QUOTE(We_Destiny @ Aug 9 2008, 12:19 AM)

I am having a serious problem with some recent posts, I have seen in K3 and US citizenship forums. First of all, I am opinionated and do not have a problem expressing my opinion when I have the need to. So I will start here. I have noticed sub-Saharan specific problems, issues and concerns being fished around in other forums specifically the thread in K3 and U.S. citizenship forums and the bad thing is that one of the persons is not a newbie but has been around for at least a year, and feels that the K3 forum is a better place to seek information. I am generally a loner and feel that I am somewhat new to this whole forum thing. I do feel as though unconsciously VJ members forum cliques, but, I can understand how it happens, and because I don't necessarily fit into a clique I am not bothered by it. I am very comfortable doing me (when I have something to say I post, if no one can identify with it, I am fine with that). However other people thrive on acceptance, appreciation and or the understanding of others. Sub-Saharan is full of mostly women and some men who have been through the ringer and back, really that is the only way that you survive this struggle with immigration reconizing the ips and downs. The rub is, most of you (us)started out wanting to find a place to go where people understood the dire situation, we petitioners find ourselves in. I am not always happy or full of congrats, but I do what I can, when I can when I notice someone is in need I try to be there.
Hell when you look at we all have put our selves in a situation to potentially get scammed no one more or less than the next, let us all get off our high-horses of judgement.
We for a fact have two women looking for our knowledge, sympathy and or compassion, and they are obviously reluctant to bring their situation to us. Why is that?
A true family accepts unconditionally.
I do agree with you to an extent, but the realization of it all is this; we are not a "family!"
Yeah, some of us are cool as a breeze with eachother, but others; like myself (loner #1) know deep down inside, none of us really know any of us on a personal level. The only common thread holding us together is the fact that our SO's come from africa, but that is a superficial commonality.
Those that chose to look elsewhere for aide and assistance, probably felt that they could get better guidance/expertise, not necessarily emotional support, from those other topic forums.
We will never know unless we/you/I/ ask them. But whatever their reasoning is, I respect it, even if I dont agree with it. I will always extend a hand to whomever needs it whenever they need it. The most you/any of us can do as an online forum/family is to let them know "we (the common thread) hear you and we are here for you." The rest is up to God and them.
Peace
UNO