QUOTE(seanconneryii @ Apr 24 2008, 10:28 AM)

I think "theoretically" two people can live almost as cheap as one. Some costs are fixed regardless of the number of people like rent, utilities, etc.
Although it seems true, it's really not. Almost is correct. Rent goes up with an increased number of people. You can't live in a one bedroom (in the U.S.) with four kids. You can't save money on electric and gas when your wife is always cold and/or holding the refrigerator door open to look for more vegeatables. And even if you get to the point where she's trained to open and close the door quickly, wear a sweater and tapochki, and to be aware of how much a trip in the car costs (using 3 gallons of gas to buy $2 in vegetables is outrageous.) at some point, she's still going to want to "upgrade" from your crappy apartment (or house) to a nicer one in a nicer part of town.
That said, as much as they b!tch about never having enough money, they do seem to find a way to get what they want, usually by foregoing something "necessary" (like $100 facial cream) in order to get something more "necessary." (like going out for a nice dinner on the weekend with that same $100 justifying it by saying that it's good for her spirit.)
QUOTE(seanconneryii @ Apr 24 2008, 10:28 AM)

And i think many Russian women are frugal and/or clever shoppers and bargain hunters. BUT there are two areas where the Russian ladies seem to like to spend money...clothes and beauty items. I look at it this way...if their going to spent money to look great, I'm on board for the most part...but i do think sometimes you have to set some limits.
There should be limits set. If you were to compare health/beauty items and clothing expenditures in relation to household income, you could probably ballpark it to what a small country's military spending would be in relation to it's GDP. It's amazing to consider that whole percentages of your household income will be spent on tubes of cream and the like. However, my wife has convinced me that it is necessary for both her short term happiness and her long term "maintenance."
"If you want that I be beautiful after 20 years, I must use this cream now. It is necessary. You don't understand?"
I think it's very hard for us dudes to empathize with the ladies in this aspect. 20 years on, we're worried about where we're going to fish or play golf, and they're worried about how many wrinkles theyr'e going to have. One thing that's helped me to not be so irritated over the money spent on beauty stuff is to look at it like an investment similar to what I would be doing to retire somewhere nice or have something nice when I'm older. I work my @$$ off at my job so someday I can have the kind of salary where I can live comfortably when I'm retired and do what I want to do. That's the sacrifice I make. She works her @$$ off at her job so when she's retired her @$$ is still as fantastic as it is now. That's her sacrifice.
I don't try to compare them. It's apples and oranges and you'll go cross-eyed if you try to.
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QUOTE(slim @ Apr 24 2008, 09:56 AM)

If you're sending your girl $600/month in Russia, then you're paying for everything. (And probably for her "friend's" stuff too.)
Don't worry, once she gets here, she'll ask for a raise. Even if she has a job making over $1,000/month, she'll still tell you it's not enough. Even if you pay all the bills, it's still not enough.
It's never enough.
No matter how much money you have, you still should have more. Or, she should still have more. anyway.
No kidding. My wife is making over 2k a month and manages to spend it all
without contributing to the household expenses.
And this is the problem.
The money we (the dudes importing the women) make is for bills and expenses. The money she makes is for her personal expenses.
My money is "our" money and her money is "her" money. It seems budgeting and paying bills is understood, just not adhered to and overridden by the need for "her" stuff (at that time.) The way it's been explained to me here is that it's the husband's job to support the wife no matter what. He should pay for everything. EVERYTHING. That's his job. It's hard enough for her to stay as fashionable and beautiful as she is already without breaking her back to pay the bills. That's your job!
(The antidote that I've found for this is to place a large portion of both of our paychecks onto one of the credit/debit cards and to use it to pay all the bills and expenses. Then, when it's time to make a major shopping trip, "Sorry, there's only $23 left on the card. Can you find something you want for only $23? No? Didn't think so. That's too bad. How about next month, after we pay the rent, gas, electric, phone, cellphones, insurance, both car payments, and buy groceries, then we'll go shopping! How about that?" Then you're going to get in trouble because you're not doing husband job of paying all bills and why she must work like papa karlo cinderella blat and not have money for her stuff blat. The argument will always come down to you not doing husband job after you shut her up with the explanation that 50% of monthly expenses is still more than what she brings in. You still can't win. Logic does not apply. See above. Apples and oranges and you're going to go cross-eyed. Just think of her nice bum in 20 years. All that cream will work, right?)