what is the most common way to meet your fiance or spouse

If it weren't for the internet, I'd be very single and probably would have stayed that way. It is nearly impossible, to find someone special, when you are middle aged and have no normal network of singles to draw from. My friends and family no zero single people that I find attractive for a serious relationship. I'm not and could never get interested in the "bar scene". I wouldn't walk up to a lady at the grocery or clothing store to ask for their shopping advice hoping to get a little more. I truly can say, the internet is 100% responsible for opening doors that would have otherwise remain closed.

I met my Fiance through his Uncle

However I met the EX online in 1983 ( It wasn't the internet back then )
And yes he was in another country

I could have said the same thing, word-for-word myself - well, maybe not the "middle-aged" part, as I was 37 when I found Lai

Lai and I met on the Internet at a singles site. And we were both there actively, deliberately seeking a spouse (gasp!). I find it amusing how often people will say they met on the Internet, but then will be quick to point out that it was entirely accidental and they'd had no real intention of finding a spouse there, as if there were something weird or sad about people who purposely look for their mates that way, and they want to assure everyone they aren't losers

The culture we live in calls that being needy.

I think of it more as recognizing what you need and going out to get it.

I'm happy for both of you

I don't think people who looked for a mate on the internet are losers


it is just how it worked out me... I didn't go to a chat room to meet someone... i was just bored and wanted to check out this chatting thing and I just happened to meet my future husband in a chat room:)

Thanks Yep, it's called being proactive. If someone seeks a job or anything else they want that way, no one bats an eye....

because of culture and religion .......my choices were allow my family to help me find my life partner or look for one myself.....and again because of religion and culture dating is not gonna happen soooooooo..........with my families help i put my profile on muslimmatrimonial.com...........and went thru the process of selecting someone that i felt a relationship of love and respect could grow from...........so yup the Internet opened doors for me that would have been closed to most a few years ago........it took alot of talking from my side to get permission for that type of selection........but it all worked out thanks of God

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=67146

i met my fiance while studying abroad...

we must keep in mind that a poll like this is biased towards international couples who met on the internet, simply because the poll is taking place on a website...international couples who met on the internet are more likely to be a part of this website than international couples who met other ways

other. I believe most people find their spouses through their social circle, like school, at work, at a bar, club, family or friends.

Wasn't the question, how did YOU meet?

Not necessarily, since this website is not a place where singles meet, but is for international couples who are seeking help/support with the process of being united in the States. Regardless of how an international couple met, they still have to get a visa for the alien fiancee/spouse to immigrate here.

Met through a mutual friend who I dated and met online.

That answer was for the question what's the most common ... For the question how did you meet my answer is internet.

i think the OP wants to find out what seems to be the most common way we all have met our SO...

Totally agree! I also would be very single today if it weren't for the internet that had introduced me to my husband and to other parts of the world that I don't think that I would have had the nerve to venture on my own if it wasn't for the chance at a special love!

I went online on purpose to meet someone special, but didn't intend for it to be an American!!!!

I really wanted to meet someone that lived in Canada, and even in the same area as I did.

But...... that didn't happen.... and the rest is history!!!!!

I went online on purpose to see if I could find anyone interesting and remotely close to what I was looking for (like Kazan, there was slim pickings from where I was from), dated a couple of people, was in a period of just hanging out with friends when Jerry and I crossed paths in the chatroom. I never thought I would end up in the US!

Met online, actually it was the first time i had ever chatted online. Was married 7yrs prior. Moved in with mom and thats all she did, at first i thought she was crazy, i had never even seen a webcam before, she finally talked me into opening a yahoo account and a few days later i met my love, didnt know it at the time though, we started out as friends and it just kinda grew. Funny how life works that way.

I agree. Nicely said, Scott. We met via webcam but it was coincidental - I was chatting with my friends and she happened to be with them at the time. We said our hellos and chatted briefly but that was it...never even thought of her again until a few months later when I stumbled onto her profile on Friendster...then I sent her a message and things took off from there.

If it wasn't for the internet, I wouldn't have met my husband.

Yes, internet rocks!!!!

Hubby and I met at Yahoo Personals and the rest is history..

We also met on the internet! At the time I wasnt looking for anyone ! I went on a muslim web site to met muslim people .To learn more about the culture and religion.Then I met the love of my life Mohamed we started as just friends and now we are husband and wife and have a beautiful son Amir! I never in my life thought I would go to the internet and met someone. im so happy I did in 1 week and 3 days he will be coming to America .We cant wait!!!

I met my fiance online..... he was looking for blonde hair and blue-eyed girl but it so happened that he found me, a black hair, brown eyes, tanned skin asian girl....LOL totally different of what he was looking for before.....hahaha but we're happy and get along so well.....Thanks to internet and dating sites, we found each other.....

I met my husband online while chatting in irc.

My husband and I met randomly at a party (so I voted by other). We just happened to be at the same place on the same night in my husband's city (and where I was working at the time). We caught each other's eye and the rest is history.

Although we didn't meet on-line, I found the job that took me to Brazil on-line .

We met in an online game. Started out as just friends, and it went from there.

"Morena".......lucky guy!!

According to the poll, we are some of the oddballs.

Her sister-in-law introduced us. (But, not until several months of observation and the decision that I'm worthy.)

BTW: Worthy? I don't know about that. However, I know I am unbelievably lucky.

I think I've answered once every 3 months when this same question is asked.

I was a moderator on a pagan message board. Mags had broken her foot and was playing around on the internet due to boredom. She found the site via a google search on "broken foot". She joined, even though she wasn't pagan. I found her posts amusing, and I reckon she liked mine too. (I was the "enforcer" on that board....the person who would flame morons/idiots/trolls until they quit, got banned, or otherwise left the board - I was a professional misanthrope) We started chatting about Scotland for some reason. Then after a couple of months, Mags announced that she was flying to the US. The rest is history.

i was playing on world war.....................................craft

Mine was online. We were both members of a poker forum, and we both frequented the Off Topic section of it. I bought an xbox and searched for people on there who had one to add them to my friends list. Anyways, added him, got Gears of War, and he said "out" funny. So I bugged him, we played xbox and poker, then got on messenger and I was a sucker for the sideburns.

I MET MY HUSBAND ON AN ONLINE DATING SERVICE. AND AGREE WITH KAZAN ABOUT SLIM PICKINS. I DIDN'T GO ONLINE LOOKING FOR LOVE IT JUST CAME TO ME. I WAS ALSO TIRED OF THE DRUNKS AND ABUSERS AT THE BARS.

I met my fiancé in a chat room / penpal site where you can practice Spanish & English with people from different countries. I speak both Spanish & English fluently but I wanted to brush up on my writing so I was practicing there (I was about to take a Spanish composition course for my teaching certification and NEEDED to work on accent marks etc) I met Luis just chit chatting, added him to my MSN, talked with him every couple of days until the conversations got really interesting so we took it to skype and phone convos. Fell in love shortly after and I went to Peru in May of 2006 for 3 weeks (best 3 weeks of my life) and then again this past march.

I miss him. I wasn't looking for a boyfriend but I found the love of my life. Funny how that works out huh? And I was Miss "No meeting guys on the internet" too. Love contradicting myself, lol

I'm not comfortable with, nor cannot ever see myself being comfortable with, meeting someone on the internet for a serious relationship. I'm very much a people person and have met friends and ex's in some of the strangest places.

That being said, I have no harsh words to say about anyone who does meet their SO online.

I have met a handful of men and women on forums that I have then met in person and continued friendships for years now.

I met my husband in person while on vacation.

I am also answering even though I've answered this question a million times hehe.

Internet here too.

I am not saying this to make people who purposely went online to find someone feel weird (ok, Scott! ) but I was one of those people who said I would never marry someone I met online. I had a friend who married someone they met online and they were a perfect match, but still I for some reason thought it wasn't for me. I think I also use to say I would never marry a vegetarian, and well guess what Sujeet is! So I can be a dork with this "never" stuff huh!?

Anyway I IM-ed people a lot on AOL instant messenger back then, mostly friends who moved away for college. One day I was awake later than usual, couldn't sleep, and was online and got a message saying a certain username wanted to talk(I had that filter on where new people had to get permission to talk to you) and I debated pressing "Ok" bc the person had no info about themselves but I figured, well why not, if it's a creep I'll block them. So I did, and it was Sujeet. He was at work(daytime in India), and bored surfing AOl IM and searched under "Christianity" for users who had that as an interest. Of course I thought it was interesing to talk to someone from India. We started talking about religion and life in general, became buddies, then more, and the rest is history.

I do have to thank God for the internet, for me not being able to sleep that night, and for accepting the message from Sujeet!

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Internet Yahoo chat room

Internet here too. We began as penpals. I was interested in learning about a different country (honestly, I really wanted to learn more about living in the FAR NORTH of Canada, but instead the pen pal I clicked with the most was the guy living in Vancouver). And the rest is history

(Only for me it was a forum and not a chat room).


I only 'point it out' because most of the time I'm answering a question like this or someone asks me and my answer requires a little more explanation.

I certainly have no problem with people deliberately looking online for a spouse and it works very well for many people. There is perhaps more of a stigma attached when you're younger, however. When you're older it's considered more acceptable for the very reasons Kazan states. When you're my age, you're so surrounded by single friends and good dating networks that you're expected to find someone there instead. I know many people who will have no problems with their parents or parents' friends dating online but would still consider it weird if one of their own peers found love online.


Off-topic, but I love your avatar!

i was single way back then and i wasn't searching for any romance (specially online, i'm not against it though )

i went to yahoo literati just to play a game not knowing that that is where ill met the love of my life

I met my husband at TGIF where I used to work before.. Personally I did find hard believing people in the internet until I joined this forum where mostly some of the couples here were met by internet..

We did meet on the internet, but only had a very small handful of random conversations over the course of two years before we actually met in person. Even then, there was no serious intention on my part, anyway, to meet. It just happened because of an insane 60-70 year old woman, with whom my short course program in Germany thought would be appropriate for me to live with for 3 weeks.

We met because I was looking for information about Mustangs (yes the Ford Mustangs).
I was browsing the internet and ended up signing in on a Forum where Mustang owners talk about their cars.
My husband and I started talking to each other about cars and after a week or so we met. He came over to visit me in Belgium where I lived at that moment. It was love at first sight. Neither of us was looking to get into a relationship because he was giong through a divorce and I was about to make an end to a 2yr relationship. Things went different for us, we fell madly in love and I went over to Germany one weekend and he would come over to Belgium the other.

So, YES we met through the internet. But, NO we didn't intend to end up together until we met. He just wanted to show off his Mustang

Mark and I met online in EQ2, it wasnt until we both stopped playing and starting chatting more on MSN messenger that we started getting serious thou.

Gene and I met by chance in an AT&T chatroom. We moved to YM messenger and the rest is history....we believe it was fate.

We chatted for 18 months before meeting in person. I knew more about Gene through talking on the internet and via phone than I did with my previous husband for 17 years.

Can someone explain how someone can not have been looking for love online yet met their SO through an online dating service? Why would one go to an online dating service not looking for love?

Thru Cherry Blossoms... He was looking for me, I wasn't looking for him... meaning I was on his preferred age bracket and he's not on mine. Thank goodness, he saw me one day amongst his 100s daily matches and messaged me. Otherwise, we will never ever have met. The rest is history. That is why we call it fate, providence, destiny...

--Mae