lunabean,
My story is very similar to yours. I met my fiancee in San Jose in Feb 2006. Once it got serious about 15 months later, we tried the tourist visa route so she can come to NY and see what it's like and meet my family. Of course, she was denied (they approve like 3 out of 100 people) and was crushed. It's almost impossible to get a tourist visa from a "developing" (aka poor) country. I too have visit her a lot in the mean time (16 trips in 2+ years) while we were deciding what to do and waiting for the k-1 approval. She originally did not want to move to the US, and wanted me to move there, but that's impossible for me since I work in the financial services industry.
So she too has never met anybody from my family, other than seeing them thru chat webcam. Regardless, we decided to file the K-1 anyway in January of this year at VSC, and she had her interview last Friday (I flew down to join her) and picked up her visa a couple of days ago. Luckily, our k-1 process went super-fast, the whole thing took less than 3 months from start to finish. I'm still a little shocked, I expected it to go into the fall.
I'm flying down May 17th to pick her up and we're coming back home on May 19th for good. I'm glad she's not coming in November, that would not have been fun (for her)....brrrrrrrrrr
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