I know your pain... the 'happy' feeling my post might give is actually a bit fake.. I'm down as hell the last few weeks (my SO has it even worse than I have) and sometimes I even got pissed off at some of the happy comments people made here about it may be soon and stuff (which is why I sometimes don't post at all while I am still around)... yet we're still waiting.

If I would do it right, I should be at home at the moment, being home in sick leave but coz that makes time go even slower. Instead I just go to work and see if that can make the day go by faster. Usually I looked forward to weekends but not anymore as there are hardly any approvals during the weekends. This whole process at the CSC is a serious mental downer for me and I suspect for a lot of others as well. I too know there will be light at the end of the tunnel but yah, it's so hard to keep saying that day in and day out

I hope the majority of January filers will be approved this month and that CSC picks up a bit faster at all the petitions, but, I also feel like it is wishful thinking :/

It would be lying to say that I wasn't feeling down this past month. Even when they started to approve January people at the beginning of May, I was so sure that we would be one of the lost cases and that it would take several more months for us that I was feeling down too. I don't have good words to tell you to make you feel better. I know that nothing people said on this forum was making me feel much better when I was sad.
This is indeed a very hard process sometimes. I wish that your wait won't be too long.
The one thing that made me feel better at the end of the week was to think that another week had gone by and therefore we were closer to the end

That's indeed one of my concerns as well.


Yep, I got the exact same feeling each day passed without the approval still means another day closer to the end indeed

hey folks! I know we filed at VSC but we had to wait years just to be allowed into the 'waiting room' and we've been apart (literally the other side of the world) for 8 months after living together so I relate in a very real way to how you're feeling. It just shouldn't take this long.

I'm a very positive and optomistic person but I find as the time is dwindling down that I am getting more and more impatient with the waiting. It's like each day brings us one step closer and makes us more anxious for that super prize that is the email from CRIS saying we are approved and on to the next step!

I don't have any good advice except to do as you are.... try to keep busy and stay positive. Just wanted you to know that even some of us over at the 'speedy center' are feeling very much the same. It shouldn't be long now. Stay strong and soon we'll celebrate together!!!

I know it either... It's the reason you don't see me posting here. Like you I keep me busy ''till I'm exhausted... In fact it makes the things worse 'cause I get sad and down more easy as I'm tired. Bad thing for me is that I work online... so I'm able to check igor's list or uscis website all the time...
I'm sorry all to don't participate so much there. I just don't feel to do it. I know I'm already lucky being able to see my Love. Beside some of you there who can't.
But however... that wait is just the hardest thing I know

Hugs and kisses to you all

*hugs* I don't really have any words of wisdom to impart, but I do really hope that you all receive your NoA2s soon and that, when you do, you feel able to continue to post in this thread, because you'll be very much missed otherwise!

I don't have any wisdom to impart except take it one day at a time. It gets too overwhelming if you try to look too far into the future.

this is off topic but i cant help but burst out this ton of annoyance in my heart about me and my fiance's situation, we get too involve in arguments that arises due to the feeling of missing each other terribly! i feel hes working too much that he cant spare an energy to spend time with me (decently) i mean....yeah we talk everyday, but talkng for us means...saying hi hello, what happened to ur day today...blah blah...soon il b hearing a snore-y "i love you too" when i say i love you to him..

i feel like what the F@%@!!!!!! and when i try to vent out my feelings to him..he'll be reasoning out that he is working hard for us.

i really feel at the baddest with this! we tend to move on with our lives and forget what had happened bad and when something wrong rises up..it will bury cover the last bad issue we had! and so on....JUST BECAUSE WE ARE NOT SPENDING TIME ANYMORE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


the hell, this csc doing this week?????

Just having a mild 'eek do I really want to move to the US?' moment.

I have a couple of really fantastic friends here and I'm worried about having to begin friendships anew. I'm also not looking forward to having to sift through my belongings and work out what I want to sell and what I want to ship. I'm also concerned that items might be damaged or lost in the shipping; not that it'd be a disaster by any means - I don't really have anything precious - but it would be a pain. I have everything nicely set up as it is.

Also - and this is going to be hard to describe - I guess I'm feeling a lack of love lately. Not from Alex, I hasten to add, or from you guys in this thread. Just having a paranoid week where I keep wondering if I'm saying the right things, whether or not I've annoyed someone, whether people are secretly laughing behind my back; I know, it's ridiculous. Being all moody and tearful for no real reason.

*hug* It will all turn out alright. You're allowed to have those "eek" moments, I think I'd be worried about anyone who didn't have any! All of us, even the USCs just not to the same extent, are making huge changes in our lives and you have every right to hesitate and wonder sometimes. Just remember that you love him and that it will all be worth it in the end.

That's a really crappy catch 22 kind of situation. He needs to work to save up money and be settled when you get there...but you want to spend time together. Dennis and I are going through a similar thing...he needs to get his house ready for sale, but we want to spend time together. It's a little bit easier for us because we're only an hour apart timewise. Could you guys maybe set up one time a week where you dedicate a couple of hours to each other? Maybe on his days off?

I'm feeling the same way today. Its ups and downs. Didn't have alot of patience to begin with so this is a BIG test

I'm right there with you! I always say "Patience is just a word that people use to make it sound like a virtue when they're too weak to get what they want."

Yes thats a hard situation. You want to spend time together but also have to go on with your individual lives until your together.

Lol I like that Its got to be getting close........... sometimes I feel bad for complaining because some couples haven't seen each other in so long and we are much closer and see each other every few months but just so ready for this to be done!!!

I feel that way, too. I think CSC just needs to speed up and approve all of us!

Big YES on that one!!!! Still hoping for an October wedding so they better get it moving!

Dennis is hoping that his interview will be on August 15th, because that will be the anniversary of the first time we met in person. I hope it'll be sooner than that, but that's the crazy optimist in me.

I've read that Vancouver schedules about 30 days out. So, theoretically once we get the NOA2 we're about two months from having the visa in hand, depending on the CSC to NVC to Consulate time. Is Levi moving down as soon as you have the visa? Which POE are you guys using?

Ok thats not so bad... Yes as soon as we have the visa I'll fly up there and we'll drive down together. Can you go through any border crossing? If so then Emerson/Pembina would be the closest. Thats how I went when I drove up on vacation.

That's our plan exactly, you can go through any border crossing. We'll be going through Emerson/Pembina, too. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that they'll give us the temp EAD stamp. It's going to be driving Dennis CRAZY to not be able to work. He's already looking at potential employers and is planning on starting to apply as soon as we file the AOS/EAD/AP, even if he can't work yet.

Can everyone please remind me not to look at that USCIS site please!!!!!

Levi is the same way!!! Wants to work ASAP he's not used to doing nothing. I haven't heard one way or the other about the EAD stamp from that crossing but it sure would be nice!!! The border guards were a bit rude state side when I came through on the way home but what can ya do......

tnx so much for taking time to give suggestion..we are 14 hrs apart time wise, its like when hes fully up im sleepy dork and when he feels so dead tired im the one hus so ready to talk. we talk everyday though i just cant have a patience sometiems whenever i hear his voice sounds so tired when he talks to me..it gives me a feeling that hes not excited to tlk to me.

i love him so dearly.

well, i guess an NOA2 for us will swipe this negative vibes in an instant

Aww, don't worry Rachel, I am sure that everybody still loves you here at least I do! And so far nothing you've said annoyed me or made me laugh (at least not in a bad way)
I'm sure this is only temporary and you will feel better soon.
And i'm sure you will make lots of friends and your life in the US will be awesome. Your friends in the UK will want you to tell them everything you do. it won't be exactly as it is now, but they will remain your friends


I read your story and from what you say, you do understand the situation: you know that he is tired. He may not sound excited to talk to you but he probably is. But he's too tired to show it. Don't put to much stress on him. And don't stress yourself with that either. Show him that you understand how he feels. Here is an idea, but I don't know if you would both be willing to do so, but maybe you should talk only once every two days. That way, when you don't talk together he can go to bed and rest, and the next day when he talks with you he won't be as tired.


It's strange to see that everyone feels down at almost the same moment.

Really? they were really nice when we came across last time. And our situation was a little bit complicated because I flew in and out of Fargo and he came to pick me up....but they still waved us through after a few questions. I think it depends on what mood you catch them in.

Oh I'm sure thats true... Lol... I was coming across first thing in the morning so maybe he hadn't had his coffee yet. Just seemed to have a bit of an attitude when I said I had been there visiting my fiance.

oh yes i am the same on each of these........

Hello everyone, I've been out of the office driving all around the area on business - Chantal, I even drove through Carpentersville and it looks GREAT!

This has been the first time today I've been able to turn on the computer and, like everyone, I was disappointed at the lack of approvals - although the two approvals from November would probably disagree with that statement. I was lurking on this site for a good six months before I filed, and I've seen every type of emotional wave run through the threads here. There is absolutely no denying that this is a difficult process and one that not only asks for patience, but demands it. I've got as much right to be depressed about time and distance as anyone: I don't get to call my love every day, and no, webcams are not possible, and its been over 240 days since I saw her last.....yeah, I have justifiable grounds for depression and anger.

At various points in time I've had some pretty crappy things happen in my life that I've had to make it through even though at the time I did not know how I could. Please try to put this process in perspective, a week or 2 or 3 difference in approval time, in the grand scheme of things, is relatievely meaningless. We who have been forced to go through this approval process should know better than anyone that life is full of less than ideal circumstances. The point is, is that life will always challenge us with difficult situations from time to time, there is little to nothing that we can do as individuals to stop that. What we can do, however, is choose how we'll respond to the problem. Do we sink into a swamp of depression? Do we lash out in frustration at our friends, family, or fiancees? Do we feel sorry for ourselves or just run away from thinking about it? To be perfectly honest, to a greater or lesser extent I've been guilty of all of these from time to time, none of us are perfect. But the bottom line is what are we to do with this challenge - crumble or overcome. Believe me, patience is not one of my virtues, but I cannot fail or falter in this process - that is not an option.

This is, after all, just a process that will come to an end, perhaps not a ideally as we imagined, but it will come to an end nonetheless. I believe that if we all stay strong and positive, then in a year the fact that we had to wait will hardly be remembered. That we are active on this thread indicates that we are proactive people and stronger than perhaps we give ourselves credit for. We are the ones who are involved, searching, and attempting to understand how this thing works, and because we are such people, we should also remember that our SO's are probably counting on us quite a bit. So be strong, if only for the person you love. Be optimistic, if only to give calm to the person you will be spending the rest of your life with. Be forgiving to those around you who do not and can not understand everything you are feeling. This is but one test we will face as we move through life with our partners - my wish is that we handle this, and all future challenges, with love, determination and fortitude.

Bsides, I still think we'll get 20 January approvals this week

So much strength in your words...
God will not make bad things not to happen, he will only help us go through them.
You know, Blake, you are GOD'S eye and word and hand on this site...

I'm thinking about each of those who're still waiting for the approval. It's anytime now!

aravis, Cecile - thank you both so much. Hugs are especially welcome! I am feeling a lot more positive right now. Yes; my life in California will be awesome and I will make new friends. I'm determined to make that happen!

Blake - what an amazing post! I really do love this thread; it is so positive and full of words of wisdom and advice. It's hard to express exactly how much this thread has meant to me on my journey.

We'll all get through this together - I know that everyone here has helped me so much and I am grateful.

:::: picking self up:::::

:::: dusting self off:::::

:::: thanking blake for the wonderfully kind words::::


Whether big numbers are posted or not, we are all another day closer to being together. Thank you Blake.

Now let's get the mood in this thread back to our normal, spunky selves! Where's sunny when we need her?!

Haha feelin down myself like I posted above...but every day is a day closer so I will try to see that! I am sure as heck hoping to hear something this month! Memorial day here on Monday is not making me too hopeful though as I know all of CSC will be at BBQ's and what not.......grrrrrrrr don't they know we want to do those things with our loved ones? haha....
Gareth and I both have been not even in the mood to chat on the computer lately which is sad but gosh we are so over it. This weekend marks one year since we have been in one anothers arms That is hitting us both hard I think.
I am trying to stay busy though. I have plans for next weekend and then my daughter will be with her Dad the last week of May and then my birthday is the following weekend so will go out for that soooo just trying to keep things rolling!
This weekend nothing planned but beer and laundry though heh heh....
Tomorrow is Wednesday ahem one day closer to Friday....I am still sooooo damn tired from the Chicago trip this past weekend. I do not do well with lack of sleep.

Hey group, I think it's time for a group hug here to help us all. So here goes:

[[[[[[[[[[Everyone in this thread]]]]]]]]]]

And Blake, thank you for your words. They do help

PS: Levi_Heather, no looking at the USCIS site

I was total OCD when it came to the USCIS page, but I've found out that it's not something to rely on. I just found out today that our petition is at the Consulate and the USCIS site still says "Case received and pending" and it was last updated 2/24/08. So not only has it left CSC, been through NVC and is now sitting at the Consulate in Morocco. So I wouldn't worry so much about their page. They don't seem to be on top of keeping it updated.

That's a good point - actually, we've probably all been approved, but the CSC has just forgotten to tell us

Rock'n the gange at the CSC

Awwww thank you Blake and all.
Your words makes me feel a bit better.

It makes me smile Blake when you wrote that you saw Carpentersville, I miss home so much!
I love this place!

I have a kind of good news, yesterday, the guy who gonna to replace me at work arrived. Now my mission at work is to give him all my knowledge. It's another step. OK not the step I wait for... but. It's already something.

You know all, even if I don't write there, I'm not really depressed. It's just, I don't know how I feel. I have full of hopes and in the same time I try to forget the process but can't. So, you know what I mean. It's something you can't work on. I use to be able to fix the thing and stuffs. But now, the only thing we can do is waiting and hoping. And I don't use to sit and wait. It's for me the hardest thing.

I wish you all a wonderful day, and I cross my fingers like always (oh god we all gonna to get arthritis later) for a lot of approvals.

Hugs and kisses

really? so u how did you know that you're case has been approved?

Morning everyone and thanks for the hug Pandora I am trying to busy myself with getting all organized for next step. I have letter from job, and tax and bank stuff to get copies of. Also I read somewhere I need to send Gareth all the stuff I sent with I-129F too??? Is that true?! Oy vey how many copies of this crap do they need seriously? hahaha.....

it makes me think..not just us who are registered here in VJ are being processed by the uscis..i guess there are also alot of couples out there who filed for a K1 that arent known to vj.

so 10-20 or more approvals from the csc can be possible..who knows maybe for a day they can approve 50

First off all, thanks for the heads up Blake.. nice post you made there



Not only that but I am wondering how they can take the NOA2 with them to the consulate? I mean, I read somewhere they might need it, no? :S



Yep, thats what I was thinking and also when I look at the approvals that has been taken place, it shows that most of the people updated days after the initial approval. This could indicate that the website of USCIS isn't showing any approvals at the moment and that people have to wait for their NOA2's in the mailbox.

Good Morning All.

From what I've read on the subject the VJ filers represent around 5% of the total number of k-1 filers. But it's impossible to really know because the USCIS does not publish detail statistics on approvals by service center.

I don't think you need to send all the stuff you sent with the I-129f. The interviewer has the right to ask for the original of any document you sent a copy of in your initial application. So, if you sent a copy of a divorce decree they could ask to see the original. "Could Ask" doesn't mean they "will" but to that extent, better safe than sorry.

Good afternoon!

sunnybear - as Blake says I wouldn't think you'd need to send a copy of the entire package, but the original divorce decree is something that is often asked for. To be on the safe side I'd also include the originals of any evidence of your relationship that you sent in, too. It's rarely asked for at the interview but I feel it's better to be safe than sorry.

Keeping my fingers crossed for you all this week!

I haven't managed to inquire about vaccinations yet and Alex hasn't managed to send me the affidavit of support yet. I asked him about it this morning and he said, 'I'll send it next week.' That's what he said last week!

Is there anything we absolutely have to do between the NoA2 and receiving packet 3? I mean, if I do nothing, will packet 3 just turn up in my letterbox one day?

Yup, it just arrives without you having to lift a finger. Have you got all your information together yet? The police cert takes the longest I hear (In the Ukraine it can take up to two months), so if not, then you might want to get crack'n on that.

OK, just to prime the pump a little bit, here is the list of January remaining and approvals as of this morning. Let's get some good karma rolling with the US postal service - time to deliver.


Remaining 67.1%......... Approved 32.9%

Name……………. Filing Date
Remaining

1 Ayako & Nathan 01-01
2 Belen & Tim 01-02
3 Ten & DJ 01-03
4 Thanh & Cao 01-04
5 Lili & Matt 01-05
6 PT & J 01-07
7 Ajay & Komal 01-07
8 Matt & Robin 01-08
9 Maria Ameliza & Eric 01-09
10 Judee Anne & Reynaldo 01-09
11 Irina & Zubzare 01-10
12 Hazel & Ben 01-10
13 Sarah & Rudi 01-12
14 Bruno & Carol 01-12
15 Russell & Dakotah 01-14
16 jj & sh 01-15
17 Elena & Sergey 01-15
18 Liberty & Phillip 01-15
19 jen & jay 01-16
20 Hilda & Chris 01-16
21 Mitchell & Joy 01-16
22 Steph & Gareth 01-17
23 Myriam & Gary 01-17
24 Oscar & Joselyn 01-17
25 Marina & Eugene 01-17
26 Agatha & Robert 01-17
27 VRP & SK 01-18
28 Levi & Heather 01-19
29 gabbie & erv 01-22
30 Busch & Eric 01-22
31 Chris & Therese 01-23
32 nr123 & nm123 01-23
33 Laura & Scott 01-23
34 Joanna & Dale 01-23
35 Lean & Emil 01-23
36 Nick & Sarah 01-23
37 yan & isa 01-24
38 a & o 01-24
39 Greivin & Courtney 01-24
40 Jeroen & Michelle 01-24
41 Lucie & Damon 01-24
42 Olga & Blake 01-25
43 Lea & Ron 01-25
44 jennie & matthew 01-25
45 Paul & Joanna 01-25
46 Rymma & Vadim 01-25
47 WE & CE 01-25
48 Supida & Supida 01-25
49 Lena & Val 01-29
50 Susan & Chris 01-30
51 Ersila & Ilir 01-30
52 Mary & Carl 01-30
53 Benny & Cassi 01-31
54 Ge & Haibo 01-31
55 Richel & Michael 01-31
*mailed in Dec.
Approved
1 Gerald & Vinera__________01-04----04-22
2 Bing & John______________01-12----05-02
3 Shirley & Steven__________01-07----05-02
4 J & Paulie________________01-04----05-02
5 Rosi & Chuck____________01-04----05-02
6 Hesham & Tanya__________01-14----05-02
7 Pamela & Joshua__________01-11----05-05
8 Eliciana & Benjamin________01-11----05-05
9 Robe & Victoria___________01-09----05-06
10 Wayne & Nueng*_________01-01----05-06
11 Yuliya & Brian___________01-03----05-10
12 Rachel & Alex____________01-11----05-07
13 Relyn & Patrick*__________01-01----05-06
14 Plami & Krasi____________01-01----05-07
15 WW & MM______________01-12----05-07
16 Paola & Chris____________01-04----05-06
17 Zrinka & Eric____________01-05----05-07
18 Badr & Aimee*___________01-01----05-08
19 Stacy & Jonathan*________01-01----05-09
20 Erica & Scott_____________01-12----05-12
21 Cecile & Bryan___________01-02----05-13
22 Portia & Tony*___________01-01----05-14
23 Bryant & Aliona*__________01-01----05-14
24 Stephan & Alissa__________01-04----05-13
25 Raghu & Swathi*__________01-01----05-12
26 Shaun & Angie____________01-15----05-19
27 Ali & Natalie______________01-09----05-15

Not yet, but the new police certificate they have just released in the UK takes a maximum ten days to arrive; many people have been receiving it in four-five days. It's only valid for six months, not a year, so I was going to send off for it once packet 3 arrived.

And come on US postal system!

lol, that's one thing that's already laying around, waiting for a date and signature... unfortunately only my fiance's version is ready though.. we want her mom to cosponsor (just in case since she only has one year of tax returns) but we didn't get her to do it yet (she is really busy lately so its understandable but yah, it would be great if she had it close to finished too hehe).