I am a bit confused as well, this is all history for us, (Thank God, or the USCIS, whichever has the most power on our lives). But when things started getting serious for us and realizing vaguely we were from two different countries decided to learn something about visa's, immigration, and stuff like that. Found it to be very complex with everything else to do, so found a darn good immigration attorney.
Also my wife and I had bad marriages, that chaperon stuff they preached back then may work in theory but certainly not in practice, and only sex after marriage. Ha, as a father of daughters, discouraged them highly from jumping around from bed to bed, but if you meet that guy you are really serious about, live with him for awhile before tying that so-called lifelong knot. Thought I would like to follow my own advice on this.
Wife did get a visa, a ten year one, that was no problem, the big problem was that I-94 limitation, and I think is what you are talking about expiring so quick. And time tends to go by very quickly when you are having fun, and yes, we were having fun. And you do have to keep a close eye on that calendar.
At the good advice from my immigration attorney, we wanted to extend her stay so filed a:
http://www.uscis.gov/portal/site/uscis/men...00045f3d6a1RCRD that is an extension of her I-94, we needed time to decide whether we wanted to spend our lives together and got that time.
She still had to go back, we got to see each other a couple of times, but were going through that infinitely long USCIS process to get married, that was the longest year of our lives. But that also cemented our relationship, use to be a saying, absence makes the heart grow founder, but can add to that, be absent too long, and the heart will wander.
That long year also had it's series of disappointments, but if you really want to be together, will find ways to work all those problems out, we did.
The big day for us is when she got her permanent resident card, but that came also with a huge disappointment and a shock we weren't aware of, it was conditional. Here we are two very careful adults and being treated like irresponsible kids by the USCIS, besides being a very lengthly process with a high degree of insecurity. But again, Thank God, or the USCIS, whichever has the most power on our lives came through and now that is history. Now we are finally on the last leg for her US citizenship.
Not sure if even a book is available if you find a potential mate in a foreign country, ha, if there isn't, maybe we should write one.