QUOTE(NickD @ Apr 17 2008, 06:35 PM)
Not sure why you are doing the I-129F.
" You and your fiancé(e) intend to marry within 90 days of your fiancé(e) entering the United States, and are both free to marry, and have met in person within two years before your filing of this petition unless:"
I knew my wife for two years already, we had lots of proof that we were seeing each other, and a ton of letters, ect., and you have to prove your relationship to the USCIS. Just get married if that is your intention and let your husband to a I-130 and you do a I-485, we knew we wanted to get married and that was the advice of our attorney. The K series and I-129F take forever to be processed, and you have to set your marriage date according to the confines of the USCIS. But how can you get married if your fiancé is in Iraq? Then you only have 90 days to get married and if you don't, it's goodbye, you have to go back home. It's been awhile since we been through this, but I also believe you still have to go through that I-130 and I-485 process again.
Wife and I set a religious marriage aside and wanted the most profound proof of our marriage and got married before a US judge, can always get your marriage blessed later if that is your wish. The USCIS does not question a marriage before a US judge. The key was, both of us are deeply in love, and we knew we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together and both of us were 100% sure. The USCIS can play it's games, hey, marriage is a personal matter, and wasn't really comfortable in sharing our deepest passions in front of a USCIS officer proving that we were dating. Even though we kept records, didn't have to show those.
Did I marry my wife to bring her into this country? Yes I did, but that was not the key goal, it's a secondary matter, I married my wife so we could be together and I could have just as easily gone to her country as to have her come here. I feel this stupid I-751 long delayed process that is affecting our lives in a very negative way is an invasion on the sanctity of our marriage. And just about ready to pack up and move to her country where stupid things like this do not take place. I do not like being treated as a child.
Single most important factor in any marriage is trust, if I didn't trust my wife with my credit cards, home, savings accounts, I would never have married her, so why do I have to prove this trust to the USCIS? It's none of their business, it's my life, not theirs. And it hurts to hear these stupid politicians we have talk about family values and everything in the USCIS contradicts those values.
We had another issue to deal with, both my wife and I had children of a previous marriage, while I gained full custody of my children, my wife didn't have this with one daughter. A precondition was that with her minor daughter she gain full custody of her daughter that she wanted anyway. That was very easy to do, just to relieve her ex from child support payments with a legal document. Already seen marriages where their home was like a Union Station with kids carted around like luggage, didn't want that in my home. My youngest already turned 18 so I didn't have that problem.
Seems strange you fiancé would use his home address with ex-girlfriend living there with his kids, would look into that. While hurt is very much a part of a relationship, that hurt is nothing compared to the complications and misery of a divorce. States vary in law which is a crime, in my state that would be considered as a common law marriage with full divorce proceedings in order to break it up.
I spent a long time reflecting on my previous marriage, was young and stupid, we both had our doubts and thought things would change after our marriage, they just got worse and life was a living hell, my wife had a similar experience. One thing about my wife, not a thing in the world I would want to change about her, I love her exactly the way she is and the same with her with me. Finding a mate like that is a miracle, but is spoiled somewhat by the USCIS. Unfortunately, we are from different countries, but why should that make a difference? Would like the USCIS to explain that to me.
thank u for sharing ur experience..i met my husband in december 2005 we got married february 2007...i know we had ample time to discover each other..he was working here in the philippines by then and we lived together for more than a year..and went back to america and realized he left his heart here with me and then he asked me to marry him because he can't live without me anymore..cupid had bound us together and im holding on for the time that we would be together again..he was in iraq by the time we filed for the I 130 so it made things complicated since he is not really connected with the army but he is working for the army as a contractor.he comes to visit me every 4 months when he was there when his contract ended he spent 3 months here with me and we went to places and had a good time with each other..as much as we wanted to be together always he wants to get settled in the states before i come and the house where his ex and kids are living is his gift for his kids he doesnt consider it as his home anymore coz his home is here beside me....
we are doing the I 129F to make the process faster since it would be a non immigrant entry. i could wait for my immigrant status in the states. the main objective of this is to be there beside him not jsut to get to america but to be with him since if he would come and stay here how are we supposed to live..philippines is considered to be a 3rd world country the economy is poor and we want to build a family where we are more stable and we can support our future kids so they wont have nay problems in the future....
im almost gonna cry already! i have been reading a lot of timelines here and it seems that my papers are really left behind! we filed our petition nov. 20, 1007 and we have NOA 1 jan. 23, 2008 and until now i have not received anything 
. could this be because we are using the mailing address here in ph? my husband is currently in Iraq and he doesn't trust his ex gf who is living in his house in texas with his kids to get the mails 
. we filed for 129-F the other day since we read about this forum and we never had an idea of what we should do to make it faster....can anyone help??
