QUOTE(Gwen666 @ Jan 21 2008, 02:24 PM)

Yes, I know. I've done this twice.
My husband has been cautioned once in the past. we have requested the police report twice - the correct one, as we have been approved twice - and the caution does not show.
I apologise if I gave offence by implying you didn't have the knowledge, it's just that so many people are confused over the difference. I feel a bit better talking to someone who's
been through the same situation as me.
However please understand that I am in serious inner turmoil over this. The mistake of youth never goes away. The shame of what I did will be with me until my grave. To make
matters so very worse, the crime was of a sexual nature (no I didn't rape anyone, you don't get a caution for rape). It is for this that I can't just get a disclosure since my wife may
see it if it *does* appear because the disclosure must be sent to my home address.
Does that have any bearing?