when you see Esperanza give her a big hug and wish her the best. plus there is no need to look back on waiting there or here you are together now and that should be the best feeling ever. I am green with envy (the good kind) knowing that you are all moving on with your lifes with none of this immigration crap over your shoulders.

Don't be too envious of us. We are still dealing with it. Our immigration nightmare won't be over until after we remove conditions. That is a headache in itself. I am still thinking of you because I know what you have ahead of you and I want everything to be just perfect for you and Raul. I know it will all be okay.

It is an awesome circle of friends that I have come across thru my journey that is probably what has kept me with out going insane. That and the fact that I work in a place where a therapist is always available to me. Sometimes I panic and think I won't make it but at the end of the day I know I will.

Yeah, you will make it. I am as looney as they come and if I made it, anyone can. You will be just fine and we will all be here to help you through it. That's what friends are for.

I can't sleep!!! and I have to go to grade schools to present a program.... ARGH

I was wondering what you were doing up posting on here at that hour. Well since you have to do a presentation I am sure you won't be here this morning but maybe you will later. Good luck and I hope it went well. Thanks for all your help yesterday. Javier is really excited and he even liked the coupon idea. Hopefully it will work out just fine. I know it will be hard for a while but we will get used to it. Thanks again!

Hope everyone has a good Wednesday! It should be another lovely day today!

Hola girls I am very very tired.... Dante is still sick and I couldn't sleep and then when I did fall asleep Dante woke me up. Oh well So how is everyone doing this lovely hump day? presentation went exellent and I am very glad it is over

hey Charity, so Javier really liked the idea huh! I am glad. did he say anything else about the plan?

Just that he hopes we can stick to it and it works. We have already had an emergency this morning. I don't know what happened because I have gone back through everything but we had $10 this morning in our account. He needed gas so I had to give him my $50 my grandmother had given me for my birthday. So I got a tank full of gas for my birthday. You gotta do what you gotta do I guess. I hope we can make it these next two weeks. Sorry you didn't have a good night. I didn't sleep well either. I have a bad belly ache today. I think I may have a touch of a bug.

Elvia: Thanks for being considerate of all the hardships that Charity has had. You know how much (not just money) that this immigration stuff is costing all of us. So just help her get on the right track and work from there. Sorry Dante has not been feeling well and that you have not been sleeping well.

Charity: Just listen to what Elvia says and everything will be OK.

I hope that everyone gets feeling better, especially now that we have started to have some nice spring weather.

The weather is great! It's a little cloudy here today but not bad. I just love the spring time. The only bad thing about it is my white legs in shorts. It's a pretty scary thing.

I will try my best to do what Elvia says. She is really great at fixing this money nightmare I have.

I just want to tell you both how much you have helped me these last couple of weeks. You both have given me some great advice. I hope all this stuff can be put behind us and we can move on with our lives. It will take work but I am a hard worker, especially when it involves something I love. Thanks for being such great friends.

hola chickies!

just popping in quickly. hope all is well with everyone and i am glad you are getting good advice Charity! Good people here in this thread.

o.k. gotta run. oh, my friend and her husband had an easy time at the consulate yesterday picking up their visa. he was out of there before noon! NO FAIR.

see ya later.

Congrats to your friend. I am glad things went so smoothly for them. That's great to hear.

See ya!

I got in trouble at work today and got written up! I am disgusted at myself for letting this immigration $hit ruin my job performance. I am sad annoyed mad and all those feeling in a whole. I just got back from talking to all three of the supervisors (very intimidating) and they asked me if I thought I'd still be good for the job. I want to go to Mexico NOW!!! go far far away!

Elvia: I hope everything is okay. I know what you mean about letting something consume you. You know how it has been for me these last couple of weeks. You will be fine. Just try to take it one day at a time. That is what I have been doing. Before you know it all this immigration stuff will be over and you will have moved on with your life. I know it seems hard now but I was just saying last night, I can't believe Javier has been home for 2 1/2 months already. It seems like just last week when I was sitting at home with no Javier. You will be in Mexico living it up with Raul in no time. I will be praying for you.

Elvia: I just want to let you know that I wrote something very inspiring about your situation. But it is all gone. When I went to "add reply" the VJ server must have hiccoughed. So in short. Tell them to kiss your booty. Until they walk a mile in your shoes and understand what you are going through then they need to just calm down. And like Charity said, pretty soon they will not matter to you at all as you will be in Mexico.


EVERYONE: HAVE A WONDERFUL EASTER. I WILL BE OUT TOMORROW SO I WILL TALK TO YOU GALS ON MONDAY.

Sorry I wasn't around today. I couldn't get on after I posted this morning. The server must have been down or something.

I will talk to you all tomorrow.

WELL THERE MUST BE SOMETHING IN THE AIR CAUSE I FEEL MOODY THIS WEEK TOO! BEFORE I QUIT MY JOB I HAD TACHO ASK IF HIS COMPANY OFFERS MEDICAL INSURANCE AND THEY SAID YEAH SO I RECIEVED THE PAPERS AND THEY OFFER AN

FSA ACCOUNT WHICH MEANS YOU CAN HAVE MONEY DEDUCTED TO COUNT TOWARDS MEDICAL EXPENSES BUT IF YOU DONT USE IT YOU LOSE IT. YOU CAN READ ABOUT IT ON IRS.GOV ITS A BUNCH OF BULL! I NEED INSURANCE IM DIABETIC , DEPRESSED AND READY TO GIVE IT UP!!!!!!!!!!

AWWW you guys!! Thank you so much for those kind words.
I too Benita was in here when you were posting and it just kicked me out.
Well they sent me to run all sorts of errands today and kept me pretty busy so I was just in here that one time.

That day I just was torn thank goodness my mom called me and invited me over for some pizza and then just listened to me as I sobbed and cried. I probably got home at around 10.30 and just waited for my husband to get home and cried some more. I haven't slept good at all since Dante has been sick and well this happened. Thank goodness it is a long weekend otherwise I don't think I would have been able to survive I will see you guys tomorrow

Hello all(except Benita, since she is at home in the bed)!

Elvia: You sound like me, crying and crying. My eyes were swollen for 3 days. It was such a pretty site. I hope things are looking up for you. So we start our plan today. Javier's check goes in and we pay the bills. We'll see what's left over. I hope it's enough to get buy for two weeks. I'm a little worried. I am sure it will be okay though.

Have a great day!!! It's Friday and it's a long weekend too!!

hola girls....Happy Friday
It will be hard the first times Charity. You will feel empty and you will want to dip into some other money. if you really think you won't make it dinner and outings are cancelled.

I know, that's what I was afraid of. I think we are going to go fishing tomorrow. No money there. It will be fun, we can find other things to do to spend time together besides spending money. Hey, maybe if we just stay at home there will be some VJ aunties soon. Doesn't cost anything to do the laundry!

Melissa: I see you down there. Come out and play with us. You haven't played in a long time. We miss you!

Elvia...remember that interesting phone number we came across with the voice mail that said "Hola." Well her name is Monica and that's all I can say at the moment.

fishing, picnics, park walks, museums all perfectly acceptable outings. and they are hardly worth anything. so yeah be creative and go places that are enjoyable for cheap. and I mean really cheap. when you get the check in pay all the bills first. Hey do you depostit the check or just cash it?

Melissa...... you have to tell me more. even Raul wants to know!!

Stephanie.... I see you down there. How are you doing? long time no post!

Well most of the time he wants to cash it. I try to get him to put it all in because he nevers puts everything in if he gets it cashed. He deposited it yesterday afternoon so it should show up tomorrow. I am planning on paying the bills then. I can pay all but one of them on the net.

Melissa: At least she has a normal name.

Stephanie: Where have you been girl? Come out and play with us.

She has a slutty name! MONICA...freaking gag me.

Hey chicas!!

Hope all is well with everyone. IT IS FRIDAY and supposed to be 80 degrees here today!! Yup, yup I am one happy camper. I am wearing flip flops right now and my little toes are so happy.

Hope you all have a good weekend.

Melissa…hope the “monica” thing turns out to be nothing.

Take care all!!

Well how gaggy is Juneway! WTF! Whose name is Juneway?!?

Two girls in Mexico...that's it.

okay. then when all the bills are paid you will have an idea of what kind of money you have to play with (well sort of). Idea.... Dollar Menus! they have saved me.

Melissa don't leave me hanging.. I want to know more. tell me more I need the quick fix

Stephanie? are you doing anything exciting in that beautiful weather of yours? anything planned for the weekend?

Elvia: That sounds good! I think we are just going to stick with not spending any money on anything extra. Just the basics until we get it figured out. No eating out at all. Maybe Javier will catch some fish and we can cook those.

Melissa: Yeah, that's it alright because it's a stupid ### name.

Elvia, I PMed you.

I just saw someone with a User name of Javy123.

How exciting!

Are you making fun of me??

NO! I thought it was interesting just couldn't think of anything else to post. I wonder if they are from Mexico too.

I don't think so...from some other interesting country. Not like Spanish speaking or anything.

I have noticed since meeting Javier that there are a lot of Javiers. I see the name all the time on credits and stuff after shows and movies. It's a pretty popular name.

4 more hours!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Okay, I'm bored. I need something to do. Any suggestions?!?

Ladies I have some bad news...I'll tell you all on an individual basis. I don't want to post it out here for everyone to see.

Okay it's been 10 minutes and you haven't told me yet. I am getting worried.

Hola chicas!!!!!!

Liss So who in the world is Monica??????????

Charity saving money is hard and if your man is like tacho he does like direct depositing but he does direct deposit 110 a week and that has helped us out. We dont go out to eat much but we do buy groceries that leftovers can be used for lunches or added to the next days meals! Thank God Tacho is workering overtime today first time since hes been home! that will definitely help us out right now! I have to go to the Dr monday and find out if I can get off these darn crutches.

Steph How are you and Miguel doing????

Benita how is the new baby and emily and the new appt. what else is new??? LOl....

Elvia When something like immigration or whatnot is wrong in your life it makes you feel unhappy in lots of different ways. mine frustrations mostly showed in my job cause that was almost the only place I was in Direct Contact w/ people.

Ashley... very true. Like Benita said until they walk a mile in our shoes "they" will never understand. Well tomorrow is Easter and I hope all of you have a wonderful time with your families.

Good Morning Everyone. Hope everyone had a wonderful Easter. I really enjoyed being off on Friday, other than the fact that I ran around all day. Emily's 2 year checkup went well, her Doctor said she is so smart. Then we had her 2 year photos taken. Then I ran my sisters vacume back to her, after I took ours apart and found the foam letter "L" that was stuck inside. Amazing how many screws hold a vacume together.

There are not enough hours in the day. I need more hours to sleep. I was sort of caught up by Sunday morning, but I wanted a nap Sunday afternoon and never got one. I went to bed at about 11am, but by 11:30 I was up because of a severe thunderstorm. I had to turn on the TV to make sure there was no chance of a tornado because it was so windy. Not sure when I went back to sleep, but I kept waking up thoughout the night. Now I am super tired.

Guess this baby is fine, still making me sick. It was strange that it was not until after I had the miscarriage before Emily that I realized that the morning sickness and the tenderness in the chest had disappeared. With Emily when those symptoms went away I freaked out a bit thinking that something was wrong. Now I have to worry about that with this baby as well. So I know it sounds funny, but being sick is a relief at least I can assume that everything is ok.

OK, back to work now.

Benita: Sorry to hear you are still sick but I know what you mean about it being a good sign. I also knew, when the breast tenderness and stuff went away that something was wrong, I was right. Sorry you are still running around all the time and not getting your much needed rest. We had a great Easter. We tried to go fishing twice and both times ended up not getting very far. The first day we went the lake had been drained, the second day we went we needed gas in the car so we went to the ATM machine to get some money to buy gas and it wouldn't give us any. We put Javier's check in the bank on Tuesday and because our bank was closed on Friday it hadn't gone in. Checked this morning and it's still not in. I don't know when we will finally get some money. So anyway, we just did some things with my parents and my brother and his kids. It was fun. Didn't spend any money either. Elvia will be proud.

Elvia: Well I paid the bills online this morning even though Javier's check isn't in yet. I am hoping it shows up tomorrow before the bills come out. We still need to get groceries and gas before we know what we have left over. I think we will have a little more left than we thought we would. We still aren't spending anything extra though. We did really well this weekend. We didn't spend any money at all except for our tithes at church. We still had a great time. I actually had a better time here than if we had gone somewhere. We hung out at the house, my mom's house, and my cousin's house. We all live right here together. We grilled out both days, mom provided the food for us and my brother and his kids. It was great. So, not only are we saving money, but we are spending a lot of quality time together. Thanks for helping us with the money and in turn helping us really enjoy one another's company.

I am not working today or tomorrow. Sounds nice but I am stuck at home since we don't have any money. Javier is still working so it's just me and Daisy. Right now she is on the front porch barking up a storm at something, I have no idea what. Her shadow maybe.

Well I hope everyone has a great day today. I need to get some laundry done(the real kind). Talk to you all later.

Benita I would make Alex pamper you this weekend. Kind of an early Mothers day gift.

Charity... Indeed I am very proud of you. I knew you could do it. Now how is the coupon clipping going. Oh and being home is a good thing, that way you're not tempted to buy anything.

Hola chicas!!

Hope you all had a good weekend. We went to the MN Twins / NY Yankees baseball game on Saturday night and had an awesome time. We didn’t even argue about the game (he is a long time Yankees fan having lived in Brooklyn 6 yrs). So we are making progress. Ha, ha. Yesterday I stayed in my pjs and didn’t leave the house until 7pm. I don’t even know what I did. Miguel went fishing in the Mississippi River with some friends. They caught like 10 fish but you don’t eat the fish from the Mississippi….or you might grow an extra arm. Man, that river is polluted, especially the area in the city.

Benita…glad to hear everything is good with Emily and #2. You’ll have to share Emily’s photos with us when you get them. She is such a cutie.

Charity…Way to go on the money stuff! Didn’t all the immigration stuff set you back?! It is hard to get back on track, I think we’ll be done paying off our credit cards by July. That is our goal (o.k., more MY goal since Miguel doesn’t do much with finances besides hand his check over). I hope we can make it cuz that is about the time we want to buy a house and it’d be nice to not have to pay for cards when we have a mortgage. The plan looks nice on paper, but we’ll see how easy it is to execute.

Ashley…how are you doing girl?! Hope all is well with you and Tacho.

Elvia…que onda chica?! Hope you had a good weekend. What did you guys end up doing yesterday?

Melissa…hope the new job is going well.

Elvia: I forgot all about the coupons. I knew I was forgetting something. I wonder if I can still get a paper somewhere. Crap! I am heading out in a little while, I will see if I can find one somewhere.

Stephanie: It is so all this immigration stuff that messed us up. We saved money before Javier left but it wasn't enough. My dad ended up paying my bills the last 3 months Javier was gone. The second trip and the last trip to Mexico all went on our credit card. Plus I was taking money from the card and sending it to Javier while he was down there, since he couldn't find a job. It was a big mess. It just seems like we can't get caught up. Hopefully, with Elvia's help, things will start looking up. I hope you all get your cards paid off. I would love to have our's paid off by July but that won't happen. The balance is just too high. I am hoping Javier will do some extra jobs soon. He is going to look at one this afternoon. Let's keep our finger's crossed.

Oh my word-how about that off topic? Did you get a bruise on your ### Charity??

Not too big of one. My ### can take it. I got plenty back there. Those people never cease to amaze me. It's better to just ignore them. They will never understand our point of view so it's just not worth my time. Unlike them, I have better things to do, like spend time with my family and friends. Instead of sitting on a computer all day and all night.