I am curious,what can I say? AND I wanted to start a poll for some reason.

don't have any, not sure if i want any anytime soon (definitely waiting a while!), and if i DO maybe 2 (see how #1 turns out though!)

ditto. and if we do, it will be by adoption.

I would consider adoption but my husband refuses to even discuss the idea. So I hope that if we do want kids that I'm fertile and he's packing heat!

We both would like children. But not too soon. So, in the meantime we will just practice as often as we can.

this poll sucks. first of, wtf is up with people???? multiple choice? oh, I'm gonna vote yes and no at the same time and then wtf is up with the second question? we're not all USC waiting for our SO, make the question available for everybody to answer. God damn it!

i voted no on everything............

No children yet. We'll wait a while before to have kids: after spending several years apart, now we want to spend time together. Just him and me. Then 1 or 2 children would be nice.

1) We have one child already.
2) No. It is too expensive. I think I got a little spoiled in Germany.
3) 1, barring a vasectomy failure or some bizarre change of our dark hearts.

The OP can create her poll anyway she likes. You have a choice to not participate.

I voted nope and nope.

I can't vote since there is no "oh hell no option" for the 3rd question (or something not insinuating we will have).

There is also no option for "I'd rather have another cat, instead."

Stoopid poll.

that's the attitude

That's what I'm saying...

So, Magz, can my cats join your club?

cats are cheaper

The VJ Kitty Posse isn't my club; I don't know who started it but Sister Fracas, Jenn!, Kathryn and Mephys all had it in their siggy long before me! I think anyone is free to join.

I can't believe you guys you can't just not have kids just because they're expensive. What about things that money can't buy that kids provide, like unconditional love, suffering, annoyance, disrespect?

The VJ Kitty Posse is open to all members who not only believe in, but also encourage the use of kitty pix to defuse any and all popcorn threads. We run in parallel with the "Lolly Pops and Blowing Sunshine up Your Bum" Club. Some members may be in both groups, but only a Venn Diagram could confirm this.

i am in the Canadian Smarts club

Would anyone like a parakeet and 2 gerbils?
I can't get another cat (or baby) until those are gone.

No, I don't know, I don't know.

Yes, have too many already! And absolutely no more!

I'm sure if money weren't an issue at all, everyone here would probably want to have a couple of kids (or more, perhaps). The main problem is children are expensive. Excluding all the necessary expenses, like food and clothing, they're going to want toys (more likely video games today) and need supplies for school. Then there's healthcare. Let's not forget about college, which is costing more and more each year.

I'm sure I've forgotten quite a bit of stuff, but the point is that children cost a lot and you can't "return" or "exchange" the kid. Once you have a child, you're stuck with him or her -- unless you decide to give the kid up for adoption, but that's emotionally difficult and it can only be done when the child is a baby.

One other non-money issue to contend with here is that from what I gather, a good portion of the women on VJ are on their second marriage (maybe even third), so perhaps they already have kids and don't want any more. If they don't have children, perhaps these women are already in their mid-to-late 30s (or beyond), in which case the chances of birth defects, diseases and abnormalities tend to increase dramatically.

On the other hand... maybe some people just dislike kids and don't want them for that reason alone. Maybe they feel the twerps will "tie them down" or whatever. Who knows? I'm not a mind reader. I'm just tossing out ideas.

That was fun to read. It was like, you started with a thesis, and then slowly proved yourself wrong by the end.
But seriously, money isn't a factor in my not wanting kids. I just don't want them. Maybe someday I will, and as long as I'm not on welfare I'll probably have one then, god willing.

I'd like to see a Venn diagram, please.

I've noticed that too. I completely agree with people not wanting kids for reasons like they don't want to be a parent, they enjoy their lifestyle and kids would change that or they just dislike kids, but those people denying themselves to have a child just because it'll be financially difficult is not a good reason IMO.

Why not?

I'm glad you enjoyed it.

However, I don't think I "proved" myself wrong at all. I wasn't even attempting to "prove" anything. As I said before, I was just throwing ideas out. Some people may not want kids simply because they just don't want them and no other reason (like yourself) and others may not wish to have them due to a financial or biological situation.

There could be some overlap too. Whatever the case, it's a personal decision. I think it's a bit rude to say that anyone's choice to have or not to have children is "right or wrong." It's their life. Let them live it.

NO NO NO NO NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I hate competition!!!!!!!!!!!!

Um... what?

Geez.. its my first poll, chill out for the love of God. lol

why not? because it's selfish. if you realistically can't afford to have a child, then it's understandable, but if you can but are just too worried about having to cut back in some of your luxuries, then it's selfish behavior, IMHO.

1) nope
2) we are going to wait a few years
3)So if I want 3-4, I have to vote going for the soccer team?

House count as of today:
hubby and me
1 siberian husky - "Anya"
2 cats
1 african sicklet (that looks like a giant gold fish)

Saludos,
Caro

Hee hee, no 3-4 wouldnt be a team, really lol
My house is:
my son and I
4 snakes -Achilles,Rosy, never named the other two heh heh
1 gecko- Hanibal
1 german shepherd- Akasha

Lisa

we only want 1-2 kids (neil wants 2 so we have a backup incase something happens to one SERIOUSLY) which we will probably adopt because I'm too selfish and don't want to go through the pain and suffering. plus why have our own kids when there are tons of kids out there waiting for a family. we don't want them anytime soon though. maybe 5-10yrs down the road. we still have way too many things we want to do before we have a family. mainly travel stuff and I'm sure world travel is not easy and not as fun when you're hauling around kids

you talk like you can just snap your fingers and adopt a baby just like that.

I don't think it is selfish. That person is someone who is probably correct not to want children. Wrong personality, values for the job.

Luxuries are in the eye of the beholder.

I looked at that and thought, what-??? I think you meant African Cichlid!

fudge! I googled it to try to get it right and not even then

Saludos,
Caro

oh i got married for those

yah we are planning on kids.... and FYI hunny i voted on soccer team lol... hmmmm? good poll babe,, and for those who didnt like the poll= 00100... sorry for being rude babe... anyway... this is my wife poll and i LOVE it...
and no adoption ... google = why no adoption in islam...
yzd

My husband and I do want children - but not for a couple of years when we're better established here. We're both in our mid-twenties and neither one of us has children and we'd like to have a family together. We plan on having two children, but if that doesn't happen (having any kids) then that's what is meant to be.

We have one(he's new! hehe)...waited about 2 1/2 years after Sujeet moved here/got married before we started trying.

I always said I wanted 2. At the moment, I am scared about recovering from another c-section and my labor was so long that I'd be afraid to try it that way again. It's too fresh in my mind. I am hoping "time heals all wounds" and I will be up for going through it again in a couple years. If not, there is always adoption but it's not an easy thing to go through either.

I had a short but dreadful labor followed by weeks of infections. It has almost been two years in a couple of weeks and I think the worst is over. I remember it was bad, but the images are no longer so sharp. You won't forget, but you will more than likely get over it and move on. There are many reasons it would not be a good idea for me to have more children, but it is only a short time in my life and life of my child, labor and post-partum. It is not a particularly deciding factor for me. Beyond that, there are no guarantees that next time would be as bad as the last. Many people with bad birth experiences go on to have better ones. If it should ever happen that I fall pregnant again, there will definitely be some changes in how I want my labor and post-partum care managed. Probably the same is true for you.

I am sorry your experience wasn't as good as could be hoped. Eventually though, it will get better. Still too early to think about the next child anyway, just enjoy the cute little guy you have right now.

Well, I have never given birth, but my mother had a terrible labor with my brother (firstborn) and the world's easiest labor with me (second) - only one contraction and 5 minutes and I made my appearance in this world.

btw Stina - you look great in that photo with your son, motherhood suits you!

I have a 12 yr old daughter from my previous marriage.
I would LOVE to have a baby with my hubby but, I am too old now.
guess I'll just have to wait to be a gramma instead.

I used to have a bunch of those until just a few years ago. They are fun fish, challenging to balance personalities, but fun to watch!

Were having one soon. Oh and I mean only one!! This pregnancy thing is hard work and I don't love it. It will just be the three of us.