This question is to the filipina ladies or their fiancee . How long does your tampo last? I made my fiancee mad may 6 and she will not answer her phone or message me back on yahoo. This is driving me crazy.I just dont know what to do any advice? i call her 10 times a day but she will not answer. please i need some help.

depends its case to case basis normally in my opinion when my husband did something sweet or talked to me ; say sorry and explained what happened ill be okay in few minutes,, -- some guys normally give out cards, flower by surprise ;)dont wori things gonna be okay not unless her phone is not working better talked to her via email left her an offline message.. give her a visit thats the best

When I was upset usually it last 20-30 min esp when he looks so sad and keep touching me...

Mine lasts for 3-4 days . I ignore hubby for that long.

5-10 minutes only. Hubby can't take it if i ignore him. He always make a way for us to talk right away. He doesn't want to let the sun down with out settling my "tampo". Now I tried myself not to make tampo anymore....I feel guilty everytime I ignored him.

Mine lasts only for a few minutes 'coz he won't give up till the tampo goes away

My fiance' knows where to tickle me .He makes me 'pikon' (upset) when I can't handle his jokes but in few minutes I am relieved. My baby's a No.1 joker. So far,we haven't had any serious arguments or LQ (love quarrels) to make me tampo. We discuss things online but we make sure things are clear before we end our talks.

Try not calling your fiancee anymore, she'll be looking after you. (Reverse psych.)

I CANT TAMPO NOW COZ I AM PREGNANT BUT I REALLY MISSED IT...SO I TOLD TO MY ASAWA PREPARE HIMSELF COZ HE KNOWS WHAT WILL HAPPEN ONCE I BORN THE BABY...

Normally,tampo doesnt last for a long time,that's why it's called tampo.it usually lasts for a few minutes and it's different from being mad.Maybe that's what your fiancee feels toward you otherwise she wont ignore your calls.Anyway,I hope everything works out well with both of you.after you have patched things up,you'll be sweeter than before

God bless

Offering a fiance perspective, if my fiancee gets tampo it might last a little while but generally I seek to resolve any conflicts, quarelling, tampo quicky kasi both of us don't like it. We've come up with different strageties like communicating potential differences before they reach a blow-out point. Basicall our perspective is if something is bothering either of us, we'll talk about it. Obviously there are situations and scenarios that are random but we try to be conscious of each other always.

My advice Michael, let this serve as a learning example and suggest to your s.o. to be more open communicatively.
2 sense:)

my tampo last for some few mins to an hour. my husband knows how to make me smile and he won't stop till he makes me laugh. we usually talk about the prob and try to smoothen it. in your case, try to send her some roses. i believe that flowers makes every girl smile .

good luck to you both and i hope everything in your relationship will get back to normal

Hmmm, maybe there's some serious issues here. Give her the space she needs.....a few days without contact...and see if she will contact you. Hope you get back on the right track.

i think i will not call for a few days if all does not work out i will tell the whole story

Doesn't sound like tampo. More like she has another guy on the line!

When I am in tampo mood and then Ryan gave me some flowers, even he will just pick it in our yard it's ok + sorry & sweet words... my tampo vanished right away
Maybe send some flowers & small bear & sorry note? but if not working and still she will not contact u,, maybe something goin' on..

Dont call her. I put my foot down and said that tampo was childish. I told her marriage is for adults and if she wants to be like that, she can stay in the Phils. I dont let my kids have temper tantrums. I'm SURE not going to let my adult wife have them.

I agree best for OP to wait until she contact him, then he need to discourage her from having future immature tampos

Stop calling her and see if she calls you. If not then she doesnt care anyway and move on. If you are calling her so many times a day and she doesnt answer then whats the point. I know this isnt what you want to do but if you ever want to get over it you need to find out if she really cares.

I agree 100%. What Filipina girl would just stop talking with a American Fiancee and not answer his calls if she really loves him.

If you have'nt heard from her in a week then fuhgetaboutit, it's not tampo.

Seriously tampo doesn't last for days.I think she doesnt really care about you man cause if she did she wont leave you hanging and making you literally insane just trying to get a hold of her.

i know its sucks ,but you have to face it and look at the brighter side ,at least this happened now where you guys are not yet tied together.
This obviously shows that she is not a caring and considerate person at all.

sorry dude , i know this is isn't making you feel any better but it any consolation at least it happened in the early stage of the relationship

My wife's used to last sometimes a couple-days, tops, but that was early in the relationship when I used to let it "get to me." Now that I've accepted it (translated: I ignore it) she has discovered she doesn't have the power of tamp over me anymore! Those episodes thankfully have been eliminated as our relationship has grown. We've both grown-up and learned to talk, rather then her doing tampo and me instantly being ticked-off.

I do not put up with Tampo. I told my fiance if we have a problem we need to talk.
She was told never to do it again, we can not fix any problem by acting like a
baby, and not talking about it openly.

omgosh, this thread is funny. lol i find they normally last about 45 min but on a bad day sometimes a good portion of the day. i like to make jokes and tease and that doesnt work well over IM so well but it's easier in person though cuz of body language and physical interaction.

to the original poster: you might have a lil more than a tampo on your hands. sorry.

just to enlighten u peeps.. tampo






i dnt think tampo lasts for a day..





ps: i love the person who posted before me..

It depends on what caused the "tampo". Normally, if I got upset over nonesense things, I can get over it easily. But if it is something that really got to me, it's an all-day silent treatment. Our house will be so silent you can drop a pin and hear it. The early stage of marriage is the hardest part for us because we both had to adjust. After a few months, everthing changed. I am now so much better and handle things maturely. I realized that being onion-skinned and doing tampo plus pouting are childish acts. Everything can be discussed and resolved...

--Mae

In my relationship before Ryan, I did the same like your fiancee is doing now. When we had big misunderstanding I would not answer his calls. After we broke up it was only the time I realized that it was not "tampo" but "pride" which definitely was bad for the relationship.

I can say that the past experience and lessons learned have changed my attitude. Right now with Ryan, I do have "tampo" at times, but not the kind of what I had before which was really worse. When Ryan was here with me in person, there were a few times I made "tampo" but could not bear to see him with a sad face, it broke my heart, and I quickly reconciled with him. I love my baby so much. I can't bear to see his heart paining.

-Riza

I have experienced tampo in my relationship. It normally lasts for 2 days. During that time I receive no phone calls or texts while I am at work. When I am home she will stay busy and only talk to me if absolutely necessary. She wont discuss the issue during this tampo phase and I am left to guess. This happens on average once a month. The rest of the time we have a good relationship. After a tampo episode she will eventually talk about why she was upset and we can resolve it. We have been married for 5 months and are still adjusting. My view is that if this behavior continues it will eventually ruin our relationship. It's not cute, not necessary and an impediment to a healthy relationship.

Tampo is a unique reoccurring syndrome that severely affects 99.9% of Filipinas. This syndrome requires intense specialized treatment. Most folks call them loony bins or crazy houses. However, it's a sanctuary for the temporarily mentally unstable.

it's really unusual for a filipina to have a long tampo usually it's just a matter of minutes.... just like me sometimes... it will only last just a few mins. If both of you would be ok make it sure that it will not happen again especially if ur married already.... it would be worst at all... being a childish person will not work out in a married life...

From what I've been told from other married guys at work, this isn't a filipina-only trait. Most of the guys learn to live with it and their training seems to be mostly complete within the first two years of marriage; the other group of guys who are divorced, never successfully completed the training process.

first of all, Guys, always remember that you can't mistreat someone that you love so much.
Just to share, the greatest tampo I ever had with My Mahal is that he ask me for Pre-Nup. As for a filipina, it was so hurting, Would you guys agree with me?... I had tampo running in my veins for a day and a half, I couldn't eat or do anything productive just staying hurt. but hey, I just cant stop checking him once in a while. we never had immature times that I dont answer his message or stop talking to him, Why? because though you were hurt, YOU STILL LOVE THE PERSON that mad yourself whole like a puzzle. You know, that can be a strong ground to even broke with him but I didn't. I love the person.

talking about that tampo thang, tampo is natural, but if you feel like you're being left around unsolved, try to do the best thing that you think you can, after all, is that someone still doesn't seem to respond, Hey!!! I think it's time to take care of yourself too from falling.


Greg and Cathy

LMAO!

only last for one day!!. and after at all he gets so much sweeter and close to me!! yaayyy kinikilig ang Lola dito!! hehehe

when i'am in tampo it just take 1day.
just keep calling and sending message to your fiancee. i think your fiancee want to see how you make suyo to her... i think better you gave a handwritten letter than to offline message its more touched diba.
and if still not working ask her and gave a deadline to talk to you.... because if she love you she dont want you angry

I always suspect that Sheriff is a counselor... See, he can even interpret the true meaning of "tampo".

--Mae

Tampo may last for a long time until after the issue was confronted and settled..

Your girl may be thinking things for herself first before wanting to try to talk to you.. and it may last depending on the issues she had to resolve with herself first. I know coz sometimes, that's what I prefer to do... I would like to think things for myself first before trying to confront my love, so i can tell where i was at fault or if it's my love's at fault. Also it makes me clear my mind and calm myself becoz i know if im still in Tampo i can say things that may hurt him more and thus end up making things worse. But definitely, i make sure that when everything's ok, i talk to my love and tell him everything, how i felt, where and how i was hurt- definitely if someone's tampo there's hurt there somewhere, that's what we work on.

just keep trying making peace with her, be patient and do some sweet things... im sure one way or another your sweet gestures will come to her.

It's been 4 days, any news?

what's going on now? did you guys finally settled your problem?

My tampo usually last for hours mainly coz we're too far from each other. At times my fiance and I would just laugh about my tampo coz it was really funny and stupid in the first place. And yes, it is a childish way but in reality tampo is a pinay's way of telling you that she is hurting. Most pinays are not used to confronting you if they feel hurt or when something is bothering them. Unlike most westerners who are very vocal...not many pinays are like that. It's one of the many cultural differences that you'll deal with. In due time, it's either you'll get used to it or she'll learn to be more vocal. My fiance knows if I have tampo or not. He says he can see it in my eyebrow which I am not aware of.

Nobody here knows the true reason why she had tampo to you. Honestly, I won't call it tampo if she has not answered your many attempts to call and leave messages and last for many days. If she won't answer your calls or messages, try to explain to her on email. Tampo don't last for more than 2 days. It would be best to stop your many attempts to call her. Try to give her her space. You have done your very best to talk to her and try to work the indifference. Resolving a problem is a two-way street. You can't resolve the problem on your own. She needs to communicate with you as well.

Good luck and hope you guys will be ok soon.

No news guys, i am worried something happen to Lea. I got in touch with a friend she going to check on her and see what she can find out.

Oh no, I hope she is ok. You must be so worried now. Glad you have a contact with her friend. Keep us updated.

-Riza

Sheriff, I think you may be off by .1% I don't want to say which way since Yazi is watching what I'm posting

Well i have bad news. Lea is not sick. i will finish tomorrow

Sorry about the bad news and thank you for sharing with us. Keep us updated still.

God bless you Michael.

Well my friends i guess my journey is over.I found out Lea has along time bf that is living with her .He has been her bf for 10 years.Her parents do not aprove of him because he is a gambler and will not work.He has been living with her for about a month.After i got all my imformation. Lea findally came online and told me all of the truth about him and her.She told me she loved him and me.That she was confused and knew he would never give her a good lfe like i would.But she did not know what to do.Her parents found out he was living with her and have told her to never come back home as they are mad at her and will not talk to her anymore.I feel bad for letting her parents know about them living together but nothing i can do know.i asked her why she never told me about the bf and she say i didnt want to lose you.I asked Lea what was you gonna do when it was time for ur interview and she said she had hoped i never found out about the bf.That she was planing to sneak away from him and come to me after she got her visa and hoped he could not find her.Well my heart is broken in one thousand pieces now and i dont know what im gonna do because i love her so much even after all of this.

What do i need to do about stopping the K1 ?

Guess i will be leaving here in a few days if someone can tell me how to delete my profile i will delete it soon.

Good luck to all on your journey and God Bless all of you
I have enjoyed my short time here and reading about everyone you will be missed

thanks everyone

Michael

I hope you find the right girl that's meant for you! Good luck and wish you the best! Only your girl knows the truth whats really inside her heart. I guess its a blessing in disguise that you found out everything before she got her Visa. I am pretty sure that you will find the right girl of your dreams. Again, I am sorry for what happened.

I believe you would write to the USCIS Service Center where you submitted the petition and notify them that you want to withdraw the Petition.

best of luck to you in the future.

i'm sorry to hear this... i'm sad reading ur post too...
yah they are right.. someday, somehow, somewhere.. u will find ur true love, a love that don't have conditions, no alibis, and a love for eternity..

Goodluck hope u will be happy and move on..

Damn, that sucks. I wish the best for you Michael.