QUOTE(Alex & Rachel @ Mar 16 2008, 05:11 PM) 
QUOTE(Cecile and Bryan @ Mar 16 2008, 08:40 PM)
I just spent 3 hours talking with Bryan online, and we talked about the wedding. First, what we wanted to do was go to the court house when I arrive (well, sometime during the first month), go to a restaurant with friends to celebrate it, and then, next Spring, we would have a more formal ceremony. That formal ceremony would not have to be a big one, with awesome dinner and everything, but it would still be a nice wedding ceremony, and that way we would have more time to prepare it and to give more time to people to make all the arrangements. That was the original idea.
I've thought about it a lot, and I'm not really comfortable with that idea anymore. Maybe we're going to have so many things to deal with that in the end we won't have time to think of that ceremony and we won't do it. You know how it's like sometimes, you plan things and then the longer you wait, the harder it is to take care of things.
And the second reason is that it sounds kind of strange to have two wedding dates. He says the second one (the formal one) will be our real wedding. But we will already be married. As soon as I'm going to become Mrs. Young, I will feel like I am his wife. It just sounds strange. He also said that it can be considered as if we renew our vows but usually when people renew their vows, that's not 6 months after the wedding!
So I'm all confused. I don't know what to do or what to think anymore. I'd rather have everything at once: have our nice formal ceremony when I first get there. But of course, that will be harder to plan, and that means some people might not be able to come. And it all depends when we're approved. We can't plan the same thing if it's the summer or the winter!
I don't know... Maybe I should stop thinking about it for a while. Maybe it would be good to know what other people think/plan to do.
For everybody reading this topic: What are you planning for your wedding, guys?
Well, if it helps, I completely agree with the bolded statements! My mother feels the same way, which is why she and my dad are going to do their best to attend my wedding, no matter how small or cheap it is! But yes, it is harder to plan, hence me doing my best to give six months' notice. If I have to delay my entry into the states so be it; after some deliberation, I've decided I'd rather do this than hurry to be in the US and thus cause everyone to miss the legal ceremony.
Darren and I will go to the courthouse the week he arrives, and have a small ceremony later for family and friends. Our issue came down to money...we're paying for the wedding ourselves, and we need to save enough money to pay for everything, we don't want to go into debt for a wedding...
Even if the celebratory ceremony isn't our actual anniversiary (which it very well may be), I won't mind. The celebration is more for our friends and family, and the legal is for us...
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Her job is to find or have made her dress - and to get all her paperwork together for the interview. I just worry about all the rest. It's going to be a small ceremony - just close friends (3-4) and Family, thankfully. Oooh la la!
... I'm a real cheapskate but I would like to think I am just very practical.
You're very welcome to be an honorary January filer!
I think I'd be prepared to pay over the top for something like that!
Which one did you chose, just whisper it, I won't tell promise! 
... you'd surely be a very lovely bride when that day comes.
Still, it'll be broken up by a trip to London and I'll expect I'll be doing quite a bit of cleaning as always.