I was remenising about my sweety today and how we first met and I thought it would be somthing fun we could share and discuss here. Since I asked the question I will share first.

I was out of a bad relationship/divorce and was feeling lonely. I didnt want to date again becuase of my children having to go through the divorce so I decided to join a single site and just have fun talking to people. I wasnt looking for anything serious and I actually passed up my husbands photo 3 times before deciding to send him a message. To this day I really dont know what prompted me to message him becuase I just wasnt feeling his photo(sorry babe).

After some time of him not responding, I was like "oh no he didnt" so I sent him another message and said "are you going to respond or what"! I look back now and wonder what cuased me to be so persistent about a profile of a person but for some reason his profile intrigued me and made want to see what he was about. Finally he responded and told me the reason he hadnt responded sooner was becuase he didnt check his mail that often but was sorry and he liked my photo and profile too.( I guess the psycho girl bit didnt scare him off ) We started writing back and forth and I really liked how honest and sincere he was and I began to like him little by little to the point that I actually wanted to maybe meet in person to go on a date but I was soon crushed when he informed me that he lived in South Korea. WHAT! I hadnt asked sooner becuase it wasnt improtant but now I wandered if I should just stop talking to him.I had never met anyone so far away, and how could anything come of this? However after some thought and more talks with him I decided that even though I didnt know how it was going to work I couldnt just let it go that easily. I had never been overseas and the thought that I might ever go to meet him never crossed my mind, however our conversations continued and the feelings kept growing until finally one day I realized I was falling for him. We could share everything with one another, we confided everything with each other, even our deepest secrets and feelings we shared. Soon it became apparent to both of us that we had to meet each other but that didnt come as easy as we thought.

I knew I probably couldnt afford to go to Korea but I told him I would try to save the money to fly there but by july of that year I realized it was too difficult so I had to let him know I just couldnt afford it. I decided to tell him to let us just be friends becuase I just felt the distance was too great and we would never see each other but he wasnt going for that. He told me that no matter how long it took he was going to save the money until he had enough to send for me but that was difficult becuase his job only paid him the equivilent of $500 a month. There were some times that we both wandered if we should just give up and there were even a few times we decided to end it but he would always come back a day or two later and say that he just could not forget me like that. There were times we cried together on the phone becuase we didnt think we would ever see each other but we both knew we were in love. But finally a year and 2 months after our first conversation he had saved the money and sent for me and I arrived at 11:00 pm at Incheon airport in Seoul. I could go on and on about that first meeting but I wont. The rest is history.

Ohhhhhh, I really love ur story...so sweet. I hope that you two will be reunited very soon. Thanks for sharing.

Mine is alittle boring, I created a profile on this one site looking for friends only and one day my husband sent me an email telling me that he would like to be friends. He told me that he was in The Netherlands getting his Masters, so I thought "what do I have to lose?" Eventually he started calling me about 5 times a day and I really felt blessed because he possessed alot of great qualities and he was always there to give me sound advice and if I had a bad day, he was always trying to make it better. We eventually started going on the web cam and spending quality time together...I will never forget the first time that I saw him on the webcam...I was really nervous and scared (doesn't that sound crazy?) But when I saw him smile and talk to me....I started gettin a fuzzy warm feeling inside.

Eventually, we decided to meet and he tried to come here, but because of him being almost done with school, he was denied a visitors visa, so I had to go to Amsterdam. I was so nervous on the 14 hr flight that when it got down to the last 30 mins before landing....I was a hot mess (sweating, shaking, nervous...praying like there was no tomorrow). When I finally saw him at the airport and spent some real QT with him....it was like heaven. He treated me like a queen, we went to church together, and he just showed me around and we took many walks along the canals...it was beautiful. My first visit was brief and I wish I could of stayed longer, but I had kids/ work and he had school. Our relationship just continued to blossom over a period of time and eventually we decided to apply for the K1 visa.

When I saw my honey's profile it intrigued me because I liked his job and jokingly asked him if he wanted to trade jobs with me.
He worked for the UNHCR as a telecom operator for the surrounding refugee camps.
I dreamed to go to Africa as a humanitarian or some kind of aide relief worker.
Well, we became friends and had some talks that developed into more and love blossomed out of our friendship.
About a year later we met face to face and it was awesome. I planned to visit the same time my church organization had a National conference there
and already befriended some people before I arrived.
Here we are, still separated after 3 years.

Your story is not boring at all. It reminds so much of the feelings I experianced. I can sooooo relate to the webcam thing. I was nervous everytime we went on cam. I recall getting up 2 hours early( the time diffrence ) just to get primped to talk on cam. Man those were the days. If it wasnt for my hubby I would have probably never travelled overseas, and to two diffrent countries at that. My visit to meet him in Korea was a little short as well but I was the happiest I have ever been in my life and when I came home it was the saddest time in my life. I remember the walks we had at all hours of the day and night. Korea was so beautiful and peacefull and we could walk everywhere we wanted to go. I also remember the nights we would spend out dancing and drinking soji till I was nothing but giggles. We plan to take a trip back to Korea after he gets home for one of our anniverseries I can't wait to relive those memories!

I am so sorry this is happening to you but things will work out in Gods time. He sees our suffering and wants to help us , he just wants us to know him,ask him and have faith that he will help those believing he will. God is love and his name Jehovah means I will prove to be and he always does prove who he is just when we least expect it. So have faith becuase time and unforseen occurences will always happen but so will Gods promises.

The stories so far are very interesting, thanks for coming up with the topic. Omoba I am still pulling for you both and praying that things will work out by the grace of GOD STAY STRONG!!!!!!!!


I connected with my beloved thru a dating site. I like you 4theloveofhenry was not looking for anything serious as a matter of fact in June I broke off a year and a half long relationship with my guy. It was just not working out at all!!!!! So, I thought it better for me to move on. I decided I wanted to meet some new friends, maybe even some world wide. You never know maybe a chance to do some traveling if I made some good friends. I got this message mail that my love was interested in my profile within the first couple of days of posting. I simply sent him an email back thanking him for his interest and asked if he found a better way for us to communicate to let me know. A day or so later, I got his email with his phone number. I completely blew him off, I was like there is no way I am calling him. Did not even know how to call him. So, he would call me a couple of times a week. Then we started to chat on line, we talked about everything. We would chat for hours every day and on holidays and special occasions we talked longer. I was still completely blowing him off, I remember one Sunday telling him that I could not stay online long it was Sunday and I was going out to watch the football game. He asked me what time I would be back and he came back on line to continue our chat for that day. I found out how to call adding the international service to my cell phone plan. NOT THE WAY TO GO!!!!!!I racked up about $1,500 on my cell phone bill. But, whew GOD was by my side because I did not pay a dime of it!!!!! One day I called him and he was listening to one of my favorite songs on the radio. It was Joe- I wanna know!!!!! From that day on I knew we would have so many things in common!!!!!
As we say"the rest is history!!!!!! I LOVE MY HONEY TO DEATH!!!!! HE IS SO SWEET!!!!!

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Ahhh, this is a very cute story! I would love to visit Korea one day.


Since I was a kid, I was always big on helping others. Naturally, the idea of travelling and working with refugees and children around the world appealed to me. I'm even majoring in International Relations in school. Anyway, I read about a Liberian refugee camp (Buduburam) in Ghana and I had the opportunity to go and do some volunteer work there. The work was scheduled for a year later, so I figured I would set up a profile on a penpal website in order to meet some friends from Ghana.

I'd just come out of a terrible divorce and I was totally not looking for love. After I set up my profile, I got an email from my SO telling me that he was interested in speaking with me about Ghana. Even though he lived in Liberia at the time, he had been living in Ghana for 4 years due to the war in his country. Well, come to find out, he was a humanitarian worker, also! He used to work in the refugee camps in Liberia and he would take health and wellness surveys from the residents. We found out that we had sooooooo much in common and our friendship grew. After about 3 months of nonstop talking, we decided to take it to the next level and I eventually went to Liberia to meet him. My whole trip was amazing. I was overwhelmed by everything from the circus of people who picked me up from the airport, the huge welcome party where I burst into tears, the monkey in the backyard, the chicken living in the kitchen, and even hitting a police officer with the pathfinder....rofl, that a long story.

The main purpose of my trip was to make sure that we were doing the right thing and he proposed to me during my second week there. I said YES and the rest is history.

BTW, during my trip overseas, I was also able to stop in Ghana and visit and work at the camp. I got my volunteer-groove on and I grabbed a husband. Haha, I killed two birds with one stone.

OMG! I love your story....made my tears flow
I also met my other half online.
God bless you and your family.

Cheers,
blaurbitxh

P.S. so happened my husband is stationed in S.Korea, been there twice to visit him.

LL you had me cracking up .........the monkey, chicken and police officer

Girl, you know how it is in true T.I.A. style....

Beautiful stories. Seems like a lot on this forum meet via web sites. Ironically, it seems most of us on the Jamaican forum, meet on vacations. Wonder if those trends follow on other forums.

You are right...I have noticed other trends in other forums such as Russia and the Phillipines.

Wow. Looks like a lot of people met online. We didn't

My whole family lives in Ghana (except for a few extended family members and my family) so I tend to go to Ghana every year. My aunt was scheduled to have surgery and I volunteered to travel with her to the city where she would have the surgery. After she was discharged from the hospital my cousin (her son) came over on the weekend to see her and brought his friend (his family's house is literally next door to where we were staying). I remember thinking to myself "great, another friend" My experience with my cousin's friends has always been that they want to "impress" the American girl. So they come along with their fake accents and try to use words they do not understand and basically talk gibberish This is what I was expecting but I was pleasantly surprised

At first I did not want to do the long distance thing. I was not convinced that he would have enough incentive to maintain a relationship given that we really did not get to spend much time together. I felt that it was going a little too fast for me, but he was convinced from the moment he met me. Poor thing, I rejected him sooooo many times and I am truly blessed that I came to my senses before he decided I was not worth it. After I left Ghana we started talking on a regular basis and after a few months we decided that we wanted to make this permanent

well love prevails after all..between me and my fiance he is definitely the mushy one but hearing stories like this made me think that love really make the world go round..funny but true...i was a skeptic about this cyber relationship before and yes virtual insanity i thought..back then i used to scorn and thought my friends were crazy trying to find friends/boyfriends on the net,little did i know that i will be a part and a victim of this world wide web of love myself..

well as fate had decided i met my husband online too..a friend tagged me into this dating site i joined it for kicks..and kicked me it did..straight to the heart lol..my fiance joined it a week before me and he told me(he might be lying dont know for sure)that he fell for me the first time he laid eyes on my picture..men!!!..he sent me messages but i chose not to reply coz first of all he is not my type i mean he look so serious and stuffy..like one of those renaissance painters..face covered with beard and moustache...arrggghhhh shagrag i thought to myself..and he was wearing a beret waaaaa...nostradamus i thought..well im not superficial or anything but he is just not my type..then one night i decided to send him a message coz all of those other guys are just so insensitive and morons to say the least..we both open our conversation window at the same time wowowow is that a sign or what!!!then we went to yahoo and when he opened his cam the first word that came out of my mouth was..wow you look better than your picture..shallow and superficial me...i almost passed on the opportunity of meeting him..we talked for 10 hours that first time..then the next day he proposed to me...after 3 months we met in manila then he asked me to be his wife..he knelt down on his knee gave me his ring and promised that he will love me forever...i love you wyatt...the cheese to my macaroni...

I guess you learned the true meaning of "never judge a book by it's cover", huh? Hahaha, nice story!

yup you're right..what's essential is invisible to the naked eye..so they say..and its true..thanks!!!

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I guess we have this in common too Zee... I did not meet Kobby on-line either.

I grew up across the street from my Ghanaian friends (and attended school with them) for nearly 25 years. ( side note: my friends and their family traveled often to Ghana on summer vacation. I remember being 11 years old and crying because I could not accompany them one summer break )

I was immersed in the Ghanaian culture attending outdoorings and the like... I've been known to pass as an authentic Ghanaian ... and given by ancestry, I now know why

Anyway...I finally had gotten the opportunity to visit Ghana in August of 2006. I was tooo thrilled . I of course traveled with my surrogate family and stayed at their compound. I spent a little over three weeks there. Two or three days before I left Ghana, I went to an internet cafe in Kwabenya, Accra (walking distance from where I stayed), and this tall/handsome guy walks in. Of course I noticed him because there wasn't many tall people in the area. Kobby is around 6"2 .

We did not say all that much to each other that day. Between you and me, he did not look so friendly . Anyway, Mr. Kobby left that day obviously smitten. I really did not think much of him past that moment... I was already jaded from all the guys who tried to "get with me" during my short time there. Needless to say, Kobby was only momentary eye candy

After meeting me, Kobby had a conversation about me with his uncle's friend. He explained to him that he met this Jamaican girl in the cafe...yada yada yada. Divine intervention I guess... because I had already met his uncle's friend who happen to be close friends with my friends mother. He recognized me from Kobby's description and told him that he could formally introduce him. Unfortunately I left sooner than they both expected and when he got to my friend's mom's compound, my friend and I had already left . My friends mother, being the matchmaker that she is, thought that he was my type and decided that Kobby should return with his picture (just in case I forgot who he was) with his contact info. She promised Kobby that I would call. The nerve!

Long story short...I promised my friends mom that I would call him. I was not enthused . We started talking and hundreds of phone cards later...

I had already planned to return to Ghana for a month and half, well before I left for the US. But when Kobby and I hit it off unexpectedly well...I stayed three months!

I am just mad that I have to wait 2years to go back again with the travel restrictions! Of course he only wants to go back when he has made some accomplishments here and loads of money saved! ...Yeah I might have to go without him!

Well....That's all folks..... The saga continues...

We met in South Africa at a Youth With a Mission base ( a training center/college for Christian ministries).

I met my husband from his mother. She and I worked together, well almost 3 or 4 years ago. She kept saying she wanted to introduce me to her son. I kept avoiding the subject, because I thought he may be ugly or fat. I didn't want to just agree to meeting some man that I had no clue what he looked like. She asked me for my email address some time later, so her son could email me. She kept saying oh I'm going to give my son your email address, I think you two should meet, you are the same age.

One day I was at her house looking through a lot of old pictures and found a few of her son as a baby and up til about 4 or 5 yrs of age. I told her, your son is so cute, I have to meet him. Still she had never gave him my email address after she asked for it. Many months later, I brought my kids over to her house to so her daughter could watch them and she happened to be talking to him on the phone and she asked that I get on the phone and say hi to him. We exchanged email addresses and the rest is history! He told me that she asked for his email address to give to me and kept saying I have this real nice friend that I want you to meet, she is a nice person, yada, yada. But she never gave it to me, so he blew it off and thought she was full of it.

Anyway that is our story, I went to Ghana by myself, 9 months after we were introduced. His mom called often to make sure he was taking good care of me while I was there. What was she thinking of course he was