How many person here has had or is thinking about Pre-marital counseling? If not ...why? If so... was it helpful?

We did six weeks of it, mostly to put my parents' minds at ease. We enjoyed it though, learned even more about each other and went over some basics about conflict resolution, money management, etc. Personally, I'd recommend it, but only if both partners are cool with it and the counselor is unbiased (tricky when there are two religions/cultures represented). My husband had never heard of it, but he agreed and later said he got more out of it than he'd expected.

My husband and I did it...and we loved it! Learned a few more things and confirmed a lot...mainly that we definately are right for each other. Just MHO of course, as always.

i am doing it now....and it is quite helpful even though i thought i knew my fiancee so well. i would recommend it to everyone.

Nope. We lived together for a year in Russia. Pre-marital practice, if you will. I am not a big believer in counseling.

Counselling can be GREAT for a couple and if it is offered I can't see what harm it will do to you. In most genuine relationships it can only enhance or reaffirm the relationship and make you even more sure that you are supposed to be together. But it can also be handy in teaching you things that might not come naturally like money management and stuff like that.

Some people don't have the gift of being able to live with one another first of all so if counselling is offered, and you are both willing, I say go for it. I also think that in many states it is compulsory to have pre-marital counselling before they issue the marriage license ( if you decline you have to wait for the license - normally 2 weeks or something).

We had to do marriage preparation through my church, which was either six weeks of class or one retreat weekend. I found it to be a waste of time, but lots of the other couples there said they got a lot out of it.

good idea, do it in his or her home country would be best.... IMO dont want to leave that out.