I was thinking about some of the times my husband and I disagreed on some particular issue*** and how I reacted. I admit, I was childish a few times (literally stamping my feet). Now looking back at it, both he and I can laugh about it.

***The discussion of wearing a headscarf inside MY HOME when guests came. I could not accept I would have to put on a headscarf in my home (my castle, my rules) when guests came and the women were wearing headscarfs. This was when we lived in Iran.

Aren't you Christian? Why would you wear a headscarf at all if you're not muslim?

I am not a practicing Christian and I also believe in Buddhist tenets.

Given that...There are many Christians who cover their head when they go to Church. Eastern Orthodox, Catholic....

However, in Iran....the law is the wear a scarf in public. In private we can do as please (in theory). BUT, the reality is....

When a female guest comes and she is wearing a headscarf, out of respect, the host should put on a headscarf (so the guest does not feel uncomfortable).

OR

When there is a group of women together, you see how many are wearing scarfs and err on the side of "if most wear a scarf, so should you."

Well I don't blame you for not wanting to wear it in your home. I never wear mine in my house and if some women came in and were wearing it I still wouldn't. I don't have to wear it if I don't want to and certainly not in front of other women. Even if I wanted to go to Times Square and rip the thing off it's my right and he knows that. He'd be disappointed probably but he'd keep it to himself. (or try hard to! lol)

The scarf issue was in Iran only.

We never had an issue with it outside of Iran as I dress how I please. It was just the issue of doing it in our home in Iran.

When Abbas tried to explain the issue of guests and scarfs I would refuse to accept his logic. And he kept at me, repeating the message...Basically trying to "make me understand" (in his mind, I am sure) the reasoning behind it.

I held my ground.

However, it came to a point, I kept saying, "NO! I REFUSE!" and stamped my feet like a child having a temper tantrum.

The look on his face when I started doing this was complete surprise.

I don't think he knew how to proceed after the foot stomping.

Yes, i frequently act badly. i'm the worst!! but i'm trying so hard to be better!
i'm from New York originally and i'm used to just saying what i need to say whenever i need to say it without regard to where i am or who's around.

that happened once in Rabat. Habibi and i were trying to get some papers done in order to get married and of course it was difficult because of the bureacracy and misinformation. we got in a big fight over nothing and i was arguing with him in the street! Poor Habibi...

i'm trying to tone it down. i'm trying so hard to be good.

Luckily, we usually find a way to laugh it off. He says i am a hot pepper.

i can live with being a hot pepper, i guess.

Yes i act badly alot....actually today even....poor moe...he is like "i want my wife back"....

this visa journey is making me act like a lunatic!!!!

Actually, the "hot pepper" is sweet endearment!!! I like it!

Oh yes, and so has he. Luckily we laugh about it now.

As for the scarf.......I didn't wear one in Morocco and I won't wear one here. I have a small head and large shoulders and I look like a pin head football player. At first he pushed it, but he gave up.

Morocco is not like Iran and other countries. Much much more relaxed there.

It's nice...

Not to mention,
it's kinda hard to stay mad when someone is calling you a hot pepper...

When I went back to Egypt the second time he and I were sitting outside and he showed me all of the bitchy texts I ever sent him when we fought. He kept them all!!! lol. He was laughing and kept saying, "oh and THIS is a good one"....

i was going to say the same! hot pepper is so cute!

on topic: my husband is usually the one to behave badly and regret it after. i'm the ANGEL!!!

I wish I could say at times my husband was bad tempered. Then I wouldn't feel so bad when I "lose it." But the truth is he is far better at being mature than me.

LOL!!!!! Classic.

Yes I know exactly what you mean Nutty, sometimes one of us has to be the mature one in order to make it so that we can laugh about it later. I have a hot temper as well, but have matured a lot over the past few years, he still is the calmer one though.

yeah I have a horrible temper. it's like a 10 second tolerance. he engraved our names on a bracelet by arabic and when we got mad i broke it and threw it out the window he had tears in his eyes but they never came off his eyes . I was such a horrible gf i don't know how he married me lol as a wife not that bad. He's hot tempered too tho. it's horrible

Hahaha! That's pretty funny.