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This is difficult to answer. I am both surprised but, then again, no at the amount of sexual content on this site. This site caters to people in distance relationships. Many people need to vent a whole lot as, well, being apart causes a whole lot of frustration and especially of the sexual variety. Misery loves company. Once the ball gets rolling, it's much easier to push it faster than attempt to stop it. And when you are safely hidden in cyperspace, it just makes it even easier to join in for kicks and giggles. Is it inappropriate? Hmmm... This may be a family based immigration site, but I don't see any kids around. I don't believe in censorship. I believe in turning the channel, closing the book, or visiting a different internet site.

I voted no.

If you don't chose to participate in a particular forum or post, that is your choice.

We're all adults here.

Yes, too much.

Hmmmm, well I think sometimes the jokes and innuendos get taken to the point where it's just silly and eye-rollingly not funny, but that's just my taste. Nothing that I think should be censored.

i said no. but then again that kind of thing doesn't bother me, and if it does, i don't reat or participate in that topic.

Well, there is sex, then there is flat out nasty. I don't want to hear about your monthly cycle or if you take a crap at work or fart your way to buns of steel . But, whatever.

I think Jeffery put it right. Sex is a normal, necessary part of any healthy relationship. It is of significant interest to most people. It is, has been and will continue to be a favorite subject for all of humanity. It is essential that we talk about it, especially on a relationship site.

I don't pay much attention to that stuff usually. Anyways I agree we're all adults here. We can pick what threads we choose to view and participate in.

I said "yes." We can pick the threads we participate in, but I think it can be really inappropriate when someone responds to a non-sexual post with a sexual innuendo joke. Actually, I might not have a problem with it if it were funny, but usually they're pretty sophomoric. That might not be my sense of humor, and I bet there are others who tire of those jokes, too. I'm not a prude, I just prefer jokes that are funny.

nothing wrong with sex or discussing it but the trash talk is getting ridiculous. These aren't discussions, they are
trash comments intended for the loudest laugh and make the poster look ...ehem...well for lack of better word trashy.

I agree. No need to disrupt the flow of a serious topic with unrelated comments because they tend move the topic away from the subject the poster had in mind.

On the other hand, if the topic is sex related I think all jokes are fair. Sex related issues can be uncomfortable to discuss and some comedy relief is often welcome and even helpful to move the topic along.

With spouses or fiances?

YOU have to be kidding

Say that to the 58% of the respondents who voted yes.

FWIW, I voted no.

I agree. There are threads that have obvious titles to let you know not to participate if you are not into the subject being discussed. But I get annoyed when people bring it into every thread possible it seems. It gets very old. I probably am a prude though(but I don't care if I am). I don't like talking about that stuff or hearing/reading about it on VJ. Most of it is TMI.

Exactly.

But it's too subjective! Humour, I mean. I've read some things that I think are completely not funny while others are ROTFLOL. And of course, it works in reverse!

How do you measure appropriate as compared to inappropriate? I guess anything in excess may be harmful to your health eventually. Sexual content used in postings may be helpful if done in good taste.

i say no... it is the basics of humor in most cultures..and if you don't like it then skim over the comments///

I voted no because what I find appropiate others find inappropiate and vice versa.....I pick what i want to participate in and leave what I don't. Am I offended by Eric constantly talking about the fictious size of his member? no...I'm just tired of it Smutty innuendos? pfft...I'm British, we are bought up on them Ohhh err missus.

I guess I'm not exactly offended so much as tired of them, too. Except occasionally. Recently, someone suggested I wanted to give them a blow job. That was actually pretty offensive/revolting and made me uncomfortable. Some people need a little help with boundaries.

Did you report it?

I must be completely obtuse or maybe I just haven't participated much lately, because I seem to be missing the sexual comments/content.
I miss all the fun

Only when people post naked pictures...I mean, it's all good and fun when we are joking, we are all grown ups either engaged or married...but dude, I don't need to see a pic of xx's boobies, or of a fat guy in a leather thong

Saludos,
Caro

hahaha


I voted "no", but I think that's because I stay out of "Off Topic" usually. That is where I tend to read the more extreme sexual comments/jokes.
Other than that, I don't see too many threads that I'd consider inappropriate - we are all adults and we can choose the threads that we read.

What's worse is when it's quoted and you have to relive the image over, and over, and over...

When "youporn" videos pop up it might be time to worry

Almost 45% say yes. That's way more than I would have expected.

The people who would answer 'yes' are less likely to be the outspoken type, IMO.

I agree - and I'm surprised to see so many people vote "yes". I didn't expect that.

I don't think I reported that. I've reported stuff a couple times but I don't think that was one of them. I'm really reluctant to report people because I feel strange "tattling" about behavior I didn't like. It's not illegal to be an a$$hole, even if it violates TOS.

So yeah, we're all adults. While that means we should be able to "handle" sexual material, it doesn't mean people have developed an adult level of taste. And yeah, I have a problem with that.

At times there is way too much sexual content. that being said, I manage to avoid most of it by checking out the title or the first couple of posts. Unfortunately, some people like to use it in their avatars, which I have a problem with.

I see the Puritans have been voting in this poll......

Really? There's a lot of people who read and either don't post, or only post sporadically. So we don't know what they think or feel. And I guess that doesn't affect us because they are silent.

But it speaks volumes about what people overall probably think of the site. As far as many behaviors are concerned.

dang i need to learn that - i'll be in shape in no time

Agreed. 42% (as of this writing) feel the amount of sexual content is inappropriate. That is way more than what I'd consider acceptable. It means there's too much. Of course, I realize I've contributed to it.

I think it goes OTT a bit...but eh, I don't really care anymore. Yes, we're all adults, but I wouldn't go talking about my sexual business in person with anyone...why would I do it here? I feel it's summat between me and D only, and there's no need to go bragging about it as if it's trying to prove anything. We all have sex here, that's no surprise! I don't feel that makes me a puritan....it's called being able to socialize in mixed company.

A well placed innuendo or so...they can be funny.

I was having a conversation with someone and he said 'don't get all wet' which I thought was completely tasteless and crude and well out of line...

I agree with you platy. I could care less if people are talking about sexual things. I'm pretty pervy myself

Don't you think that label is a bit unfair though? Why the need to namecall?

Nope. It's a whole lot less then what I've seen on other web sites.

I don't think it's unfair at all.

I find it to be a bit insulting, actually...I'm hardly puritanical, yet I believe some things shouldn't be said. Calling people puritans to me kinda discounts the opinion as not as valid. Like 'oh they're just puritans' Maybe it doesn't match yours, but it's just as valid a POV.

Like if I were to say everyone who doesn't agree with me is a 'slut' or somesuch, that would be unfair, imo. Mind you, I am NOT saying that at all!

I made a generic comment; it wasn't directed at any one person.

The question was "Do you feel there is an inappropriate amount of sexual content on Visajourney.com?" NOT "Do you think SOME of the sexual content on VJ is over the line?" Hell, even *I* agree that some of it is WAY over the top. But that wasn't the question. My point was that pretty much only a Puritan could think that there is too much sexual content on VJ in general. ie: it's maybe 1% of all posts here.

Ok makes sense, but keep in mind that many on this site are from different countries and cultures....

ETA: I didn't think you were singling out one person!

I misunderstood you lisa I thought you were asking me if it was unfair to be calling myself pervy.

I thought it was a strange question

I saw that comment. It was more of a 'power' thing - kind of like verbal rape. Man talking down to a woman.