Evidently the mods are taking a long winter's nap. We have the right to "wanna" anything but not the "right" force a fiance or spouse to get on a plane. Only the authorities can do that.

i did learn from the first one. I didnt marry this one and im not going through 2 years of hell to be dumped at the end of the paperwork trail... I at least improved... I caught this one early on ... and shes gone.... as soon as i can get it done...

This isnt the thread for having a little fun. Try the OFF TOPIC threads.

Evidently the mods are taking a long winter's nap. We have the right to "wanna" anything but not the "right" force a fiance or spouse to get on a plane. Only the authorities can do that.

Thanks Jason-Sasha, I agree with you.




A PM would have done the trick, we do not "hunt" for TOS violations and depend on members to report infractions to us.


That aside - either the posts in this thread ease up and stay on topic or this thread may be closed. I am now moving this to the proper forum (organizers?).

The org's don't get a PM either.

Personally I left the thread where it was because there has been no marriage. Thus no immigration benefits to be affected.

Hey - this process keeps people apart. Some never even have the chance of getting to know the other until they are rushed into marriage. I'm surprised we dont see more posts like this.

To make a long story short, I want her sent back asap. I dont have the money to send her back right away. I dont feel that she deserves even an extended vacation here at the costs that this has already brought to me. Its going to be two months before I can get a ticket for her to go back. Can I just call immigration and they come and get her? Maybe they can bill me? What can I do to get her on a plane back to her home country as soon as possible???

I too am surprised we don't see more like this but the process isn't rushing anybody into marriage or decisions to marry. Those choices are made by the individuals and cannot be blamed on some system.

90 days for the K1 - most people need 6 months minimum to plan a wedding...it's so unpredictable.

K1 is a fiance(e) visa, so the 90 days begins months after the decision to marry has already been made. It's not a sight unseen mail order bride scenario.

just out of curiosity.. when she goes back to her home country, would this affect how long she would have to wait to file a work visa?

What Im saying is that K1ers cant exactly pick a wedding date... can they? Hell, I tried to plan having a baby around one of these K1's.

If you think 90 days isn't enough time to know whether your significant other is the real thing, then you need not to file. Seriously. Aside from the immigration aspect, you're allegedly getting married and signing a bunch of financial paperwork, right?

Plus, the visa's good for six months. We started planning our wedding the day he got the visa for five months down the road. He entered about three months after getting the visa. Big floofy Catholic wedding with a reception of 75 guests.

how dare you?! who gives a damn what you 'think'? this isn't a thread for us all to give our disinterested opinions on, like who's going to win the Superbowl... this is a real person with a real problem who has asked for help

you've NEVER made an error of judgement, Corey-Mariya? you've NEVER formed an impression of someone, good or bad, which later turned out to be incorrect? you've NEVER wanted something to turn out right, so persisted with it even when a little voice was whispering you might be wrong about that? lay your perfect life and perfect choices bare for us all to read, and then we'll all tell you what we 'think' of you

as for the 'retarded' comment - words fail me

get some compassion, or shut up

in fact, just shut up; I haven't seen a word of sense posted by you in any thread

It is simple. You not married to this scammer during the 90 day k1 visa perios = not your problem, stop worrying about her, report her to ICE and let them know you are not getting married and what happened, let her find her own way back home, wash her off your hands and out the front door of your home, she made her choice.

You got married to this scammer before the end of the 90 day K1 expires = better get a divorce asap and get a lawyer for you have some complex issues in your life now to deal with and probably some expenses.

Best of luck.

THIS is a perfect example of why I have taken all my pics out of the gallery. Too many judgmental people who look at them and make comments like this. Some brazen enough to address certain people directly about their photos. UNFREAKINBELIEVABLE.

To the OP...IMHO you could have phrased your opening post with a bit more discretion. I do believe it would have avoided this onslaught of judgment towards you. I am sorry this has happened to you. If you have not married this person and she leaves to go with this friend you mentioned, then count yourself lucky. She cannot adjust status without marriage to you, she will be out of status after 90 days, and you have nothing further to worry about. Let her find her own way home.

Mermaid, if you're looking for an argument you chose the wrong person. I gave -and sustain- my opinion on the matter; and if you or anyone else does not like it, that is not my problem. I don't have to explain my responses to you or anyone else.
Peace out, L.

I am very sorry about what happened to you, but not all women are the same as not all men.


I would recommend you to take some time off and put your feelings and emotions in order. I don´t know your age but try to find somebody over the 30´s because women on that age knows what they want.

women on the 20´s they are not mature enough.

This is just what I think.

Age offers little assurance of maturity. My "wife" is 36, but acts like an impetuous teenager.

She is not a dog! you should purchase ticket for her without calling ICE of whoever you want to call if she refused to leaved then call ICE or whoever handling your case.

You're the one brought her in USA and now you're afraid if they're going to send you bill when they will take her away. did USCIS
lured you to bring alien in your homeland with the promises money back guarantee if don't work out.

Yeah, the saying is actually...'fool me twice...shame on ME'.

It's not so much age as it is life experience that make you wiser...and you don't usually have one without the other.

To the OP, I completely understand your frustration with this and my heart goes out to you. It seems your good sense was trying to tell you something yet, it was clouded by what it is you want most and wanted to believe. I can understand that. It happens to all of us. You had warning signs, it's happened before...DONT let it happen again! The only thing you can do now is really learn from your mistakes. To love and be loved is the best gift this life has to offer. There is someone out there for you to share your life with. Someone who wont lie or cheat. Perhaps she's in this country, though.

IF all the OP states is true then this 'person' is one of the reasons we are all waiting so long to be with our loved ones. She is all that's wrong with this process and I would be disapointed if she was allowed to stay. Yes, I agree that she is a human being...but not a very nice one.

In regards to those who feel they are somehow empowered to judge the relationships of others.... I don't think it's any of our business to judge who is in love with who and why. Whether someone is too fat, too pretty, too young, too old, too rich..too poor...etc. How is that even our business and what gives any one of us the right to even suggest it's for visa fraud? We don't live their lives...we don't sleep in their bed. We can't even know the most intimate details of the people closest to us so what gives you the right to judge someone else's relationship based on a few lines or pictures in a forum? Of course there are cases of deception...but that can happen in even the most seemingly 'normal' relationships. Who made you judge and jury? We're not here for bigotry...we're here because we need and can offer support to each other based on similar circumstances. Those kinds of unjustified opinions should be kept to yourself because it really only shows your own arrogance and ignorance when you make statements like that.

agreed. I teach elementary school and my students are better educated than that!

what the hell? just because people are different ages or different sizes doesnt mean their marriage is a fraud???

seriously. People are so ignorant.

I guess because my husband is moreno and I'm gringa, and he's from a country much poorer than the US, it's marriage fraud. I guess I should go tell him that! I think he'll be quite surprised.