Thanks for that Erika. That is refreshing

Zee, I know you must be so nervous. Squeeze my hand, I feel your pain!! I know it will go well. It will all be worth it in the end. I'm praying for you guys!!

Thanks Ricca!! I loved that post. Reminding me to follow my purpose in the book Reposition Yourself TD Jakes asks how many people bother to have any passion in their lives. Real true passion to walk and work and do in your life something that's real and tangible, not just what pays the bills.

"HI EVERYBODYYYYYYYYY LOL....I USUALLY LURK ON THIS SUB-SAHARAN CYBER...BUT I HAD TO PUT MY TWO CENTS IN THIS FRIDAY LOL...GOTTA SAY LOVED THE POST RICCA, I THINK REV. T.D. JAKES IS THE TRUTH!

I ALSO DECIDED TO ADD MY TWO CENTS HERE TO WISH INUSAH A HAPPY GRADUATION DAY ON MONDAY!!! OH ZEE YOU DIDN'T KNOW? YOUR MAN IS GRADUATING "FROM WAITING ON TO GETTING HIS VISA" COME THIS MONDAY...AMEN TO THAT!!...

ZEE I DECIDED TO SAY MY GOOD LUCK TO YOU NOW BECAUSE AS YOU KNOW I AM AT WORK RIGHT NOW AND IS USUALLY THE TIME I SURF THE INTERNET WHEN I'M ON BREAK OR LUNCH....DURING THE WEEKEND I AM MIA UNTIL MONDAY...

"I CAN'T WAIT FOR TOMORROW YAY YAYAYAAAA!
SATURDAY IS JUNE 1ST!! MY COUNT DOWN BEGINS OFFICIALLY........

AND A FORE WARNING IS A FAIR WARNING TO EVERYBODY ON VJ BECAUSE I'M GONNA BE FULLY LOADED, SWAMPING THE PLACE WITH MY RELENTLESS QUESTIONS COME MONDAY UNTIL THE BIG DAY....I'M A NERVOUS RECK! I AM PRAYING FOR A HAPPY GRADUATION DAY FOR MY MAN ON HIS BIG DAY TOO...ENJOY YOUR WEEKEND EVERYBODYYYYYYYYY, ALRIGHT I'M OUT PEACE!!!!

Slumber party!!!

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...p;#entry1884471

After I put Kay to bed I'll stop by!

That's so cute! I'm really excited for you!

g'morning everyone.

Some moron decided to rev their engine this morning and woke me up

You too??? This person's engine was so loud and it sounded like it was right under our window. We both jumped up out of a deep sleep and looked out of the window. That engine noise went on for almost 2 minutes.

Hey Y'all, I just wanted to stop in and add my $0.05927 worth of inspirational cents/sense.
If it applies, clap yo' hands and if it doesn't...why not????
This is one of my FAVORITE T.D. Jakes mini-sermons. Its called

"Let It Go"
There are people who can walk away from you.
And hear me when I tell you this!
When people can walk away from you: Let them walk.
I don't want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you,
staying attached to you.
I mean hang up the phone!
When people walk away from you, let them walk.
Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left. The bible said that, they come out from us that it might be made manifest that they were not for us.
For had they been of us, no doubt they would have continued with us.
[1 John 2:19]
People leave you because they are not joined to you.
And if they are not joined to you, you can't make them stay. Let them go. And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person, it just means that their part in the story is over.
And you've got to know when people's part in your story is over so that you don't keep trying to raise the dead.
You've got to know when it's dead.
You've got to know when it's over.
Let me tell you something. I've got the gift of good-bye.
It's the tenth spiritual gift. I believe in good-bye. It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful and I know whatever God means for me to have He'll give it to me.
And if it takes too much sweat, I don't need it.
Stop begging people to stay. Let them go!!!
If you are holding on to something that doesn't belong to you and was never intended for you in your life, then you need to LET IT GO!!
If you are holding on to past hurts and pains...LET IT GO!!
If someone can't treat you right, love you back and see your worth...LET IT GO!!
If someone has angered you...LET IT GO!!
If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge...LET IT GO!!
If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction...LET IT GO!!
If you have a bad attitude...LET IT GO!!
If you keep judging others to make you feel better....LET IT GO!!
If you are stuck in the past and God is trying to take you to a new level in Him...LET IT GO!!
If you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship...
LET IT GO!!
If you keep trying to help someone who won't even try to help themselves...LET IT GO!!
If you're feeling depressed and stressed...LET IT GO!!
If there is a particular situation that you are so used to handling yourself and God is saying, "Take your hands off of it!"
then you need to...LET IT GO!!
Let the past be the past. Forget the former things.
GOD is doing new things for you in the Millenium!!!
LET IT GO!!!
Get Right or Get Left.....think about it, and then
LET IT GO!!!

Uno, thank you for sharing. Those words hold a lot of truth.

Yes! That is one of my favorite T.D. Jakes excerpts. I love that, and thank you. Just reading it makes adrenalin pump through my veins. The words have a powerful melody to them, and some of the situations apply to just about all of us at one point or another during our lives.

g'morning everyone. slumber party tonight!

Good morning.

No one revved their engine this morning so I am happy

Since I am already awake this morning as sister called at 8:43am..............HAPPY SUNDAY!!!!!!

Dang it, I guess I will be here for another stinking year. Love the company but don't know about the journey. Do I get a gold star when I reach
the 4 th year ? What about a prize ?

rant on * rant off *

Please rant if you need to Omoba!!!!!!!

Don't give up girl!!

What's going on now?

Zainab.........just the same old , same old waiting for money to do the waiver.

He recovered from a 2 week stay in the hospital, malaria and pneumonia, came home and was confronted that he will be a grandpa soon

Zee, I want to wake up to your good news tomorrow

any news yet zee?

Im looking for her post...I imagine she is getting much needed rest now.

Hi Zee! What's the word?!

You would think I was waiting again for the news. LOL! The suspense is killing me! Where is Zee?

Still waiting. He should have gone in 14 minutes ago.

POWER IN PRAYER...he will call you soon.

Oh, I assumed it was a morning appt. Oh gosh! Now, I'll be worrying all day. Stupid Ghana Embassy!!!

Oh...Hugs Zee, we'll hear something soon!!

I didn't see this note. Just saw it when LL posted.

I can't believe she did that. Why are they so hard-headed!

How is he doing now? Will she move back home with him now that you've got to wait longer, or stay with family?

She ran away and now is with the boys family who assured him will take good care of her. Too much for him to handle right now. Big drama
at the police station Africa style about the whole mess plus everybody and their brother ( or cousin ! ) giving their 2 cents worth.
As the world turns .........man my nerves are shot. He took her straight to the hospital.
This also ended her future over here. If she marries him she would have about a 8-10 year wait to come here and it looks like she doesn't
want to come here anyway. My DNA costs and flight to Dakar for her was wasted......not to mention the time delay for all this DNA crap.
I explained all this to her because I saw it coming a mile away months ago. She made her choice. She is his only daughter and his heart is broken
and he is very grieved.
So much for our little happy family dream over here.

Omoba

I will say a special prayer for you all tonight.

hey Zee, I know you're online, whats the word???
UNO

Approved

congratulations to you both. I wish you all the best.
UNO

Try to stay positive, though I know it's hard. She'll always be his little girl. But sometimes they have to learn the hard way. She'll see how hard life is on her own and she'll survive. Then she'll have to try and teach her baby those same things. You'll always be able to visit, she's not lost to you.

Omoba, I am sorry that times are a bit tough right now. I will continue to pray for you and for your fiance.

Thanks guys .

g'morning all.

Morning

good rainy morning . my car's in the shop..uuugghhhhh .
UNO

Hi All and Good Morning.
Been a short while and am just catching up on on the news. Omoba, I feel badly for the situation you are all faced with. My SO's adopted sister (she was adopted by him since she was a baby when the parents died) was coming with him and went through the whole process too. Right after they were both approved, she got pregnant. Unfortunately the boyfriend thought that being the "father" of her kid, he would also be able to come to the US too. They both were seriously disappointed to learn that niether of them would come. About a year or so after, she begged to be allowed to come, but it was too late! The boyfried is no longer and she is there depressed. Not a good scenario

Hey Chispas what's up ? Long time no see.

Yes, I can see where the b/f's would think they get a free ride that way...........we told her more than once that if that happened she would definitely
not come here. Maybe he thinks he knows better but I hope he genuinely loves her and that they can have a decent life there together.

Omoba, sometimes people (especially young people) have to learn lessons the hard way. I know that parents do all that they can for their children, but sometimes children want to be hardheaded and go down a different path. Just because she chose a different path doesn't mean she is lost or gone forever. I was in her situation and I didn't understand...after all these years and now that I am a mother, I can see it from both perpectives and now I realize what my parents tried to show me. Young people can be hard headed and make stupid mistakes, but one day they will mature and wake up and realize what's right. Who's to say this guy will or will not stay with her? No one knows.

I know Stephen is sad and heartbroken and he doesn't need any more problems at this time, but he should continue to show support and guidance to her. No matter what she is still his daughter and that baby will still be his grandchild. Also, having a kid can sometimes make a person grow and mature quickly and I bet you will see her come to her senses soon. Your dream of a happy family isn't over...just deferred. Stay positive, woman!

ETA, I hope he is true to his word and takes good care of her and the baby.

Omoba,
I know you've been asked this questions a ton of times, but how r things going on your side with the appeal?

g'morning all. it's hump day!

Yay for hump day

Good Morning!

Good morning too

Thanks LL.

Chispas at this time we are waiting for money to grow on trees or rain from the sky to pay a lawyer for the waiver. It's in God's hands and if He
blesses us with the funds then we will go ahead. If not then we are stuck. My loan options are zero and I have mortgaged my house out to get us this far. I may be able to sell my Mom's home in Germany soon but there is a paper war going on with that right now. The house sits empty and she is in a very nice nursing facility.

The attorneys that know what they are doing with waivers are about $ 4000 - $ 7500.
The approach has to be determined by an attorney so we won't mess ourselves up and I have to come up with a 10 - 20 page letter of why
I am in extreme hardship here without him and I have to support these reasons with about 50 pages of proof.
The icing is in the leg work and approach and not as simple as me just writing a letter. When I retain an attorney it will take about 4 months to
prepare everything and then he has to fly to Dakar again to submit it with $ 545. Then it goes to a USCIS field office in Accra, Ghana where it takes about 6-9 month to adjudicate.......then there is a 3. interview where he has to fly again to Dakar, without guarantee of a visa. Kind of like a whole other visa journey all over again. That would be the 5. flight out to Dakar, Senegal. ( No home embassy ).
One has to know what they are looking for to approve the waiver.
There are cheaper attorneys for about $1500 but I know more than them as I discovered in consultation.
Life sucks at the moment but God is always working behind the scenes so we will see what happens.