Oh my

WOW! Never imagined it would be so serious and have such consequences. Poor guy

Awww, tell de poor man nah! Im so sad! It will make him feel better if he knows your coming.

Well, mi no sarry fi im...he's too stubborn. Then he wants to blame everyone else. He needs to learn how to read. I asked him what he's going to do when his baby born? Ya'll don't even want to know what he tell mi. He has no manners, so mi no sarry fi im a tall.

Lita,

I would tell him, but the last time I told him I was coming down his family lost their ever loving mind. You see, they didn't kow I was Jamaican and I sat through 2 hours of explainations on the history of jamaica and the food and spices. I didn't want to be rude, so I kept quiet. Then all I was here was LORRDDDDDDDDDD what a ooman FAT...lawd she FAT EEHHHH! AND NICE!...ar hair so talllllllllllll look PON di BAXIDE (ONLY in Jamaica).

Lita, the amount of people that was at his people's house, you would think it was a wedding. So, mi naw tell im. I do feel sorry for him sometimes but the way mi inna HEAT! im bettah pray mi no kill im

Now that was funny as ever.... Mi belly a hurt mi....

First - Can I say, mi ah dead wid laff ova yuh friend husband, Lawny. Poor ting...

Thanks all for the baby wishes...this is my 3rd niece - the 1st was born on my 30th birthday. I have been to the hospital 3 years in a row for the birth of my beautiful nieces. I am hoping next year it will be my turn ; or at least we'll be celebrating Gill

Nanny, Jax - Can't wait to hear about your bundles of joy...

Congrats, NBESaw - glad things finally worked out.

Congrats on the niece, Auntie Tam - I want a little girl so badly - My sister has managed to have 5 BOYS - outta my cousins (we are all 3-4 years apart in age), there are 14 boys under the age of 10, and 1 little girl, who of course, lives in Texas! DJ has one child - of course, a BOY (I love him to death, though - he's adorable)

My friend had twins - girl and boy - I spoil them rotten, and constantly buy little girlie things for Sophie - for which my friend yells at me, but I tell her over and over that I am SICK of buying hockey stuff, I need to buy pink and frills!

nbesaw - Congratulations on getting the good report!!!! God is good all the time!

Wow, 14 boys under the age of 10!!!! That is amazing! I pray you have your little girl; I want a boy (twins if God's willing )

That sure is a lot of boys I hope you get a girl soon! I want boys as well

Sus...wow your meez is looking good!

soon come

Yes he is!! Congrats Nbes

CLaire, Lawny, and di one Jengs...mi flippers dem quite fine...mi nah flip none a oonuh so wah di problem...aleast mi nah drown...by the way mi love fi swim....

TAM..congrats...mi cyaa wait..anyway

lawd, een yah quiet.....while all hell is bussing on my OTHER message board

Yuh sure, yuh flippers dem nuh cold pon di hard cold concete floor??? I'm just asking

yes..yuh foor dem nah bun yuh from standing on the train platform fi so long...hmmmmm..dats why like barefoot ...no toe problems

wah dem a cuss bout now !

dem a bun mi yes, but money a mek, so mi just a grin and bear it.

and yes mi arm a hurt mi too. Is long time mi want put it down.

mi di a wonder bout dat tuh..and yuh ready fi tek beam outta my eye...check fi yuh fuss

how u mean?? mi a mek money...dem send u home long time, cause u nuh dress properly...yuh inna di break room a hideway!! cause u vex

Ok no more joking ting...

I see nuff approvals going on and i'm very happy for everyone...now the next part the hard part comes...the arrival...yes yes it will be the happiest day of your life...your man is with you...but I think we should have a conversation about the adjustment process.

What do you all think?

Hey everyone!

I know there are not too many of us CT and MA people posting anymore, but just to let you know...Elephantman and Shaggy will be at the Hippodrome on April 4th:

haha , I can juss hear dem seh!! Yuh hair tall...wooiieee!! Look pon yuh baxside?....HAHAHAHAHA

amen sistah !! adjustment is something you have to remember fi real...

the first time i heard that I was like what?? Mi hair what?? Den I was like no it isn't.

Ok! why dem seh "look pon di gyal, why har so lang?" but when dem talk bout yuh hair dem seh it 'tall'?

Lawd, mi a pray all week. M seh mi hands tiyad. I need fi gwaan do singting else.

Ok I will try and start..maybe someone can make a list and no it won't be me. and let's try and keep it general. I know that some of us are posting off of our experiences but mi really don't like it when people post their opnions or what they do in their relationships and it ends up in a defending contest. Everybody is different and can learn from each other.

anyhoo

It's seems to be really hard when they are left at home alone. Most of these men worked and the jamaican culture seems to be an outdoorsy one. People work, hang out and go home (someone feel free to correct me if I'm wrong) now I don't mean hang out at the rum shop or the dancehall, but there seems to be a lot of social interaction. Then they come here. We go to work and they are at home in a place where they may not have any friends, no job and familyand nothing to do.

It depends how your man adapts. Is here very social? My husband is very social and I swear has more friends in this town than I do. This is my home town. I think the first couple months are the hardest. It was easier for us because in a few months he was in school and working. I think the K-1 visa has to be hard when finding a job. If we went for the K-1 he wouldn't of been able to go to school right away with a green card. The best part is that we live in a college town which is very social. We had talked about this before he got up but nothing can prepare you for the adjustment until he or she gets here.

whoops wouldn't of been able to go to school right away without a green card.

I agree with them staying at home does usually cause a problem..they get bored...especially if they worked all their lives. I don't like to speak personally here either cause ppl like to judge and thats why i usually dopn't participate in such topics. but adjustment is a tough time and shouldn't be taken lightly

i'm in NyC it's pretty amazing what cash can do and certain programs don't even ask.

especially the freedom thing. Staying in the house is so true. Another thing that helped was a drivers licenses. Its a independence thing.

This is very true Jax. The MAIN reason for us doing the CR1 was so that he could start school and work as soon as he got here if he wanted. I felt that the CR1 transition was much better than the others. Like my husband is already looking into schools and jobs while he is in JA. I would think that this is how I would like to do it if i moved to a new country.

One of the biggest problems I notice is that the nonUSC didn't put a plan into place BEFORE they moved here. I told my husband...."you know where you will be living research or tell me to research things you want to get into NOW so that when you get here its all set up for you".....Now I know he's not here yet but I notice how involved Evan is with my life and my neighborhood and town before he even gets here. I think this is making him feel more acquainted with the area too so that its not so much of a cluture shock plus overwhelment when he arrives. When I first me him I gave him a travel book of Los Angeles. This way he could read up about the area and all the things to do...HE LOVED IT!! Its like my JA travel book that I loved. I really think early preparation is KEY!

agree with the drivers licsense..and i know some states let people drive on their foreign liscense for a time.

Me and my family are surprising hubby with a bicycle when he arrives...does that count as a DL haha. i just think that having some sort of wheels will be good for him. My town is bike friendly.

This is true, have a couple of different career paths to explore and try and find out about any programs as early as possible.

Ditto..Congrats but not mine my sister has five kids They were all over Friday night. Her 5 and my 3, 8 pickeny. I thought I'd go mad. But they were cute when they were smaller.

This really is the best time to do it. We sit an wait around for NOA's and appointments but then we forget about all the stuff that we need to prepare for AFTER all that other stuff is out of the way.

Ditto...

it even got better when he got his own car. My bro was outraged because I bought him one. But how was he going to go to school and work. It was the best thing ever. The best thing that helped was that I was on this site for months before we made our journey and I listened to all the other vets who went through the transition. I took everyones experience and planned for our future. Everyone will adjust differently. It was great hearing everyones point of view back in the day.


any wheels will help. HD use to ride my bike. In IL he could drive on his JA licenses for 90 days.

A bike is a good idea. and yes getting everyone's viewpoint was good. I enrolled him in school because of advice from this board. I had an old car that now I almost wished I saved, but i can take the train to work, but i know that others live in areas where there is no train. The train!!!! I had to buy a map. lol

Making sure they have a way of getting out of the house is always a good thing. We got a bike for my husband and he also had free access to the bus and train system here. He learnt how to get around the pretty good. Once he got a car I gave him my GPS system which helped even more.

Good Morning Everyone!!

Lawny, where u at?? Feeling better??

Mawnin Yardies,


I'm back at work today and will be attending a training class. Have a great day and I'll catch up lata...

Fuh Real Jax...half-way into my wait...I realized the difference between K1 & CR1! I say it all the time...if I had to do it again...

But, for right here, right now...I am just grateful that we are over the first hurdle...getting him here!

Bless,
Gill

Yes. I agree.

Public transportation is underrated. I got Andre out and about on the bus system. Not only did he learn how to get where he needed to go, he explored the city along the way.

Adjustment is hard no matter how you look at it. So many things come up that you never expected. Even the best laid plans go differently then you thought they would. And, no matter how much you talk about things and you think they get it, they really don't until they experience it.

My advice is to just go with the flow and see where it takes you.