Hi! Now hopefully we can get in a few good replies and this won't go south...

I know some people on here are more or less agnostic or atheist. I was curious as to if you sort of keep this to yourselves when you meet your MENA spouse's family, if they know, or if even your spouse knows...

Obviously many MENA people are Muslim, several are Christian or Jewish so it would sometimes be an issue with some families, same as it can be an issue with families here, but I was considering the married to a Muslim aspect of it. Some people really don't care one way or the other. That's their business.

If anyone has an experience they would like to share, I would love to hear it. Otherwise, thanks for reading and good luck in your journey

I'm especially curious about practicing Muslim men marrying agnostic, atheist or secular Christian and Jewish women. They don't catch heck like Muslim women who marry Christian or Jewish men do, and rarely are called out to justify it.

This is where Peezey should be dropping in... she's an outspoken atheist.

I had thought about that.

Hey, I hope you're doing well. Ammar said the other day that LA looked like a nice place to visit and I brought you up again!

That is what I was curious about-- I guess the families moreso than the men... I would figure the men were OK with it one way or the other... but the families can be a totally different story. Ammar's family KNOWS I am Christian and although they are OK with me I can assure you they are not happy about that fact. Of course I'm not a cousin in general so i miss the mark on a lot of points. One does have to consider that when you marry into a family you do end up having some association with that family, whether it be minimized or not. This really may not be the right place to find out about this issue though, as most people here are somewhat newlyweds. I'd be interested in some of the long-term stories.

Im sorry... Im new but Im curious.... what was the question?

I know some people on here are more or less agnostic or atheist. I was curious as to if you sort of keep this to yourselves when you meet your MENA spouse's family, if they know, or if even your spouse knows, and how does the family deal with it.

In the Muslim culture it is believed that the man is the decision maker on the childrens religion. This is why is it ok for men to marry out of his religion but it is harder to accept from women being ... it is believed that the man is the decision maker in the childs religion
This is why they discourage woman from marrying out of their religion

We both have kept it to ourselves, however last year's trip to Cairo proved that my husband refuses to hide his lack or religion to his family which caused some concern and many ruffled feathers. He refuses to "act" just to save face.

Julianna, what on earth have you started here, girl?

Well personally I would just keep it to yourself when it comes to his family. If they have questions answer as basic as possible. Leave it to your husband to deal with his family. It is his life Choice to be with you so he can handle his family. Muslim men feel very strongly about their religion. Women too but its always good in a relationship to understand each others choice in religion. But I must warn u ... It can turn into a heated discussion

I was kind of scared starting this, thinking it would digress into past threads. Thank you for your honest and nice answer LaL! I had wondered if many men who marry either outside their religion-- be it one of the "Islamically acceptable" ones or not were either not super-religious themselves or perhaps were more on the agnostic side (or even atheist). I imagine it really depends on where you come from-- small village versus large city-- as to what is easier to have accepted or not, and also it would depend on the general feelings of the family themselves. I wish you two the best


hopefully nothing. This is MENA though

Thanks It was a pretty darn stressful few days when they came to realization that he no longer practices. But his doubts started back in university and have steadily waned since. Essentially we both did not marry outside of our religions because we don't ascribe to such. It only was an issue during that trip. At this point - it's a nonissue

That's true. And that would be another part to my question if it applied-- how his/her family deals with him/her not practicing. Sounds like your inlaws took it in stride, about as well as any family tends to take this sort of thing, MENA, American, or wherever they are from.

I've noticed that too and it's wrong but I think this stems from ignorance. Most muslims are aware of the fact that muslim women aren't allowed to marry non-muslim men but it seems like many muslims aren't aware that a muslim man is only allowed to marry chaste Christian or Jewish women and not those that are non-practicing or non-believers in general (other than ppl of the book).

It's only acceptable (religiously) for him to marry outside of the faith if he's marrying a chaste Christian or Jewish women.... other non-muslims are not allowed for him to marry and he would be considered a fornicator for having a sexual relationship with her if she was other than muslim or a chaste Christian or Jewess since this marriage isn't valid in Islam.

They just deal with it... It is his or her choice. Some may not deal with it too well but such is life

Well I am a person who question the whole God thing, my family refuses to label me atheist or agnostic, gives them the creeps I guess. I am more of what you call a free thinker, I just happen to rely on science. I studied religion in college, and I find it very interesting, but all religions think they have the right answer. Most of the religions have a violent past, not so much love. I don’t know the answer, wish I did, but I am open to most experiences. Too many holes, too much blind faith, after living a while on this earth, makes one start to wonder, what is wrong with this picture. What makes me crazy is when religion is used as an excuse for murder. Religion has a lot of violence in its past, all the people put to death because they had a different idea than the norm. The sad thing is will humans ever evolve to where we can just find peace with one another.

Islam is also very patient and understanding... Only God can truly be the judge of what is acceptable and not. Discouraged is a better word

It's not Muslim culture that fosters that belief, it's jahilyya culture. According to the Quran, the Sunnah of Allah, everyone's religion is decided by Allah, not on the basis of gender. Also, the piety of a Muslim is considered on the basis of their practice and devotion, not on the basis of their gender. It is absolutely possible for the mother to be a better Muslim and more suited to passing on the faith than the father. All things are possibel with Allah.

Also, Allah has not forbidden Muslim women from marriage with men of the Book. Since Islam is His Message, we need to be careful to draw the distinction betwen what is disallowed by Muslims, and, therefore, open to debate, and what is disallowed by the Message from Allah.

No Muslim is allowed to marry polytheists, agnostics or atheists, and those that do are committing haram. Not my call; it's in the Book.

Hi GG,
So does your husband's family know how you feel about religion?

And us religious folk are a bunch of lug heads?
Scientists can be, and frequently are, wrong!


No, the Quran is quite clear that only chaste women from the ppl of the book are halal for muslim men to marry (other than muslim women of course).

Well ganga girl you have a great point but not only to religions have a dark past but humans in general. We can blame alot of it on religion but not all of it. It is animal nature. Science has its voilence too. There is violence in everything.... like animals for example. We cant control their instinct. But maybe one day the human will learn maybe not until the last day.... who knows. We just gotta do our best to help each other out.

Thank you for that great answer that you explained so well, VW! That really clears up so much of what I had wondered.

NO I never meant anything negative about being a free thinker, what I do mean is I ask a lot of questions, that is all. Of course science is wrong, but we also admit to the fact, and go back and re-draw the plans. Do you ever ask yourself why so much misery in the world? Why a baby dies in her mother's arms, or a young father is shot in an arm robbery and leaves a wife and kids? Why so much hurt and hardship? Just things I wonder about, and this is nothing to say you have your faith and for that I am very happy for you.

Truly someone's belief should always be respect and private. It is between that person and their God, and it should stay that way. To claim that my husband is somehow going to die a fiery death in the bowels of hell is a little insulting and really does not help the cause for religion or God. How do you feel about separation of church and State?

I'm not against science GG, in fact, my faith encourages it but I don't rely more on science than what the Creator has told us. One is flawed while the other is not. I'm not saying the men who interpret God's laws aren't flawed, they obviously are since they're humans too.
Imam Ash-Shafi'i said: I believe my opinion to be the truth, while entertaining the possibility that it is wrong.

I have asked myself these questions you posed but I found all the answers in the Quran.

Islam is also very patient and understanding... Only God can truly be the judge of what is acceptable and not. Discouraged is a better word

Islam is patient and understanding, but also expects discipline and obedience in the Word. Allah has judged, and He didn't leave us in the dark regarding what religious characteristics are and are not acceptable for a Muslim's mate. He allowed interfaith marriage; in other words, marriage between two faiths, not one faith and one without appropriate faith. He is very clear about that, and also commands Muslims to enjoin the good and discourage the bad inorder to remind our brothers and sisters how to stay in His Path.

I'm not the one who sends ppl to hell and I never said your husband is going anywhere. I don't make such statements. I just said the majority ruling is that it's considered zina (fornication) to marry a non-believer (other than chaste ppl of the book).

I am against the serparation of religion and the govt.

Hey all, science (which is not part of my question) is not a religion or a belief system. Science is just a tool used in acquiring knowledge. Science does not come up with concrete answers, usually, and cannot PROVE anything. Science is using observation and testing to either support or not support a hypothesis. For something to be supported, it has to be an experiment which can be replicated by many people. Science in itself cannot be "wrong." Science in itself also cannot be "believed" in. Science is just a means. It is like a mathematical equation. They cannot be wrong, nor can you believe in an equation... but you can believe in the results or something can be misapplied. Think of science like a wrench.

Now,

I have read the Quran, 4 times, also the bible 7 times, so I need to re-read them because I didn't find many answers. Both books are confusing, I have to say the bible is over the top confusing, but yea to be such a divine book, it didn’t leave me much inspired. Lots of rules, so many different rules, makes no sense to me, but more power to you, that you understand. I also noticed that there are tons of contradictions, one time they state this is the way to do things, the next they break that and state that God had told them to do this now. But when they hear the word of this God, no one is around, strange. Books are hard reads to be sure, I even did a presentation on Islam in college, so I am familiar with some of the beliefs, but I am no means an expert.

We also need to remember todays day and age has very much changed from the days of the holy quran. Just as the bible. The holy quran also says Allah is all forgiving and merciful. The bible says to stone ur son in the center of town if he shall disobey u. And the holy quran sayst the cheater shall be confined to his house until death.

First of all, I love this thread and am learning so much. Thank you, OP Julianna for starting it, and thank you all who have participated thus far.
Now as far as the Bible saying to stone your son in the centre of town if he disobeys you...Seems I read this book a lot yet I have not come across this. Could you tell me where you found this particular passage?

Where would this be?

By the way they stone people in Iran, what is your stand on stoning people to death?

Islam has existed since Adam; it is not irrelevent. It's laws haven't changed, although how to implement or enforce them has varied according to the society in question. That is no justification for ignoring the fact that God has given us rules to live by, and we are given the choice to ignore them or not, at our own peril.

You're welcome, Nagi!

Deut 21:18-21:

18 “If any man has a stubborn and rebellious son who will not obey his father or his mother, and when they chastise him, he will not even listen to them, 19 then his father and mother shall seize him, and bring him out to the elders of his city at the gateway of his hometown. 20 “They shall say to the elders of his city, ‘This son of ours is stubborn and rebellious, he will not obey us, he is a glutton and a drunkard.’ 21 “Then all the men of his city shall stone him to death; so you shall remove the evil from your midst, and all Israel will hear of it and fear.

Sorry, it's not just if the son disobeys you. That would also involve breaking a lot of commandments.

I don't believe religion is meant to be changed by men because of times changing....

I understand what u r saying G G but here is the thing... without religion people seem to be free to think there is no consiquences for their actions. This is axactlly why we have so many things going bad here in the great US of A.
Here is something to chew on... When I was in Jordan I wondered why so many children were free to walk alone in the streets with no adult watching them to not leave thier eyesight. Here in the US we dont do that... I mean some of my kids are teens and I wont let my girl walk home from school. Freedom to commit hanis crimes seems to be a real problem we are having.
Now... my sister is a sex offender thereapist ....not exactlly a glorious job, but we love life and we love to give everyone the right to life here in the US. Its great but where is their fear? What are these sick individuals affraid of? Not much.
They should fear God. No matter what way they look at it they should fear God's answer to thier crimes.


not changed just understood in a manor that fits our changing evolving lives

Then one can say this was true under the ' old law' ? But are we as Christians not bound by the ' old ' law' ?

nicely put!!!

Stoning is not in the Quran, but it is in the Sunnah of the Prophet. It is told that it was taken from Jewish law as the Prophet was commanded to consult those who had received the Book before, then applied to Muslims who confessed 3 times to committing a grievous sin explicity disallowed by God. It is part of the Hudd Laws, which are to this day a highly controversial and hotly debated issue in Islamic law.

You have to read it and refer to the explainations and Sunnah to fully understand the meanings. The bible, however, is confusing because it's been altered and has men's words mixed with God's.

God does abrogate laws or give different laws to different ppl at different times.... He has His reasons and it's not necessarily for us to understand. I don't understand the level of arrogance some ppl have to think they have to understand or comprehend everything God does in order to believe in Him. If we were capable of comprehending everything about God, we wouldn't be human.

depends on what the crime is.... cuz i will tell u right now if someone rapes my baby girl.... u better believe I want him stoned.... dont put him in jail so I can foot the bill .... take him out of his misery.... cuz as i said before my sister is a sex offender therapist.... and guess what???
THERE IS NO CURE FOR IT!! NONE!! HE HAS TO LIVE OUT THE REST OF HIS DAYS TRYING TO KEEP OFF OF YOUNG BOYS AND GIRLS.... I REPEAT NO CURE!!!


Man girl U kno ur stuff I like you!


u rock!

That is something that could be debated in the hypothetical thread I am considering proposing called "religious trainwreck." Yeshua says that not a stroke apsses from the Law of Moses until there is a new heaven and a new earth. Being that there is neighter yet, then I would assume that not a stroke has passed form the law.

Why won't God heal amputees?
How Prayer Works
For believers, it is obvious why so many prayers are answered. In the Bible, Jesus promises many times that he will answer our prayers. For example, in Matthew 7:7 Jesus says: Ask, and it will be given you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For every one who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened. Or what man of you, if his son asks him for bread, will give him a stone? Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a serpent? If you then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask him! Ask and you will receive. What could be simpler than that?

In Matthew 17:20 Jesus reiterates that same message:
For truly, I say to you, if you have faith as a grain of mustard seed, you will say to this mountain, 'Move from here to there,' and it will move; and nothing will be impossible to you.
Since a mustard seed is a tiny inanimate object about the size of a grain of salt, it is easy to imagine that the faith of a mustard seed is fairly small. So, paraphrasing, what Jesus is saying is that if you have the tiniest bit of faith, you can move mountains.
Jesus says something similar in Matthew 21:21:
I tell you the truth, if you have faith and do not doubt, not only can you do what was done to the fig tree, but also you can say to this mountain, 'Go, throw yourself into the sea,' and it will be done. If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer.
The message is reiterated Mark 11:24:
Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.
In John chapter 14, verses 12 through 14, Jesus tells all of us just how easy prayer can be:
"Truly, truly, I say to you, he who believes in me will also do the works that I do; and greater works than these will he do, because I go to the Father. Whatever you ask in my name, I will do it, that the Father may be glorified in the Son; if you ask anything in my name, I will do it.
In Matthew 18:19 Jesus says it again:
Again I say to you, if two of you agree on earth about anything they ask, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. For where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I in the midst of them.
Jesus is actually in our midst and God answers our prayers.
The miracle of Jeanna Giese
There are so many examples of the power of prayer, but one in particular deserves special consideration because it is so well documented. In December of 2004 a girl named Jeanna Giese survived a bite from a rabid bat through prayer. Hundreds of newspapers (including the Raleigh News and Observer in my home town) ran stories about the miracle of her recovery with headlines such as "Rabies girl in miracle recovery." In Raleigh, the headline was "Web weaves global prayer circle - Petitions circle the world as girl beats rare case of rabies." [Source: by Sharon Roznik, Raleigh News and Observer, December 17, 2004]
The summary of the story goes like this. Jeanna was in a church service in Wisconsin when a brown bat fell into the aisle. She picked the bat up and carried it outside. No one gave it a second thought.
A month later it was obvious that something was wrong. Soon Jeanna had a full case of rabies. No human has ever survived this disease without being vaccinated. Up until 2004, full-blown rabies had been 100% fatal.
According to the article, a global prayer circle helped Jeanna survive. Once she got sick, Jeanna's father called friends and asked them to pray for Jeanna. People around the world heard about her story through the press and by word of mouth. They prayed. They sent emails. They passed the word along. Millions of people heard about Jeanna's plight and they said prayers for her.
And the prayer circle worked. Through the power of God, Jeanna recovered. Jeanna was the first human to survive rabies without the vaccine.
Dr. Charles Rupprecht of the CDC in Atlanta called Jeanna's case a miracle. The family and everyone in Jeanna's huge, global prayer circle know that God heard their prayers and answered them.
This is amazing stuff. The dictionary defines a miracle as "An event that appears inexplicable by the laws of nature and so is held to be supernatural in origin or an act of God." [ref] So we must ask a fundamental question: Did an all-loving, all-powerful God hear the prayers from Jeanna's worldwide prayer circle and then reach down from heaven to help Jeanna? Did God actually interact with Jeanna's body, making the impossible happen and curing her case of rabies through a divine miracle?
Or did something else happen?
We can actually answer this question with a simple experiment....
A simple experiment
For this experiment, we need to find a deserving person who has had both of his legs amputated. For example, find a sincere, devout veteran of the Iraqi war, or a person who was involved in a tragic automobile accident.
Now create a prayer circle like the one created for Jeanna Giese. The job of this prayer circle is simple: pray to God to restore the amputated legs of this deserving person. I do not mean to pray for a team of renowned surgeons to somehow graft the legs of a cadaver onto the soldier, nor for a team of renowned scientists to craft mechanical legs for him. Pray that God spontaneously and miraculously restores the soldier's legs overnight, in the same way that God spontaneously and miraculously cured Jeanna Giese and Marilyn Hickey's mother.
If possible, get millions of people all over the planet to join the prayer circle and pray their most fervent prayers. Get millions of people praying in unison for a single miracle for this one deserving amputee. Then stand back and watch.
What is going to happen? Jesus clearly says that if you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer. He does not say it once -- he says it many times in many ways in the Bible.
And yet, even with millions of people praying, nothing will happen.
No matter how many people pray. No matter how sincere those people are. No matter how much they believe. No matter how devout and deserving the recipient. Nothing will happen. The legs will not regenerate. Prayer does not restore the severed limbs of amputees. You can electronically search through all the medical journals ever written -- there is no documented case of an amputated leg being restored spontaneously. And we know that God ignores the prayers of amputees through our own observations of the world around us. If God were answering the prayers of amputees to regenerate their lost limbs, we would be seeing amputated legs growing back every day.
Isn't that odd? The situation becomes even more peculiar when you look at who God is. According to the Standard Model of God:

•God is all-powerful. Therefore, God can do anything, and regenerating a leg is trivial.

•God is perfect, and he created the Bible, which is his perfect book. In the Bible, Jesus makes very specific statements about the power of prayer. Since Jesus is God, and God and the Bible are perfect, those statements should be true and accurate.

•God is all-knowing and all-loving. He certainly knows about the plight of the amputee, and he loves this amputee very much.

•God is ready and willing to answer your prayers no matter how big or small. All that you have to do is believe. He says it in multiple places in the Bible. Surely, with millions of people in the prayer circle, at least one of them will believe and the prayer will be answered.

•God has no reason to discriminate against amputees. If he is answering millions of other prayers like Jeanna's every day, God should be answering the prayers of amputees too.

Nonetheless, the amputated legs are not going to regenerate.

What are we seeing here? It is not that God sometimes answers the prayers of amputees, and sometimes does not. Instead, in this situation there is a very clear line. God never answers the prayers of amputees. It would appear, to an unbiased observer, that God is singling out amputees and purposefully ignoring them.
Understanding amputees
You can see that the amputee experiment reframes our conversation. No longer are we talking about "religion" or "faith". What we are talking about here is more fundamental.
At the beginning of the chapter we highlighted a number of promises that Jesus makes about prayer in the Bible. Summarizing, here is what Jesus promised:

•If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer. [Matthew 21:21]

•If you ask anything in my name, I will do it. [John 14:14]

•Ask, and it will be given you. [Matthew 7:7]

•Nothing will be impossible to you. [Matthew 17:20]

•Believe that you have received it, and it will be yours. [Mark 11:24]

The question, therefore, is simple: Are Jesus' statements in the Bible true or false?

For example, in John 3:16 Jesus says, "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." People take that at face value: if you believe in Jesus, you will have eternal life. So when Jesus says, "Believe that you have received it, and it will be yours," isn't it the same thing? Can't we take that statement at face value as well?

By looking at amputees, we can see that something is wrong. Jesus is not telling the truth. God never answers prayers to spontaneously restore lost limbs, despite Jesus' statements in the Bible. Accepting this piece of factual information, rather than denying it, is the first step in understanding something extremely important about how prayer really works.
Even if you take a liberal rather than literal stance on the Bible, this feels strange, doesn't it? You may not literally believe that "nothing will be impossible for you" nor that "faith can move mountains," but I think we can agree that there is something very odd about the way that God treats amputees. No matter how many people pray. No matter how sincere those people are. No matter how much they believe. No matter how devout and deserving the recipient. Nothing happens when we pray for amputated limbs. God never regenerates lost limbs through prayer, even though Christians believe that

God is answering millions of other prayers on earth every day.
Does God answer prayers? If so, then how do we explain this disconnection between God and amputees? What should we do with the piece of empirical data that amputees represent? We need to somehow explain why God would answer millions of prayers on earth, yet completely ignore prayers for amputated limbs. Let's examine the possible explanations one by one.

Rationalization #1
Here is an explanation that you might have heard or used before:
The reason God cures thousands of cancers, infections, etc. each day but never intervenes with amputees is because it is not God's will to do that. It is not part of God's plan.
This explanation seems a little odd. Amputees really do seem to be getting the short end of God's plan if this is the case. If God answers prayers as promised in the Bible, and if God is performing all of the medical miracles that we read about in inspirational literature, then God should also be restoring amputated limbs. Why would God help cancer victims (e.g. Marilyn Hickey's mother) and people bitten by rabid bats (e.g. Jeanna Giese), but discriminate against amputees like this?
Keep in mind what Jesus promised:

•If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer. [Matthew 21:21]
•If you ask anything in my name, I will do it. [John 14:14]
•Ask, and it will be given you. [Matthew 7:7]
•Nothing will be impossible to you. [Matthew 17:20]
•Believe that you have received it, and it will be yours. [Mark 11:24]

There is no indication from Jesus that amputees will be ignored when they pray for medical help. The fact is, all five of these statements are completely false in the case of amputees.
The five quotes in the previous paragraph are all simple, straightforward statements. Doesn't "nothing will be impossible for you" mean "nothing will be impossible for you"? Jesus is God, and as an all-knowing being God knows how humans interpret sentences. If Jesus did not mean "nothing will be impossible for you," it seems like Jesus would have said something else. He also would not repeat that sentiment so many times. And Jesus is supposedly answering millions of prayers each day, so prayer-answering seems to be his intent.

Rationalization #2
In a similar vein, many believers will say, "God always answers prayers, but sometimes his answer is 'no.' If your prayer does not fit with God's will, then God will say 'no' to you." This feels odd because God's answer to every amputee is always "no" when it comes to regenerating lost limbs. Jesus says, "If you ask anything in my name, I will do it." He does not say, "If you ask anything in my name, I will do it, unless you are praying about an amputated limb, in which case I will always reject your prayer." Jesus also says, "Nothing will be impossible to you," and regenerating a limb should therefore be possible. The fact that God refuses to answer every prayer to regenerate a lost limb seems strange, doesn't it?

Rationalization #3
Here is another explanation that you might have heard: "God needs to remain hidden -- restoring an amputated limb would be too obvious." We will discuss this idea in more detail in later chapters, but let's touch on it here. Does God need to remain hidden?

That does not seem to be the case. In general, God seems to have no problem doing things that are obvious. Think about the Bible. Writing the Bible and having billions of copies published all over the world is obvious. So is parting the Red Sea. So is carving the Ten Commandments on stone tables. So is sending your son to earth and having him perform dozens of recorded miracles. And so on. It makes no sense for a God in hiding to incarnate himself, or to do these other obvious things. Why send your son to earth, and then write a book that talks all about his exploits, if you are trying to hide?
In the same way, any medical miracle that God performs today is obvious. The removal of a cancerous tumor is obvious because it is measurable. One month the tumor is visible to everyone on the X-ray, and the next month it is not. If God eliminated the tumor, then it is openly obvious to everyone who sees the X-ray. There is nothing "hidden" about removing a tumor. So, why not regenerate a leg in an equally open way? If God intervenes with cancer patients to remove cancerous tumors in response to prayers, then why wouldn't God also intervene with amputees to regenerate lost limbs?

Another example is seen in Jeanne's rabies case discussed earlier in the chapter. Tens of millions of people are aware of the Jeanna's rabies miracle. Personally, I read about it in a big article in my morning newspaper. That is pretty obvious. What is hidden about her recovery?

Rationalization #4
Some people might say, "Everyone's life serves God in different ways. Perhaps God uses amputees to teach us something. God must have a higher purpose for amputees." That may be the case -- God may be trying to send a message. But, again, it seems odd that he would single out this one group of people to handle the delivery. To quote Marilyn Hickey once again:
No matter what has happened in your past, no matter what is happening in your present, seek out your heavenly Father in prayer as often as you can. Take my word for it -- He loves you and wants to answer your prayers.
You see this logic all the time in inspirational literature and hear it every Sunday at thousands of churches: "God loves you! God hears your prayers and will answer them for you!" See this article for an example. Yet, for some reason, miracles never happen when it comes to regenerating lost limbs. It does not seem to make sense that amputees would be cut off from the blessings that Jesus promises in the Bible. And it also does not mesh with all of the prayers that Jesus seems to be answering for other people.

Rationalization #5
Some people ascribe the problems that amputees face to free will. They will say, "Well, if you go into a war zone and get your legs blown off, that is your own free will. God gives us free will. You made a free choice to be a soldier. It is not God's fault, and therefore he has no obligation to repair the damage." This logic is fascinating. What about all the people who are born with missing limbs, or the people who lose limbs to diseases through no fault or choice of their own? How are these people any different from cancer victims, who, supposedly, are constantly being healed by God?
We know that God ignores all amputees, regardless of the cause of the missing limb. Why doesn't God heal thalidomide babies, who are by definition completely innocent? Or the innocent children who lose their limbs in mine fields? Why would God heal millions of other diseases, but completely ignore any disease that results in a lost or missing limb?

Rationalization #6
Some believers say, "God does help amputees - he inspires scientists and engineers to create artificial limbs for them!" This logic is interesting, especially if we look at other examples. Take the case of smallpox. Millions upon millions of people died of smallpox until the vaccine was invented in the twentieth century. If God is the one who inspired the scientists, why did God wait until the twentieth century to do it? Why would God want to be the source of the massive suffering that smallpox caused prior to the twentieth century? And why do we pay the scientists, given that their work is simply God's inspiration? (we will discuss the question of divine inspiration in more detail in Chapter 7)

Rationalization #7
Someone might say, "Thou shalt not test the Lord. It says so in the Bible." This is hard to swallow because every prayer is a test. Either God answers the prayer or he does not. There is no difference between praying for an amputee and praying for Jeanna Giese and her rabies.
Note also that many believers track their prayers with prayer journals. See, for example, prayer-journal.com. Why not pray to God to heal an amputee, and then track the results of the prayer in a prayer journal?

Rationalization #8
Some people might say something like, "Jesus never says when he will answer your prayers. Maybe your prayer will be answered in the afterlife." But that seems uncomfortable. Jesus is answering millions of prayers for everyone else in the here and now. Clearly that is what he means with all his verses in the Bible. Why single out amputees for treatment in the afterlife when Marilyn and Jeanna get their prayers answered almost instantaneously?

Rationalization #9
Someone might say, "God will answer your prayers, but not immediately. You must be patient." They will point to a situation like that found in Mark 6:47-51:
And when evening came, the boat was out on the sea, and he was alone on the land. And he saw that they were making headway painfully, for the wind was against them. And about the fourth watch of the night he came to them, walking on the sea. He meant to pass by them, but when they saw him walking on the sea they thought it was a ghost, and cried out; for they all saw him, and were terrified. But immediately he spoke to them and said, "Take heart, it is I; have no fear." And he got into the boat with them and the wind ceased.
A person might say, "you see, he came in the fourth watch (generally understood to be 3AM to 6AM), not in the first or second or third. You must be patient and wait for the Lord to answer your prayers." This is just as uncomfortable as the previous explanation. God does not answer the prayers of any amputee to restore lost limbs.

Rationalization #10
A believer might say, "You are taking the Bible literally." But how else are we supposed to take it? Jesus clearly says, "If you ask anything in my name, I will do it." When Jesus says that, what does he mean? Presumably, Jesus means that if you ask for anything, he will do it. What else could he possibly mean?
Believers often respond with, "Look, Jesus was using poetic embellishment when he said, 'nothing will be impossible for you,' and 'faith can move mountains.'" Which leads to the following question: What prayers does God answer? It is the response to that question that is fascinating. Because the response inevitably is, "God is omnipotent, so God can do anything."
Which leads us right back to the question, "Why won't God heal amputees?"

Rationalization #11
Finally, there is this oft-used chestnut: "There is no way to understand the mysteries of our Lord. People have believed in Jesus for 2,000 years, and there must be a very good reason for it." This feels like a sad point in the conversation. On one side of the conversation is a person who is defending the all-powerful, all-knowing, all-loving creator of the universe. This person's position should be unassailable. Yet, if God exists, and answers prayers as described in the Bible, there is no explanation for what we see in the world around us. The Bible is silent in this case. God is silent. There is not a good, comfortable explanation for the situation faced by amputees except to say, "We cannot understand the mysteries of the Lord. We have no explanation for why God refuses to answer prayers to regenerate lost limbs."

Explaining the case of amputees
Just for a moment, I would ask you to consider the possibility of another explanation. If you believe in God, then this explanation will initially appear to be complete nonsense. However, it is interesting in light of the conversation we will be having in this book.
One explanation for the evidence that we see before us is this:
God exists, and God answers prayers, but for some reason God chooses to ignore the prayers of amputees. We don't have a good explanation for why God acts this way, and it does seem to contradict what Jesus teaches about prayer in the Bible, but clearly God has his divine reasons.
Now let's look at the situation with amputees from another point of view. This explanation is more straightforward:
God is imaginary.
Let's look at what happens when we consider this explanation and see how it stacks up.
Assume that God is imaginary. The beauty of this explanation is that it fits the facts perfectly. In the case of amputees, it is a valid way to explain the reality that we see in our world. The logic goes like this:
If God is imaginary, then he does not answer any prayers. Therefore, the prayers of amputees would go unanswered too.
The thing that is so appealing about this explanation is that there is no hand waving. There are no contradictions. It is completely fair. There is no paradox. This explanation makes complete sense in light of the evidence we see in our world.

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I'm often curious as to what Christians are taught about the "old laws". I wonder why they eat pork and think only Islam hasn't forbidden polygyny. Many Christians disregard the OT. Is that considered to be proper?

(Sorry, I cut up your quote, just wanted to make myself clear) I disagree with both points, and I have yet to see evidence for the former point you make. You have proof of verse insertions and removals, but those are known... I'd like to see proof of this in the Tanakh other than the assertion in the Qu'ran/Sunnah.