Hello Wonder-Full VJers,

I cannot express how much I appreciate you.
The emails and PMs have been so sweet and loving.

Last night my sweetie's father let go of his body.
The whole day was surreal.
I am relaxed (complete) in that I made a good call in visiting late the night before, caught him and his wife awake.
I held his hand told him I loved him and and his wife and how happy I am to have become a part of this whacky loveable family.
He smiled a huge smile and we all cried when I kissed his hand a few times...the whole thing so soft and real....hard to discribe.

I believe more than ever that this time on this planet in this dimension is but a chosen experience and is not it.
This plane of existence, this consciousness, is a tiny part of what our lives are.
Our spirits soared once and landed here; and now his is off, bigger, powerful, expansive.

Such a calmness, a peace, rained over all of us last night...staying up having drinks and playing music and remembering beautiful times.

I am between tears of sadness and tears of elation.

A good place to be.

What a lovely post, Spirit. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your husband's family.

Oh Spirit I am sorry to hear about your FIL, although it sounds like you have some wonderful memories to keep with you always. I am sure he will be looking down on you and helping both of you throughout your lives together. Thoughts and prayers are with you and the family at this time.

Sorry about the passing. Hope ur doing well.

Sorry to hear that Spirit but also glad to hear that you are feeling more peaceful.

That's wonderful that you got to see him one last time. You'll probably never know just how much your visit meant to him. Your post is very touching and I know what you mean about that surreal feeling at the time of death. When my grandpa died after a long battle with cancer he had been non-communicative for the prior few weeks due to everything shutting down. Well the moment before he died he brightened up, opened his eyes, looked across the room with a big smile on his face and said "what are you doing here?" My aunts all witnessed it and said the area around him seemed to glow (but not really-that surreal feeling) and they think he was seeing my grandma. He looked really happy & excited. I agree, this is not IT, there's more.
I really admire your positive attitude and my thoughts & prayers are with you & your husband.

sorry to heard this..

Spirit darling,

What a lovely post, not surprising since it comes from a lovely person. We are all drops in the Ocean of Love and Mercy. I know papa in law was happy to know that son is in the best care with you.

Much love, Lenina.

Sending you hugs.

It's such a wonderful feeling to have shared in someone's last hours. When that peace surrounds not only them but you as well, it truly is a gift. The gift of knowing that they are at peace and without pain. The gift of knowing they have left and gone to the next level of their life. The gift of being able to smile at the memories you have and share those memories with others around you.

As you travel these next few days, the steps you take will be with God by your family's side - guiding you. May His presence comfort you and your family over time as you encounter special days and occasions.

Kelly

What a lovely tribute to your father in law. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your hubby-to-be.

I am sorry for your loss but glad that he had such a peaceful passage and that you all had the chance to say goodbye. I know that place you describe. It is a good place. I hope you will find yourself able to return to it over the turmoil of the next few days. Be well and take care of yourself.

That brought tears to my eyes. Because I have my own stories. Thank you.

Many thank yous to all of you here.

My honey took 2 months off of work in Chicago and we came to stay here in Santa Rosa Beach, FL to be nearby to assist, clean, cook, shop, whtever they needed. The people that visited in this time from all over the world blew my mind out. Hey, and I have a multitude of invitations to visit whenever I/we feel like it. Cool! And so this house has been like Grand Central station for most of the month we have been here most of the day each day.

The family has been so happy to have us here, for support, love and to take care of thingies.
Staying in s house owned by this family with my sweetie, my sis-in-law and now more guests will be staying with us for the party/service coming up Sunday.

My escape has been the beach (the closest one near here that is all about quiet and solitude, mmmmm). Splashing in the waves and dancing with my iPod....getting some stress/anxiety/sadness relief. I have inadvertently performed for strangers I had not noticed, walking the emerald coast. I twirled around so fast one time I fell into a wave and almost killed my player. Ha!



I am so pleased that so many of you are in this understanding that there will be moments when one is looking that he will make his presence known.

I look forward to yet more unknown and see what my sweetstuff and I will do with the near future.
It truly feels like a blank slate now.
So much shift in attitudes...
It is good.

Being I so live in the present, my home is here for now ans Illinois feels like a dream.
We live where??
Hee, hee.


BTW I can spell describe; I just cannot type.



for all of you:


huge hug

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family hon
I'm so very sorry for your loss.

RIP

Spirit, what a beautiful way to celebrate your FIL's life. My thoughts are with you at this time.

Spirit, I am sorry for your loss. My heart, thoughts and prayers are with you.

I have thought in quiet solitude about how to best express my deepest condolences about the passing of your FIL. It seems to me that our innermost misgivings are founded in our loss and realization of our own mortality. When we are young, we think that we might be immortal and when we are old we fear that it is true. As you so eloquently pointed out, Spirit, this is not an end, but only the transition, a sublimation of our outer being to our inner one. It may be a time of lachrymose reflection to us but it is a time of great joy to your FIL and we should all celebrate his time among us and relish his return to the celestial womb. May God speed him on his journey.

*sigh.. thank you thank you for your posting.. it is truly inspirational.. what a depth of celebration and acceptance you have in this passing.. It is a beautiful thing.. Still grieving my Grandmie on this end, and hearing your thoughts on having no regrets and living life well is a beautiful reminder to us all..

Thoughts go your way as you face the next few very busy and stressful days ahead my friend!

Thank you again my friends here on VJ.
Your kind words and flowers and other sentiments have truly touched my heart.
I told my step-mother-in-law (phew!) about this site and all of you...and how much you saved my ### from sheer depression at the time of the K1 thingie.
She is blown away by how many people are "involved"...from all the world and from so many realms.

Like some of you said, it is not sad for the one who has transformed, it is sad for those of us left behind who wanted some more time to play together.
I cannot even imagine what it would be like to lose a parent, spouse, sibling...that would be heart crushing for sure.
I hope I can have this kind of grace then, too.
After all, losing a grandmama or someone like that has a profound effect on people.
One of my good friends in Vancouver recently "lost" hers and now she is concerned with how much more power that woman will give to her from the other side. Hahaha!

One more thing I wanted to say about this wonder-full man: I asked him a while back if there was anything he wanted to do that he hadn't, or anything he needed to say to anyone left unsaid. His response? "No."
I do not think I have ever truly met someone who said that and meant it.
What a lucky man having lived the life he wanted.



PS One does not get over things like this...and do not think you ever have to.

Your FIL was indeed a lucky man to have led he did and met all the wonderful people he did, especially his DIL. The great thing is when our loved ones transition, they can still visit, sometimes the visit you in your dreams and sometimes the visit you when you're wide awake. You can feel their presence and you know they've visited.

When I was a kid, my grandmother used to give each of us a five dollar bill and later a ten dollar bill as birthday presents. When she passed, I was despondent. She was like a second mother to me. Then, one day I was walking out to the mailbox and I found a five dollar bill. I looked around and there was only that one bill. My brothers went out and they found nothing. The next day I found more fives and a few tens. Again we looked and again we found nothing. This went on for ten days. I suppose that there is some other plausible explanation, but I knew in my heart that my grandmother was visiting. She always told me that she was 100 years old and I guess it was a day for each decade. I thought about whether it was Nana but it was my mother who told me what I think I already knew. Nana was visiting us. To this day she still comes to visit us from time to time. We visited her grave every day for three years. We don't go as much as we want to or should these days, we've moved on but the pain still hasn't gone and it never will.

I am glad there is another human being on this earth that recognises this as well. One doesn't "get over it" simply because others say they should. It is a personal journey...and I am still on this journey some 10 years later. No...I will never tell anyone they "should be over it".

"PS One does not get over things like this...and do not think you ever have to."

I have lost both my mother and my father. It will be 10 years in January for my mom and with this upcoming Mother's Day - I feel the loss even more. My dad has been gone for 6 years and on his special days, I miss him.

I still shed tears when certain days come along; when I think of good memories; and when I think of where my life is headed without them here to celebrate it with me. They are always with me - memories and in my heart.

I know my future hubby thinks of his parents often too. He has been on his own since the tender age of 14.

We all deal with these things differently. For myself, I know that if I were doing something wrong my mother would be letting me know, as would my dad. They gave me my life and guided me through it while they were here. Even though they are not physically here, they still find a way to guide me on my life's journey until we can be together again.

Spirit - you have such a gentle heart and wonderful outlook. You and yours will go where the Spirit takes you. We are never alone.

so sorry to hear about your FIL's passing...my husband lost his mom in August and today is his first Mothers Day without her....he wished my mother a happy Mothers Day but he looked so sad just saying the words...sending prayers to you, your husband and his family..

Again, thank you all so much for your loving words.
I appreciate all of you!

In a couple of hours we will be having a gathering, a celebration of my sweetie's dad's life.
There is a man who played with Elvis!! that is a friend of the family that will be performing some songs and my SIL will be singing a couple also.
This is very cool.
I think there will be a hundred people there.
Crazy! (aka good)
He affected so many...

Please stay with us.
I can feel you all energetically.
And know that I am with you.

Despite having been away for several weeks, I am with you Spirit...your strength and beauty I'm sure has been very comforting to your new extended family. I'm sorry to hear of your FIL's passing, and your tribute in words I'm sure, is not enough to explain the depth of who he really was. May you always celebrate his life and love.