His Highness El-Ron of the planet Nuttopia says no.

Maybe I am! I gotta check it out

That's probably the fifth or sixth time (at least) I've seen the fields of psychology and psychiatry confused for one another in this thread. If you're going to use the terms, at least get your facts straight (and for the record, I'm not singling you out, Steven -- you're just the most recent offender).

Psychologists hold a PhD or PsyD whereas psychiatrists are medical doctors and therefore have an MD. The major difference? Psychiatrists can prescribe medication and in fact, generally perform very little therapy; they certainly don't run psychological tests. Most major therapy and all psychological testing are the clinical domain of psychologists.

Well, recent in a quarterly-report kind of way.

Hubby is the only one working (works 2 jobs actually). I have done a budget, and I control paying the bills and letting him know if there is money to spend or not, generally not a lot to go around but all the bills are paid. Once I start working that money will go into my chequing account to pay off debts, like my car loan and his truck loan and if all goes well the mortage all of which will be early. He is good with that, of course he would love to buy a Wii, but the big joke here is that it isn't in the budget (he complains nothing he wants is and what I do is, but what I want is for the house so I figure that is different). I buy things and it is never a problem as he can see the big picture of getting things paid off in 5 years and being absolutely debt free. And besides his birthday is in the summer so by then I am hoping to get him a Wii then (as it will be in the budget) LOL.

Money has nothing to do with the original posters problem. Communication skills are the root of their problems. He has baggage from his previous relationship. She needs to be a little more understanding in where the real problem is and not use threats in the heat of a dissagreement. Each couple has to figure out the best way to manage their money but the IDEAL way is everything is equal and each person is more concerned for the other than themselves. Selflessness is the cure for selfishness.
Churches offer free counsulling if they don't have the money. They both need to decide right now that they are going to learn better skills for dealing with issues or they are going down a rough road with their marriage.

It is okay for you to worry about it... Personally since I married my husband, I never stayed at home.. He met me when I was working at the restaurant, and then I found a nice office job.. I have always worked because I have family to support on.. I guess it is a cultural thing that we need to reciprocate all the things they have done for us in the past by helping them. You know frankly, t is not easy for us to do that, because we think about our spouses too, on what they will feel about it. but we have no choice sometimes..I discussed my situation to my husband before marrying me.. I even discouraged him even before that he will marry my whole family too.. (I was just joking to him but its true) I have my 70 yrs old parents that I am supporting....but still he wanted to marry me..

In my case I can rather choose not to work so I can spend time more with my son but I preferred to work, so my husband does not worry on financial things..I do not want to depend my personal responsibilities on him.. We both work overseas.. and been living here for 4 years now... You may want to try working in middle east country just to get ahead.. I always ask him first when I want to buy something, he does not care but stilll I feel he has the right to know. I know I am cheap when it comes to buying things, even I have a good job that pays more, I still have difficulties of buying expensive stuff. Maybe I am just being smart, or I dont want people to think I changed the way I used to be..


My only guess is that maybe your wife is getting bored, let her find a job so she can focus and realize how to make money in the US.

we have our own money.