Hi jonbless,
I know i how you feel exactly at this moment. We all shared this experience. There were times i felt that my case will never be approved. Only my pillow knows how many sleepless nights i cried. I didnt want to show how down i was to my husband bcz i knew he was feeling the same there without me. But however finally our case was approved when we least expected it. You wont believe exactly the day before it was approved husband called RFE line and we were told they will take 30-60 days to assign an officer to our case and that was the day i felt like i cant wait any longer.
But the next day it was approved. So pls dont rely on misinfo USCIS gives. Im sure you will hear of good news very soon.
I know it was a longer journey to you than mine. And also i know only the person who has the wound knows the pain. But you are in my prayers.
Cheers