http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/2007-0...-marriage_n.htm


My question is how many of you have experienced some form of racism as a result of your interracial or mixed nationality marriage? Personally, when a member of my family found out I intended to marry a Vietnamese woman she asked me "How can you do that after what they did to us". I was shocked to say the least. My response was that

1.) I was relatively certain she had nothing to do with the war since she wasn't even born yet. and

2.) That it was us that probably owed amends since we bombed them to the stone age and then bailed out leaving one hell of a mess behind that continues to kill today. Sounds sort of familiar doesn't it? Meet the new boss, same as the old boss.

P.S. I still haven't asked if a white German would be acceptable.

I have no problem with my inlaws and other friends of my husband..I'm welcome to them. just when I going out e.i Target, restaurants and so on.. I noticed some female caucasian want to eat me.(I don't know but I can tell their body language) but I try not to care isn't my business its theirs, if they have problem on me then too bad for them

I had a woman who is an acquaintance of my roommate tell me that she had had a 'message from God' that my husband was only using me for a GC. This is based only on knowing the bare facts of the relationship and only talking with me for maybe 3 minutes in Walgreen's.

Both of our families have been totally accepting of Yuibi and I, which we are incredibly thankful for. Most of the negative comments have been from total strangers. For example: When in Japan, a hobo came up to me and started to cuss me out for being a non-Japanese person with a Japanese guy. It was more creepy than anything- he smelled like feet.

More positively (but also strange), when we were first dating we were getting out of my car at Best Buy when I teenaged guy saw us holding hands and yelled, "WOOO! INTERRACIAL COUPLE! RIGHT ON!!!!!!!!!" Starling, but at least he meant well.

I noticed some female caucasian want to eat me.(I don't know but I can tell their body language)

I have no problem with my inlaws and other friends of my husband..I'm welcome to them. just when I going out e.i Target, restaurants and so on.. I noticed some female caucasian want to eat me.(I don't know but I can tell their body language) but I try not to care isn't my business its theirs, if they have problem on me then too bad for them

my husband's friend(not a close one) once called me a GOOT. Hubby told me about it and I didn't really get mad and was thinking then to let that man pay his word to me. Now, I really don't mind at all if I hear again that word against me coz me and hubby know the truth.

I am white and my wife is Jamaican. She is still in Jamaica and has not been to the US as of now, but I have spent alot of time in Jamaica and I think the people there are very wonderful people (most of them). Her family is very supportive and loving and has no problem that i am white. BUT, there are some (ok alot) of racial men in Jamaica. I had to learn quick to just ignore them and smile at them as I held my wife close to me. They made many remarks like white man, why you with a white man, and they would tell my wife that no white man can please like a Jamaican man (they could be right, but my wife thinks different, she is very happy in all depts.)

As for my family, they are very supportive and can't wait to meet her (except for 1 aunt who laughed at me, but i don't even speak to her anymore -- its her ignorance not mine). My church which is 95% white are very supportive and anxious to meet her as well. (which brings up a point -- We all serve the same God, so it does'nt matter in His eyes, so we should not worry about what others think)

My husband didn't want to come here at all, but came for me. I have gotten the GC comment, but generally just blow it off. In fact, the last person whjo made that comment was born in Cape Verde and naturalized (or his parents did) 15 years ago.

Hubby thinks people look at him a lot, and feels like he notices the difference in looks when we go shopping in say, the suburban town where I grew up as opposed to the city that we live in now. But I'm surrounded by people in interracial marriages.

And where I live and work, if you say "oh, she's the white girl" everyone knows who you're talking about.

What I have felt is tension from other women, white or Latina, who seem to think that just because I'm chatting with their men then I'm someone bad. We went to a party full of Central and South Americans, and at the beginning some of the older Colombian women were not too friendly, but by the end they had invited me to Medellin for vacation. I think it was partly feeling me out because they might not interact with non-Hispanic people too much. I don't know, but I'm pretty used to women needing time to warm up.

But what i hadn't expected was absolute bitchiness and coldness from one younger woman...she came late with her hubby...she was Panamanian and he from Trinidad but i think she grew up here. Anyway her hubby sat right next to me, and she on the other side of him. So I was friendly and introduced myself and started chatting...he was fine at first, but then I saw how she was looking at me, and then he clammed up and got pretty rude and cold.

Nice, huh? And with my husband sitting on the other side of me!

Of course, not, mami!!!! I'm sure we'd get along splendidly!

http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/2007-0...-marriage_n.htm


My question is how many of you have experienced some form of racism as a result of your interracial or mixed nationality marriage? Personally, when a member of my family found out I intended to marry a Vietnamese woman she asked me "How can you do that after what they did to us". I was shocked to say the least. My response was that

1.) I was relatively certain she had nothing to do with the war since she wasn't even born yet. and

2.) That it was us that probably owed amends since we bombed them to the stone age and then bailed out leaving one hell of a mess behind that continues to kill today. Sounds sort of familiar doesn't it? Meet the new boss, same as the old boss.

P.S. I still haven't asked if a white German would be acceptable.

What did you expect from people? You are trying to simplify your situation and look through life in rose colored glasses. You and I and anyone else that gets married to a non-USA person should have thought long and hard about the ramifications of marrying them and bringing them to the USA and what could and would be said or done to them or us, so stop crying and be strong!

What did you expect from people? You are trying to simplify your situation and look through life in rose colored glasses. You and I and anyone else that gets married to a non-USA person should have thought long and hard about the ramifications of marrying them and bringing them to the USA and what could and would be said or done to them or us, so stop crying and be strong!

Can't even post an article without being zqt'd.

Here's Johnny!

http://static.flickr.com/27/45718334_bcd57b061b.jpg

Here's Johnny!

http://static.flickr.com/27/45718334_bcd57b061b.jpg

Hahaha.

Can't even post an article without being zqt'd.

People stare at us in public and I've had people act like I should have found something better, but this is a country with racism deeply ingrained in its culture. It doesn't get a pass from me, but meh. At least I know I am a few steps ahead.

Here's Johnny!

http://static.flickr.com/27/45718334_bcd57b061b.jpg

Remember this: When two people are in love, it will attract all kinds of attention and reaction. I was living with, and later married to a (white) French-Canadian/Scandanavia woman from Michigan with me being African-American. We were together a total of 12 yrs. before our divorce. My ex was attractive, but I wanted some different flavor. So, I met a 'Morena' from Northern Colombia, and I'm very satisfied.

But, in Colombia, being Black equates to being a 2nd class citizen. There's segregation alive and kicking in that country, and I understand my fiance when she says that she appreciates the laws we have here in the United States. Her younger sister asks me about, "Obama" regularly, and her father asks me about "Mississippi Burning" and if it was exactly like in the movie?? When I was still with my ex, we traveled to Helsinki, Finland, and people there wanted to know about "Boy's in the Hood" and why young people did not get along with the police in Los Angeles?? Just honest curiosity.

In Colombia, we get stared at, but I just stare back (like I'm part Mental), and people get uncomfortable and look away. I don't get it. We're both black. What's the problem??? Haha.

Moral of the story: don't base your happiness on acceptance from others.

I think that a good suggestion would be to sit the family, extended family, etc. down and let them know the whole story, see photographs of who their new In-Law is, where s/he is coming from, etc. There should be no surprises, only anticipation for this person entering your life. Hopefully, your family will all be on-board with this decision you have made, because a unified family will make things feel more inclusive.

Really intelligent, you people need to stop feeling sorry for yourself and start getting to moving and making the most of life in the USA! For it could be a lot worse in other parts of the world, which is a cold hard reality, aceept it and deal with it. Move on!




AGREED! I learned it long ago unlike so many others on here that want to sit around and feel sorry for themselves and cry and whine all the time!

Really intelligent, you people need to stop feeling sorry for yourself and start getting to moving and making the most of life in the USA! For it could be a lot worse in other parts of the world, which is a cold hard reality, aceept it and deal with it. Move on!




AGREED! I learned it long ago unlike so many others on here that want to sit around and feel sorry for themselves and cry and whine all the time!

My husband was surprised at how many mixed couples you see here in New York. In Morocco, even someone who's dark-skinned and someone who's light-skinned together is unusual, even though they are the same ethnicity and speak the same language.

I personally think it's great to see so many mixed marriages.

Well I experienced something that really hurt me.

My kids (they're twins) are from a previous relationship and they are 3 years old. Thier father is half Puerto Rican. And if you didn't know, Puerto Ricans are US Citizens anyway.

Basically, I had a picture of my kids hanging up at work and one of my co-workers said "whose kids are these? we dont have any mexicans working here." and started laughing. I almost got fired for what I said to that person. Fortunately my manager saw my side of things.

Other times, people ask me if I'm babysitting or if my kids are half black. If they were, would it matter????
Why is it so important to distinguish WHAT they are. They're kids. They're American kids.

It's very disheartening and it's sad that people are so narrow-minded.

I've actually experienced a more favorable reception and response in public. I told my wife it's because she is Asian and not Black. However, this is simply my perception.

I've actually experienced a more favorable reception and response in public. I told my wife it's because she is Asian and not Black. However, this is simply my perception.

Girlfriend get out of here. Why do people have to be like that. I think ya'll are a beautiful couple and as long as you two are happy to HELL with everyone else. That really gets under my skin.Call me Ms. INTERNATIONAL...I'll date whoever the HELL I want. I just chose to marry a Jamaican, because I've not had luck with men outside of my culture. I've dated American men black and white, but all I hear are conversations about WEED (and these are profesisonal men). If that's the only think you can connect with me about my CULTURE, then keep it moving. I dated an Italian guy for 2 years and his mother and her sisters (his aunts) HATED me. His father and uncles LOVED me. They found that I was EXOTIC. And the fact that I came from Jamaica, just made his father and the males in his family love me more. It was just his mother. He was the youngest son of 10 and he was the FINEST and I was just not good enough for her. They said I was too black and too fat and that all black one do is have babies. So, I made sure everytime I went around them I FLAUNTED by BIG A$$. I always sat on his laps and my mouth was always on his. I would have married him, but his job is too risky and people in his field either don't get married or don't stay married long (according to him). Check this out, they own a lot of propery in Negril and I went on vacation with them for 3 weeks (you know I was LOVING it)...because I was in my ZONE and she was seeing couples of opposite races all over NEGRIL, Mobay and Ocho. I drove her NUTS! She kept pretending that she was having a nervous breakdown and what is this world coming to. Her husband paid her no mind. They were to BLAZED up to address her comments. But this was the last straw, ITALIANS are big on Sunday dinners and well, when she set the table (you ready for this)...she set my place with PAPER plate, forks, knife, cup, bowl--so, we went at it. I was never felt so disrespectful in my life. Now, this woman had no problems with me when I spoke to her on the phone serveral times. We dated 6 months before I met his mom. His dad, brothers, uncles, new I was black. He didn't tell her, so the first time she met me she was in SHOCK! All she kept saying of what I could understand in her langauge was "Negra"...I think that means black or something like it. So, GIRLFRIEND, when you out and about...let them know he's yours...to HELL with everyone else. When we would go out, I got dirty steers from EVERYONE...because let me tell you...he was FINE (oh, did I tell you that already)...but I fell for him, because of his eyes and his zest of life...he was a KID all over again. Who knew that a grown man could get a kick out of going to a THEME park and losing his every loving mind. After that date, I was hooked.

http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/2007-0...-marriage_n.htm


My question is how many of you have experienced some form of racism as a result of your interracial or mixed nationality marriage? Personally, when a member of my family found out I intended to marry a Vietnamese woman she asked me "How can you do that after what they did to us". I was shocked to say the least. My response was that

1.) I was relatively certain she had nothing to do with the war since she wasn't even born yet. and

2.) That it was us that probably owed amends since we bombed them to the stone age and then bailed out leaving one hell of a mess behind that continues to kill today. Sounds sort of familiar doesn't it? Meet the new boss, same as the old boss.

P.S. I still haven't asked if a white German would be acceptable.