That is absolutely not true. You'd think if it asks and you check yes, it would happen right? Not so. You MUST follow up with the SSA and apply.





I couldn't feel to push; but I did what they told me to do and I did it like they wanted. I could feel like this flutting in my stomach with each contraction.

Side effects for me where that my legs were numb for a while after. That went away soon enough.

I was wondering if things have changed....we were told to wait 10 days after the POE then apply for the SS card. We applied on a Monday and he got it that Friday.....no problems because we waited to him to get in the system.

maybe they have....i really also think it depends where you go to get it....i think mike and i waited a pretty long time just to make sure it was in the system....


heard anything yet on the 10 yr GC?

Nope, nothing yet. We made an INFOpass appointment for next Thursday to get his passport stamped to he can continue to work and travel.

2 more weeks....I'm so excited for you and Jax.

oh wow...at least he will be able to still work and travel with the stamp....

i know i am counting down the days....it really could be anytime her size is big enough to be born....so whenever she decided to drop....

epidural -

the first time, i had no button and couldn't feel a thing, the one shot of benedyrl worked fine. the second time I could feel some pain

I got married on May 1st this year will be 6 years! Go for it you know you have 90 days to do it.

We went to buy him a big Parka yesterday...with a wool hat...gloves...scarf...and ear muffs! My man was ready to buy a ski-mask too! I had to look at him like it's not even THAT cold! Poor ting!
-Gill


LAWD!!!!!!!!!!!

I can see my husband wanting a big old north face and i wear a little spring leather jacket all winter long. I can't stand all the clothes because I get hot so fast. I can't even sleep with covers on my head or feet @ night.

What that is BS!!!!!!!!!!!

I bet you are sooo ready!

TGIF everyone

My epidural was a godsend, because once the pitocin kicked in my contractions went from being bearable to me crying in pain for Jesus

It took a good while for them to get the catherer in the right place because I kept feeling it (and that was mainly because my back was not positioned correctly) but I felt every urge to push. My placenta would not come out when I pushed so the doc had to go in and get it (thank you epidural!) and then I would not stop bleeding so they had to go in again and remove clots (thank you epidural!).

If we have another child I would still like to have the natural experience at a birthing center, but if I have to be induced with pitocin then that will be out of the window.

double post

I don't blame him! If I were there I'd have everything covered but my eyeballs, and there would be pinhole size pricks so that I could breathe from my nose

more then ready.....



sounds like you had a wonderful time

Hey dere ladies ave you eard of the "I can make you thin man - Paul Mckenna?" Anybody watchin TLC and apply de principals to knoa ei tru fe lose de weight?

Wakey

I know that's right Ken!

I like a man who weighs his options Gill.....LOL.....I'm glad u two are having fun and getting out to experience things....sounds like all is well!

Yeah, Demerol is a muscle relaxer but it makes a lot of people really nauseated and since it's somewhat of a sedative, some people come out of it feeling a little depressed and withdrawn.....atleast that's what i've seen working as a hospital social worker. LOL

I had to take that after I had fibroids removed in 2006 and it does make you a little loopy....

SJB1221 and JG that sounds about right. Checking off the box on the visa form doesn't GUARANTEE a SS#

The officer told me and Dave the same thing just on Tuesday. We checked off the box on the DS230 and she said that's just so the SSA can ENTER their info into their system. She said that "shortens" the wait time on the other side but that Dave still needs to clear the POE.....wait about 2 weeks and then go and actually FILE for the SS#.


I'm thinking 10-14 days is sufficient time to go a file for the number. I definitely wouldn't wait till after u get married........

You all won't believe this but Dave just called me a few minutes ago and said HE ALREADY GOT THE VISA FROM AIRPACK TODAY - in just 3 days!!!!

He couldn't believe it....we just left there on Tuesday night?! Somebody must be watching over us for sure.

Now you know if we planned for him to come back with me this week, that woulda never happened....right?

I've been watching it but have not tried any of his principals yet. Its very interesting and worth a try since its free.

Congrats Nish, now you can relax a bit. I'm so happy for you!

Lawd Sunny yuh juss a tek life suh!!!! Yuh outfit well match di bike

Yuh nuh see Sunny a hot gyal!

that's great!!! so happy everything is moving so fast for you that is great!!

and what you said about ss card is right...i would wait just to make sure he is in the system!!

Thanks Mich!......I feel like everytime I start to relax.....something else happens!

We've been getting good news almost everyday for the last 2 months so thanks again.

Thanks Shauna.....I couldn't believe the visa came that fast either. We're still in shock about the interview and being approved! LOL

I couldn't have done any of this without the support of all of you on VJ either. Dave'll be here next month to thank everyone in person......

LMAO

Yeah, mi a hot gyal fi real......

Congrats Ton Ton. Tha means he can come up earlier and soon be rocking like Ken and Gill

Ton happy fi yuh..so u a go change yuh expected arrival date..right ??????

Our visa came in a very short time as well..just keep the prayers and ur good spirits and u'll be just fine in life and all u do

Michelle yuh really hot fi tru..MI NAH GO PON NO BIKE EVER EVER EVER AGAIN SO BETTA YOU THAN ME !!

This is what I heard too. Actually this is usually the biggest 'complaint' that many women say...the whole numbness thing and not knowing if they are pushing enough or too much. I also hear that on average the labor is much longer with the epi vs without cause of the fact that you are not feeling anything. There are a few birthing centers and midwives that teach the whole stand or squat or water birthing cause you are 'naturally' working with gravity...anf the birthing is much faster. Then again, if you are squatting you MUST be able to feel your legs so no epi...you get something else for the pain and then recovery is quicker.

OMG!! This sounds so scary.

I know I'm late but...
Yes Chica,

You can apply for his SSN now. Because Ken went through JFK and got the crazy EAD stamp...he MAY be able to work prior to the AOS. In any case some employers are willing to hire if they have a SSN to take out your taxes under.
It may take a while b/c USCIS has to verify with SSA that Andrew is eligible to work in US.

Bless,
Gill

DAT'S ROIGHT!!!! BULLET BULLET Nurse Clariey!!!

Mawnin Gill ---

Wah you a do up so early on a SATURDAY?

Sunny,

You han Ray just be careful pon dem big bike deh! Hit look nice still...but jus be careful...zeen?

Bless,
Gill

Gurl, I know that's right. But like the Elders told me...just take it all in stride! Glad you made it home alright and great Embassy posting!

Bless,
Gill

Jonesie, you SON is adorable!

WICKED drug - Pitocin! You can REFUSE IT! (almost all of my friends that were given PITOCIN - had a C-Section) I REFUSED it. They gave it to me then I told them to TURN it off (they kep telling me it would speed up my progression). I said HELL no. They just want you the hell out of there and so does the insurance company. NEXT! That's not the way my grandmother says it's suppose to work. They make it seem like you can't REFUSE IT, but you can. It's your body, unless something is really going wrong you try your best to control the situation. The nurses I had didn't listen to what I was telling them I was feeling. I could feel my son go down and then pull back up. It was the WORSE pain I've every felt in my life and the reason I was feeling that pain was becuase my umbical cord was wrapped around my son's neck once and around his shoulders twice. Everytime I would feel him going down his heart rate would drop and my family was complaing, because most of my aunts are L&D nurses and it cause a big argument. In the end, I ended up with an emergency C-Section and all HELL broke lose. They sent their DAMAGE control squad to talk to me the next day, because they thought I was going to sue them. Don't let the NURSES tell you what' you're feeling. It's your BODY! Some of them that have children, must have forgotten that they were in the spot at one point.

On a side note BEST DRUG EVERY "STADOL" - I was so DAMN high all I wanted to do was have SEX.

Sunny,

How you going to be on a bike and don't have on no BATTY RIDAH!

There are risks more than side-effects. There's a lot of action going on in a part of your body you can't feel any more so there is a higher risk of you tearing, a risk of you not knowing when to push or when to stop pushing and that has the possibility of causing problems with baby, It makes some people feel lethargic and that can mean that they have a harder time nursing and bonding with baby right away if they want to. And then there are risks associated with how they put it in. If your anesthesiologist messes up it can cause chronic back-aches or worse - after all it is a needle inside your spine.

IMHO if they are pumping you full of pitocin or otherwise augmenting your labor then it's not "natural" anyway and I'd jump into an epidural with both feet. But natural births aren't necessarily about bragging rights. Some people just don't want to the effect of being immobilized and dissociated from such a big event for the body. Rather than being about who does it better I really believe its about each person checking in with themselves and their partner and planning and having the birth experience that is right for them. Feeling good about your decisions and experience is way more than deciding between having drugs or not.

GILL AND TONISHA link me in PM when you get a chance.

but is who seh, is up she up, fi feel seh she never got a chance to get down



Is when u don't want to have sex

WAH u a seh JENGS? Mi deh yah pon the work and I'm still not 100%. I just don't want to suffer with my ears when the plane goes to land. That's what happened last time. So, I'm trying to get rid of this head cold.

that happened to me once, i felt like my head exploded, do whatever u can to get rid of it. that was my first introduction to the world of sinus infections.

Girl, trust me. I thought I was going to go MAD!

That sounds awful! I'm so petrified of what's to come in six months

Girl,

Try not to worry about that. Just try and take it easy.

For those of you that have filed a CR-1 petition, what's the average length of time the petition is at the NVC before it gets approved? Does 3-4 months sound about right to you?