I need advice at this minute. Last night my hubby of 3 months went to another city to stay until his friend could send him money to go back to Morocco. I live in TN. Now they have told me he has to stay with me til we get divorce or he will be in trouble with authorities back home.

Is this true? I will gladly pay his plane fare if he can go get on plane and go home. Both of us will be happier. One of us can get divorce in future. I don't want to go into details, but he can't be trusted. And he is angry. I don't want the police involved as I live in a small town and don't need all this crap.

Advice please? We have filed for AOS and done biometrics jsut last week. thank for all help, Sadly waiting

Any trouble in Morocco, is his trouble. It doesn't sound right to me but perhaps there's something unique to Morocco to consider. You might want to ask in the appropriate regional forum. Otherwise, you can divorce without his cooperation or presense in the US. As for the immigration related issues, simply contact USCIS for instructions on withdrawing your I-864. AOS will cease at that point.

Hubby of 3 months left yesterday to stay with person in another town until he could leave for Morocco on Wed. I am planning divorce. He left message with my friend that he will come back to my house cuz his Moroccan friends (or acquaitances really) told him that he had to get divorced before he came back or he would be in trouble with authorities. I am sitting here scared to death cuz I don't want him back in the house. I live in small town, don't want trouble with police. I am sure he will leave (I will even pay for the friggin ticket) if he knows for sure he can go back and not be in trouble with authorities. We can divorce in the future. As for status, applied for AOS, EAD, had fingerprints made week ago. I am just sick and shaking because of all this stress. He lost my trust, can never be earned back, and only married 3 months.

Advice, please. THanks

PS--Divorce in TN takes 60 days and we can't stay in same house for that amount of time, if at all. And of course, all of this is my fault, except for this one incident. What a crock and what a sad thing this is.

I am sorry that you are going through all of this.I would get a restraining order.I know it is just a piece of paper but maybe it will give some peace of mind,can you go stay with a friend or family member for a few days? Until things settle down.

Maranda(f)

I haven't personally gone through this but there are a few on here who will have a lot of information that may help you. I wish you luck in whatever course God has chosen for you.

amal

Oh Debbie I'm so sorry to hear it ended this way!!! You can remind him he doesn't need to stay here in the US and to get his arse back to Morocco on Wednesday. You don't need to feel all that stress and be afraid like that! Then call and cancel the AOS. *big hugs*

Do not listen to his friends. Clearly they do not have your best interest in mind. I wouldnt pay for his ticket. What happens when they get deported do they bill them? Do it that way. Get a restraining order, have him deported and get a divorce. In that order. He can be back in morocco and you can get a divorce no problem, you dont need him for that. I doubt he would be in trouble with authorities in morocco unless he did something wrong to deserve that and if he did, then thats his problem. You said you dont trust him, so protect yourself 100%. Dont answer calls from his friends, tell your friends not to answer calls from his friends.

If it IS possible to get him deported (not sure how easy that is, someone here will chime in) then I would. But it would almost be easier just to pay the ticket (don't give him money, buy the ticket yourself) I'd even make sure his arse was at the airport and left. lol

I'm sorry this happened to you. I agree with Chaishai, get him out of her and cancel your AOS and don't worry about the divorce this second. It sounds like he's trying to get divorced before he leaves for a reason- maybe he's planning on marrying another American to stay here... who knows. GOod luck!

I've never heard of a man getting in trouble with authorities in Morocco for returning there before his divorce was final. He may very well lose face, but that's his problem and it's not the same as getting in trouble with the authorities. He and his friends may be hoping he gets his green card before the divorce goes through (my husband's AOS was transfered to CSC and approved without an interview, so this could conceivably happen for your husband since biometrics are done -- they may be hoping for that). Ignore his friends. Withdraw your affidavit of support immediately before they have time to issue his EAD, get a restraining order (seriously!), and let USCIS know you are divorcing. You can't control whether they deport him or not, or when, but it won't be very pleasant for him trying to hang around without an EAD or a green card. You don't owe him a plane ticket, but if it will help you feel safer, I can understand buying it. Once he's out, he won't be allowed back in without another visa. Good luck. I'm sorry this has happened to you.

im sorry , stay strong, get him out of the country

Who are 'they'?

Too bad this man is out of your eyesight. As things stand right at the moment, he could move anywhere and you would have no idea where he might be.

As pushbrk said, you can notify USCIS that you are withdrawing your petition and I-864. It would also be a good idea to include in that correspondence his last known address.

Here is the latest. He called begged to come back. Says he will go to Imam and counseling, loves me, please forgive this one mistake. Now the problem--do you forgive one mistake? Later

If he could delay the divorce until after he received his conditional green card, he could then petition to remove the conditions on his own after the divorce without even waiting the two years to do so (unless I'm very much mistaken). Maybe this is where he and his friends are going with this. Are you sure he really wants to return to Morocco? Please act quickly and get out from under that affidavit of support, and please stay safe. You may not have a very big window of opportunity here with USCIS.

Sounds like he realized he won't get his green card if he leaves now...
You have previously stated that his family doesn't want him to be with you and sounds like he doesn't want to be here either, at least in his present situation.

I would think long and hard before you take him and his abuse back into your life.

You're the only one who can answer that. Only you know how serious the details are. All I can say is just from reading what you have written and knowing nothing about your situation, my first impression is he just realized he shot his chances of staying in the foot by walking out before being approved for AOS. If you let him back in and he bides his time until he has the card before leaving, his chances of remaining legally in this country after a divorce will be much more favorable.

If you really want it, you can seek marriage counseling without actually living under the same roof and resetting the clock on your two months of required separation before you could file for divorce in TN. A couple doesn't have to be living together to work on a marriage. He walked. That's a serious step. You don't have to install a revolving door on your home.

You said you were afraid of him and wanted him out, period, that you were even willing to pay for his plane ticket to have him out of your life. Think hard about why you said that. I know it's difficult, but try to set your heart aside and think solely with your head. If a close female friend or relative told your story as her own, what advice would you give her?

Just my two cents. Good luck.

sorry to hear this happened but as melly said, think long and hard before letting him back in. withdraw your affidavit of support for the aos as mentioned in the other forum you posted.

I have merged this topic to ensure best responses based on the topic.

From your posts: "He can't be trusted." "He is angry." "I am scared to death."

Sweetheart, PLEASE don't forgive his "one mistake". It is never one.

Follow your heart and never ever be dishonest to yourself.
I wish you the best of luck!

for me it depends on what this situation means. there are some things that even done once, are not forgivable. my first impression is also what mona_jamie said. open your eyes and do what you think is right. if you love him and believe he truly loves you (and is sorry for whatever he did) then go for it. be careful

I don't know this guy but I agree that you need to follow your insticts here. WHY would a man be looking for another woman after only being married for 3 months? Would you EVER tolerate this from an American man? NO!!!

He's an adult and he knows his behavior is completely unacceptable. Stay strong!!

First let me tell you he didn't hit me or anything. We both had screaming matches, which makes me afraid. And he didn't cheat or talk to anybody online. BUT I am not excusing his behavior--he was a moron. BUT I have decided to give him one chance and only one. We are going to Imam to talk and also to my old counselor to work on dealing with issues. His friends and mine have kicked his butt all to H### for this and he has been humiliated on two continents, which he knows he deserves. What is that saying, fool me once whatever....He knows he has to grow up and act like a man, husband and everything he is supposed to be. Please pray that God had a reason for us to be together, cuz believe it or not, I do love him and feel that he loves me. Only time will tell. Please don't judge us too harshly and thanks for the support!

I wish you both all the best

Hope things all work out - it sounds like you're making all the right moves and taking steps in the right direction sort things out which is what marriage is all about: working together to get through problems *hugs*

It's your life and only you can live it. Best wishes to you, and keep praying for a restoration .
God honours marriage because He created it!

Wishing you both the best!

Best wishes to you both.

ONE MORE THING--somebody had the impression his parents didn't like me. NO NO NO they are the most wonderful people in the world, as are his sisters and extended family. Treat me like one of their own. If he doesnt treat me right and they find out (and they will if he does anything else), they would be so disappointed, I don't think he would ever go back home to visit.

Wishing you all the best in whatever you decide to do

good luck debbie!

Hoping that you will work together thru the difficult times! Best of luck!

I wish you the best.