I'm just beginning to get my head around it now, and thought I'd post about an expedite denial.

My Husband sadly lost his Grandmother a couple of weeks ago, which happens as we all know, but she was more like his mother.
I loved her dearly, but obviously didn't attend the funeral due to being stuck in England waiting for this laborious process to end (not enough documented ties to risk POE).
This being hard enough to deal with, his Aunt who is also very close has now been diagnosed with terminal cancer and has a couple of months to live.

Obviously, we tried to expedite .... internally via the USCIS Military Helpline .... we didn't think it was possible, but the USCIS officer who dealt with us personally put together the request immediately and said it shouldn't be an issue and that we'd hear within 5 working days .... well, we did ..... VSC said no.

Neither his Grandmother or Aunt saw us get married as we married unexpectedly on the fly at Christmas when I was over there (it was the right time for us) ..... but we had planned to renew our vows and have a big party when I return .... I guess this won't be happening now.

I'm quite blown away, and understand that it's obviously because the latest bereavement and the next one that will happen in a couple of months are not my Husbands parents .... but I still think it stinks that they can belittle the requests of a family in need and pain like this.

And to think, we were originally planning to get married this summer with all the family following a possible application for a K1 .... but had no idea as to the difference in time for approval ..... if we'd done it that way, I'd more than likely be there by now

Just want you guys to know, incase something similar happens.

Plus, if anyone from USCIS happens to read these posts, please have a heart (and read up on karma) ..... there are a lot of people suffering on this website ..... if they weren't, they wouldn't be on here in the beginning.

That's so sad to hear Sarah I feel so sorry for you. You take care ! It's from the heart of your well-wisher !

Many many cases like this with both births, illnesses and death, sometimes you feel like nothing more than a piece of paper to them

This whole immigration process is a sad story......and to think to think that the Great United States cares about family

Thankyou Loto, I appreciate your wishes ..... this is why I've been quiet lately. I didn't really know what to do for a while, and I thought verbalising it may help.
I'm just hoping now that my Husband's Grandmother may be able to prove life after death and move some paperwork ... we just need that NOA2 .... NVC onwards should flow fast and hopefully I can be there for the next funeral .... better still, be there to help my family go through something really hard.

my heart goes out to you and can understand how frustrating it must be sitting miles away and not being their with your loved one during these testing times . if USCIS had any insight into human suffering, i guess none of us would have to wait. The US Government needs to do overhaul this process and department. I get pissed off every time I hear that a H-1 visa holder is able to call their spouses in matter of a few weeks and yet lawful citizens like us have to wait for months and years before our cases are approved.

there is something inherently wrong in this process...

I'm so sorry Sarah - that's really tough news

Not that I am on the side of the various immigration offices in any way, shape, or form; but I can see their caution and points. Too many people before us have abused the system. While some of it is just bureaucratic paperwork, some of it is genuine need to be cautious for reasons that have bitten them in the butt in the past.

I am sorry it happened to you in this case.

You are both so right .... the worst part of this is, I used to have a greencard 12 years ago .... but it was deleted due to not understanding the system back then. I never expected to fall in love with an American years later, so I wasn't bothered.
It wouldn't take them 5 minutes to reinstate my A# and SSN.

The fact that there are so many of us on this website in the beginning, pouring our souls out to complete strangers should prove just how much USCIS doesn't care about family. I've read so many heartbreaking stories since being on here ..... if karma and reincarnation exist, most of USCIS will probably come back as .... well, it wouldn't be nice to say.

Im sorry for your loss sarah!



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Yes, the frustration is quite awful .... I can't begin to describe it .... oh, that's right, I don't have to, you ALL understand ... that's what makes this so bad, we're ALL hurting.
Ah, yes, the H-1B's .... but let's not forget that migrant workers come under Human Rights .... don't ask me how or why, but if you google for USA Human Rights, migrant workers are right there ..... our spouses are not.

I'm so appreciative to everyone who's taken a moment to console anothers pain ... when everyone of you has your own pain to deal with during this long and drawn out process. Thankyou.





Thankyou, and yes, I'm actually in total agreement with you with understanding their caution, and I agree that a lot of their points make sense

I know that to USCIS I'm just another set of bland old paperwork and photographs .... but I'm pushing 40 years old .... I'm really not into the whole notion of greener grass ... plus, I used to be a US resident before, if I was that desperate for a greencard, I wouldn't have let my last one lapse .... stupid me .... I guess USCIS don't really see that side to it.

Maybe USCIS could look at implementing a different system of checks? .... I mean, they don't really bother about the old guys who flock to foriegn countries for young girls who they allow in on the superfast K1, do they?
I'd be quite happy to go to the immigration office with tons of evidence every 6 months if I have to .... the love bug bit me good .... I'll do whatever it takes to be with him.
However, that also includes looking after my new family .... right now, I'd jump through hoops of fire.

Thankyou Ruby, I really appreciate it. I hope you are well. My wishes are with you also xx

I am sorry to hear sarah...tough news though .........Any have we are all on sameboat (BROKEN USCIS BOAT) ...Only god knows when we get to our destination ......I wish you good luck in this process .I guess we need to develop
"LOT OF PATIENCE" as loto ..said to his wife .. lol

KipandSarahJayne: My heart goes out to you. I know exactly how you feel. I also thought it was just a formality after breaking down on the phone to a very kind USCIS expedite officer. If you have the time, it certainly would not hurt for you to contact your congressman and senators. There has to be a human element somewhere in this process.

I wish you both the best of strength and blessings. This road is so difficult. Thank God that you have each other.

I'm so sorry Sarah....

Sorry to hear about your situation. You are right, it is very sad that all of us here on VJ understand and feel a lot of the same hurt and its too bad!

We must pray for light at the end of the tunnel.

May your grandmother-in-law Rest in eternal peace.

May your family continue being strong for one another also

Peace

I came late to the party, I know, but if your husband is an American, why was it not possible for him to go to the USA for the funeral?

No immigration doesnt have a heart for people! Im also a diabetic and was having problems with my diabetes my sugar kept getting low. I called them and said I could get a doctor note could we have our case speed up No!!
Also we have a baby name Amir he will be 1 in may ! They dont care ! Thank Allah when he had his interview he was issued visa the next day and he will be here to celebrate his 1st birthday! Im sorry for the loss !

Sgr, I love the broken USCIS boat comment .... so true ... we all have our little sails up and are being blown by the winds of this lottery like process. And sure, what's happening to my little family sucks, but what is happening to ALL of our little families on this website sucks and I'm grateful to have such understanding people to share a tale of woe with.
Yes, Loto was completely right, we do need to develop a lotofpatience .... I'm right there with all of you guys, learning to have that characteristic everyday .... but as we all know, tools like that can never be borne out of happy situations. However, I'm still impatient enough to still look forward to the time we all get out of this God forsaken process.




Thankyou Aisha, yes, like you, it seemed to be a straight forward formality .... it's a shame that those who get to peruse our expedites are so heartless .... more so, those who appear to deal with the I-130's .... I mean, where the heck are the approvals .... all this waiting for just 15 minutes of their time.
Yes, in a couple of days, when my head is on straighter, I will pen a letter for our Congressman to send .... his office have kept an eye on us from day one, and have tried before to speed things up for other reasons (military, but not deployment) .... they've had no luck as yet, so maybe it's time to scribble something a little more personal ... it's worth a try.
Now I wish I hadn't have swapped my law degree studies for engineering .... I guess it's something worth considering when I'm eventually Stateside with my Husband .... which knowing my luck, will be sometime around January 2025.




I'm a little confused about this posting, my Husband was in the States .... I'm the one that is stuck in England, and unable to help with family illness or attend family funerals due to the 'speedy' processing of my I-130 and not having enough ties to England to make a POE Officer happy enough to let me through, because of that, I've been advised not to attempt it.
I, like a lot of others am in my home country waiting for someone to pick up my file and do their 15 minutes of work. I'm just praying they do it soon enough so that I can make the next funeral.

Sarah and Sgr, Nice to see you guys' postings here... Sarah, hope you have settled your mind back Good luck and my prayers for your I-130 approval soon

Hey Loto ..... see, you're influence has rubbed off onto us ..... my mind will be fine, thankyou .... and will hopefully be back to normal soon. I'm praying for the approval so hard, and thank you for your prayers too .... but am also aware, that what is meant to be will happen. It breaks my heart that maybe I'm supposed to not be there for my family in person, but I'm definately there in spirit.

Well there I was begging VSC to touch me the other day on this site ..... and instead I've ended up feeling so touched by all you guys on here instead ..... thankyou