Bassi doesn't talk much to anyone about leaving Ghana. We both worry a little about haters. But I imagine he's definitely tired of hearing people ask about me. Sometimes he'll say, oh I saw this person or that person and they say they haven't seen you in a while and wonder where you are. These people are one step above stranger but remember seeing me around the area and knew we were a couple. I generally blend in with the natives except as my new family says, I'm always looking all around which shows everyone I'm a foreigner. Really I'm just nosy. I also have a heart for babies, so I connected with a lot of women with infants and toddlers and he says that he'll be on the bus going to work and women will ask him about his wife. He never fusses, but I imagine it gets to be a bit much after a while. But Bassi is probably the most patient person I know. He is exactly my opposite.

When Inusah and I started this absurdly long process he did not want to tell his family. His older brother went through this a few years ago and seeing all the inquiring minds asking when this and that is going to happen turned him off to telling people what we were doing. I told my parents and sisters only because they are not the kind to keep asking questions and a little later he told his mom.

It was when I went home between the NOA1 and NOA2 that people started seeing that we were a couple and when we officially got engaged but I don't think he actually told his siblings about what was going on until after we got the NOA2, partly because when I called to tell him he was with his brother and the cat was out of the bag

When we were waiting for all this to happen we did not talk about the process. The separation is hard enough to deal with without wondering about immigration and when the papers are going to get through.

Hang in there Uno

g'morning all

Hello Charles. Nice of you to stop by

I really thank you guys for the encouragement .
I just sent him an email telling him "I am not that strong" .
And sometimes, I just want to scream at the top of my lungs .
You know, just to relieve some pressure ,
but my kids might think I'm crazier than ever .
So I wont be doing thaaat
So, now that I have got that off of my chest, I'm going to read Joyce Meyers book, "me and my big mouth" and see what lessons I can learn.
And again, thanks for everything, I really don't know what I would do with out you guys>:D<

The journey can be very rough at times (especially at the pre-interview stage).


Be Encouraged your time to rejoice is around the corner .

How to deal with MENA stereotype and cultural. men etc....Be the one who needs care of , dont be his mommy, be the little devil ..he has to be wondering and guessing about. make him be the grown up.. :devil: chat with other men online, tell him ohh i thought it was cool you doing it.. ohyah... I dont know about islam sorry you have to show me and prctice it in order for me to learn...quit catering and letting them inturn walk on ya and take for granted..so there you go IMO..Its thier job to keep wives on thier toes inso se wont have anything real to complain about like him going up the career ladder, buying house mortgage and etc...normal husband wife stuff.. After all you are not the one who has to worry about loosing greencard stgatus and etc....let the boys sweat and earn some of it!!!!!!

What does this have to do with anything that was mentioned here???

okay, I did not take my meds today, but WTF

Sounds like the person is putting us up on game. Ladies should be "gold diggers" or at least the "at the top of the food chain" in the relationship.

I think, or maybe the message was blah , blah , blah , blah , blah you know what I mean blah , blah .

Wow... We Destiny... You're good at the translation. I was up there with Uno thinking that it was a meds thing going on. Whew

well instead of wah wah wah...how about turn the tables...and see if he is real or you have to cater to be loved and respected...that way did not seem to work or many!!!! doubters and playa haters

Well going through the process was the hardest thing I ever did also. However, we really did not talk about the process until about 1 week before his interview. I just could not talk about it or I would get TOOOOO wound up and hyper....

I'm glad its over, but Chipas is right, there are days I would not mind being back there for a few days.

to whom are you addressing your reply? and could you be a little more specific about your "rantings?'

Ohh honey let me be the first to say........digging for gold in third world country NOT A GOOD IDEA..better chances of finding WMDS ..now diamonds and OIl thats another idea

Post your timeline and ill tell you who and when

here we go again,
another one wants to challenge UNO.
AS anyone can tell you, I DO NOT GIVE A DAMN ABOUT YOUR IDEAS?
SO SAVE THE BULL $#!T FOR SOME ONE WHO VALIDATES OR VALUE YOU, AND PLEASE TAKE NOTE, THAT I FOR ONE, DO NOT.
SO MOVE AROUND _ _ _ CH, MOVE AROUND!

p.s. I am NEVER YOUR HONEY, and you will do well not to address me as such. The name is UNO-NONE-HIGHER!
p.p.s. and don't ever think "telling me something" will get you results, it wont. it will however get you insults!
so "poof" be gone

Good morning my fellow Sub-Saharans!!!




Please, just go away and leave us alone. Your ignorant rantings are not appreciated here.

translation: yada, yada, blah, blah, bang, bing, bong, plew, plewy, yad, ada, flim, flam, yada, yada, phewy.

opinion: As you, we are all trying to adjust to the issues that arise in our relationships. This (original topic) might not be a concern to all but it is an issue to most, having a foreign SO assume that life in the US is easy (based on the media) and that there are no poor or people thay struggle. This issue is relavent to most non-European regions including here, and there should be no rush to judgement or looked upon as negative by you or anyone else. We address the issues in our relationships as they arrise, we grow and we move on.

I have read some of your previous post and have noticed you have a pattern of calling out people from "third world countries". Just out of curiosity what is your view on the economic climate is Pakistan? Do you consider it a "second or a third world contry" in comparison to the US?

did i miss something between my first post and now?

This one came out of nowhere Nessa.

We Destiny has an accurate pulse on this poster.

Uno.. Excuse the poster for she didn't know any better than to go there. Honestly I thought you were a little lighter on her than you I know you were feelin'

Keep tight ladies.

um, charles actually........

Who?

Quit playin' Nessa.

Ok Are you guys double-teaming us again?

nessa was known as nessaandcharles, now she's nessa to avoid confusion. i'm still trying to figure out what name i should change to - i'm leaning towards "vj perv"

You mean it wasn't just one person posting all along?

off course it is but korea is not, and old man here been out there in the world to know its not all disney land outside of primary country of origin.. get off your cloud and live in reality would help you all mena whiners in the lon run...thank me later no prob

its an open talk cyber cafe , so i dont have to get out of anywhere HONEY, its america not africa remember that freedom of speech baby..remeber dat holmes

I think that unwelcome posts are best handled by being ignored.

Sisters, let's just continue with what we do....

Agree!

Which would be complaining about cultural differences, etc extra women and money more needed. 6mos to 2 years after marriage.....get rid of affadavit and getting marriage annulled..where is the love i ask!!!!!

I am so happy today

I talked to my fiance today and he said he got me an African Cup 2008 shirt. I was going to ask him to buy one for me but he already had

Things that make you go hmmm ?
has any one ever noticed that an idle mind along with ignorance coupled with foolishness, is a recipe for antagonism ?
has any one ever noticed that delusional people have a great capacity for incoherent babbling which is expressed through poor grammatical skills, a lack of contextual focus and bizarre concepts of reality ?
has any one ever noticed that 50% of the worlds insane are not incarcerated or refuse to take their meds ?
and one last thought before I leave...ahem*clearing throat*
I'd rather be a fool and know it, than be a fool and show it ! *takes a bow and passes the mic *

Let me tell you ladies, I chose to use the "ignore" feature, and it feels oh so good

oh, thank you for the enlightenment oh wise and noble one.*bows to your awesomeness*

I just figure that there is too much sadness/anger/negativity/ignorance in the world and I do not need to contribute to it

Zee I should ignore!!


But, it’s like watching a train wreck I have “gapers delay” , I know I should turn away, but, I can’t I have to look, stare, gawk until I see something that truly disgust me , and then I will wish I had never looked to begin with . I think it's amusing in a warped kinda way. The poster has “probably" been ostracized from other threads for their illiterate tirades . So ladies I won’t proclaim it as luck (that we are lucky for the honor and wisdom of their contributions), I will say, that we (Sub-Saharan Region) were next on the posters list of regions to badger with unsolicited unwarranted advice .

Next the poster will infiltrate the Site Related Discussion Thread .

rubber neckin' = gapers delay, can cause internal decapitation

two different people.

actually not quite so illeterate ladies instead of waiting for prince charming to take me away I di actually manage a masters degree working on doctorate!!!!

note to self, check educational status of those i hook up with.....

grade = EPIC FAILURE, sorry, {eh'-pik "ph"ail-u-r}!!

I can't help myself:

Are you mad (Proper English for crazy), look at / read the posts of the people in this region. Actually, I hope you give your proper credentials, so we can all steer away from that university, college and or school that accepted your displayed vernacular and attached credit / degree to your CV. Honestly, until you can formulate a coherent sentence, you should not brag about your advance degrees. Because, touting your fictitious degree does not equate the ability to comprehend or communicate.


Anyone can buy a doctorate from a 100% Online-University all you need is a few

http://www.kcshop.com/foreigncurrency/d_ximages/F2106.jpg


Your track record for advice and comments is extremely suspect.

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...sult_type=posts

Uno - that was right on time!!!!!!!!

hey We_Des, I got that chick on block, but curiosity killed the cat!
I think we should all utilize that great feature called "IGNORE" and the other feature to alert the mods of "CHRONIC ANNOYANCES!"

I'm there

g'morning everyone.

and cindi, all i can say is wtf?

good morning...charles
...it is charles, right?

Oh, that's cool! I'm not really a soccer fan, I'm more of a soccer mom and soon to be soccer wife. If my SO or my daughter aren't in the game, I ain't interested! I literally lay on the sofa with Bassi watching a match at I'm reading a magazine or a book. And we are cozy as two peas in a pod. [sigh] miss my Bassi