For some reason nobody is answering my posts. I have tried to seek the information before posting, but couldn't find it. I thought this was supposed to be a helpful place. Guess I will just have to keep digging and stop posting.

Where are you posting? In which forums? what are you applying for? What is your timeline?
If you expect responses, you need to provide as much information as possible, people cannot guess.

I dont see any topics you've started in this forum.

I am sorry I guess I didn't see the post!

I will try and help you in anyway that I can, yes this is a very help place and we do our best to help others.

Welcome to MENA and VJ's

If you want/need help, you must provide something to go on... I've never seen you post before.

I did a search on your handle and you've actually had a lot of responses to most of the topics you've posted, so the accusation is quite unfair. However, I do understand you may be quite anxious now that your case has gone to Casa. Ours just went to Casa, too, and we got an interview date so quickly, it made our heads spin!

The best way to get quick and useful information is to give us useful information. I can't tell from your profile what kind of visa you're going for, or why your case has been in AP before this upcoming interview.

When a case is sent to Casa, the agent and the beneficiary will receive a packet from the NVC with basic information and instructions as to where to go online to get further instructions. This information will tell you your interview date.

If you have any specific questions, please ask, and you should get answers. This is what we do.

i POSTED QUESTIONS PREVIOUSLY AND GOT NO answers, that's the deal...

the most recent ones were

1. how long from time visa stuff is sent to Casa to interview and

2. do i have to actually send my original birth certificate, divorce papers, etc.... it seems so strange to let the originals go so many miles...

dreams come true

thx for all you who did respond this time

not entirely accurate, i checked your post history. i saw two out of four that didn't get an answer when this thread was posted. one was a repost because you couldn't find the original thread which was answered. the other one got answers today after this thread was posted.


http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...p;#entry1644938

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...p;#entry1582846

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...p;#entry1560387

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...p;#entry1528630

Not going through Morocco, don't know much about the visa process, but I understand the wait and wondering when it will all end. If there is anything I can do to help just let me know. Welcome

Visajourney.com is the best place to find help. Do you have any CASA friends nearby who is also petitioning their spouse? It's rare. This place is very helpful. Don't worry, your time will come soon enough.

[quote name='dreamscometrue' date='Mar 12 2008, 08:03 PM' post='1658279']
i POSTED QUESTIONS PREVIOUSLY AND GOT NO answers, that's the deal...

the most recent ones were

1. how long from time visa stuff is sent to Casa to interview and

I answered that one in my previous post.

2. do i have to actually send my original birth certificate, divorce papers, etc.... it seems so strange to let the originals go so many miles...

Yes you do have to send original, official, certified documents, but you can get more than one. In fact, it is best to have more than one official copy on hand in addition to the ones you send in case the file gets lost. There may be more than one version available, so, for birth certificates and divorce papers, etc, request the version you would use in court. The only exception - Do not send original passports.

You can always ask for them back at the interview.

Now, what kind of visa have you applied for?

You guys are much more patient that I. When someone pulls an attitude like this, I can't believe they still expect people to help them.

OP, you are entirely rude and out of line.

sometimes ur question can get buried because of so many other post coming in at the same time and the responses are there but the page is on page number 2 or 3 or what ever the best way to check to see if anyone responded to ur question is to make sure that u have taken the option of receiving email notice each time a response is given........

understandable, but still, it don't hurt to try to be helpful to them as some are new on the net and unaware of netiquette

It's not about netiquette, it's just plain old etiquette. Since when is it ok to demand help and get upset when someone doesn't offer you their free advice?

Like I said, I don't have the patience for it, but good thing some others do.

Reminds me customer service. They try to help you. But, the customers never coorporate. They think the CSR has some magical power that will solve their problem.

I never saw any questions from you. You should also post questions on appropriate forums.

Never miss an opportunity to make others happy, even if you have to leave them alone in order to do it. ~Author Unknown


Why so negative with her, just let it go, or don't reply. Everyone deserves a little compassion and a little kindness.

We must learn to live together as brothers or perish together as fools.
Martin Luther King Jr.

So these rules apply only to me and not to her?

Sorry, I'm not a pushover. I expect people here to be respectful of other VJ posters and their helpful advice (they deserve it) and I will call someone out when that does not happen.

i think maybe the days that she posted there was a lot of action on the board so her questions and answered got buried fast in 2 or 3 pages back i know when i first came here i was confused as to how to find things so maybe that is what happened she just didnt realize that she had to go back thru the pages to find out if someone answered her?

The OP has to realize not everyone has an answer to a Question. I won't reply if I feel that I can't give a correct answer to a Post......

You are given many opportunities to choose between being kind and being right. You have chances to point out to someone their mistakes, things they could or should have done differently, ways they can improve. You have chances to “correct” people privately as well as in front of others. With all these opportunities amount to our chances to make someone else feel bad, and yourself feel bad in the process.
Without getting to psychoanalytical about it, the reason we are tempted to put others down, correct them, or show them how we’re right and they’re wrong is that our ego mistakenly believes that if we point out how someone else is wrong, we must be right, and therefore we will feel better.
In actuality, however, if you pay attention to the way you feel after you put someone down, you’ll notice that you feel worse than before the put-down. Your heart, the compassionate part of you, knows that it’s impossible to feel better at the expense of someone else.
Luckily, the opposite is true, when your goal is to build people up, to make them feel better, to share in their joy, you reap the rewards of their positive feelings. The next time you have the chance to correct someone, even if their facts are a little off, resist the temptation. Instead, ask yourself, “What do I really want out of this interaction?” Chances are, what you want is a peaceful interaction where all parties leave feeling good.
Don’t confuse this strategy with being a pushover or not standing up for what you believe in. I’m not suggesting that I’s not important okay for you to be right, only that if you insist on being right, there is often a price to pay, your inner peace. In order to be a person filled with equanimity, you must choose kindness over being right, most of the time. The best place to start is with the next person you speak to.

You know, not everyone is the same. If the above works for you, then great, but aren't *you* putting *me* down for telling me that my entire philosophy on interacting with others is incorrect?


Also, I don't feel I've put anyone down. When someone is rude to my friends, I will tell them. Simple as that. You may choose not to if it brings you inner peace. It brings me inner peace to stand up for things I know are right.

Hello,
Please post again on the MENA forum for answers, everyone here is going through a lot of stress just like you, and from what I have seen, EVERYONE welcomes questions and tries to help here even though they may not know the right answers always because some questions apply to tm sensative matters which cannot be predicted. In those cases, I have seen everyone give sympathy and related stories at the least.

I am sorry it had to come to this, you feeling this way. Actually I looked up your posts on "find member's posts" and I see many replies, expecially about the entire MENA congratulating you on the post "VISA APPROVED!!!!!!!!! GREAT AGE DIFFERENCE"

Tammy

No put down, just saying, choose your battles wisely. I think it is great to stand up for what is right, but, was this battle that really was about being right? She didn't really put down anybody personally, she just made a comment that no one try to answer her question. I know I don't have that answer, and understand that sometimes people do not always reply right away. But to make this an issue, really, is it that important. How can we stop wars in this world when we can't even get along with each other on a public forum? In the end, what is important, how about children dying of hungry, dying of war, sickness and disease? Now that is something we all should stand up for, or racism, those are the big battles, the ones we should never stand down on, but others are simply "small stuff." I know now, why there will never be peace in this world, because we will always sweat the small stuff while ignoring the big stuff. If only we put this energy into changing the world, we would be sitting sweetly. I know, I am nowhere near perfect, and make all kinds of mistakes, so who am I to stand in judgment of another human being, who is in pain and already having a hard time. Why kick someone, when they are already down an out? Give a person a break; we all have bad days, why make it even worst with a smart comment? I am way older than you, so I think a lot of these come with age and raising children, you just mellow out a lot. I use to say a lot of things about how to raise children, how to conduct your life, and then I had children, and omg, I saw things in a different light. I am very sensitive person and I do get my feelings hurt easily when someone says something nasty or mean. Knowing this I always try to be very careful on what I say to anyone, because I know how it would feels to be hurt. I am not the sharpest knife in the drawer so sometimes I don’t’ understand something and take things the wrong way. So when someone asks a question I try to help if I can, and if I can’t help than I just let them know I am here for support. I never wanted you to be hurt Jen; you are most likely a very highly intelligent person, who we can all learn a lot from. I sure know that I learn something, even if it is a little bit of enlightenment, by every person I have contact with. Just my two cents, and just what I feel is right in my heart. If I can make someone feel better after talking to me, than I have done good for the day.

Actually now that I look at your posts, you got several answers to all of them - again let me remind you time-sensative questions have no answers but there are many similar questions to your it may be they have been answered several hundred times here

again, i see many answers and replies to your posts

Tammy

I think you've somehow concluded that this is a bigger deal to me than it is.

alot of times there may not be a concrete answer, alot of times things just get lost, what works for one may not work for another alot of different things come into play, alot of times it may not be the answer you want to hear, most i think do the best they can

My original comments still stand. You will catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. If you want people to be helpful, do not put them off by copping an attitude.

For the OP: If you are again in a situation where you need answers to a pertinent question and cannot find them but running a search in the forum, reading the guides, or your post gets buried in high activity, bump your thread. Bumping it once or twice to keeps it on the first page and more visable so folks can review it. We cant help it when a thread gets buried due to high activity in the forum, and many of us only review the first 2-3 pages of the forum posts (if that much).

Jen,
I am truly sorry if I offended you, and really never meant to lecture you. I promise I will never say a negative word towards you again. I was just trying to keep it civil, I know you are well loved, and very intelligent, and a lot of women here listen to your advice. Being young is not a put-down, it is a compliment, and I don't think I was rude to you. But than again those are my feelings and that is not important how I feel, really it is how you feel. I really am again sorry, and I can promise you again, You will never hear anything negative from me. I don't know why you don't like me, but that is ok, I really look up to you, and again I am very sorry for upsetting you. I know when I came on here, I felt the same way as the lady who wrote. If you are in the club VJ, than everyone loves you, if not, than you are bullied off the forum. I of course am not in the club, and know I will never be in the "in club," I love your posts, never said I didn't so please don't say things that are not true. I don't hate anyone here, or any of peoples posts, I think we all have a right to say what we feel, it is called freedom of speech, not for some, but for all of us. My mistake was to say something to you, and for this I am wrong, and admitted it freely. Once again I am very sorry, and hope that you can over look my mistake, like I said before I am not the brightest knife in the drawer, so just take it as someone stupid, and once again it will never happen again. In fact, if you think I should leave VJ, or not post I will do this. I never want anyone to feel bad, never never never. Maybe I should leave, cause it looks like I don't help anyone, but make people feel bad, and that is not my intention ever.

um, actually the saying is the sharpest knife in the drawer....

I think u've taken this a little to hard hon. Some ppl in here can come off as harsh and it takes a while before u really understand the intentions of some of the members here. Most of the time, its just a difference in the way we talk to each other.

quite honestly, I did think the OPs post was rude in demanding that we answer posts. I, for one, haven't seen any of them and was taken aback a little bit when we all got yelled at by someone who'se not posted questions in this forum before. I haven't been in much and very seldom check past page 1 so if the OP has posted in here before, I have missed it.

we all like both of you (as far as I know) and u shouldn't let ANYBODY decide for u if u wanna post in here or not. EVERYBODIES imput is important no matter how small.

I used to get all bent outta shape when ppl didn't reply to my posts in the beginning. I finally learned how to search for my last 10 posts and since then, I have been able to catch up and see if ppl have replied or not. I often get overlooked in here but then there are other times that i get bombarded with questions or whatever.

ok, enough rambling..gotta get offa here before bossman gets mad at my fingers burnin the keyboard up.

amal

Club? what club?? I never knew anything about a club... are there dues? fees? how do we join? is it by invitation only? who's on the board? what????????????????????
Is Jenn the president of this club? I wanna join too!!! Is it like a VJ union?

So glad you corrected me, I told you before I am not that smart. Here are some other things you might throw my way. If it makes you feel good, than have at it. I know I am not smart, or pretty, or witty, but I thought I had a heart, but guess that is not what counts. If I ever hurt anyone feelings, I am truly sorry just chalk it up to me being a loser. Plus anything I say is not important, really who listen to a stupid loser. Once again sorry.

1. You can say I am ugly, that is ok, I will take that
2. I already know I am three brain cells away from a monkey
3. I always finds myself lost in thought - it's an unfamiliar territory
4. I had a brain transplant and the brain rejected me

I know there a tons more stuff to say about me, but that is just a start.

I wanna know who all is in it before I join

I wish I knew that answer, but just to let everyone know, I did cry, because I really felt bad, and never wanted to start some meanness. But once again chalk it up to not always knowing the right thing to say.

I got left out of the original "clique" and now I've been left out of the "club".. seriously ppl, why am I not included in these things?

in all seriousness... to a lot of newer members, it does look like there are different "sides" if u will, in this particular forum. (the other forums, i have no clue coz I never venture away from here..only off topic once or twice). Anyway.... the reason it seems like there are groups or cliques or whatever is coz some of us have been around this site for a long long time and we have all gotten pretty close ... as close to family as it gets (imho). The newer ppl are oftentimes intimidated by that coz they see how we all are with each other and then feel left out as they are getting to know all of us. don't let that be the case with you. As far as I know, nobody has problems with you and I've never seen you be mean or out of line sooooooooo to me... ur always welcome here. as I said in a previous post..sometimes it takes a while to learn the different ways ppl say things in here. It is obvious from ur post that u meant no ill feelings and I'm sure she didn't have the intentions of makin u feel bad either.
smile, this process is strenuous enough without other things makin us crazy.

amal

Pineapples ARE involved at intiation.

jJ

Ganja I really think you should try not to take things on an internet forum so personally. I know sometimes its easier said than done but come on, dont be crying about posts on an internet forum! Chin up and take it all with a grain of salt!

ETA: ditto to what Amal said, most everyone here has good intentions and we are all a big dysfunctional family...

Ganja, well said... that's exactly what I think, too. Telling from your post you are a much stronger person on the inside than many others who seem to be the leaders of the pack. From your words any sensitive person can tell that you have a kind heart and a caring soul, that is a lot more precious than "qualities" like being combative and loud.
Don't let anybody get you down, just because you are different than others. Many folks appreciate people like you a lot!

Thank you for being so sweet, I am just so depressed these days, and sensitive and cry all the time. Thank you again you made me smile.

i didn't want to join the club anyways cause i look like a baby seal


when do we get to be on springer?

To be perfectly honest with you since certain people who have been suspended stopped posting , the boards have been very calm with the occasional spat or two. There was a perception that there was a club because literally there were some people that were just so damn nasty on here it was unbearable.


The mena boards are just something you grow into and get used to. I have found them an amazing source of information and support


To the original poster, truly you come off as a donkey. I agree with Jenn. We are not paid employees. We are people going through the process. Use your manners and people will bend over backwards to help you.... I would never dream of coming on an advice forum and yelling at people

Pineapples, you say? I am **so** there!!!

I joined the club...paid my dues..and then they immediately kicked me out....NOT FAIR!!

Dear Ganja Girl:

I can't really tell what the time frame is on the processing of your case (no time line). But I just wanted to tell you that you are not alone in this long ordeal. We all feel the same as you. It's ok to feel depressed and close to tears...But try not to let this heavy sadness linger too long..Do something to make yourself feel happy if only a little bit (like taking a walk in a pretty place, watching a funny movie...) each day. It's the only way to stay sane in this process.

Tina

good Lord this thread is long. I often wonder if we are all on the same cycle.