I suspected something was up so I installed a software on my computer to track email and messenger. She is professing her love to someone and making plans to flee in the country. ...
Robert

Just a thought, is that legal? I mean installing programs to track e-mail and messenger? Can you use it against her without causing you any problems later? Cuz if that's not legal you have nothing to do but talk to her, you won't be able to use that as evidence of anything and she'll use that against you.

I am embarressd to post time but my fiancee is here from Bogota and think here under false pretenses. I suspected something was up so I installed a software on my computer to track email and messenger. She is professing her love to someone and making plans to flee in the country. If I book here a return flight to Bogota do I need to escort her home. The flight has a connection in Houston. If her plan is to flee she could run at the airport or never make the connection in Houston is flying by herself. I can not belive this is happening but what is my responsibilty to make sure she leaves the country? Wow a almost a year to get a visa, and one week to find out it is all bogus.

Thanks for your help/advice

Robert

It's his computer, he can do whatever he wants. Companies are free to use this type of software on their employees, you are certainly free to use it on your own computer, regardless of who is using it. It's completely legal.

Now if you use information captured this way for illegal purposes - that's another story entirely.

A wife who installed spyware on her husband's computer to secretly record evidence of an extramarital affair violated state law.
http://news.com.com/Court+Wife+broke+law+w..._3-5577979.html
Don't worry, there are plenty of fish in the sea

ah so i was right, not crazy it is a crime. Interesting, i wonder in how many states it's a crime.

You see the evidence for yourself so she's got no leg to stand on. She living a lie. Get rid of her and move on. She is just using you.

I am embarressd to post time but my fiancee is here from Bogota and think here under false pretenses. I suspected something was up so I installed a software on my computer to track email and messenger. She is professing her love to someone and making plans to flee in the country. If I book here a return flight to Bogota do I need to escort her home. The flight has a connection in Houston. If her plan is to flee she could run at the airport or never make the connection in Houston is flying by herself. I can not belive this is happening but what is my responsibilty to make sure she leaves the country? Wow a almost a year to get a visa, and one week to find out it is all bogus.

Thanks for your help/advice

Robert

A wife who installed spyware on her husband's computer to secretly record evidence of an extramarital affair violated state law.

http://news.com.com/Court+Wife+broke+law+w..._3-5577979.html



Don't worry, there are plenty of fish in the sea

Wow..this sucks.

I assume that you meant that she is fleeing to be with someone who is already here in the US, and for some reason could not petition for her.

She is a grown adult. Let her flee all by herself at the other guy's expense.

Just report her to Immigration on what happened.

She thinks she can run off to some other guy....she is in for the big surprize. This guy will never be able to do anything to make her legal...never!!! you won.

She cannot adjust status to anyone else based upon the law. YOU ACTUALLY WON in the end.

Just make sure that you report her to the proper authority and let her go. sucks now but you will get the last laugh.

good luck to you.

She put the software on her HUSBANDS computer. The OP installed the software on HIS computer. She's not even his wife yet. There was no law broken.

depends on the particular state law. as he is in washington, it seems such is against the law.
the below link cites a case where parents cannot even put it on the computer their kids use.
http://prologue.typepad.com/lifes_prologue...lds_right_.html

You can call the USCIS National Customer Service Center at 800-375-5283. Give the receptionist who answers your call a brief description of what happened and ask them to transfer you to an Immigration Agent. You call will be transfered and you can tell your story to the agent and go from there.

I tried to view the link, but it's giving me an error....if you could try it again, I'd really like to read it!

A wife who installed spyware on her husband's computer to secretly record evidence of an extramarital affair violated state law.

http://news.com.com/Court+Wife+broke+law+w..._3-5577979.html



Don't worry, there are plenty of fish in the sea

just make sure the next fish is within a decade of your age and you probbly won't have this problem next time.

yeah i apoligize, but still it is something that should be considered in the future.

just make sure the next fish is within a decade of your age and you probbly won't have this problem next time.

I am embarressd to post time but my fiancee is here from Bogota and think here under false pretenses. I suspected something was up so I installed a software on my computer to track email and messenger. She is professing her love to someone and making plans to flee in the country. If I book here a return flight to Bogota do I need to escort her home. The flight has a connection in Houston. If her plan is to flee she could run at the airport or never make the connection in Houston is flying by herself. I can not belive this is happening but what is my responsibilty to make sure she leaves the country? Wow a almost a year to get a visa, and one week to find out it is all bogus.

Thanks for your help/advice

Robert

Not to be nosy or anything but; how did you guys meet? Did you get to know her well before you started the K1 process?

Hey, it doesn't matter how long he knew her for or didn't. My ex-wife tried to pull the same trick on me after 1 year and a half of dating IN PERSON!

just make sure the next fish is within a decade of your age and you probbly won't have this problem next time.

First: document, document, document. If you have evidence on the computer, record it. Print it out. Make sure it is datestamped. If there are phone calls on your phone bill, keep records of them. Do this on an ongoing basis, to build up as much evidence of what is going on as is possible. This is to protect yourself should she in future decide to claim abuse against you or some other method of legally staying in the US.

Second: Once you have no question of what is actually going on, confront her. Find out her intentions. You never know, she may decide to capitulate and stay with you - although whether or not you would want to stay with her would likely be in doubt.

Third: Contact USCIS. Tell them your situation. Describe to them the evidence you have. Tell them you expect her to flee and overstay. Tell them she entered using a fraudulent K-1, and that you are the unknowing USC petitioner. USCIS takes a VERY DIM VIEW of fraud. They will do one of three things:

- nothing
- deport her (probably expedited removal)
- charge her with fraud, and then deport her (probably expedited removal)

No matter what, protect yourself. Remember, you are the victim at this point, and you need to do everything you can to protect yourself. And the best way you have right now is to document EVERYTHING.

I think it is perfectly OK to point out that older men in this country are putting a loaded pistol to their head and hoping it doesn't go off when getting involved with a much younger woman from overseas. The chances for fraud are greater than the chances she is honest and loves you. This is just a simple fact that cannot be avoided.

Of course, that doesn't change the pain Robert is going through and my heart goes out to him. I hope she gets her @ss deported because that is what she deserves.

just make sure the next fish is within a decade of your age and you probbly won't have this problem next time.

Another one of those incredibly stupid comments!

Once again, bigoted opinon based on nothing more than narrow minded prejudice.

Another one of those incredibly stupid comments!

Once again, bigoted opinon based on nothing more than narrow minded prejudice.

What the heck is wrong with some people?????
Matt, you might think that fraudulent visa applicants only come in ONE age group, sex and nationality-but they don't.

Where in his post does Matt say that "fraudulent visa applicants only come in ONE age group, sex and nationality"? Is it insensitive to merely point out the fact that fraud happens more often in cases with certain characteristics than others? Come on!

Yeah-Matt didn't say ONE Nationality...etc...I stand corrected.

However; i still stand by my basic point I believe it IS insensitive to point it out to someone who obviously is hurting, feeling let down and going through all kinds of stuff right now.

Fraudulent visas are a fact of life...but not just limited to people with ages differences.

I still think it was insensitive and pointless of both Matt and Ryecatcher to use Robert's misfortune to point this out. that's all.
But thank you for correcting me....