GOOD MORNING.


Thank you for the encouragement, 0.

Morning!

For everyone having a bad day .... smile! Things will eventually work itself out. The Bible reminds us of such .... all things (good and bad) will work together for good for those that love Him, and are called according to His will (Romans 8:28).

Boaz

All sad and crabby people check out my happy thread and good morning everyone.

Uno, I pray that whatever you are going through passes quickly. This board is not the same without your comedy and quick wit. There is a certain tranquility around here that is very unusual with out you ( that's a compliment)

God bless you.

hey stevii,
thanx for the well wishes. everything is coming to a head this weekend. keep me in your prayers.
but on a lighter note, all yall movie buffs, check out this site.
its pretty good...me thinx.

http://www.megavideo.com/?v=K8S7KGIU (this link may take you to angelina joli's "wanted" movie????)

that site^^^^^^^^^is too hard to maneuver
okay, edit:::::
this site is even better, it is ?????
www.tv-links.cc
you wanna do "streaming" video and some require firefox to work.
sorry if I mislead some folks
good nite

good morning everyone. yay it's friday!

Happy Friday Everyone!!

Uno, saw the Wanted movie a while back...I am a fan of hers...not bad...not fabulous...just a movie to watch to take your mind off of things... action packed....not really to learn anything from or get a moral message or anything

LL, are you still in your house or were you evacuated yesterday?? I will try to call you later. I hope all is ok with you...that big meanie Ike!!

Morning everyone

Hey! morning guys! I've been a bit out of it and not quite posting as regularly. Having issues with my ex. I guess he's jealous after all. Not good! Oh well, just trusting in God. (and consulting a lawyer - mama didn't raise no fool!)

Bassi is going to take his written test today and he's beyond stressed. I'm so afraid he won't pass and then he'll be a sour puss all weekend. It's cold up here. I think we're going to have a rough winter. Well, Bassi is very very very cold. We're all in light jackets. You know, the precursor to a coat. Well, he's under my down comforter ALREADY. This is going to be a HARD winter for my house. We're going to the mall to get him a jacket or probably a coat. Poor guy. I think he wants me to turn the heat on, but c'mon, do you know the price of oil? He's gonna have to layer for at least another month. I will just note, that Kay and I are not cold. We're quite comfortable with the fall weather and wearing our jackets when we're out late, but still sleeping in summer pjs. Poor Bassi.

Wow Z! Sounds like you've had your plate full for a little bit.

Inusah and I are going shopping this weekend to get him some warmer clothes. He hasn't complained about the cold even though he has noticed that it is getting cooler. This is my ideal weather so I am all for opening windows and such. Inusah has not seemed to mind it (so far).

As for the driving test ( ) I have asked Inusah when he is going to take it and he keeps saying that he wants to take it only once. I'm like, you can take it as many times as you want, you don't have to make an appointment or pay for it. But he says that he is only going to take it once. He has been studying the manual for a month, and its not liek he doesn't know how to drive. I would just like to get this part over with . Well, the longer he procrastinates, the less I have to pay in auto insurance

Bassi finds driving in the US overwhelming. He feels that we drive too fast and that there are so many signs to read that he's surprised people don't crash. I think it will just take him time to get accustomed to it, because I thought driving in Ghana was insane. He will only drive our car if it's late at night and no one else is on the road. So, I've been patient and not pushed him. It's best anyway because I'm a control freak about the car. With my ex husband, I road in the back of the minivan cause otherwise, I was insane. I've even been known to grab the steering wheel from the passenger seat. My friend Steven won't let me ride up front with him at all! Unfortunately, I've raised a miniature me, so she sits behind Baba Bassi when he's driving and says, The speed limit is 45. You're going to fast, S-L-O-W D-O-W-N. So, now you know why his nerves are frayed.

To both of the "Z's" thank you for sharing your recent happenings. I am praying for you both.

Some things we don't stop to think about are the smallest of things. After experiencing the driving in many of the Nigerian states, I don't imagine it would be too much different in Ghana....but I would think these to be some of the most gifted drivers, it baffles me how they can drive at such high speeds with no traffic rules/laws, but on the other hand, I can see how our signs, rules, laws, tickets, court hearings, etc...could be so overwhelming.

I believe it is something that will take time.

As for the weather...that is so cute how they are feeling so cold at this time of year. I remember how hot I was when I was in Nigeria, and always had frozen bottled water and ceiling fans. This is my favorite time of the year too. I love Fall.

Well, I just wanted to send well wishes, and I can't wait to one day be posting an update of when me and my Taiwo will have been together for a few months (By God's Grace).

S.

I would just like to express my missing of Asante Maroon's postings. Wherever you are, I have you in my thoughts, and miss your "old wise" contributions here. God bless you "mama", as you like to say.

I ditto what Stevi said.

Omoba,

I'm asking you openly to please just press ignore on my postings.
You must stop defaming my character as you know nothing about me.
I don't bother you or your postings and I expect the same respect
from you on this open forum.

I feel as tho your trying to build up a crusade of " LET'S GET IDOCARE " audience.
Even tho I may not like what you say, I don't come on your site causing
division. Let's just respect each others right to post. Thanks in Advance.


Idocare

my prayers are with LL (as well as all of those being affected by Hurricane Ike).
I hope you are safe from the storm.

Idocare,

You are right I don't know you. I do know some things about you. I respond to threads because it is a public forum and
reserve my right to disagree with your opinion.
I have known your postings to be defaming to Africans and especially to Nigeria due to the ending of your marriage to Victor.
I have taken issue with your negativity in these forums, yes, and countered it with a what I feel fair assessment of
Nigeria and Nigerians. This is an immigration board for couples with foreign SO's to come together. Your bitterness issues against Nigerians were disturbing and offensive to many, not just me.

I do not wish to ignore your posts at this time but continue to voice my own opinion.
You say you have not bothered me or my postings. Not correct, you have freely responded to my posts in the past and
you have stated publicly that my fiance and I will not succeed in our relationship. That was personal. It defamed him and me. It was disrespectful and not cool.
Despite all that, I have even offered you an apology for you taking offense in general because of my opposing opinion. You did not respond to that apology.
I do not want to defame you as a person but I disagree with your opinion. There is a difference. I am sorry you see my posts as defaming you as a person.
I do respect everyone's right to post.
Please honor my freedom to do the same. If we disagree then we disagree and that is all. People disagree, such is life.
I have never called you names or violated TOS in my posts countering your opinions with my own perspective.
If you have further issue with me you can pm me at any time. If I have offended you in anything specific say so, I am not too big to apologize. I have stayed within TOS. I have asked you in the past to keep the revenge posts and deportation rallys to the "effects and changes " section. That did not happen. You have stepped down from the previous level you were on I do admit that much, however, subtle Nigerian prejudice still creeps into your posts to which I have a right to freely respond. I will do so respectfully.

Thank you.

I tried to call her several times but no answer. Prayers to all the people out there !

I spoke to LL yesterday morning and she was getting herself prepared for Ike, she was at home and not at work. I tried calling several other times through the day and only got the machine, I am sure that she was busy bracing for the storm. I left a message yesterday evening. I will try calling again today.

LL we love you and we are all praying for you and your familys safe passage through Ikes fury


MUCH P

When I read this I laughed so hard. I remember when my husband's plane landed in NE early '06, all he had on was a thin pair of running pants, you know the ones that make a lot of noise when you walk, t(he annoying ones), a light shirt, and a light jacket. What was priceless was the look on his face once he was outside of the airport! Instant shock! I said to him before he left Nja, it's cold here, be sure to get a coat, he said don't worry, I have one. Once home, he got under about 5 blankets , never took his hat off, and pulled those blankets all the way up to his eyeballs! It was hilarious. NOW he knows what cold is.

HEE HEE this sounds all to familiar to me. Justice arrive in February so it was already cold and snowy when he got here. (Colorado) He loves the snow!! Crazy man! At first he was cold but I was more worried than he was. He adjusted to the weather just fine. Although he did comment yesterday the crazy weather that the US has and how dangerous it can be. I dont think he has ever seen storms like we have here before. AH driving......we drove each other a little crazy me making him nervous.... him scaring the holy crap out of me he studied like a mad man for his test, he too only wanted to take it one time. Which he did and then went on to get his CDL on the first try too! Good luck ladies, I pray for patience for you two

P

My husband is already complaining that it is cold here.....yeah, right. It went down into the low 60's and high 50's and he is in the house all bundled up asking for gloves and a scarf.


Good Morning , Subs and Subettes !

We are all adults here and can make our own judgments. I see no Idocare crusade, it just so happens that people don't agree or take offense with what Idocare has to say, not just Omoba. People are going to disagree with each other, such is life. Omoba has given an open apology and it was ignored. Idocare has said on multiple occasions that she will not be silenced, and yet she is expecting silence from others who don't agree with her. Idocare the ignore feature works both ways, but I am guessing that you know that since you "ignored" Omobas apology.

P

Apparently Idocare......doesn't.

Well spoken, P.

I have ties to Africa that Omoba and Nagishkaw will NEVER have!!! My last posting that Omoba and
others have choosen to sprew a rebuking too was not written by me but by a person that bares a
African name yet even a newbie was able to read the article and find nothing wrong with it being
posted.

Defamation of character is illegal and won't be tolerated !!! Please accept this post as a warning.
It was my forefathers that lived on the soil of Africa and as long as I stay within the TOS I have the
FREEDOM
to share. Your constant thrashing and susgestive writing as to my character and professing to know
anything other then what I've shared with this board will not be tolerated.(Omoba)

I'm not running for any political position, but can clearly feel Obama's frustration, however; like
Obama I will deal with those that like to spread diease and division at my expense, expose their
behavior and keep being/doing me. Your efforts to distort my postings must stop.

What, Nagishkaw,
I see you trying to take a stance but what's your reasoning for your statement? You don't even
know me nor I you. What are you fishing for with that remark? What are you trying to prove
amongst us VJ members?

I love you Idocare........smooch and a BIG hug ! Just relax . It's ok

Naggie how about the ear muffs to go along with the scarf and gloves

Oh dear that is too much ear muffs?? Do ear muffs even work??

Hello everyone ,
It has been raining all day long here in good ole Iowa .
I noticed it around 4 am this morning and it has been relentlessly POURING down .
To Stevii, I thank you for your outward prayers to me .
I've been busy making funeral arrangements for my grandmother (reference UNOz rain) and today was the culmination of it all.
I am emotionally and have been financially siphened by it all, but God is true to his word, joy comes in the morning .
I'll just be glad when my MORNING sun arises.
Through it all, I have been and some of the posts have really been enlightening as well as....
(OMG, I'm having a brain fart). I'll finish that statement later.
But anyway, just know that I have been and ...silently.
To everyone else, congratulations on your accomplishments and to everyone; GOD BLESS.

For you Uno

Every time I read one of your posts it looks like you are trying to start a fight. IDOCARE, what is wrong with you? I have been reading your posts about Victor this, and Nigerians that, since I joined in '05. It's been somewhat of a constant ( with a few breaks) of Nigerian bashing. You always seem to find something wrong. In the past, most of the time you would post something, wait for a response, and when it was getting heated, Sweet Tee would jump in and defend you on whatever level she felt was fit.
I know you knew that article would cause some level of controversy...hence you stating no other response. That's kindergarten logic. Throw a stone and say I don't want to talk about it.
Posting something written with an African's point of view means absolutely nothing to me. Europeans called Native Americans uncivilized, and heathens, but of course the natives taught them so much. So by whose standard is a person to judge, of course by their own personal experience, and biases.

And if you are so hypersensitive the ignore button does work both ways. My suggestion is that you get a grip, I had suggested in the past that you seek counseling, I can tell you didn't take my advise.

I didn't read any defamation, I did happen to notice that you pick and choose who you want to fight with.
I already know your response...I don't know you,......who are you to judge me. You wanna know something, for me to know you, and have the opinion of you that I have, that speaks volumes.
And Obama..you liken yourself to Obama?

Uno,

Here is another one ......

Boaz

Sorry about your loss Uno

hey guys ,
thaaannnnnnx

before this goes any further and we get the "cafe" closed down .
can we just agree to disagree on this particular subject/person/matter.
I don't know this woman, but I do know that adding kindling to a fire keeps it burning .
if you want something to die, starve it/them/they/subject.
I know this poster has a way of ruffling feathers (so to speak), but in the grand scheme of it all, is your/my/our/ response and/or logic going to change her perspective.....
ummmm I hear a resounding "NO!"
And in her defense, the same goes for us/we/our perspective .
if you know her story fine, if you think you know her story even better.
and if you're really desperate to KNOW her story, just read her history or pm her.
all that she wants us/you to know, she will either disclose it or deny your request for disclosure. ultimately, the decision is hers and hers alone.

there is ENOUGH self-inflating ignorance running rampant in/on this message board as it is...
check out OT !!! no need to invite that type of foolish behavior or sheol minions in/on this forum or thread.
so please, just let a dead dog lie, or sleeping fools sleep or whatever haiku do what it do .
now back to your regularly scheduled programme.........

Uno {hugs}! I'm so sorry sweetie. Thinking of you!

Yeah girl! I think she is starting school (teaching) and school (learning)! She's double busy. But she'd better drop us a quick, what's up or we'll have to search her out. Did she every replace her cell? Maybe I can give her a call.

Ummm ... I see that you have a wonderful way of expressing yourself regarding 'delicate' matters. Just wondering, since you are so good with words, would you please fly down to Charlotte and help me, help my husband with his English Literature assignment? You seem to be a pro!

On a more serious note .... I CO-SIGN E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G you just said! Very well stated. Thank you. Seriously ... thank - you!

Well some fires you gotta starve and for some you just have to stand up and do what's right...........grab a bucket of water !

It depends which way the fire is blowing and how much damage it can do and if it is your own pants that are on fire. Then have wisdom to know what to use when.

No man is a doormat someone said. Silence can be just as harmful as making too much noise.

It is very easy to say ignore the offending posts if the attack is not aimed at you. I gave my rebuttal and believe the issue should rest and not be resurrected. Now that would be truly starving it . Please don't kick the dog again...........its sleeping

Capt Ewok does not like long threads and this thread has reached almost 300 pages.
It slows the server load down and therefore I am continuing the cafe in a second cafe thread.

It's just a temporary renovation with the same fresh coffee awaiting you while you visit ..........step in and have light hearted fun and chit chat for positive support and encouragement.

The end ...........continued in part 2 ..........see new thread.

Closed at the request of the OP.