ok i've asked this before a few days back on the embassy thread and i am still at a loss as what to put in the letter from my ex to say that he agrees to allowing me to take 1 of my 2 children with me ( as my eldest wants to stay here with his dad )

So anyone know of a draft that floating about that i can copy from and do I need to get him to get it witnessed by his solicitor ????

It dont say much in the checklist about this - only mentions a custody decree and as have never been married never been through the courts for custody.

many thanks if you can think of anything that may help it would be appreciated.

I put

(Father's address)
This is formal notification that I give permission for my son(or daughter) (child's name), date of birth xx-xx-xxxx to leave the UK with his mother (mother's name here) to permanently reside in the United States. Should you require any further information, please contact me at the above address.

I got it notorized, link to finding one is here http://www.thenotariessociety.org.uk/find_a_notary.asp

Thanks for that and the notary link

i know that the purpose of the affidavit is completely different, but maybe you could use the frame of the affidavit that I posted in the wiki here. It might prevent you having to pay someone to write up the thing for you.