I met my honey online. I notice that that's how I do most of my 'meeting others' --
I just do not work in a 'traditional' work place -- pretty much an independent worker. Plus most of the people I do work with are much, much younger than myself, or much, much older...
I like bars/clubs, but I don't like being picked up there nor do I try because I always see those venues as "meat markets" Ugh.
I find the internet much more convenient because it allows me to better get to know the other (I retain information much better in writing than listening -- I'm a visual learner/observer).
Sure, people can lie.... but if one is careful and alert, there are ways to detect (unless of course, the person is a professional scam artist... eh).
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QUOTE(k & o @ May 20 2008, 12:37 PM) 
Sure, people can lie.... but if one is careful and alert, there are ways to detect (unless of course, the person is a professional scam artist... eh).
There are plenty of liars who meet people by "traditional" methods as well.
QUOTE(Alex & Rachel @ Apr 28 2008, 05:48 AM)
QUOTE(Scott & Lai @ Apr 18 2008, 06:14 PM)
Lai and I met on the Internet at a singles site. And we were both there actively, deliberately seeking a spouse (gasp!). I find it amusing how often people will say they met on the Internet, but then will be quick to point out that it was entirely accidental and they'd had no real intention of finding a spouse there, as if there were something weird or sad about people who purposely look for their mates that way, and they want to assure everyone they aren't losers
I only 'point it out' because most of the time I'm answering a question like this or someone asks me and my answer requires a little more explanation.
I certainly have no problem with people deliberately looking online for a spouse and it works very well for many people. There is perhaps more of a stigma attached when you're younger, however. When you're older it's considered more acceptable for the very reasons Kazan states. When you're my age, you're so surrounded by single friends and good dating networks that you're expected to find someone there instead. I know many people who will have no problems with their parents or parents' friends dating online but would still consider it weird if one of their own peers found love online.
Similarly, I "point it out" because usually people are asking how you met online. No, I wasn't looking for a spouse, it wasn't even on my radar. I wasn't interested in any kind of relationship at the time. Perhaps that's why the name I used on the music chat room whee we met wasn't one of those cutesie gender-specific types, you know the kind I mean..."cutegrrl", "babyluv", "hottyforu", etc, etc... LOL Our chat room conversations turned to email, to phone calls, to his first visit...and there you go...
I don't care if others want to purposefully go online to meet. I say, hey...go for it!
It's not polite to point. 
Met hubby online in 2005 in a yahoo christian chat room.... Grandparents went on vacation to Israel & Egypt in March 2006 and I asked them to meet him and let me know what they thought ... he definitely got the 
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We met on Myspace! 
I thought he was a hottie and sent him a friend request...which is strange because I'm not one to send friend requests to random people, let alone random men who live on the other side of the world! Something just drew me to him and the connection between us was instantaneous! It was so natural...I don't think I really realized what had happened until I was in deep! Ok, now I'm sounding like a sap...but that is how it really happened.
I thought he was a hottie and sent him a friend request...which is strange because I'm not one to send friend requests to random people, let alone random men who live on the other side of the world! Something just drew me to him and the connection between us was instantaneous! It was so natural...I don't think I really realized what had happened until I was in deep! Ok, now I'm sounding like a sap...but that is how it really happened.
QUOTE(Scott & Lai @ May 21 2008, 01:32 AM)
QUOTE(k & o @ May 20 2008, 12:37 PM)
Sure, people can lie.... but if one is careful and alert, there are ways to detect (unless of course, the person is a professional scam artist... eh).
There are plenty of liars who meet people by "traditional" methods as well.
Sooo true!
Online on AOL Canada chat in 1998..I was in Canada 3 weeks later!
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