FELIZ ANIVERSARIO Charity y Javier! I hope all is going well with your appointment and that we'll be hearing good news very soon!

Seems like man trouble is a sickness going around...I hope things improve very soon for all of you having troubles. Trust me, we've been there. We're actually doing well right now-seems like we shine in the face of adversity, lol!

Hope everyone has a wonderful day and if you get a chance, say a quick prayer that we'll hear something about the Advisory Opinion!

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happy anniversary!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Relationships are definitely work! But well worth it. When you know you are with the right person who will always respect and love you, a few bumps in the road aren’t too bad. It’d be nice if there were no bumps but then where would the excitement be….and make-up laundry?????????????

I just talked to Charity...everything went well at her appointment. They did a few preliminary tests and some bloodwork. So far, everything appears normal. They are waiting on the results of the blood test in a few days and then they have to go back for a few more tests. They're getting ready to have their anniversary dinner down there at a Mexican restaurant.

Hey guys guess what?????? we might be getting a baby??????????? Somebody is considering us to give their baby up for adoption. Pray hard that if it is MEANT to be that we do get to adopt it.

Ashley: That is wonderful news. I will keep you guys in my prayers.

Charity: Glad to hear everything went well at the Drs. Hopefully the news you get will be good----that there will not be a problem or they will know exactly how to fix it. Make sure you let us know. By the way, how was your anniversary. Did you do plenty of laundry? I submitted your ticker stuff this morning, it says it takes them a few days to approve, guess we just need to wait to see.

Stephanie: I know relationships are work, thankfully I did not go into this thinking it was going to be a piece of cake. But sometimes it just feels like I am the only one in the relationship that is working at it.

Melissa: Have you heard anything yet from the Advisory Board? I just want to make sure that I understand, if you do not hear anything from them you are still going to go to Mexico and get married in August, is that right???



OH by the way, I think I am feeling those first little flutters.

Thanks everyone for the Anniversary good wishes. We had an awesome time.

Ashley: That's great news. I hope things work out for you and Tacho.

Benita: Thanks for making my ticker for me. Now we just sit back and wait. Unfortunately, we didn't get any laundry done yesterday. We didn't get home until after 9 and Javier was really tired. He was asleep before 10. We'll just have to do it today I guess.

I'm glad the appointment turned out well too. I almost hope there is a problem with the blood tests because then at least they can fix it. And we found this awesome Mexican restaurant to eat at. They had pastel de cuatro leches. It was heaven. I think we will be eating there each time we go to the doctor.

Everyone have a great Friday!

Charity…Glad everything turned out o.k. and you were able to eat a good meal. When do you find out about the tests? I hope you don’t have to wait too long. Take care and have a good weekend.

Benita…I totally agree.

Ashley…WOW! How did that come about? When will you find out for sure?

Take care everyone!!

Stephanie: I didn't even ask them how long it would take. He said they would probably only call me if there was a problem, so if I don't hear anything that's good news. I just hope it's something simple and won't take a lot to fix. Have a good weekend too.

Somebody that i am very close to is pregnant and they were using protection but her boyfriend broke the condom intentionally wout her knowing about it. Well since then he told her he did it because he was worried she was gonna leave him but told her that now he doesnt give a damn! She wanted to get an abortion but it is too late so she is considering adoption. She is a family member but shes only 19 , doesnt have a job and does even have a high school diploma. either way we will be here for he and take care of her as much as we can so keep us in your prayers .

That is so admirable Ashley! You are a true friend to this woman and I am sure she is very appreciative. Either way if you will become the baby's parents or just as a supportive family member...that baby is very lucky to have someone like you and Tacho in its lives.

take care!

I am sorry I haven't posted in awhile.I have been out of sorts and basically I feel like such an idiot.
My marriage has ended and I have been depressed and angry at myself because I should have known because I sensed a change in him way back but I thought that it was just this immigration stuff that had him so distant towards me.But since he came home he has trested me like a puta slave.I was getting by on 3-4 hours of sleep because he had me doing stuff around the house and for him at all sorts of times.Like making him coffee and something to eat at 2-3 a.m.Cleanong the bathroom after someone else used it because he didn't want any germs.Hey on Easter Sunday I cleaned the bathroom 3 times while everyone else celebrated and on Mothers Day I mowed the whole yard because according to him it is my house not his.Oh and I forgot after raising Joshua since he was born by myself I am a bad mother!
Nothing I ever did was right according to him.
After getting up with Joshua at 4 a.m. one day and doing all the housework and the yard work and making him homemade tortillas,doing the laundry I asked him nicely if he would give Joshua a bath for me and he said no that it was my job,so I did and after getting Joshua to sleep and doing the dishes I ended up going to bed at 1:15 a.m. and then he wanted sex.
I tried to be patient with him ,one day I asked him why he never held me or kissed me he told me that "A las putas no se les hase eso"(You don't do that to whores")
He told me that all I was to him was a whore that ,that's why he came to me-to make me his whore .
But now he wants Joshua.He says he has more of a right to him and that I will not be a good mother to him.
I can't believe all this is happening to me.After spending 5-6 thousand dollars on his immig.stuff he treated me like I owed him!!
Now I am in a hole big time all because I was so stupid.I believed in him---
I am about to lose my only vehicle and all my bills are one-two months behind!
I am so ashamed of myself ....My heart aches so much because I love him but I have filed for divorce already and I know that I will never take him back.He got what he wanted out of me but he will NEVER take Joshua.
He called me the other day and wanted to come back so I had to change my number.
I asked my atty what to do and he said that he could only stay here in U.S. 2 years thats when the visa expires after that he is illegally here.
Thank goodness I waited to send in for the CR-1.
The only downside is that we are still legally binded to him because my sister and her husband signed the co-sponsor form.God how stupid am I?
Aside from the fact that I feel stupid,dumb,lonely ,depressed angry,mad,sad I am doing ok .I will be ok ...I have to be for my own sanity and for Joshua.
So I apologize for not posting ..I have had my head stuck in the sand.
I hope you all are doing better.

Damn, Marta what's his phone number? I have a few things I would LOVE to tell him. Most of them are inappropriate for me to post on this forum...I'm sorry this has happened to you. I have to give you a lot of credit for handling yourself so well throughout it all (I probably would done something to land myself in jail). Your son is BLESSED to have you as a mom, and you will get through this even if it's difficult right now. Just forget this pinche pedazo de nada-you're soooo much better off without him.

Marta: Melissa took the words right out of my mouth. You are a wonderful mother just for getting your child away from someone like that. He certainly doesn't need to grow up with that kind of influence in his life. Stay strong and know that we are always here for you no matter what. Good luck!

Marta…I am sorry to hear everything you have been through but you are better off without him! You deserve respect and love…not to be treated the way you were. I am so happy you have filed for divorce and happy that soon he won’t be able to be here legally but while he IS here legally…you might want to check into getting child support. Take him to the cleaners Marta. You deserve the best.

And finally, NONE OF THIS IS YOUR FAULT. You entered the marriage and the immigration process thinking a certain way and it is not your fault that he changed who he was. Don’t accept his wrongdoings as your fault or something you could have changed or seen. Sh*t happens and we learn from it. You will become a stronger person moving on with your son and thankfully little Joshua won’t learn to be a man from your ex. You are a good mom, Marta. Think of you and your son. If you need to move or sell a vehicle, you can do it. So what if you will live in a smaller place or have not such a nice car for a while…you will be the winner because you will have done it yourself!

Please take care and keep in touch. We all care about you.

Marta: Since I am #3 responding to your message then I can tell you that I agree with both Melissa and Charity. You are doing a wonderful job with Joshua, a judge would be out of their mind to give custody to his father. And while I believe that we should be there for our husbands at all times, it is a differnt kind of "there", not the kind that makes you scrub out the bathroom or get up to cook for them at 2am. You and Joshua deserve better. Joshua is being affected by this, so yes you getting out of this situation is probably the best thing for both of you.
No way will any daughter of mine end up being a slave and if I have a boy he will be the kind of boy that you want your daughters to marry. I don't want my son raised like Alex was, thinking his mother had to do everything for him. I believe in raising children to respect, but also not to be disrespected. I can not believe that he has been treating you that way. I hope that he does not find a way to adjust status himself. Can you contact USCIS to get yourself and your family removed as sponsors from his applications?

Good luck and remember that you can always come out here, I know that you can always count on our group to support you when you need it. They have always been there for me.

Marta, you may-although I'm not certain, so check on this-be relieved of your obligations as sponsor once you have divorced.

No way (unfortunately). It says very clearly on the I-864 that divorce does NOT resolve the obligation.

That said, Marta, I'm very sorry to hear about your situation, and I do hope things improve for you. *hug*

Good Morning Everyone. I know it is only Tuesday, but I believe we can all make it to the end of the week. I am trying very hard to keep a positive attitude. The only thing that is helping me is the Holiday on Monday , so at least next week will only be a 4 day week.

Come out and play......

Benita: We don't get Memorial Day here. They give it to us at another time of the year. So I have a whole week next week. Although, I guess I shouldn't complain since I'm off Thurs. and Fri. of this week. I hope things are going better for you. Maybe some others will come out and play soon.

Have a great day everyone!

-sigh- I don't even know why I bother. Better to just let people be and allow them to learn from their own mistakes.

No one comes out to play anymore.

I'm here! That's all that matters, right?!? I have been kinda busy at work today trying to get some stuff done before I leave for the week. I won't be out to play any the rest of the week so someone else will have to play with you. So, what do you want to play?

Yeah Im here also Benita! Just come on here and read basically but there has not been much to read lately. Melissa??? Whats going on????

Where's everyone been? Just wanted to wish everyone a happy Memorial Day weekend!

Marta, I'm glad you are rid of him. You deserve better, girl. Don't let no one disrespect you or treat you like sh&t. Take it from me I lived it for years with my 1st husband. You want someone that will treat you like the Queen you are, and my darling you are a Queen.

Sorry I haven't popped in lately, I have been so busy oh, and besides my keyboard was not working and I was to lazy to go to Walmart and buy one. I have been working two jobs in order to get ready to lay low in Mexico. I did not have time for much, and I am tired all the time but hey I'm leaving in 4 days. I'm driving to Dallas dropping off the kids at the airport so they can stay for the summer with their dad in El Paso. I will stay briefly in Dallas go through San Antonio and on to Nuevo Laredo, where I will meet my Alberto and he will sweep me off my feet.

Bonnie: I think we have all been busy. Or at least that's what it seems like by the posting.

I guess since all the men are home we have all gotten other things to occupy our time. I never was on much at home, mostly at work so I'm still able to get on here during the day. I have a lot of down time. I guess some of the other's aren't as lucky. Maybe we will get back in the groove of things soon. I'm actually on more than I post, I just don't post anything because I think I would be talking to myself. Maybe someone else will come along soon.

I hope everyone is having a most excellent day. It is absolutely beautiful here. You couldn't ask for better weather.

Well, I don't post mostly because I don't really have anything exciting to say. I have also been really busy at work and in general (even though my man's not home), I've got my friend's wedding coming up in July, my trip to Mexico in August, so those things have been keeping me pretty busy. Hope everyone's doing well.

Hope everyone has had a nice holiday! Luvyas!

hola girls.... long time no see eh!!! Just wanted to drop by and say hi and tell you girls I will be out of the internet loop for about 2 weeks. Have fun and see ya later alligators!!

Elvia: So glad you got to drop in and say hello. I've missed ya!!! I hope the internet thing isn't a big deal. Come back and say hello again once you get back on line. I hope everything is going good for you. Don't be a stranger. You have fun too!

I hope everyone else is having a great day today. I have been super busy at work since the other cashier is out today. I've only been on VJ twice today. You all be good and talk at you later.

Please keep me in your thoughts .... I think ive ruined my marriage yesterday!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11

Okay Ashley you can't just get on here and say you think you've ruined your marriage and then leave. What's going on? I hope everything is okay. I would hate to see another relationship end on here. There have been too many. I will be keeping you in my thoughts. Please let us know how things are going.

Charity I sent you a pm. I JUST WANT TO DIE!

Ashley: I sent you one back. I'm here if you need to talk.

I pm you again. I cant believe i let this happen!

Ashley: Everything will be just fine. Just don't get too excited and worried. A lot of people have been through this. Just know I am keeping you in my thoughts and I hope everything works out. If you need anything else, let me know.

I almost forgot to tell you all, I'm going back to the doctor for the dye test on Monday. The appointment is at 12:30 so we will have to leave here around 9:30. We probably won't be home until late in the day depending on how long the test takes. I will let everyone know how it turns out.

Where is everyone at???????????????????????????????????????

my best friend is trying to get me baker acted now! great.

Well Elvia said she would be without the internet for a couple of weeks. I've seen Melissa on here but she must not be posting anything. I haven't seen Benita on today. And Stephanie hasn't posted anything in a while now. I guess everyone is just busy. Or maybe they decided to take a break for a while. I don't know. Hopefully we haven't made anyone mad and caused them to leave. I think it's just that everyone has gotten busier with work and family and such. I know in the summer people tend to take more time off work and do things outside and whatever. It was so nice on here when everyone was on and we could post and post about different things. It's almost gotten to where I don't even post anything because I don't think anyone is reading or if they are reading they aren't interested. It's starting to seem like a waste to even post anything. No one replies most of the time. Maybe it will get back to normal soon. If not, I guess I will eventually move on because I'm not going to sit here and talk to myself.

I hope this forum doesnt die completely as it has been such a help to me.

HOLA, HOLA

I am writing from HOT and DRY El Paso...... Yes ladies I am oficially moved
Happy birthday to me and welcome back

Elvia: I'm so glad you are moved and it's all behind you. I know everything will work out just fine. Plus, now maybe we will have someone to talk to on here. Everyone has left us. I hope to see you soon.

For everyone else who might read but doesn't seem to be posting anything: I went to my drs. appt yesterday for the dye test. My tubes were blocked but have now been unblocked. He said he doesn't expect us to have any more problems but I am to call him if I have two cycles and we will see if there are any other options to explore. He doesn't forsee me calling him. (keeping fingers crossed he's right) I was glad to find out my tubes were blocked because that gave us a reason. I thought we would go down there and they wouldn't be blocked and we would be wondering what in the heck was wrong. So, that's my latest update and hopefully my last one until I can add me another ticker at the bottom.

I hope everyone has a great day!

Congrats Charity hopefully well be hearing youre pregnant soon! Everything for me is going better . The week was pure hell up until yesterday . Im on my way to work ill keep yall posted. thanks again for all your advice.

Charity.... that is great news..... You will be having a little one in no time..... don't worry. I forsee being a VJ auntie again.

Well it is hot here and we are finally settled in. We had to get a storage space until we buy a garage so we can store my washer and dryer and some other stuff. It is so good to finally come back to the place that saw me grow up . We are doing excellent with the move since we are together it doesn't seem to have affected us that much. I am hoping to find a job soon so I will be hunting today.

Thanks guys!!! I hope you all are VJ aunties soon too.

Ashley: I'm glad things are looking up for you. Keep us posted on how things are going. I knew it would be just fine. Just remember it will take a while to get back to normal again.

Elvia: You better get to working girl. I'm glad you are so happy. I hope you find a job soon and it's something you really enjoy. Hopefully you can find a place of your own soon too. It's wonderful that you get to stay with Raul through this whole process. It should make it much less stressful and easier to deal with. I'm glad you won't have to go through the whole re-acquainting process like the rest of us. I just hope you get your appointment soon so you can move on with everything.

I know.... this not working stuff sucks.... I have only been here since Friday but I feel like I am in prison with out actually having a job. At this rate I would go work at wal mart if I had to. Dad just installed direct tv so now Dante and Raul have been watching the TV all the time. LOL Oh well asi son

Well I went to lunch today and low and behold I had a ticket on my windshield. Javier had taken my hang tag down and forgotten to put it back up. It's only a $5 ticket but it just aggravates me. His excuse for taking it down was we were on vacation. As if the hang tag was impeeding our vacation excitement or something. Sometimes I just don't get it.

Hi everyone. Want to stop in and say Happy Birthday to Elvia and congrats on the move!

In case anyone wants to know, we never heard anything back from the guy who was looking at our Advisory Opinion and on Saturday, we're transferring the first payment to the wedding place, so no turning back at that point. Hope all are doing well.