Thats very true, and i dont beileve you have to have a suit and tie job to be educated. I think you need to have ambition to be with me....what ever you do with your life as a job is another story. I can be with a guy who washes the floors, but I cant be with a guy who doesnt have a plan of how to not wash the floors.

I get u Lita..and I agree.."when am i going to watch the next man wash the floors"

KIMMY.......how much weight u gain areadi

haven't been on a scale since i started feeling better..at this point i'm gaining back what i lost..not a whole lot but i'm sure something...i'm trying

So..my doc told me about some progesterone shots that he will be giving me so that we can try and prevent this one from coming 5wks early....

As far as jobs go, I have learned that money just doesn't buy you happiness and jobs are fleeting.

I believe in taking the best your situation has to offer you and working with it to make the life you want along the way. Learning and advancing are big pluses. You never really know where your next opportunity is going to come from.

As long as my husband works hard at the job he has and learns everything he can from it, he will be going far.

And as long as we mesh in our married life, he could be picking up poop after the Clydesdales (Anheuser Busch horses, for those of you not in the St. Louis area) in parades and as long as he is working hard and earning money to help us out, I'm happy.

Exactly, I get that everyone has to start somewhere, but knowing myself and the things I want to do in life...that have nothing to do with a career....I need someone who has the same goals otherwise we as a couple will be so out of balance and will probably never get there. I believe in being compatilbe on many levels....religion, ambitions, dreams, this compatiblity will help us grow together, and not grow apart.

and that's what i love about my husband..he is willing to do a job because it will PROVIDE for us

You're funny.

double post

But what if your man is content and happy "washing the floors" or any other "menial" type job? What if that is his passion in life and he doesn't see it as a starting point but somewhere that he is happy and comfortable with as his job in life? Would you be ok with that?

Wow, I would never call any of those jobs "menial". I think everyone should do what they need to do to support themselves or their family....theres nothing menial about that. I personally just don't like to stick to doing just one thing and I don't think that washing floors can support me, a child, a husband, a house and all the other expenses that we would surely have. I don't beleive in living in debt, out of your means, or in misery. If he can get a "better- paying" job then he definitely needs to have to drive to do that if he is with me. I can't imagine he would stay at that job knowing that he could get another one that helps himself and his family out more. A man that doesnt have the drive to get out of a dificult situation is just not for me.

Well I have been scanning through what has bee said and I wanna put in my likkle 2 cents. I just dont want anyone to laff and make fun of what I am abt to say. I am a college graduate and my hubby well lets put it, he cannot read and write so well. I love and respect him with all my heart, and this has never been a problem to me and I havent loved hima any less. He is enrolled in a school where he starts out with the basics and then he will work his way up. HE works in a factory and I work in a hospital. Let me tell you, he is very intellegent and nobody can fool him. HE makes fun of me that I am "book smart", but he is "street smart"

This is a prime example of a man having ambition to work his way up as you say. Exactly my point. i know many an man in his same situation of reading and writing and they have NO desire to change it.

No making fun of you, girl.

I know of a few other JA men referred to on prior Yardie threads who started out not being able to read and write. Some still have issues with it. They found gainful employment and love what they do. Of the two I am referring to, both wives report everything is just fine in their lives.

Whatever works for you, works for you. That's how I feel about everything.

When my hubby told me at first, I was in shock cause I did not realize that someone so intellegent as himself had this problem. But I came to accept it and my life is as great as anyone elses!

1luv...This is real life..no poking fun here

Ur hubby knows that reading and writing is something he wants to achieve so he is doing what is necessary. I forget who said but some men DO NOT care to ever learn and they are ok with that. Is it that they "think" learning to read and write will get them no further than where they r right now ?

That would be the definition of "those" jobs...menial...unskilled. Most people would consider washing floors, serving hamburgers, housekeeping etc to be menial work...work done by those unskilled/uneducated. That is the category they fall into by definition.

My point is what if he can support you and all your expectations with a job like washing the floors etc? Would that be ok with you? What if he was happy mowing the lawns of the neighborhood and made enough to support the household? Would you be ok with a husband who was content to just mow the lawns for the rest of his life?

This is the question! Trust me, I grew up with folks like this my whole life. They didn't have the desire to finish high school cause they thought it didn't matter. I always thought for me that it did matter. So in the long run, the 2 of us were on different paths and grew into different people with different goals. Now they then began to look down on ME cause I wanted to graduate and go to school. Thats the type of discrimination i got. People talked about me called me all kinds of names all because I wanted to learn more and get out of the neighborhood that I grew up in . What i reliaze now is that those people thought less of themselves, that why they acted the way they did with me, and they would have been happier had I not had the drive to do more.

Yards i get what ur saying...and it wouldn't matter for me as long as we were ABLE

Yardie,

Heck yeah I'd be ok! If he is getting the job done by supporting his family and happy I would LOVE that! Thats what life is all about.&nbsp; When I write on here, i write my OWN thoughts not what society says I should think, so I truly don't see those jobs as menial.&nbsp; i for one want to be barefoot and pregant and would love for my man to support me.&nbsp; I want to move from the states an live a carefree life somewhere else. i don't place to much emphasis on the "job" that you have cause i wasn't born to live life working, I want to live life living and that has always been my goal.&nbsp; i need a man who has that same dream...and I beileve Evan does.<BR><BR>I dated a guy who made about $80K and was up for promotion.&nbsp; He was a smart, good looking guy, and had drive, BUT he also didn't share the same goals as me....to be barefoot pregnant and living on some little island somewhere...haha.&nbsp; he would have rather I stay working after haivn a baby and get a nanny.....oh no! He already makes $80K and I still need to work...his drive was all about the money...not about a good life and enjoying your family and kids.&nbsp; He would never have liked the idea that I just want to be a Carni or something, cause to him, he had to have the perfect wife, 2 kids, hot car, exectutive job, and big house. So he needed his wife to work work work to support this dream.&nbsp; Now thats ambition and drive, but it doesnt actually equate to happiness for us as a couple.

agreed!!

i agree with that....and i think there is more too it as well...i know for mike he was ashamed that he could not read or write that well....and there for did NOT want to get help because he felt like he was the only person in the US with this issue....i explained time and time again he is so not the only person with this issue....still he didn't want to believe me and got a ok job...stocking shelves which is fine...happy for him to have that job....BUT he doesn't want to look for a better job or a second job because that would mean more paperwork....

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MY COUSIN'S EX SHOWED UP FOR his INTERVIEW (poor thing) ........(I'm rolling on the floor)

Now, he's really THREATENING TO burn down the house in Jamaica.

Woieeeeeeeeee what a stress.

I'll fill ya'll in later.

This is where it gets to be a problem for me. He's holding himself back cause his mind is not free....not because someone tells him he can't do it.

OH MY GOSH!!!!!!!!!

Oh man! what happened when he got there? What they tell him?!

and it is aproblem for me as well....i want to drill a hole into his thick head and put some sense into him....it really bothers me....

I don't know yet. He left her 15 very ANGRY voicemail messages at home, cell and at work. What a dumb A$$... I knew he would show up. A friend of my cousin and her also had her interview this morning and she saw him. He cut his hair. That BASTARD! I wondered what he would have showed them as an Affadvit of Support?

GOD is GOOD

they should have played along with him...and then at the end say oh ya you are so denied.... that would have been great some good tv.....

The nerve of some people... They should have locked him up for simply being stupid...

I wish. But I doubt they would have carried it that far. I'm thinking they told him SIR, you'ure M)$*#$)#$ing K-1 PETITION HAS BEEN WITHDRAWN...now, get you punk A$$ out of here.........SECURITY!

Oh, I wish I could have been a fly on the wall. WHAT A KODAK MOMENT

Lawny..NO HE DIDN"T

Kimmy,

When she called me all I kept saying was "NO HE DIDN'T" ..... "NO HE DIDN'T"...I knew he would. He is so damn arrogant. She has forgiving him plenty of times for things he has done in the past.

She was at a large catering event so she only able to let me hear one of the messages. It go like this

DUTTY BBCLATT gyal a dead u dead now...bun mi ago bun dun dat bbclatt house. My uncles and my 3 of my cousins are in the house now until the renters move in. So, she called them and they're aware of what's going on. My uncle should be at the police station taking to the sargent now.

Kimmy,.... mi deh a mi desk a dead...I can't wait for my cousin to call back. She so happy, she start crying.

wow...i can but i can't believe that he would still go....oh i would have loved to have been that immigration officer....

Oh Rass!!!

NO HE DIDN'T....DYAM FOOL...wah mek him no go mek di nEXt sponsor do it fi him....the player got played

Thanks for clarifying/explaining

Wooiieee mi cyan believe he showed up Gosh I really would have loved to see that

I hope and pray that he doesn't harm any of your family in retalitation. Many prayers going out to them all!

Now, that's the main thing we're worried about. Oh, lord help us.

I CAN believe it. When you meet him he seems nice, but after 20 minutes is niceness turns to ARROGANCE...I I could to a running back flip I would. You don't know how RASS happy I am that he showed up. I bet he will never FORGET that for the rest of his life.

Kimmy...I'm bout ready fi box you now..... . and Gill if she had anything to do wit dis. Wha kinda ting dat, meking us all feel bad. CHA!!!

Same here.

HOW can be sooo STUPID!!! This is too damn funny.

Sho nuff den his dumb rass left evidence on her cell phone, bout brunin the house down.

HAHAHAHA I know I am behind..but this comment here...made me WEAK!

My husband has this nasty ex girlfriend (and nothing in comparison to your situation) who thought she could get all up in mine and take me for some fool. I listened and ignored enough and then its like I just hit this place and I said plenty nasty stuff to her but the ONLY thing that got a reaction is when she was all up trying to fool around with me and mine and I simply said "I have heard hell is a hot place"
and SHE FLIPPED OUT
she never bothered me again. maybe its worth a try. haha
then again. it was a totally different situation.
I would probably just shove my boot so far up her @** that the LAST thing she would be thinking about is turning me in. haha
I used to teach in the ghetto and when the kids would tattle "So and so pinched me..so and so pulled my hair..so and so hit me" I would look at them and say "obviously not hard enough if you are tattling" (but dont go thinking im a bad teacher.. I always dealt with it outside of that)
too bad that isnt REALLY true

CONGRATS TO GILL AND KEN
Kim Kim yuh nuh easy atall!! Mi almost bruk dung wen mi read dis ere, dat was a good wan

WHAT???
NO!!!!!!!






sheesh i was sick to my stomach! yay!

Bwoy Kimmy...everybody a go put yuh pon dem black list Yuh gonna have fi do sumting extra nice fi us all afta dat wicked trick yuh play