? Or have woman become more abusive and you like it.

No and if someone hit me, he'd get laid out on the floor cause I don't take that crap.

NO!!! and I will never allow that to happen

I think in most cases it kinda sneaks up on ppl it did for me with my ex. I was real young(16yrs old) and the first real relationship. Then over time (15yrs total) little things would start up. Name calling, and him having to know where i was at all times and who i was with ect. (he used to tell me it was cause he was worried about me). Then bit by bit you start to beleive its normal and think oh its not that bad he doesnt hit me crap. Then bang one day he hits ya. I'm glad I woke up before he got any worse and i was able to find myself in that mess. i should of pressed charges when the police showed up (i figured if they take him in and he wakes up in jail, that will be the last of it. Ya dum but hey had those blinders on still.Only regret is i should not have been so nice in the divorce. I should of told the laywer about the abuse i would of got the divorce faster instead of waiting a year. I had enough police reports to back me up but the fear of pissing him off was so high just from the divorce i didnt want it to get worse. Ya theres a pattern lol. stopping.

Also I would never be so hard on someone in that situation they cant help it its they way they think and the abuser makes sure of that or it would never of happened to begin with. These guys can be so smooth its crazzy. So give them a break offer a shoulder to cry on and be there for them. Cause you may be the only person looking out for them. ok stopping this time for sure but you see what i'm saying.

had to add my now wounderful husband is the sweetest man on earth and i'm so happy to have a good man

Danielle

I wholeheartedly agree with Ontarkie. Unless you've been there, you don't have a clue. It's very easy to sit back and pass judgment and say women or men who stay in a relationship like this are asking for it by not getting out. So rather than making such a judgment, have a bit more compassion and at least try to be supportive. You never know, YOUR support and compassion may be just what that person needs to find the strength to LEAVE.

By the way...I've been there. *sigh*

I wasn't passing judgment, but saying that I feel sad that it's such a problem.
I've never been physically abused, but I did deal with mental abuse, which is just as bad, IMO.

lay your hands on me=I kick your *ss and leave
Thank God I dont have any worries.

In all seriousness, I feel bad for anyone who has gone through anything like that and sorrier and frustrated for the women/men who stay in the relationship.

Believe me, "abused" is not something that one sets out to be. And I definitely did not ask for it. I have 2 brothers. And we were raised privileged. So stereotypes do not apply.

Mine started out verbally. He was constantly telling me how fat I was or how no one wanted me, not even my family. Every time I would try to leave, he would block the door, take the phone, or take my keys. I can't tell you how many times I cried myself to sleep. I really felt like he was all I had. My family lived in California and we were in Minneapolis. I tried to call my mom. Basically, I made my bed. I had to lay in it. Within the next week he split my lip and blackened my eye. If it weren't for a coworker that pulled me aside and talked to me and took me in, I may not be here right now. Only God knows.

This was when I was 17 years old. Thought he was the one. What a laugh. O well. I now have the man of my dreams. The kindest, sweetest, most giving man in the world.

Sorry, hope I didn't sound pissy.

I am a woman and no this has never happened to me.

I don't think my husband will physically abuse me. I feel sorry for those people who were abused

No.

I know...and it wasn't really you that I was indirectly referring to. You wouldn't believe the crass comments I've had made to me personally from women who thought I was "asking for it" or was "pretty dumb" for "allowing" it to happen. I'm just saying if ya haven't been there...don't pass judgment. I dealt with mental and emotional...the day he decided to step it up a notch and physically abuse me, in front of my child, that's what gave me the strength and the courage (yes, abused women don't have a lot of courage) to leave.

Mental abuse, IMHO, is worse than physical. Physical scars can heal...mental scars take far longer. Believe me. *sigh*

Sorry to hear you had to go through that.

No, you do NOT sound pissy. This is exactly what I was saying before...unless you've been there, you can't know what this does to a person's state of mind. You can't and you don't. So this is why I was saying that those passing judgment, shouldn't. They have NO CLUE.

I'm glad you're so happy too. I too have an awesome man as my husband...he loves me regardless.