good morning...got engaged a few months after knowing my fiance and filed for K-1 this month; I know we've not know each other for a long time at all, but we do communicate a lot (my cell) and I've been back to see him in Jamaica since meeting him the first time. We met 9/07, got engaged 11/07 we also have a 13 year age difference...I (female) 37 he 24. Just trying to calm my nerves.

My husband and I have a 12 year age difference. Some days we see things differently. Mostly, it's a non-issue.

Communicate....communicate....communicate. That's my advice.

Thank you. And thanks again, for the quick reply. Beautiful picture by the way. Beautiful couple.

Ditto. We have a 11 year age difference. Not a major issue.

Communitcation and patience is the key

Welcome to VJ and goodluck on the rest of your journey!!!

As far as the Jamaican embassy is concerned I've only heard of a couple of people where the "age" issue was addressed. Having said that I would certainly make sure that his maturity level falls into your acceptable parameters. Some men mature at an early age and some never do no matter how old they are

Welcome and best wishes on the rest of your journey!

Hey Lawny,

I work here at the airport in Charleston, WV and met a lady here at my counter that is getting married in Jamaica in February. She is in her 40's (41-42) and he is in his mid 20's. I would not worry about it. Love has no boundaries. She is from Tennessee and of course, he is in Jamaica.

Peace & Love,
Tonya

Hmm I opened this up thinking it would be juicy then I think ONLY 13 years ... that isn't even worth posting .

I am a Californian and we don't even raise an eyebrow until the spouse is significantly younger than the kids

Well, when u live in a culture where people turn their noses up and a 7yr difference it's different. And therefore you seek out people/persons that share you issue, so it is worth posting. My culture !# YEARS is a big deal to most. If ur dating someone younger than ur kid then there's a problem significantly or not...

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Well, in my case, that would just be plain SICK............

My first husands third wife is the same age as our daughter. So there is a 20+ year age difference. However she is getting close to 30 which is when he runs. Next time he should hit the point when he is married to someone younger than his childern.

That is one of the funniest things I ever heard. Sad; but funny.

************KISSTEET***********KISSTEET*********** bout something juicy
No badda wid dat...if sintin dem pon mi mind mi a go post it...mi wuda tell u fi go chuk aff a flat bridge, but u no know weh dat deh...anyways...


Ladies thanks for the advice....

There's a 12 year difference with me and my fiance....communication and patience is key! No biggie...

We have a 32 year age difference and haven't had any issues thus far. We just filed to lift conditions.

Wow. Congrats....and keep up the good work!

Most def. Someone has to have some unresloved issues some where.

I cannot even grabs the concept Mabe because mine are so young, maybe if I was way older? don't think so.

Thank you... I was think that I was ONLY one with a young fiance from jamaica.

You are not alone I am older than my husband also

Nope, I personally met two couples who had a 20+ age difference.

Don't worry about it.I am 6 years older than my fiance and I used to babysit him back in the day.

It would be a little weird for me if I used to baby sit my spouse....no, I'm not saying it's wrong nor do I care..it's just a little much for me

mi 50cents..who 'ave some change fi gi mi ?

That's all right.It was strange for me at first also.lol

That is worth 45 cents. You get all of 5 cents back, Kimmie

ahhahaa u galang..weh u deh

Hello,
I am 12 years older than my hubby. He's alot more mature at 26 then most American men I know at 40...lol. I wouldn't sweat it. Love knows no age difference. There will be times that you realize the age difference but for the majority of the time you will never think about it. Congrats on the engagement! Good Luck in the process! ~Rhonda~

You will find a lot of folks here on VJ with large age differences. In our case it is 24 years. I think when you are dating across cultures the age makes less difference because you don't expect to have parallel cultural experiences anyway.

For instance, my future bride is far more mature than a comparable American woman of 21 simply because life and expectations for women in the Philippines are so much harder than here in the U.S.

ROTFLMAO at your siggy

Lay dun inna meh bed a read oonu posts. oonu too bad, but oonu mek me laugh

Well, this certainly makes me feel better about our 15 year diff.

I gotta tell you tho, we're both BIG kids at heart anyway, so it really doesn't even show. =)

My co-worker married a man she babysat for....he left his wife for her Now that's crazy. He's 12 years older than her. The kids can't stand her...don't want nothing to do with her. I can't imagine how the wife felt

Ouch...good luck with that one.

wow..si wah mi a talk bout...WEIRD !

Lawny,

Nuh worry yuhself Yay! I am ten years older than Ken (Actually, 9 years and 357 days ). Truss mi Yard men in my opinion are typically alot more mature than their US counterparts. They have no choice...they have to grow up quickly. Yuh tink Mama a guh tek dem tuh school or come home fi fix dinner??? No suh!! Dem haffi grow hup quick quick inna Yard!

Many a time Ken will tell mi fi stop goofing around and behave miself! Many a time mi haffi tell him fi stop act like mi Daddy han have FUN!!! Mi always tell him he's 27 going on 77!!!

Dats actually my nickname fuh him..."Daddy" Cause him always act like him a deh elder!

Nuh worry yuhself...LOVE IS LOVE!! Han deh heart is NOT in deh least bit concerned wid age when hit falls in love

Bless-ed,
Gill

Some yard men, Gill. I've met some who I am convinced with NEVER mature.

I am also older than my USC fiancé by some 8 and a half years. However, he was married for 10 years and has three kids, and has been supporting himself since he was 21 (something quite unheard of in my home country of Italy) - while I have never been married, or even lived with anyone but my parents. Besides, my worst relationship experience was with a man over 13 years my senior... Talk about immaturity!

That said, in Italy couples where the man is even significantly older than the woman are more readily accepted than those where the woman is even a few years older. There is still a common misconception about a man wanting a younger woman for reasons of physical attractiveness, and obviously many think an older woman is going to become almost repulsive as she ages. Well, to each their own, I suppose...