I am writing this topic becuase i hope i'm am not the only one who feels this way. I feel when i go to a vj party i get everyone to say hi to me, then the rest of the time i am totally ignored. I may comment on something and nobody comments back or say good by and nobody else says anything back. I get this from work and get it from home, and know its not my imagination. So i think i will stop the parties and if i continue to feel this way may quit visa journey all together.

Is this for real?

Come on, how old are you?

Sheesh.

And what do u mean by that ? is this for real? get a life.

I dont go to many either sorry you feel this way, theres usually alot going on in there and you just have to jump in if you feel like it if not just hang for awhile and see whats going on, im sure it not intentional

People say this from time to time. And, I admit I feel it sometimes.

When you post on an open forum like this, sometimes you have to grow some thicker skin. You will find what you are comfortable with and go with that. Don't let the other stuff bother you.

Get a life? Sorry, I'm not the one complaining about being "ignored" in chat "parties".

What do you hope to accomplish? Guilt everyone into responding to you?

Maybe I was blunt, but I haven't got much patience for grown women behaving as though they were 8 years old.

Jenn, I am just making a observation why do u have to be such a b*@#%$ about it. I didn't ask for anybody to feel sorry for me. But i know i'm not the only one out there that feels the same.

Please stop with the personal attacks.

when someone states the way they feel for ANYTHING no reason to be rude at any age thats what keeps this group in a uproar alot of times,

My best advice is to avoid people who bother you too. It's helped me by doing so.

Please don't quit VJ. Not only can we help you;but you may be the source of something really helpful to someone else who comes after you.

Some people may have a little more difficulty to mingle and the more outgoing personality that radiance confidence may indeed
be more targeted for conversation.
I believe if you go with a fear of " I don't fit in and no one will talk to me " it will project out from you onto others.
A kind, joyful and confident demeanor will radiate and you will attract responses.
Sometimes members have formed strong ties outside the site and therefore are more inclined to exchange responses with their close friends but
not meaning to exclude others at all and probably will be surprised by your post.

You can always join another forum such as our sub-saharan cyber cafe.

Well, Terrie...sometimes you have to just chime right on in. There usually is a lot going on all at once, and I have observed that. But you know what? I still love you!

oh nagi i have and still get the same response but oh well.

a very nice bunch there.

and wehre is that

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=105809

dont you have friends in real life?? This forum is only for visa Qs and A's and the here and there chatting...wtf thats scary sorry you're a nice person on this forum but you shouldn't worry about making friends on here

This forum is only for visa Qs and A's very very wrong that is NOT the only thing this is, to most of us we have made life long friends here

terrie, I assure you it is NOT deliberate and you see how chaotic it is in there....sometimes you just have to keep writting and writing. I've only been to like 4 parties....myself. Tell some jokes, send some arrows or toss some pineapples!! You just have have to chime in and act crazy and silly! Really....it's that easy. And I promise you a good time!

I agree. I've made some long term friendships on the internet. I've never understood when people say you shouldnt' care about the people you meet on these kinds of places. I've met some wonderful people.

YEP. Many ladies have become very close friends and talk off the boards...and JJ has been on a tour of the US visiting the MENA gals!! Totally awesome sometimes I wish I was a MENA gal too!

What LuLu said. I went to my first ever slumber party last night and I was overwhelmed to say the least. Everyone is having a conversation with everyone and its like a fish market!

You just have to keep at it and people will start responding to what you say. Sometimes things are going by so fast that people miss out on what others are saying. I was spending so much time trying to follow the convos that I forgot what I was talking about.

from what i have found is u just have to be out going i mean i dont think that its anyone not liking u or snubbing u heck sometimes i go and there is just one person in chat i say hello and they leave the chat lol but i put it down to they dont want to talk or they didnt see me post hello........
as far as the person that said get a life.......thats the problem we have gotten a life and this form is a place to make friends as well as find out information about immigration........sure sometimes we all have short tempers at one time or other but its the friends that we make here that help us thru the good times and the bad....one way or the other most of us are connected because of the immigration process and it helps us to have others that can relate and know what we are going thru.......dont leave vj i know that sometimes its difficult and we are all at times working on high emotions because of the grueling process and it is at times easy to feel u have been slighted but u know what........if ur having a down day or a problem just about everyone i know here will come to help u in one form or another even with our bad tempers at times dont mean we dont care about each other...........

yeah and a lot of us have met our SOs on the internet too.. there are people on the other side of our computer screens ......

Hi Terrie;

Don't let people make you feel left out. If you don't get a response from anyone, don't let it bother you...it don't mean a thing. Continue being yourself. Now, why would you quit VJ...don't do that. I could careless if someone responds to what I type. Don't let thing like this get to you.

One Love,

Trelawny

that's pretty odd to me feeling "left out" online. If my husband was here I wouldn't even be on this forum. I did meet a couple of wonderful women on here though.

The OP is the one that made the comment "get a life"

If this is happening at work and at home and now online on VJ perhaps it isn't VJ that is the problem. Maybe you should talk to someone like a professional about what is making you feel this way in all aspects of your life. It seems like there's something more going on then just feeling ignored at a VJ chat party.

Terrie,
First off let me apologize if I ignored you cause I am not that type of person, at least I hope I am not. I have a big old mouth and it comes through in chats, I just chat away, and try to keep up. I have felt like you many times, and when I said something about it, there were some real good friends on here that told me to hang in there. I am so happy I listen because there are some great people on this forum. Sure there are people on here that I disagree with, but that is life itself. Don’t leave; I enjoy reading your posts, as I do everyone’s post. You may have something that you wrote and someone felt exactly like you but our too shy to say anything. So you touch life’s without even knowing, trust me you do. I am very sensitive person, wish I had a tougher outer skin, but I keep going because maybe my words one day will help someone, and I may not even know it. Once again, if you ever want to talk, just write me, I always write back, and I promise not to bore you with my stories. Take care sweetie you are not alone.

Hey, just chiming in, I've been to the chat room several times (quite a few of them being alone, literally.. lol... i'm always either too late or too early -- hey hey I thought they were "slumber parties" where everyone go? ). I don't feel ignored but I know I'm not a "LOUD" person neither... just a whole lot of pineapple throwing, and bras going into the freezer type of thing. In reality I'm a quiet / observant person (friends says I'm really outgoing.... I say I'm quiet haha)....

I don't let it bother me if it seems like no one is listening or making feedback on whatever I say. Just takes time and presence

oh man i always get it confused

Don't feel bad!!! You should see the way they treat me even after offering them all my expert opinions and advice!!!

I understand how u feel, but I think it has a lot to do with how much you post, how often and about the daily connections with the others your making. sometimes i feel like I am not so close to anyone and if I disappeared who would notice, but in this forum its just like and by no way is it personal. Its a hard process...... don't get discouraged things will get better.... We all have our place here and even if you don't feel it we all make this site what it is.....

FYI My hubby works 7 nights a week

I certainly would notice. How could I ever forget you?

OMG! WHO CARES!! Don't take is so personally.

I am so sorry Terrie you feel that way in the slumber parties. I really do try to greet and welcome each and every person into chat. As does all the others that are in the room. It is then up to the attendee how wild and crazy they want to get. Some just read, some fire off arrows to release steam (nagi).

People pop in and out ALL night til we all leave usually about 10:30pm. We gather alot now between 'interivew slumber parties', and those now are affectionately referred to as Sandbox Parties.

As long as there are MENA girls sitting at home waiting for the phone to ring, I will continue to be in the chat room to keep her company. And I hope the rest of the the Pineapple Patrol, Sheik Yabooti and Ibn Fartn, the Zexy Frawg and Actuary Jenn! continue to make appearances to cheer on the valued members here.

Really I am sorry you feel this way today.

Jackie

i think i'll just ignore that

Terrie,
If you don't cry try to at least laugh, cause sometimes it is just too funny. So for you I will try to put a smile on your face.

strange this post started at 11:51 you joined at 12:34 and this is what you have to say for your first post (what do you girls think of this) and no timeline hummmmm

Seriously, whoever this is has balls much smaller than mine.

Methinks this is an "alter ID".... and I'm w/ Jenn on this one... c'mon... seriously! Perhaps if you interact more, you will be noticed. There's always so much going on in there, you've got to stake out your spot and claim it!!! BE BOLD!

Flying monkey or big time maurader.

I haven't read the whole thread but I want you to know that I never intentionally ignored you. I'd never do that to anyone intentionally. I often times get ignored so I know how it feels. I know nobody means it in a harsh way. I have a problem about getting carried away in slumber parties and rambling to the person I initiated a conversation with at the time and I sometimes don't see other pplz replies. Dont think we don't love ya...coz girl, vj just wouldn't be the same without you!

amal

Hide the food

I am confused now, but that is nothing new Don't you love the medical sites they have now, hell all I need is my own prescription pad and I would never see a doctor again.

LuLu, you'll always be a MENAgirl to us!

If I'm not mistaken there are quite a number of "BBW" here in the MENA forum. Don't all of these jokes hurt them as well?