Having not voted yet, I reserved my vote for further evaluation. After today's topics, I voted yes.

For example: http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...p;#entry1495242

Dean,

Your professional opinion of the norm?

it seams anything goes on visa journey.

i am sexually satisified by my husband so i see no need to come to vj and talk about sex. but thats just me.

talk away.

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...47589&st=40

A little trip down memory lane for you.

Thank you Jenn. That's a classic. Should be pinned.

sister, you feel like those that do write about sexual humor...are lacking in sexual fulfillment from their spouse? and those, that do not have a healthy happy sex life?

I'm not going to speak for Donna, but I know what she means... I think... It's not so much about lacking fulfillment if you talk all about it, but it seems that sometimes the talk comes from a need to prove something. Sexual humor just for the sake for it is fine, but when it becomes about personal experiences, it just seems strange to go broadcasting that. And if the things one says about "what they are gonna do with their spouse tonight" are just jokes...well, you gotta remember that you don't know how all of that is taken by quite a diverse audience on VJ.

Also, I find the labelling as a prude to be uncalled for if you don't want to talk about body parts, techniques, positions, etc....

i agree..re. the labelling as a prude as many are uncomfortable with this type of humor and/or comments....and that is not being prudish..

also, you make some good points sister fracas...

I voted no because I haven't seen any sexual content here at all.

if u r totally satisfied then u will have no need to come online and ask questions like "how many times a day do u have sex" questions. its just like eating. if u eat til ur satisified then do u still want to eat? do u come on vj and ask "how many times a day do u eat". no.

so if ur sexually satisified u shouldnt have to come here and ask these kinds of questions about other people. u know they are going to lie about the answer anyway so why even ask.

Too true!!! LOL

Foodies love to talk about food. Doesn't mean they go hungry.

I feel it could be the opposite...I may be wrong. those who think they are fulfilled might not be as fulfilled as those who are open about it

To be honest, the answer iies at both ends of the spectrum! It's the 'tweeners that don't talk about it.

Just to clarify my point...it's not the being open about sex in general, it's the personal details that I find strange to be shared. Let's face it sex IS hilarious, especially if you take a step back and really think about it.

Shіt. Fuсk. Аss.

in that order?

maybe part of the fulfillment (is that a word? ) is talking about it?

wow, is that sad, if true.

maybe your definition of sad isn't the same as everybody's?

um, oooookay.

One thing that comes to mind about all this pushing & pulling on this discussion is there IS a middle ground. Might be helpful to point out that OTT can go both ways

for clarity - OTT in content, and OTT in reaction.

Well, I think it seems there is no OTT when it comes to content. I've never seen a mod step in and say, "this is inappropriate for this thread, please stop." But there seems to be no problem intervening when the reaction is OTT.

apparently pics of vomit, naked butts & other offensive material are all A-OK! God forbid you actually express your distaste, lest you be labelled a prude.

hey, if it's a butt i'll call it a butt and if it's a prude i'll call it that too.

if we gotta live with the prudes, heck, the prudes gotta live with the butt.

fair is fair.

Apples & oranges.

not necessarily. both can offend. if one is allowed, the other should be too.

touche

And how is someone saying they don't like a pic offensive? Words are not the same as images. VJ Sheesh.

so images are more offensive than words in your opinion?

Words have impact as well. I am offended by words all the time. My life sucks, this constant sense of offendedness is driving me crazy!

I actually did this today, but like any mod action, just because it is not on posted on the forum does not mean other counselling methods are being used directly with that member. Some content is removed altogether, some is responded to in post, and some is dealt with via PM.

Counseling methods, dayum! Sounds ominous.

I think that's 'polite' for 'chewed out'.

I have to say, the amount of "innappropriate" content I find on here is one of the reasons I spend less time here. It's all too juvenile. I almost feel nostalgic for the days when OT was all illegals and 9-11 conspiracy theories all the time

This is not because I am a prude but because I reached my 12th birthday many years ago.

Yeah, it's like the mods have come up with their own little inter-departmental bureaucratic lingo. It's pretty cool.

I wonder if they have memos and voicemail?

Well they do have meetings in a secret password protected room on VJ chat.

I wonder what they call a repeat offender.

VJ Troll.

Ow. I just got zinged.

Awwwwwwwww.

You're a big boy, you can take it!

Yeah i cried it off. I'm ok now.

Buy you a drink after work to make up for it.

Meet you in the secret chat.

Best post of the day.