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English Muffin
QUOTE(Jeraly @ Oct 3 2008, 04:00 PM) *
Sooooooooo quiet in here!!!

Just realised it isn't long til our halloween party now and I am soooo excited!! concerned that the e-vites and reminders I have sent out haven't arrived in peoples' inboxes though sad.gif


Aly, did you get my updated evite?
Jeraly
Yeah - I just checked but I didn't get an e-mail notification for some reason sad.gif

I am soooo sorry you can't make it - you'll have to keep an eye on flights and how much they cost then when they are cheap we will throw a party just for you!!!
weedebz
QUOTE(vegaslizard @ Oct 2 2008, 04:54 PM) *
Hi all smile.gif

Back again after another loooooong break. Popped by to see how you are all doing! Ryan and I got an RFE on our AOS for my W-2's about a month ago, still havent mailed the thing back. He is working and all so there isnt the biggest rush to get it done. Im having my Dad be the sponsor now. I work in a nightclub and my tips werent declared properly last year so that put me below the poverty line. I caught the mistake too late and the backed taxes were alot!! Oh well tongue.gif

Other news.... we are having a baby. The bubs is due April 5th, we find out the sex in about 6 weeks!

Hope everyone is well and happy.



QUOTE(tucson_chick @ Oct 3 2008, 05:16 AM) *
12 pounds need to go before christmas.
want to choin the club?

been watching the debate. fun fun smile.gif


CONGRATS ON THE WEE BAIRN. Looking forward to updates. Me and Nick had the family discussion a couple of weeks ago. He was the one who actually brough it up. We have agreed we are going to wait 4-5 years until we have our own place and more financially secure. We just enjoying the time with each other and whilst we both agree we want a family we feel that just now 3 would be a crowd.


With regard to weightloss. I need to lose around 7lbs. I know it doesn't sound much but I just can't seen to get it to shift.

In other news...only 8 days until my parents arrive. Getting excited. Not seen them since I left back March 12th.
English Muffin
QUOTE(Jeraly @ Oct 3 2008, 04:37 PM) *
Yeah - I just checked but I didn't get an e-mail notification for some reason sad.gif

I am soooo sorry you can't make it - you'll have to keep an eye on flights and how much they cost then when they are cheap we will throw a party just for you!!!

Sorry to let you down like this but flight prices are more than I thought they'd be. And to add insult to injury I found out today that my auto insurance is going to triple! helpsmilie.gif
I was added onto Scott's before but now I have my own policy and I haven't been driving in the US long enough to get any discounts. sad.gif
Jeraly
Is it cheaper or more expensive in NC Gillian? I know it can depend on area as well but that realllly sucks sad.gif

Debz - I am sooo pleased your parents are coming to visit! What are you all going to do? My mum isn't coming to visit until April and it is unlikely we will be going back to the UK before Christmas next year so we have a while to wait.

As for kids - we defo want some and I want to start before I am 30 really so have about 3 1/2 years but we want to wait as well - it's taken us so long to get together that we want to enjoy our time together and settle down, buy a house and establish ourselves in the world. It doesn't help that Jeremy's family aren't nearby (at least any members of them that we can trust with a baby!) so even leaving kid(s) with grandparents isn't an option so we will be really stuck...
English Muffin
QUOTE(Jeraly @ Oct 3 2008, 05:29 PM) *
Is it cheaper or more expensive in NC Gillian? I know it can depend on area as well but that realllly sucks sad.gif


It's costing me way more in NC but that's because I can no longer 'piggy back' off Scott's policy. It would probably be just as expensive in MA if I was taking out my own policy. It sucks! mad.gif
tucson_chick
QUOTE(English Muffin @ Oct 3 2008, 11:56 PM) *
QUOTE(Jeraly @ Oct 3 2008, 05:29 PM) *
Is it cheaper or more expensive in NC Gillian? I know it can depend on area as well but that realllly sucks sad.gif


It's costing me way more in NC but that's because I can no longer 'piggy back' off Scott's policy. It would probably be just as expensive in MA if I was taking out my own policy. It sucks! mad.gif



money sucks in general!!!!!

zinfandel anybody? it's friday night!!!!!!!
*julez*
Well, Agnes, I'm having Sauvignon Blanc tonight!! I feel good!

Don't forget that Saturday 10/4 is Gillian's (English Muffin) birthday!! Everyone wish our gal a wonderful day!! star_smile.gif star_smile.gif
tucson_chick
aaaaaaaaaaaah, thanks for reminding me of that important day!!!!!!!!

i am having popsickles (how to spell that) and white wine.

English Muffin
QUOTE(*julez* @ Oct 3 2008, 11:15 PM) *
Well, Agnes, I'm having Sauvignon Blanc tonight!! I feel good!

Don't forget that Saturday 10/4 is Gillian's (English Muffin) birthday!! Everyone wish our gal a wonderful day!! star_smile.gif star_smile.gif

Thank you Julez. smile.gif

I'll be celebrating with Chardonnay, curry & garlic naan bread tonight. Probably a good job I'll be alone. biggrin.gif

Happy Birthday to me
Happy Birthday to me
Happy Birthday dear Gillian
Happy Birthday to me

kicking.gif dancin5hr.gif kicking.gif dancin5hr.gif kicking.gif
StillThePrettiest
happy birthday, gorgeous smile.gif

may this be a WONDERFUL year smile.gif
you're out of your comfort zone, and you're a capable, confident woman... all SORTS of great things can happen biggrin.gif

*toasts with pink champagne*

*lets off a few party poppers*

star_smile.gif
English Muffin
Thanks StP. rose.gif
tucson_chick
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
SOOOOO proud of you that you a such a brave lady!!!

English Muffin
QUOTE(tucson_chick @ Oct 4 2008, 01:06 PM) *
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
SOOOOO proud of you that you a such a brave lady!!!


Thank you. rose.gif
weedebz
HAPPY BIRTHDAY MUFFIN!!!!

Party fever here in Grand Island, NE. It's my youngest sister in law's 10th birthday today and Nick's Grandma's 84th. Also spent 3hrs this morning at the Harvest of Harmony parade. Quite good fun. Ate lots of popcorn and drank lots of coffee....feel sick!
English Muffin
QUOTE(weedebz @ Oct 4 2008, 01:21 PM) *
HAPPY BIRTHDAY MUFFIN!!!!

Party fever here in Grand Island, NE. It's my youngest sister in law's 10th birthday today and Nick's Grandma's 84th. Also spent 3hrs this morning at the Harvest of Harmony parade. Quite good fun. Ate lots of popcorn and drank lots of coffee....feel sick!

Today is obviously the best day to have a birthday. biggrin.gif
weedebz
The parade was quite good. One sister in law was in it with her dance team and Nick's cousin was the Nebraska Harvest Queen. She looked stunning.
Jeraly
Happy birthday again Gillian!! Curry and wine sounds lush but am not sure how that works on a diet... I know there was this great Thai curry recipe with weightwatchers but it is in England... will have to get mum to send it to me biggrin.gif

Debz - sounds like fun! I've just spent the morning cleaning so we have nice apartment again. The Mexican gardener/handymen guys decided after three months that the grass seed they planted just isn't growing so they are putting gravel in instead which will look *much* nicer than threadbare grass and dirt! Think we're getting a few new plants as well smile.gif

Jeremy gets tomorrow and Monday off! Gonna be nice as he doesn't usually get a weekend day biggrin.gif

Happy birthday again Gillian!! Curry and wine sounds lush but am not sure how that works on a diet... I know there was this great Thai curry recipe with weightwatchers but it is in England... will have to get mum to send it to me biggrin.gif

Debz - sounds like fun! I've just spent the morning cleaning so we have nice apartment again. The Mexican gardener/handymen guys decided after three months that the grass seed they planted just isn't growing so they are putting gravel in instead which will look *much* nicer than threadbare grass and dirt! Think we're getting a few new plants as well smile.gif

Jeremy gets tomorrow and Monday off! Gonna be nice as he doesn't usually get a weekend day biggrin.gif
StillThePrettiest
I think there's an echo in here... unsure.gif
tucson_chick
in here in here in here in here in here in here in here in here.....
Jeraly
laughing.gif

Yeah - it has got awfully quiet in here...
StillThePrettiest
pssst... look at your last post, above wink.gif
Jeraly
We can talk about my hallowe'en party biggrin.gif
StillThePrettiest
well, sure, but I was just explaining my 'echo' comment wink.gif
*julez*
Jeraly
Oh cool - I want to go there wink.gif

So who all is coming to my party now? I know Gillian can't make it sad.gif But Agnes - are you able to come? Babbles? Marta? I'm still working on my costume but have loads of decs and ideas for food biggrin.gif I can't wait! Only a little while to go now!!!
weedebz
Someone in CSC is molesting my AOS. My EAD on the other hand must just not be as attractive, it's seen no action since Biometrics. I'm just getting kinda worried that I'm going to get a nasty letter of some description. Not bothered if it's an RFE for w2's, I'm expecting that.

Sat here waiting for nick's b'day present to arrive. Been on UPS delivery van since 5am according to website. At least I've had a chance to have a good clean up for my rents arriving sat.
Jeraly
Oooh cool! I am wondering how to afford a Christmas present for Jeremy and I don't even know how Thanksgiving is going to work... I mean do people get presents for both? It all just seems very odd to me...

At least one of your cases is attractive - none of mine are online still, no mail, no e-mail... nothing!! I guess we'll be on a tight budget a little longer...
*julez*
QUOTE(Jeraly @ Oct 6 2008, 05:06 PM) *
Oooh cool! I am wondering how to afford a Christmas present for Jeremy and I don't even know how Thanksgiving is going to work... I mean do people get presents for both? It all just seems very odd to me...

At least one of your cases is attractive - none of mine are online still, no mail, no e-mail... nothing!! I guess we'll be on a tight budget a little longer...


There is no gift giving at Thanksgiving! Unless you are going to someone else's house, in which case you would bring a hostess gift - like a bottle of wine. You could also offer to bring a pass around dish if you are going elsewhere for turkey day.
Jeraly
Hmmm - ok then maybe it is just Jeremy's weird family... or maybe I got mixed up... I don't know - I know his family get together at Thanksgiving rather than Christmas so maybe they just do the present thing then instead or something? I don't know - this is going to be soooo weird this year cray5ol.gif At least next year we will *definitely* be going back to the UK for Christmas!!!
weedebz
I've been told I'm on apple pie duty for thanksgiving!!!
ginger1981
QUOTE(weedebz @ Oct 6 2008, 06:12 PM) *
I've been told I'm on apple pie duty for thanksgiving!!!


In my house that means my mom goes to the store and buys a Mrs. Smith's Apple Pie, bakes it in the oven.
Jeraly
I don't know what is going on for Thanksgiving... Jeremy's family are dysfunctional at best so I very much doubt any of the family preparation/baking is going to get done...

In a way I find it quite sad. Because I haven't grown up here, I don't have any traditions and even though we can come up with our own, Jeremy isn't that bothered I don't think and I just don't have the ingrained American-ness to know where to start sad.gif I am really worried that if we bring our kids up here that they will miss out on a whole lot because we won't know how to do things "properly"...

Ideas anyone? I mean - what is traditional for Thanksgiving in terms of what you do, how you do it, where you do it...? I'm pretty certain that Jeremy just eats out but I would love something a bit more traditional...
BabyBlueSusie
hey all!

i hope everyone is doing great. i have been very busy lately with school and work, but enjoying all of it.

we went for biometrics last wednesday, and then adriano left for ny on thursday night. that night i thought i was going to die. i had only been in this apartment a total of about three times without him being here (he was here a lot without me, but not the other way around), and it was very very strange. i am getting used to living alone again (i did so, with my kitty, for two years as an undergrad - - and loved it, thank god i still have him with me or i would go insane!) and getting used to talking to adriano on the phone all the time again. things are going just swell now.

he is staying at my sister's house until he gets settled, and they are getting along just great. i speak to him a million times a day, because he doesnt know how to say many things to her and her family in english. its really cute though how i hear them all interacting so nicely. his english has definitely improved, and they have noticed. he will learn much much faster without me there to translate everything for him.

saturday night he went out with some albanian guys from his old job and it made me so happy that he was so excited. he hasnt been able to do anything social with anyone besides me for three months!

i am going to visit in on the 19th, since we have a week off for fall break (don't you love school? lol), i cant wait! i figure that i will probably be able to visit once a month, and that he might be able to do the same once he gets settled. twice a month is MUCH better than the amount of time we saw eachother while he was still in europe (maybe about 3-4 times a year). this is much more doable. the tickets are really cheap from here to ny, so it wont break the wallet too bad either.

my studies have definitely improved, and i am spending a lot more time in the lab doing work (which i should have been doing before!). now i just need to find some friends here, because i have none. i have friends that i talk to when we're in class and at school, but nobody that i actually go out with or anything.

cheers!
Jeraly
Oh Susie - I am so glad to hear that things are going smoothly - it's hard to cope with it all but at least you know you have made the right decision and in the end it will be better for both of you biggrin.gif

I know what you mean about the kitties as well - my two are a godsend - Daisy on her own was a lifesaver as we went through a lot together but having the little one running around all over keeps me occupied when Daisy is sleeping! Of course, it makes it a rare treat when they are both asleep like they are now as I get a bit of peace!!!
BabyBlueSusie
QUOTE(Jeraly @ Oct 7 2008, 04:31 PM) *
Oh Susie - I am so glad to hear that things are going smoothly - it's hard to cope with it all but at least you know you have made the right decision and in the end it will be better for both of you biggrin.gif

I know what you mean about the kitties as well - my two are a godsend - Daisy on her own was a lifesaver as we went through a lot together but having the little one running around all over keeps me occupied when Daisy is sleeping! Of course, it makes it a rare treat when they are both asleep like they are now as I get a bit of peace!!!


Yea, it is definitely not easy, but I have so much faith in us that I am not even concerned about our relationship not being able to handle this. We have been through harder times (as you ALL can relate to), so i know we are strong enough to see this through.

Thanks for being so sweet. happy.gif

I don't know what I would do without my kitty. Aww it must be so cute to have them both sleeping. Do they ever sleep together? I love to see kitties all snuggly together, it's oh so precious. My kitty is happy to be an only child, and was very anxious when I had roommates who also had cats. He is generally a very laid-back kind of kitty and used to get very annoyed with the rambunctious (spelling?), young kitten that we used to live with. Do you ever have cat fights between the older and younger ones? The generation gap! laughing.gif
Jeraly
Oh cat fights? Alll the time!! I think it is their version of playing because Daisy likes to be left alone for the most part but the little one looks up to her - he gets as close to her as he can and watches her from a safe distance laughing.gif They've been known to sniff each other (not such a big deal for the kitten cause he has no problem with Daisy unless she is trying to eat him) and the kitten will play with Daisy's tail and sometimes she will let him get away with it - he swaps between trying to catch and eat it to licking it clean which is cute. I have high hopes that when he grows up and calms down a bit they might even snuggle up unsure.gif laughing.gif But not right now...

Where is everyone else anyway? I am trying to find out who can make it to the hallowe'en party as it is in about three weeks' time!! I still need to get my costume together and figure out some more food but I don't have a clue how many people will be here!!!
rae_and_scott
Hey everyone!

It sure has been a ghost town here! That's partly my fault. Scott and I were in Canada for our friends' wedding -- which was absolutely lovely and amazing. Coming back and using AP was no fun. The woman at the booth we drove up to was a total ######, and then we had to go inside and wait and wait, and it took an hour and a half. When we got home, though, we were greeted with Scott's Green Card, so we won't have to deal with that again! That's good since we're going back to Canada this weekend, this time to Montreal (to scope out wedding venues!! I am so excited!)

I don't think I wished you a happy birthday, Gillian, so happy belated birthday! smile.gif

Now I'm back at work -- 12 hour days, plus I'm sick. Really sick. sad.gif Yuck.

Aly, I can tell you a little about what my vision of Thanksgiving is. I LOVE Thanksgiving! Why? Because it is a holiday of eating! haha I know you've been talking about diets but on this day you can go crazy and eat and eat. Maybe it's because I like to cook and I usually spend the whole day sipping wine and either cooking or helping the cook, depending on whether I'm hosting or with family or what. A lot of American families watch football during the day. Personally, it's not my thing, but I wouldn't be doing my duty to not mention it. If you go to someone's house for Thanksgiving, expect there to be a game on. And men sitting on the couch drinking beer while women cook. wink.gif Which is sort of a good thing, as it keeps them out of the way.

Some families like to eat Thanksgiving dinner really early in the day, like at noon or 1pm. I tend to prefer later, like 5. And normally I eat dinner at 8, 9, 10pm, whenever I have time, so even that is an early dinner. You can really do whatever you want, but if you have a super early dinner, be prepared to cook some the day before or get up super early to start preparing.

It's traditional to cook a turkey as the main course. Other traditional dishes would be mashed potatoes, pumpkin pie (anything with squash really), um... we always have bread or biscuits and salad and olives out, though I don't know how traditional they are. I like to make butternut squash soup for a starter. Cranberry sauce and stuffing are definite side dishes. Hmm, what else am I forgetting? Anyone want to chime in here?

Also, for those who didn't know, Thanksgiving is the most widely celebrated holiday in the States, likely due to the fact that it is not a religious holiday (Scott, being the cute Jew that he is, thought it was laughing.gif ) and the fact that it is always on a Thursday and therefore many people get a 4-day weekend out of it. It's the most travelled holiday of the year as well. The Friday after Thanksgiving is now the biggest shopping day in the US, I guess b/c with Thanksgiving over, it is officially okay to get the Christmas celebrations in gear.

It's fun. It's basically just cooking and eating and having time to relax. smile.gif Well, unless you have a big stressful family... I guess then it might not be so fun. Since Scott will have to work the day after I've decided I'm going to host this year. smile.gif
Jeraly
Well this year it is going to be at our apartment - there will be six of us so not too bad and there is no TV in the living room so no football!!! laughing.gif Of course, we might have a tv by then but I wouldn't bank on it wink.gif I don't think Jeremy's family are that way inclined anyway so that is fine by me biggrin.gif

We have the starter already decided - it's going to be prawn cocktail which is a Christmas tradition of my family - it is the one thing I make every year (although this year my family will have to fend for themselves!) as I make my own sauce from scratch. We have the shrimp already in the freezer as they were on a BOGOF offer biggrin.gif

I only wish it would be a four day weekend! Jeremy will prolly be in work the next day sad.gif

So how does Christmas work for you? In England we always got up early, put the turkey in the oven, opened the presents in our stockings and then chilled out in the morning. My dad's parents used to come over in the morning (veg and things were prepared the day before) and we would have presents from them, then at about 11am we would go to the sports club/social club and have a few drinks before lunch. There we would meet with my mum's parents and we would head back to the house at about 12.30pm-1pm to put the veg on (depending on how cooked the turkey was) The table all gets set up in the morning too with a nice cloth and Christmas crackers and things smile.gif

We tend to eat about 2pm or so and the meal lasts about an hour and a half to two hours. It is usually me, mum, her partner, his mum and his aunt, my youngest brother and sometimes my other brother as well and my mum's parents. We have turkey with cranberry jelly, sprouts (gross but a tradition), stuffing, every kind of veg, roast potatoes and if we are lucky, mushy peas biggrin.gif. Prawn cocktail for starters obviously. Then for desert we might have a cheese board and/or christmas pudding/yule log/brandy snaps with cream.

After dinner when everything is cleared up, we start opening presents from the family that are there. Gradually the rest of the family turns up - my mum's two sisters, my uncle, four cousins and respective partners. My step brothers might make a show for a bit as well. We open up the rest of the presents with mum acting as Santa (without the costume!) and when we are done we continue to drink and maybe play some games or just talk. Later in the evening we set up a buffet with cold meats, rolls, chips, dips, pickled onions, pickled eggs, salad, trifle... all sorts smile.gif

I am kinda guessing that Thanksgiving here is a bit like that... but if so then what happens at Christmas?!?!?! I love my family Christmas and I am going to really miss it this year sad.gif
tucson_chick
hi guys!

sorry i've been so silent, but i got somehow sick and then my bike broke, and i was just really busy and tired!

i wish so much i had a cat!!! or even a dog!

how are you guys doing with the economy being in trouble? we are really feeling it here a lot.

I'm not sure about halloween yet, but i'll talk to eric later. our car has been giving us trouble lately and i'm not sure if it will survive the trip.....

i had to get really irritated about this

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...15&start=15

yeah. the temp EAD at JFK is worthless for your spouse if the plan is for her to be a SAHM anyway!
DANG! if the main priority (for money and career reasons) is to find a job and work ASAP, then it can be well worth it.
DANG! especially if somebody already has a SSN. we went far out of our way to get the EAD and fly via JFK, so I really really really HATE it when people tell me it was worthless. well, if they have unlimited funds and the spouse needs time to adjust, well - but THATS NOT EVERYBODY.
DANG.

Jeraly
laughing.gif Agnes you crack me up!! And I realllllllly hope you can make it to the party - it wouldn't be the same without you!!

Economy is... interesting... the bills are gradually coming down because the AC isn't being used *quite* as much and the gas prices are dropping which helps as well. When we buy the car from Maven then that will help even more. But we have been majorly overspending - Jeremy has a hard time saying no but tells me we can afford things and to trust him, then I find out we don't have enough money to pay the bills!!! Needless to say we have had a big talk so hopefully things will get a bit better now, but it will help out sooo much when I get a job - no movement at all though - I still can't even see my cases online so I am hoping that maybe I'll just get a letter one day unsure.gif
rae_and_scott
Oh Aly, your Christmas sounds just lovely. smile.gif

When I was a kid we would be allowed to open one present of our choosing on Christmas Eve, and then have to save all the rest for Christmas morning. When I was 17 my parents divorced and then we'd do Christmas Eve gifts and meal with my Dad, and gifts and dinner with my mom day of. Now, though, my mom still lives in Michigan where I grew up, but my dad lives in Tennessee, so holidays have gotten difficult and sticky. They both always want me to come home and guilt me when I don't. One year I skipped them all and stayed in New York alone but that was kinda depressing so lately I've been trying to switch years; Thanksgiving with one parent and Christmas with the other. That isn't going to work this year since I'll be staying here for Thanksgiving, but oh well. I still want to go home to MI for Christmas. I don't think Scott will be joining me, which is unfortunate, but he's Jewish, so he doesn't celebrate Christmas anyway. On the one hand, it's nice not having 2 MORE sets of parents to have to split this holiday between, but on the other, Scott is really a Grinch about Christmas, and I wish he wasn't. He hates the holiday and the absolute consemerism associated with it. He hates Christmas trees as he sees them as just a dead, murdered tree (and the plastics ones are no better since plastic isn't exactly enviro-friendly). So I could do without the complaining about the holiday, but whatever! We've made it work for 6 years so far. So I'll just go spend it with my mom again, have a nice time with her and seeing my friends who are still there, like I usually do. My best friend from home always has a Christmas Eve party and my mom and I go to that when I'm there, so that is fun.

Day of we relax and take it easy. Have coffee and open gifts, drink wine and eat munchies a lot of the day. For dinner we do a big shellfish dinner, which I just absolutely love.

And then Scott and I do a New Years gift. We haven't missed being together on New Years before, and I don't imagine we will now that we're married, so that is a nice new tradition for the 2 of us. smile.gif

Ah, the holidays. I like them. I like the season here in New York and the spirit and yes, even the shopping. laughing.gif
BabyBlueSusie
QUOTE(tucson_chick @ Oct 8 2008, 09:53 PM) *
hi guys!

sorry i've been so silent, but i got somehow sick and then my bike broke, and i was just really busy and tired!

i wish so much i had a cat!!! or even a dog!

how are you guys doing with the economy being in trouble? we are really feeling it here a lot.

I'm not sure about halloween yet, but i'll talk to eric later. our car has been giving us trouble lately and i'm not sure if it will survive the trip.....

i had to get really irritated about this

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...15&start=15

yeah. the temp EAD at JFK is worthless for your spouse if the plan is for her to be a SAHM anyway!
DANG! if the main priority (for money and career reasons) is to find a job and work ASAP, then it can be well worth it.
DANG! especially if somebody already has a SSN. we went far out of our way to get the EAD and fly via JFK, so I really really really HATE it when people tell me it was worthless. well, if they have unlimited funds and the spouse needs time to adjust, well - but THATS NOT EVERYBODY.
DANG.


yea, some people tend to think that their situation is everyone's situation. they are just simply ignorant.

i haven't (knock on wood) really felt the effects of the economy, but maybe that's because i have been poor right along laughing.gif i don't know, i receive a fixed living stipend from the school (not much AT ALL, trust me), which isn't going anywhere until i get my phd in 5 years...i definitely notice less people eating out and things like that though...glad to see that gas prices have taken a dip in recent days...i keep hearing on cnn that we should pay down our credit card debt asap, because the companies will probably be lowering spending limits due to their financial hardship...that is now a top priority in the short term...i really hope adriano can find a job soon, that would be a HUGE help
Jeraly
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That was a message to all from the kitten biggrin.gif

Susie - I know what you mean about the financial situation - I haven't been working (obviously) so we have only ever had one income and almost all of that goes on bills, gas, food and rent. It doesn't help that Jeremy's van only gets 12mpg ohmy.gif As soon as we get a car we are going to be laughing - Gas prices here have gone from 4.50 to 3.37 and still seem to be dropping which is a great help as Jeremy drives 32 miles a day to work and back and that isn't taking into consideration going anywhere else like the store and things. His credit cards have taken a hammering as he prefers to do that than tell me we have no money and can't afford things rolleyes.gif so we have prolly over $3000 on cards which is really bad. As soon as I have a job, all of his money is going on the usual bills/rent etc. but any leftover is going to go towards paying off his cards. Money I earn might help out there as well just to get it all paid off sooner, but then I want to use a lot of my money to save towards a deposit for a house and leave a bit of disposable income to have some kind of social life!

Rae - I had the same issue with Christmas when my parents split up - we used to spend one year with mum on Christmas Day then with dad on Boxing Day and alternate years. Another thing we did when my parents were together was go to my gran's (dad's mum's) house for a pre-Christmas dinner. As we were kids, we still believed in Father Christmas and each year the doorbell would ring and we'd go to the door and there would be a big box of presents left for us! Eventually we got wise to it and started looking out of the front window but the adults always managed to distract us for long enough that my granddad was able to sneak in! He used to spend a lot of time in his garage so logically as kids we never figured that he might come out of there to put presents on the doorstep!! When we stopped believing, then the presents stopped as well but gradually that day changed to a Saturday and now that is when dad comes down and we have Christmas with him - same scenario really but we get there for lunch at about 2pm then we have presents after and then we play party games that my dad has compiled (there are some really great ones that I am hoping to implement on Thanksgiving and New Year's Eve, including a treasure hunt and chocolate eating game biggrin.gif ).

What does everyone else do for Christmas then? I find it so bizarre to not have a turkey - we are going to have to buy a spare I think after Thanksgiving!! Although... I don't know - I want to make new traditions but at the same time, I still want it to feel like Christmas to me. I think in future when we eventually buy a house and potentially move State then we will have Thanksgiving in the US because it is so huge then go back to England for Christmas every year - especially when we have kids smile.gif I know my mum would love that too as she loves Christmas and to her it is all about having the family around - with us all growing up and getting our own lives though it is rapidly changing. I just can't imagine any place I would rather be than at home with my family on Christmas Day sad.gif
BabyBlueSusie
jeraly - sounds like your situation is a twin to ours...i would also rather use the card than tell adriano that we dont have money (even though he knows we dont)...i know its terrible, but we have a similar plan in that, when he gets his job, he will beginning paying down the cards, which shouldnt take too long...we also want to start saving for a house, but if we plan to get one in ny, it will be a longgggg while before we have enough money for that...if we were going to get one here in indiana (which i doubt will happen anymore), we could definitely save enough within the next year (assuming he finds a job)... wacko.gif what a mess

ps- tell the kitty thanks for the sweet message! my kitty used to do that as well, but i pushed him off the desk enough times that i think he learned =]
Jeraly
Heheh - well we are looking at moving anywhere with four seasons and no natural disasters!!! It's really weird to think that we can move anywhere in this huge country and it is quite a nice thought, although uprooting again will be hard it won't be anywhere near as difficult as leaving the UK was. If I was living in the UK we would live in Bristol and I would have prolly never moved far from there at all. Now I have made the break we have the choice to pick wherever we want to live! Not that I couldn't in the UK - I just wouldn't have wanted to smile.gif

My kitty has just learned how to get up to the space above the wardrobe - Daisy my other kitty goes up there a lot by jumping from the bed to the dresser then from the TV on the dresser to the space. He has obviously watched her enough as he got up there (rather inelegantly) by himself and even got back down again!!! Both kitties are sleeping now though which is lovely and peaceful and I have the windows opened again!! Woohoo!! It's only meant to hit 86 here today!
weedebz
With regards to Kitties. I love my wee boy Oscar (I say wee but he's a 16lb Norwegian Forest Cat), he keeps me amused for hours on end. He can get aggressive and bite sometimes but I'd never give him up for anything. He was a rescue cat and had been badly treated in his previous home. Recently he has found a way into the basement ceiling cavity and we can hear him running round above our heads. Me and the landlady have been all over and can't see how he's getting in and out.

Anyways, I'm going to be AWOL for a while. My ma and pa arrive tomorrow for the next 10 days. Not seen them since March and they weren't here for the wedding so we having a wee party at the place we had our wedding reception and eating the top teir of the wedding cake with them. Taking it out of the freezer tonight.
Jeraly
Oooh - Debz have fun!!! It will be nice to see them again!! I still have six months to wait until I see my mum sad.gif
tucson_chick
QUOTE(Jeraly @ Oct 10 2008, 11:54 PM) *
Oooh - Debz have fun!!! It will be nice to see them again!! I still have six months to wait until I see my mum sad.gif




NO, we will not end up on page 2!!!!!!!!

hope everybody is having a great weekend!
*julez*
Nice save, Agnes! good.gif

Where in God's name is Marta???? unsure.gif *worried*
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