"Keep steadily before you the fact that all true success depends at last upon yourself."
Theodore T. Hunger


A good bit of will power is all we need, really.

Much love to everyone. I wish for a wonderful week!

Tammy

Thanks Tammy
but will power is one thing i dont have!

Thanks Tammy you are always so positive!!!!! True sucess at this stage of the game though is in God's hands. That's what I believe since I have done everything physically possible to get him here. It's all up to Him and good things come to those who wait. I have to believe this long wait is for a reason.

yes....but lately i ve been really frustrated!!! i miss him terribly... im the one who is always positive and cheerful to keep my husband's spirit up but lately roles swaped he is has been trying with me so much to be optimistic..... i hate this and astaghfirullah i dont see any progress.... my papers hasnt been touched in two months and i know thats nothing and worse happens... but OMGGGG ya rabbbb i wanna be with my husband... i want to start my life... i feel everything is on hold until im with him!!!!!

sorry u guys.... only ppl wd really knw how i feel....

I know how you feel. I filed at the end of January 2007. since that time people who filed with me already have their husband's here. I cannot plan my life at all because everything hinges upon the visa. It sucks.

i totally understand what many of you are going through...I filed for my hubby in february of 2007 and have not seen him since then but inshAllah everything happens for a reason...God has his reasons for keeping us apart from our loved ones, but soon this will all be behind us...inshAllah and we will have our hubbies to hold in our arms again and make up for all lost time the end is near-it is a game of patience, and each day that passes by I realize I love my husband more and more and would wait a lifetime for him...distance brings people closer together-its a sacrifice that makes us feel alone, depressed, even hopeless at times, but also makes us stronger, more loving, and hopeful...WE CAN DO THIS!!!!! inshAllah this week will bring magnificent news to many of us waiting come on embassies...issue those visas and make us at peace

all we can do is pray...and Allaho a3lam...I am praying for all of you greatly God bless

I'm glad that we have each other to realate to because nobody else really understands our situations. I fortunately have seen my SO this past June and in December but we recently had our son and it was so hard going through everything without him. I will never never never forget this process especially because he had to meet his son the first time over a webcam. It was awful, heartbreaking and so impersonal. Just the other day he said you know him so well already and look how he has grown and I haven't even touched my child yet or kissed him. That makes me so angry with all of this waiting. I find myself crying for him and looking at his pictures so much, smelling the smell of his cologne. Yearning to hear his voice or feel his touch again. I think that all of this has just been killing me but like others I will wait until I have to because this is the man I love and the father of my son. God has placed us in each others lives for a reason and because I found my love with this man I will endure the sacrifice.

My heart breaks every day when I call and find out that nothing has been done and that the embassy in Cairo has not always been truthful. We knew that when they told him within two weeks it wouldn't be two weeks. I recently emailed them and they said possible 2-3 more week which when that time comes it will then turn to an undeterminate amount of time. I know this and have tried to prepare myself as much as possible but he on the other hand had a little more faith in the process, at least I believe. I just don't know how those of you who filed over a year ago now are still keeping your sanity...for this you are my hero.

I pray for each and everyone of us waiting in this process several times a day. I think this visa process has brought me closer to God in this way. I really hope that all of you get your blessing very soon. I pray that the miserableness ends and that their are very happy times in your future. May God bless you always!

Tasha

I understand completely each and every one of you. I've had my share of "breakdowns" , and each time I feel that God has given me strength to get up again alhamdulillah.

One time I looked in the mirror and saw a couple of gray hairs staring back at me, not to mention the dreaded wrinkle that was starting to form between my eyes (frown wrinkle)! That was just too much for me to take. I kept asking will I be 80 when we're finally together??!! I wallowed in self pity for a while until I saw my son looking sad, and when I asked what was wrong, he said: You're sad, so that makes me sad. I want you happy again.

That's when I went to the nearest drugstore , got some haircolor (to "enhance" my natural color ), while the dye was in my hair, got a facial mud mask, and just made the effort to try and look better than I was feeling. While the mask was getting harder, I stepped outside of the bathroom so my son could see the golden chestnut brown coloring developing in my hair and my face with that mud cake drying, and told him I feel better now! He just started to laugh at my appearance. And that's all I wanted, was to see him laugh again!

I keep a smile on my face, just for the kids, and the crying I leave for my pillow at night. This has been a very long journey for me, I'm trying to take it one day at a time. If I look back at how long it's taking, it'll get me down. I just have to keep looking forward as if I had just begun this journey. Be sure that Allah hears all our cries and all our prayers, and He's the one seeing me through this each day, alhamdulillah.

I love you all, and my heart is with each and every one of you. You're all very strong women, stronger than you think....you've made it this far, and you're still alive and still waiting and still praying, so of course you're all strong, and I admire you all for that. And God will reward you all for that too, insha Allah.

Hugs,

Ayesha