Glad that you find out
Best of luck
Full Version: Tampo
QUOTE (Michael and Lea @ May 17 2008, 11:20 AM) 
What do i need to do about stopping the K1 ?
Guess i will be leaving here in a few days if someone can tell me how to delete my profile i will delete it soon.
Good luck to all on your journey and God Bless all of you
I have enjoyed my short time here and reading about everyone you will be missed
thanks everyone
Michael
Guess i will be leaving here in a few days if someone can tell me how to delete my profile i will delete it soon.
Good luck to all on your journey and God Bless all of you
I have enjoyed my short time here and reading about everyone you will be missed
thanks everyone
Michael
I'm glad you're not rationalizing her actions and I think you're doing the right thing. However, I hope that you will hang around our forum.
Anyway about stopping your petition. Ive seen this question before and I believe it depends on where your case is at. Has your case been approved? Is it at the USCIS level? If so I would call them at (800) 375-5283. For good measure I would also call the US Embassy in Manila and tell them you're cancelling your petition.
OMG!!! im so sorry to hear about this Michael, But this isn't new to me at all I've seen lots of Filipinas who are dating Americans while they're dating Filipinos here. It bugs me a lot cause they're ruining the reputations of Filipinas ....anyway , piece of advice :
please be careful in choosing partner sometimes we need to listen to our mind and not only our heart
please be careful in choosing partner sometimes we need to listen to our mind and not only our heart
I can totally sympathize with this situation. Before I met Loterly I was involved with several pinays over the first 9 months I lived there. One of them was a former "juicy girl" (bargirl who hustles drinks from GI's) who had run away from her club and was working in a Korean factory illegally. I met her at a mutual friends house, we were introduced and I was really taken with her. She started visiting me on weekends but only at our friends house and I thought we had a future together based on our conversations and the time we spent together. We seemed to have a very good potential relationship. To make a long story short one of my American friends who was married to a pinay couldn't take it anymore and revealed to me that she was living with a Pinoy in Seoul in a "convenience couple" relationship (sharing rent, expenses, bodily fluids). The sad part was all of her friends and mine knew but nobody had the guts to tell me except my friend. Your fortunate you found out, when I confronted her with it, her choice was to deny it, and then stop talking to me. It wasnt Tampo it was her embarassment at me finding out and that her friends took my side of it. I feel lucky also because eventually Loterly and I found eachother and everything has worked out for the best. Take your time and get over this woman, don't give up on finding the right Pinay and things can and will get better. Im just sorry you started out the K-1 process and then found this out.
I am glad that you discovered this in a bit early stage. I know and i believe that someday you'll be able to find your partner in life. I hope u'll find the girl that will truly love you and won't cheat on you
PiNk
QUOTE (Michael and Lea @ May 17 2008, 01:20 PM)
What do i need to do about stopping the K1 ?
I see that you haven't received the NOA2 (approval) yet. Better call the service center where you filed and ask them the proper way of canceling a petition. You can always write them a letter regarding this but best if you'd call first so you'll know to whom your concern may be addressed.
Sorry that things didn't work out. Considered it as a blessing in disguise in a way that whatever she was planning to do was put to stop. You don't deserve to be cheated on.
Good luck and may you find the right person for you.
--Mae
Michael,
im sorry to hear this.. but it is good that you found the reason why... I know its hurts you a lot... and maybe for you gf too... pray and offer your problem to God.. ask guidance, it helps to feel you good... pain will heal, make yourself busy and better to be with your good friends there... then time will come you are ok... i think you need time for yourself. and it helps for you to think and make a good disicion...
Goodluck!
God BLess You!
Lady23
im sorry to hear this.. but it is good that you found the reason why... I know its hurts you a lot... and maybe for you gf too... pray and offer your problem to God.. ask guidance, it helps to feel you good... pain will heal, make yourself busy and better to be with your good friends there... then time will come you are ok... i think you need time for yourself. and it helps for you to think and make a good disicion...
Goodluck!
God BLess You!
Lady23
QUOTE (Michael and Lea @ May 17 2008, 01:20 PM)
Well my friends i guess my journey is over.I found out Lea has along time bf that is living with her .He has been her bf for 10 years.Her parents do not aprove of him because he is a gambler and will not work.He has been living with her for about a month.After i got all my imformation. Lea findally came online and told me all of the truth about him and her.She told me she loved him and me.That she was confused and knew he would never give her a good lfe like i would.But she did not know what to do.Her parents found out he was living with her and have told her to never come back home as they are mad at her and will not talk to her anymore.I feel bad for letting her parents know about them living together but nothing i can do know.i asked her why she never told me about the bf and she say i didnt want to lose you.I asked Lea what was you gonna do when it was time for ur interview and she said she had hoped i never found out about the bf.That she was planing to sneak away from him and come to me after she got her visa and hoped he could not find her.Well my heart is broken in one thousand pieces now and i dont know what im gonna do because i love her so much even after all of this.
What do i need to do about stopping the K1 ?
Guess i will be leaving here in a few days if someone can tell me how to delete my profile i will delete it soon.
Good luck to all on your journey and God Bless all of you
I have enjoyed my short time here and reading about everyone you will be missed
thanks everyone
Michael
What do i need to do about stopping the K1 ?
Guess i will be leaving here in a few days if someone can tell me how to delete my profile i will delete it soon.
Good luck to all on your journey and God Bless all of you
I have enjoyed my short time here and reading about everyone you will be missed
thanks everyone
Michael
Hi Michael,
Sorry to hear about your sad story!!!
But you know what you are still blessed because yu discover it earlier like you dont spend much time and effort although you love her so much and you get hurt already. Thats life Micheal you be hurt and you will learned. God has prepared another girl for you that derserving on ur pure love. I wish you good luck for that.
Never close you door!!! she is just there...
God bless you!!!!!!!!!
Ninfa
I'm sorry that this has happened to you. You just applied for a visa. What you should do is mail a letter to the Embassy with your case number on it (providing you already got your NOA1). Tell them you are withdrawing or that they should stop any action with regards to processing the k-1 visa. You will get a reply mail from the Embassy.
Cheer up. You'll find someone who'll love you unconditionally. Just be glad that you found out the truth. I know it hurts you a lot and right now you still have feelings for her. But you can't let yourself be fooled too.
Good luck and hope you find your true happiness real soon.
Cheer up. You'll find someone who'll love you unconditionally. Just be glad that you found out the truth. I know it hurts you a lot and right now you still have feelings for her. But you can't let yourself be fooled too.
Good luck and hope you find your true happiness real soon.
Man, I am really sorry this happened to you! If you need someone to talk to you. Feel free to PM me......
QUOTE (Michael and Lea @ May 11 2008, 01:49 AM)
This question is to the filipina ladies or their fiancee . How long does your tampo last? I made my fiancee mad may 6 and she will not answer her phone or message me back on yahoo. This is driving me crazy.I just dont know what to do any advice? i call her 10 times a day but she will not answer. please i need some help.
I never ignored my husband that long. When am mad or upset (tampo) i will be relieved after i confronted him. But ignoring him for few days will make me feel sick
We never go to sleep not talking to each other. If you know her add try to send her flowers or gift. I hope you could find it online,for sure. LBC company do that i guess. Hope you guys will be okay asap.
QUOTE (shallan @ May 19 2008, 01:30 AM)
QUOTE (Michael and Lea @ May 11 2008, 01:49 AM)
This question is to the filipina ladies or their fiancee . How long does your tampo last? I made my fiancee mad may 6 and she will not answer her phone or message me back on yahoo. This is driving me crazy.I just dont know what to do any advice? i call her 10 times a day but she will not answer. please i need some help.
I never ignored my husband that long. When am mad or upset (tampo) i will be relieved after i confronted him. But ignoring him for few days will make me feel sick
We never go to sleep not talking to each other. If you know her add try to send her flowers or gift. I hope you could find it online,for sure. LBC company do that i guess. Hope you guys will be okay asap.oH sorry i just posted my advice immediately was not reading bout what you found out..well another advice from me would be ( Get rid of her..! If she does love you then she wont let that guy lived with her. It takes two to tango! Hope you find the right girl. )
THis is really too bad, but at least you found out. It would have been awful to find out once she arrived in the US and was sending money back to support her boyfriend. I know that God has great plans for your future, and they will be for a beautiful love with someone who loves you exclusively
I believe in KARMA....at least you are lucky you found out early.....
Hello guys, just thought i wold let everyone know Lea contacted me and told me the whole story about the bf.He has been her bf on and off for the past 10 years.Her parents dont like him or aprove of him because he will not work.They had been split up for the last year and when he found out about me and Lea he came back into her lfe.She told me she was so sorry about not telling me the truth.Lea told me she loved the bf and me the same.that she knew the bf could never give her a good life and her plan was she hoped i would have never found out about him as she was gonna get her visa and sneak away from him and come to me and hoped he could never reach her or contact her no more.As hard as it was for me to do i told her im sorry Lea i still love you but you should have told me the truth from the begining.Good luck with your bf hope he makes you happy!
QUOTE (Michael and Lea @ May 19 2008, 11:00 PM)
Hello guys, just thought i wold let everyone know Lea contacted me and told me the whole story about the bf.He has been her bf on and off for the past 10 years.Her parents dont like him or aprove of him because he will not work.They had been split up for the last year and when he found out about me and Lea he came back into her lfe.She told me she was so sorry about not telling me the truth.Lea told me she loved the bf and me the same.that she knew the bf could never give her a good life and her plan was she hoped i would have never found out about him as she was gonna get her visa and sneak away from him and come to me and hoped he could never reach her or contact her no more.As hard as it was for me to do i told her im sorry Lea i still love you but you should have told me the truth from the begining.Good luck with your bf hope he makes you happy!
im sorry to hear this.. but for me, ur decision is right..
Lea is hiding to you her situation, she is not honest..
QUOTE (Michael and Lea @ May 19 2008, 10:00 AM)
Hello guys, just thought i wold let everyone know Lea contacted me and told me the whole story about the bf.He has been her bf on and off for the past 10 years.Her parents dont like him or aprove of him because he will not work.They had been split up for the last year and when he found out about me and Lea he came back into her lfe.She told me she was so sorry about not telling me the truth.Lea told me she loved the bf and me the same.that she knew the bf could never give her a good life and her plan was she hoped i would have never found out about him as she was gonna get her visa and sneak away from him and come to me and hoped he could never reach her or contact her no more.As hard as it was for me to do i told her im sorry Lea i still love you but you should have told me the truth from the begining.Good luck with your bf hope he makes you happy!
Good for you! There's a better person waiting for you out there, someone who will be honest with you and will not cheat on you. I'm glad that you're not a fool and accept her back despite what she's been doing. I wish you all the best!
--Mae
QUOTE (Michael and Lea @ May 19 2008, 11:00 AM)
Hello guys, just thought i wold let everyone know Lea contacted me and told me the whole story about the bf.He has been her bf on and off for the past 10 years.Her parents dont like him or aprove of him because he will not work.They had been split up for the last year and when he found out about me and Lea he came back into her lfe.She told me she was so sorry about not telling me the truth.Lea told me she loved the bf and me the same.that she knew the bf could never give her a good life and her plan was she hoped i would have never found out about him as she was gonna get her visa and sneak away from him and come to me and hoped he could never reach her or contact her no more.As hard as it was for me to do i told her im sorry Lea i still love you but you should have told me the truth from the begining.Good luck with your bf hope he makes you happy!
Kudos to you.
QUOTE (Michael and Lea @ May 19 2008, 11:00 PM)
Hello guys, just thought i wold let everyone know Lea contacted me and told me the whole story about the bf.He has been her bf on and off for the past 10 years.Her parents dont like him or aprove of him because he will not work.They had been split up for the last year and when he found out about me and Lea he came back into her lfe.She told me she was so sorry about not telling me the truth.Lea told me she loved the bf and me the same.that she knew the bf could never give her a good life and her plan was she hoped i would have never found out about him as she was gonna get her visa and sneak away from him and come to me and hoped he could never reach her or contact her no more.As hard as it was for me to do i told her im sorry Lea i still love you but you should have told me the truth from the begining.Good luck with your bf hope he makes you happy!
so sorry to hear about what happened to you. but you made to right decision of letting her go, you don't deserve to start your life together with drama and half-truths. i wish you all the best and hope you find someone who truly loves you.
QUOTE (Michael and Lea @ May 19 2008, 11:00 PM)
Hello guys, just thought i wold let everyone know Lea contacted me and told me the whole story about the bf.He has been her bf on and off for the past 10 years.Her parents dont like him or aprove of him because he will not work.They had been split up for the last year and when he found out about me and Lea he came back into her lfe.She told me she was so sorry about not telling me the truth.Lea told me she loved the bf and me the same.that she knew the bf could never give her a good life and her plan was she hoped i would have never found out about him as she was gonna get her visa and sneak away from him and come to me and hoped he could never reach her or contact her no more.As hard as it was for me to do i told her im sorry Lea i still love you but you should have told me the truth from the begining.Good luck with your bf hope he makes you happy!
You made the right decision. You love her a lot but you need to love yourself too. It hurts a lot but it will heal in due time. It's your that you wise up and stand for yourself to not accept her. It's not right to continue the relationship with her while she's being with her other bf. Waiting for her visa to be approved so she could escape from her other bf is not an excuse. If she really wants to leave his other lover....she should do it immediately. Why wait?!
It was very hard guys to tell Lea what i told her because i love her so very much. I dont know if i will ever get over my broken heart.It will be hard to trust again but maybe oneday i will find my true love.I just fill so used and left with a broken heart
QUOTE (Michael and Lea @ May 20 2008, 02:59 AM)
It was very hard guys to tell Lea what i told her because i love her so very much. I dont know if i will ever get over my broken heart.It will be hard to trust again but maybe oneday i will find my true love.I just fill so used and left with a broken heart
Michael,
i beleive there is girl for you who deserve to your love.. and you too.. she will come in the right time... as of now just be happy
Goodluck!
lady23
Hi,
It seems to me that this girl don't really mean that she is loving you, coz based on what you have said , it sounds that she loves you for immigration purpose only. I'm sorry, but that is how i see it.
You seems nice and i think you deserve to have an GOOD wife not only for yourself but for your kids-to-be someday. It's for your happiness and for your family also. And this begins with having an HONEST PARTNER and knows how to respect and be respected as well.
There are lots of singles in Philippines who are truly sincere, if you want to have luck maybe i can match you to some of my single friends.
Yay.
Good luck and be strong.
Shape
It seems to me that this girl don't really mean that she is loving you, coz based on what you have said , it sounds that she loves you for immigration purpose only. I'm sorry, but that is how i see it.
You seems nice and i think you deserve to have an GOOD wife not only for yourself but for your kids-to-be someday. It's for your happiness and for your family also. And this begins with having an HONEST PARTNER and knows how to respect and be respected as well.
There are lots of singles in Philippines who are truly sincere, if you want to have luck maybe i can match you to some of my single friends.
Yay.Good luck and be strong.
Shape
QUOTE (Michael and Lea @ May 19 2008, 11:00 PM)
Hello guys, just thought i wold let everyone know Lea contacted me and told me the whole story about the bf.He has been her bf on and off for the past 10 years.Her parents dont like him or aprove of him because he will not work.They had been split up for the last year and when he found out about me and Lea he came back into her lfe.She told me she was so sorry about not telling me the truth.Lea told me she loved the bf and me the same.that she knew the bf could never give her a good life and her plan was she hoped i would have never found out about him as she was gonna get her visa and sneak away from him and come to me and hoped he could never reach her or contact her no more.As hard as it was for me to do i told her im sorry Lea i still love you but you should have told me the truth from the begining.Good luck with your bf hope he makes you happy!
Thanks shape of my heart. Maybe soon
oohhh i'm so sorry to hear about that michael... i understand how you feel please don't lose hope, just pray to god and in time you will surely find the ONE for you...
god bless you....
i feel for you
nanz
god bless you....
i feel for you
nanz
i agree with shape....she wants a greencard. she knows he cant take care of her....but u can so she will sneak off to the one who can take care of her. whats she going to do...sneak off from u when she misses him....after all she loves u both the same.
anyway...good luck. im sure u will find someone new.
anyway...good luck. im sure u will find someone new.
Lea and i have been talking and she say she really loves me and that she is over the bf, but i dont know if i can trust her again. Lea said she really sorry for lieing to me and she is ashamed she still wants to be my wife. I just dont know what to do.
hi it's up to you.. but for us here,,, we're concern bout u.. She's lying to u once... it has possibility she will lie again...
she should show effort first that she's really sincere of her love to u... i mean like test her,,, (its up to u what's ur way or how)
she should show effort first that she's really sincere of her love to u... i mean like test her,,, (its up to u what's ur way or how)
QUOTE (Michael and Lea @ May 25 2008, 03:42 PM)
Lea and i have been talking and she say she really loves me and that she is over the bf, but i dont know if i can trust her again. Lea said she really sorry for lieing to me and she is ashamed she still wants to be my wife. I just dont know what to do.
You would be a fool to get with this girl. You need to cut ties and run like hell from her.
She has already showed her true colors, and if you happen to get back with her then you will be destin for eventual heartbreak.
Don't you have respect for yourself. Never let anyone play with your emotions.
QUOTE (Michael and Lea @ May 25 2008, 01:42 PM)
Lea and i have been talking and she say she really loves me and that she is over the bf, but i dont know if i can trust her again. Lea said she really sorry for lieing to me and she is ashamed she still wants to be my wife. I just dont know what to do.
without trust no relationship can survive. I think you know what to do...
sorry to hear it Michael. its bother me a little when i read your posting. be careful next time
i don't really get tampo isn't in my blood.
i don't really get tampo isn't in my blood.
trust is best foundation of a good relationship 
QUOTE (Michael and Lea @ May 26 2008, 04:42 AM)
Lea and i have been talking and she say she really loves me and that she is over the bf, but i dont know if i can trust her again. Lea said she really sorry for lieing to me and she is ashamed she still wants to be my wife. I just dont know what to do.
Hi Michael,Im sorry to hear about what happen.Its her lost not yours.All i can say is...It's your decision.You are grown up and you know what you have to do.It's up to you if you want to give her another chance,test her and be more smart this time.If you will give her another chance,you have to test her to prove that she really loves you and if she is sincere and get to know her more better.
If you are meant to be,God will make a way how you and her will get back together.If not then..you have to move on.
You don't need to find the right girl for you.She will come in your life in the right time w/o noticing about it.I believe in destiny.
Take care and God Bless!!!
i figured she would try to weezle herself back in with u, but like everyone else said...its ur decision.
Lea and i are talking, but i told her i didnt know what i was gonna do about the k1 that we would talk and see how it all goes.I know many of you members think im crazy and maybe i am but i do love her and hope we can work it all out.The bf is gone and she says she is over him only time will tell.I am not sending her any money so i guess we will see how it works out.Thank you all for the support you have gave me.
Michael
Michael
I'm hoping that stem cell research finds a cure for this disorder...
QUOTE (Michael and Lea @ Jun 2 2008, 04:04 AM)
Lea and i are talking, but i told her i didnt know what i was gonna do about the k1 that we would talk and see how it all goes.I know many of you members think im crazy and maybe i am but i do love her and hope we can work it all out.The bf is gone and she says she is over him only time will tell.I am not sending her any money so i guess we will see how it works out.Thank you all for the support you have gave me.
Michael
Michael
I hope this time is for real. (in her side) Good luck.
QUOTE (Sheriff Uling @ Jun 2 2008, 04:10 AM)
I'm hoping that stem cell research finds a cure for this disorder...
QUOTE (Michael and Lea @ Jun 1 2008, 03:04 PM)
Lea and i are talking, but i told her i didnt know what i was gonna do about the k1 that we would talk and see how it all goes.I know many of you members think im crazy and maybe i am but i do love her and hope we can work it all out.The bf is gone and she says she is over him only time will tell.I am not sending her any money so i guess we will see how it works out.Thank you all for the support you have gave me.
Michael
Michael
"Fool me once, shame on you... fool me twice, shame on me..."
QUOTE (Michael and Lea @ Jun 1 2008, 01:04 PM)
Lea and i are talking, but i told her i didnt know what i was gonna do about the k1 that we would talk and see how it all goes.I know many of you members think im crazy and maybe i am but i do love her and hope we can work it all out.The bf is gone and she says she is over him only time will tell.I am not sending her any money so i guess we will see how it works out.Thank you all for the support you have gave me.
Michael
Michael
Dude, WALK AWAY NOW........................Think with your brain and not your heart.
I knew girls like this when I lived in the Phils...........don't be a sucker.
Mahal Pilipinas!!
QUOTE (Michael and Lea @ Jun 1 2008, 03:04 PM)
Lea and i are talking, but i told her i didnt know what i was gonna do about the k1 that we would talk and see how it all goes.I know many of you members think im crazy and maybe i am but i do love her and hope we can work it all out.The bf is gone and she says she is over him only time will tell.I am not sending her any money so i guess we will see how it works out.Thank you all for the support you have gave me.
Michael
Michael
Do what you think is best! Love isn't like a light switch where you can turn it off... I would be cautious and I would keep my eyes and ears open. I have personally seen things work out for people under these circumstances and have seen it go the other way too... Do what your Gut Feeling tells you to do... Good Luck to you!!
QUOTE (Michael and Lea @ Jun 2 2008, 04:04 AM)
Lea and i are talking, but i told her i didnt know what i was gonna do about the k1 that we would talk and see how it all goes.I know many of you members think im crazy and maybe i am but i do love her and hope we can work it all out.The bf is gone and she says she is over him only time will tell.I am not sending her any money so i guess we will see how it works out.Thank you all for the support you have gave me.
Michael
Michael
Good luck and I hope it will be real this time.There's nothing bad about your decision.Its not bad to give another chance but be more smarter this time.God Bless!!!!
There are alot more fish in the sea. Check Cherryblossoms.com and start a relationship
with someone you can trust.
with someone you can trust.
would you give another chance to a finace that lived in the same area as you?
If you cant trust the far away fiance, to be not sleeping with a 10 year bf, then how
would you trust her in the future. Buy this trouble, and you will forever be wondering,
making excuses to yourself, and hoping she doesnt steal you blind
If you cant trust the far away fiance, to be not sleeping with a 10 year bf, then how
would you trust her in the future. Buy this trouble, and you will forever be wondering,
making excuses to yourself, and hoping she doesnt steal you blind
love is blind as they say. she is using him and he is blind. she got caught cheating and lost her chance to come to america and now buttering him up. im sure the boyfriend is still living with her. oh well its his live.
QUOTE (Michael and Lea @ Jun 2 2008, 04:04 AM)
Lea and i are talking, but i told her i didnt know what i was gonna do about the k1 that we would talk and see how it all goes.I know many of you members think im crazy and maybe i am but i do love her and hope we can work it all out.The bf is gone and she says she is over him only time will tell.I am not sending her any money so i guess we will see how it works out.Thank you all for the support you have gave me.
Michael
Michael
Action speaks louder than words....
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