KimKim I'm so glad to hear that your doing betta

SHYNE a wah u a guh wid suitcase?

good idea,

i'm about to file a grievance against my child, i just don't understand how he can bounce into tables that are two feet away from him and knock everyting over. its like he has a wind that follows him *cha*




Lawny,

dat nuh a suitcase...nuh shopping bag dat??

DWL...SHYN sarry yah...JENGS the GINGER WINE a get to mi....but it GOODDDDDDDDD Ithink that's why I haven't been sick in very long time.

Mi ago out shoping fe new tings tuh put pon mi suticase fe mi trip tuh JA next month




Mi need some a dat mi been sick 3 days and nuh go tuh wuk

SHYN, fram mi granni tell mi fi star tek a likkle sip everynight or 3 times a week, I've not been sick. I've been doing well for 3 years now. Last month 27 of my co-workers were out with the flu and that's just one division. Mi tell dem NO COME NEAR MI...

Happy Birthday to you Jamie Cha Cha Cha!!!

what exactly is your meez doing, is that a victory dance....she win wimbledon....should me start calling you Serena??? mek mi know from now.

Oh my!!! Wow that is a lot of people!!

Pam feel better!

Did any of you ladies get the flu shot? I had one but its not working.

Maybe its common to be sick in 3rd trimester..

Ok Ladies, its my turn...I need advice.

So Evan has been voicing his concern about me not giving him enough affection and attention and time, and how i don't show him i need him and love him or basically just say affectionate things to him. I think that I do do all these things. But obviously not as much as he would like. We get into major arguments about this cause I sometimes feel like he is only noticing when I Don't do something, vs noticing when I DO. I understand the need to want your partner to tell you you love them and miss them and comment, say say they look good or send them little "sweet" notes, but my issue with this is, that if i am not doing it to his liking or then he begins to think that I am thinking the EXACT opposite of those things, like....I don't love him, or miss him, or I'm too busy for him, or don't think he's attractive enough on, and on, and on. I think that is completely unfair. What do you think? I don't know if he is having major issues with the seperation or if he is insecure or if he just needs more affirmation than most men I have been involved with and I just need to adjust. Do your men have these complaints?

And on a side note, I speak to him EVERYDAY. I send him texts, I usually have him call me back since he has a better phone plan than me, but I send him letters in the mail, email, and he still says that I am not showing him enough or being there for him when he needs me. Its stressing me out, literally cause I feel like I can't be sad or lonely and missing him, cause he's complaining about it enough for the both of us. Is there something I should be or could be doing to ease his mind or is he just tripping?

Sorry ladies, I had to step away for awhile. Thanks sus, I definitely think he should file a grievance because that was some straight up BAD advice because there is no way, I would have let her go back to JA

Lita, this sounds to me like separation anxiety. It is truly not easy being in a long distance relationship and it is certainly not helped with the stress that this immigration process puts us under. My husband didn't have those complaints, though he would get mighty upset when I didn't call on time and such when we were separated. It will be different when Evan gets here.

I know this lady doesn't post on this thread but I want to wish this yardie the best with her interview. Mrs. Lawson all the best tomorrow!!

Ditto..All the best Mrs. Lawson!!!

I am going to post my immigration issue to the greater VJ community, but once again, I am off in hiding. Back into the books. Thanks ladies for all the comments, it was greatly appreciated. I will certainly keep you all posted.

You know this is what I've been trying to tell myself but it keeps getting worse. I hate fighting about the same issues over and over, and I know that he doesn't really understand how hard my life and day really is. SO I keep telling myself, just hold on a bit more Lita and he'll soon be here and singing a different tune. Its just sometimes he can be really mean and rude about his complaints. I'd be more inclined to receive them if he was nicer about expressing how he feel.

Some people just complain a lot so they have something to talk about. I know we stopped talking everyday a lot when we were separated. It's tough being apart during this process. My husband told me I complained a lot when we were apart. I really just missed him a lot and we had run out of things to talk about.

Congratulations Claire!!! On your case being completed. Time will fly by now in a few months you should have an interview. All the best with the next stage of your journey.

Lita, I can tell you - Aaron and I fought for no reason sometimes and I knew much of it had to do with us not being together. Is Evan like this when you are together? Is he in general a rude person? This process does something to you, believe me. You already know that his adjustment here is not going to be easy, so you will have your difficulties even then, but remember he won't truly know what you are going through until he is here to see it for himself. He does need to recognize that this isn't easy for you either. Have you voiced your concerns with him? God will take you through it love. Have God order your words as you talk to Evan about this.


Ditto...Clairey, I am so happy for you

Ditto Claire

Mi need fe find a bokkle ov dat!! Neil had the flu last week and kindly passed it off tuh mi. The ting is he was only sick for about 24hrs. Mi....3 days and counting mi dizzy, chills, cyaan taste nuhting,nose a run wan wicked chest busti cough and feva deh whole 9 yaads!!

Thanks Jax

Thank you all ladies for your kind words and congratulations. Hopefully he will get an interview date for next month

ahahaa dats right mi a jump fi joy..no man mi head a hat fi frum mawning...and mi did have class since nite ...and mi a go chop up mi MIL...but mi deh back inna di place still..

cho !! u no easy

sounds like he is really fustrated, is he going thru something right now?? try asking him how u can improve or what specifically did you do to upset him, and why. sometimes we have to pull the real reason as to what is going on.

u just came back from there, was this going on down there?? if not sounds like he's missing his baby Lita...and to me sometimes j.a. men talk rough and have no idea how they are coming accross.

Lita u know me and husband used to fight when were separated not that we don't now..but what i did by the advice of a friends mother..she seh wah is the sense oonuh a go talk everyday and cuss waste of money...So u know what i did stopped calling everyday all thru the day..and u know it helped..maybe u need to back off a little..maybe just send the emails and texts and so but limit the phone talk it brings frustration of missing each other so near but yet so far kinda thing...hope it works out

so i had a salad with turkey today plus some baby carrot with ranch dressing and all i've been wanting is water...everytime i see water i wanna be in it..

LAWD ME ADDICTED TO VJ. ME LOG ON FRAM ME COME HOME FROM WORK AND NOW A 1130 AND ME STILL DEH YAH. a WRANG WID ME EEHHH????

U get dry mouth?? now what is it you are taking again to keep the food down.

my bed is screeching my name......mek mi go and mek it quiet.

good night

i do mroe time....a coulda dat huh !! JENGS MI NAH TEK NUTTIN..IT JUST STOP BY ITSELF MY GIRL...!!! afta mi call mi doc in tears seh mi vomit blood and den go in and feel bettah like a lie mi did a tell




Clairey it's ok hunny..i think we are all addicted

Ok..so oonuh memba mi paper wah mi couldn't do ? mi prof email mi today a talk bout him send a "C" if mi ok wid dat..hmmm bwoy mi no know..mi really no feel like do no paper but den again mi no want no baxide C..wah oonuh tink ?

I agree with Kimmie on this one. I had the same problem with Mike only the other way around. I was the one complaining. We would talk everyday, sometimes twice a day and after the second visit in October, I started to miss him so much more and would tell him how I felt but he would not reciprocate. He would be silent and I always asked if I am talking to the phone and wasting money. He always says "telling you I miss you and all that is not gonna change the fact that we can't be together right now. I know how you feel and you know how I feel. Talking about it is not the solution right now, because when we get off the phone, it's not gonna change." The more I heard that the angrier I became and then I decided to back off and not call him as much and would purposefully miss his calls. Now ehen we talk it is so fullfilling and we have so much more to talk about. We now talk maybe 2-3 times a week and I am better able to handle the separation.

Lita, I also think you should try backing off a little. Some men are die-hard romantics and like to hear sweet nuiances in their ears. I think also Evan is missing his baby and needs to hears those things to re-affirm your love for him.

Just my $0.20.

Now ge me back me change

sounds like u doing a paper...if u were at a point where a "c" wouldn't move your g.p.a then cool, but u just started the program right...so it would be better if u did better in the beginning.

Oh, thank you, thank you. I thought I was crazy



What is the alternative? An incomplete? How would that affect your GPA?

a dat mi a seh..but him a go ask mi if mi alright with that...hell no ..gimme mi incomplete mek mi finish and u grade mi

sounds good to me, but then maybe u can vomit pon him shoes and ask for the b.

clairen...i think we is all addicted myself and how u ask Lita for change and we nuh see how much money u give her. lol

i'm really really going to bed now. i told mr jengles i was going to bed two hours ago and all now mi still sitting by the computer

yeah man go clean up di pickney dem toys offa di floor ..but mi no understand him a come talk bout him send in C wid him brite self a no like mi did a do bad inna di class

Yuj nuh se me give har $0.20 fe mi opinion and she owe me change cause hit ongle wut $0.02.

awrite mi head a kill mi..mi gone a mi bed..lata...Jengs no bada wid all dat chatting tomorrow and mi no deh pon di board cause dat mean mi behind and affi go read all dem blasted pages

Nite y'all. See yuh a mawning.

I didn't. I wish I did or at least gotten it for hubby, bc I think I've brought it home to him. I haven't gotten sick. It didn't work for many people. Its all over the papers here. The CDC is actually asking the makers to redo the shot BC so many people are getting sick any ways, apparently there are more strains of the flu going around than the vaccinations can handle.
I hope you feel ,better and please get some rest.

Ditto...Mine didn't have these complaints either, but I'm not sure if it's separation anxiety cause they've been apart for some time, he should be adjusting to the separation, then I'm think she did just come from JA so it could very well be missing her fi true and needing some reassurance, maybe the wait is getting, to him. Marilta remeba how you were when you'd just goten back(misseriable lol)....IMO, you are doing a heck of a lot more than I was doin during our separation and he just very well be trippin like you mentioned.

For me it seems worse when he got here.

Good point B. Also about the talking EVERYDAY. You both might need a break between so that when you do talk..youknow it's more quality vs quanty.

You see it. I'm tring to stay away, but it's hard. I need thearpy Good ting hubby wuk till 9 or so.



Don't ask mi.. C's are for caring. lol . Like Jens seh as long as it dosen't effect
UR GPA.

YES!!!!! MI waan fi hear deh answer tuh dis...cause all hell is about to set loose inna fi mi family when dem here wat mi a guh duh! IT'S GOT 'STELLA' ALL OVER IT.... ...But only Ken and I know it's NOT!!

Bless,Gill

Sorry I'm late but....


HAPPY BURTDAY YARDIE, MI LOVE...WISHING YOU MANY MANY MORE!!!! :



Kimkim....mi nuh tink hit chocolate...yuh can eat hit!

LOVE YA YARDIE!!!!!

Gill

If there is an area that I know something about and I can help someone step in the right direction, then I will do it - I won't apologize for the fact that I work in the legal field - I fought long and hard to get where I am in my career - I also won't apologize for the fact that I fell in love with a man from another country or that I post here, even though we haven't made a decision as a couple how we are going to proceed as of yet. I am not quite sure what your problem is or why you continually take an attitude with my posts - But if you don't like them, don't read them -


Morning everyone

The forensics patients, dem bodda mi, I had to go cover up mi las name, cause dis particular one, is gettin on my NERVES




My family...have been really great esp. my modda she neva have anything bad to seh bout anyone...I guess that's where I get it from.

Good morning everyone. No work for me today, my daughters really sick. Going back to catch up on my reading, ya'll chat alot

I agree, boy do I agree. I've lived this experience 1st hand with my kids father. I don't care if the chic is just a pin cushion, you disrespected me and our relationship, BUH-BYE loser. I deserve better. But on another note it took me awhile to get to that point, I always believed that I would never take back a cheater but when the situation involves yourself and your self esteem isn't where it should be its hard.

GOOD MORNING MY BEAUTIFUL SISTAHS....how are ya'll. Bway mi ago mad...weh mi NOTICE deh!...ow dem decide who fi process fuss...bway..cho man