QUOTE(eric_and_teresa @ Jul 7 2008, 12:55 PM)

One last comment about, the negative side of staying permanently after entering with a B-2 and the things you had to go through for doing so. YOU decided to stay. (as you said, as an adult, you were aware of what you were doing). So whatever you had to leave behind, it was because you decided to do so. If there were things or family issues that were too important could not be left unsolved, you also had the choice to go back home solve all your things and apply for a K-1, BUT you decided to stay. You made a choice, and you had to deal with the consequences of making that decision.
Exactly. Glad you understood my point!
And not quoting any poster specifically, but it's a bit simplified to assume and generalize that those who adjusted status from within the US had an "easier" time, or faster processing, than those who wait in their home coutries for a visa, thus a reason to "hate" them. I have read dozens and dozens of stories on this website of couples who got the runaround, unfair and moody officers, RFEs, interviews, missing files, background checks, etc etc...... regardless of how they applied for PR, where they were, or from which country they had come. Obviously, there are going to criteria that make it more difficult for certain couples (ie: applicant's homeland), with intensified scrutinty and longer processing times. If it hard to get a visitor visa from your country, then it's not unreasonable to allow that it will also be harder to complete the immigration process. But that's because of global politics, not of legal visitors marrying, staying, "jumping the line", and getting a greencard in 3 months!!
I don't think it would make a bit of difference if the law changed so that NO ONE could marry and stay while adjusting status.... that is not going to stop people from breaking the law. If anything, it will just encourage more people to stay here illegally, which is sad but true. But this goes far beyong the AOS via marriage domain...... think about the "guest worker program" that never happend. Sort of like "OK, whoever is here illegally, raise your hand, and we might let you stay for 3 years, but then you have to leave." Ummmmm..... how many of them have already been here for 5, 10, 20 years? Who will actually raise their hand?? Same with gun control - those who want 'em, will get 'em one way or another! Making it HARDER to adjust status from within the country won't change anything.... making the process more FAIR for those outside the country might.
IMO, the reason that so many people are waiting so long for immigration is because the entire system is grossly messed up. No one seems to know what they are doing..... this dept is not communicating with that dept, this officer had different prejudices from that officer, your file ends up on someone's desk who once knew someone with a last name that sounds like yours who's grandfather was an alledged communist, so they stick your file at the bottom of the pile. It goes on and on. How is it that one person named John Smith has zero harrassment at POE, and the next John Smith is sent to secondary because his suitcase is blue instead of black? Or that the immigration officer smiles and approves the pretty blonde in jeans, but gives an unusally hard time to the lovely woman in her native dress? And all the while, families are hurting and missing out on precious time together.... time that they will never get back. THESE are the things that are "unfair". EVERY legitimate couple should be treated with respect and urgency, no matter where they are from or how they came to find their loved one, so that they can get on with building their lives together.
Nuff said.