I want a filter in the forums whereby if a member begins to attack another member for having a shorter timeline than theirs, the post locks up.

If the post is a combination of an attack on the other member's shorter timeline PLUS the writer won't intelligently discuss what the 'short timer' is saying but rather maintains their focus on the other persons short timeline, I want the post to not only lock up but I want the writer to be sent to their room.

If the post is a combination attack on a short timeline PLUS selective deafness because of the short timeline PLUS contains insults about the 'short-timers' intelligence, accuses the 'short-timer' of not having a life, accuses the 'short-timer' of not having any empathy for the suffering of others, accuses the 'short-timer' of arrogance, etc. - then I want the poster's PC to blow up.

If short-timers are told to stay out of threads simply because they are short-timers - I want those posters to spend a solid week locked into a forum with only zqt to talk to.

How difficult would it be to write the code for this?

Piece of cake. You pay first, yes?

You can make their PC blow up?

Kewl.

Yes, yes, yes. We are SEICMM Level 8 certified, we have sharpest programming minds.

You pay first, yes?

will this work until then?

you read that thread, huh, RJ??

That is low-tech solution.

You come to us, Rebecca. We will do the harnessing and the leveraging and the pooling of synergies, SEI CMM style.

Bring money.

linky please

wut thread?????
I miss all the fun

You write sample code, yes?



I would have shipped them some cheese to go with their whine, but I didn't have a mailing address.



I prefer a bottle of gin with a nipple on it.

Yes, it is on the website. But you know, we are hit by sudden popularity due to rigorous processes and high quality and the website is currently unavailable.

In the meanwhile, sign here.

Does it come with an oriental rug?

You like rug? No problem.

Check my post history. It'll lead you to the chaos.



I want the PC explosion to be really impressive. But no collateral damage.

LaL posting...in before the lock!

btw: the pacifier wasn't for you RJ. it was tool for you to use.

It is too bad that it is with regular occurance that some choose to use a timeline as a weapon. I don't see the point and I feel terribly every time I see it.




Silly - is that all people think I do?

no i just thought the unfinished bussiness line was coming.

Ah...ty......yes I did think you were offering it to me.

we were all noobies once *shrugs*

nah, you're just on a roll today!

There's a difference between a noobie and a rude, hurtful twit.

Just like there's a difference between a child and a brat.

yeah but I saw rudeness coming from all sides..

I am not saying you were rude though,.. other people were....

Marilyn, you know what? So what if they were. That's honestly how I feel about it at this point.

I can't begin to tell you the number of times I have been attacked in this community because my petition for Wes got a 15 day NOA2. I bet you didn't know that this good fortune makes me a moron; makes me unsympathetic; makes me pompous; and any number of other egregious sins.

I'm to the point I just want to post as rudely as I possibly can too. But I play the stupid game of trying to educate the offender.

In short - I'm stupid.

*edited because I also cannot spell*

Rebecca Jo... STFU
First, you are mean and ill intentioned, ALWAYS.
Second, you got approved in 15 days, you biatch.
Third, the rabbit scares me...
Kidding sister - just thought to make you either punch me or smile

Sister....

Bite me.

Rebecca,

Forget about 'em. We were lucky enough file as the first group with the new post-IMBRA form and it took us three months through CSC. VSC was processing in less than 2 weeks. BUT This was while tons of couples were stuck waiting to clear the IMBRA backlog and were waitings months longer than us.

Our three month wait was tough, but looking around it was easy to see lots of people had it much tougher and the process can be unpredictable at any level. Anyone who takes just a minute of time to understand the system, read a bit of the threads and has a little compassion for others isn;t going to attack anyone.

These posters aren't worth your valuable time. Concentrate on all those you have helped (me included!)

Now, now, don't get antsy.... LMAO.

personally, i'd be happy with a filter that boots off of vj anyone that is mean to becca

Well, my thanks for the kind words.

But this really isn't just about me. The discourtesy which was levied against me today is often used against other posters. I've seen it happen time and again in many threads to many 'veteran' members. I'm fairly certain it has contributed to the exodus of some of them.

Personally I've lost track of the number of times it has happened to me. Dozens would not be an exaggeration. I use to have my timeline in my signature but deleted it because the frequency of the attacks was particularly bad this winter as the fee increase backlog drug on.

Bottom line though - this type of rude behavior is just one example of the type of garbage that goes on in the upper forums. In many ways it is far worse than any bickering that occurs in Off Topic, because the quibbling, posturing and conjecturing which goes on in the upper forums has the potential to negatively impact cases.

Shiiit. I was so ready to reply with something nasty and now I can't
You have said wise words sister

Best post all day.



My question for you, Master Troll: Will you bring 110% or use your Catholicity? If not, no money.

Now... that sentence should be reserved only for the most hideous crimes

I'm surprised that Charles didn't comment on this sentence. He's slacking!

Btw, I just want to add that Becca speaks wise words and I do agree with her. We all know how stressful the process is. Why there has to be constant "one-up-man ship" all the time over how long people have had to wait is beyond me. For some it almost seems like it is a martyrdom.

"You've not waited X amount of months like me therefore your posts are useless!" is biting the hand that feeds you. A shorter wait does NOT mean that that person has little or no knowledge to add to the subject at hand.

sorry, i was too busy sucking up to becca in this thread

Wow, Charles, it only took you 3 minutes to respond to that. Full marks to you! I'm impressed!

nor does it give that person the right to be rude in assuming everything they say is (the way it is) times and rules and circustances all change from when one went thru the system compared to another, when in the end nothing we do really changes anything but (at the time) the newer person will feel they are at least trying to do something for their case scaraism and cussing and name calling never changed any thing from either side new or old

That's true. Things do change. The system is flowing differently than when I was processing.

So are you saying that because I processed three years ago, I don't have any knowledge of how things are processing now? Is that also something newer posters will levy against a 'veteran' member as another reason they should keep their mouth shut?

I'm not asking those questions to be argumentative. I am asking if that is what is happening 'out there'. Because if a short timeline coupled with a visa process that is several years old makes a persons commentary unwelcome - well I'm just amazed by that.

I read these forums and others all the time. By no means am I going to state that I am right all the time when I post. But I am 'up to speed' with what is going on. And I don't come into threads talking about the Service to defend it or to be it's spokesperson (as I was charged), but rather to try and explain to those currently processing that others before them have experienced difficulties as well.

I have a feeling you are trying to keep the peace, and I appreciate that. But let me add this - I believe what happened to me in the thread in question was nothing more than shooting the messenger. My comments were unwelcome because they weren't what people wanted to hear. My short timeline then became an easy target. If I follow what you are also saying, there is a school of thought out there that I and others like me shouldn't speak because we aren't currently in process - because we aren't currently suffering perhaps? That's just wrong.

There's another presumption that I'm against trying to seek changes within the system. I never 'discourage' members from advocating for their case. All I am trying to explain to folks is what they are up against. Is it wrong they are caught in a faceless system? Yes it is. But as I have said many many times - the system has improved in many ways and only those of us who have been in it a while and studied it a while have the evidence, knowledge and anecdotal experience to speak to the newer members about that. If what we have to offer is useless to newer members because you would rather be molly-coddled and spoonfed, well then - my presence and the presence of others like me is no longer needed here.

I'm going to finish this by getting this off my chest. If you can't deal with what USCIS is putting you through now, then God help you as you navigate your future in a marriage to a foreign-born individual. As I have traversed to the other side of the real life visa journey, I am here to testify to you that what USCIS is dishing out to you is NOTHING compared to the challenges you will face as an international couple. You all better take a patience pill, because at the moment you are showing symptoms of being ill-qualified to travel a lifelong journey of blended cultures.

This is never going to change. Things here are the way everyone wants them to be. Frankly that's why I've largely stopped posting here (not that anyone gives a monkey's toss). But I've accepted the fact that VJ is exactly what VJ wants to be. That means I can either post here and be annoyed by it, or post somewhere else and spare myself the grief.

Just to let you all know that I now have in my possession some VJ Forum Sticks. Made of durable pine, varnished and engraved with the words "VJ Forum Stick" (and your name for an additional cost of $1 a letter) they are currently costing $9.99. They are a perfect accompaniment to your VJ surfing pleasure - every member should have one!

If you're interested, PM me with payment details and your address.

Thanks, all.

I'm only paying $10 bucks for an old board out of your house if it will actually make sparks fly.

son of a .............. i just notice..you got your immigration stuff completed quicker than sanita..damn, your hide

STFU you Persian Shoe....

lol...