Just curious - what is the age difference between you and your SO?

Our age difference is 2 years, 4 months and 26 days. He's older

We are the same age (he is older by 2 months, 51 days).

I am 8.5 years older than my fiance. Ironically, I was engaged years ago to a Nigerian man whose tribe was adamantly against the marriage of a woman who is older than the man.

Subsequently, God intervened and had other plans for me, because the man I am engaged to marry now, years later, embraces and cherishes every aspect of me, and I cannot put into words how much I love that man.

one year and a week older than me.

months, weeks and days, ya'll are beyond funny!

Bassi is one year older than me. He was born on May 19 and I was born on April 16 one year apart. I'm a daydreamer with goals of early retirement, so you guys do the math.

This is great!

My husband is 3 years older than I.

Sorry, mathematician here

I am one year older.

I understand what you are saying totally. I have a friend whose family insisted that he marry a girl younger than he is. Subsequently he married a girl 15 years younger than himself so she could give him babies. Needless to say, now she wants to partay and doesn't.

I am not quite 3 years older than him. I know that marrying an older woman can be a problem for some Nigerian men. I know one who was dating a girl who was several years older than him and his mother HAD A FIT. Even though he said he really loved this girl, he eventually found someone else (who, btw, is younger).

But my SO loves me and the age difference isn't an issue for us.

I took an African studies class in undergrad and that was a hot topic of discussion among the class and the foreign students. I was one of the foreign students at the time, and I too thought it was gross to marry a woman older you. Of course I was 20 years old and would not have touched a man too much older than me either. Anyway, most of the foreign born men were insistent that it was not right to marry an older woman especially if she already had children. Needless to say some of these same bastards didn't mind going out with an older woman for fun, they just wouldn't marry one. I felt they would marry a younger woman for children and to please the family and love really wasn't a requirement. Just my one of my many experiences after being on Earth so many years. LOL

No need to break it down to days and hours and such the years is a big enough number. I am 12 years older than him and he is Nigerian and the oldest son. But the family is ok with it. I guess they are happy that he is finially marrying. I feel like someone should be handing me the cougar award.

If I could get the darn cougar to paste on this reply I would be honored to give you your award.

My SO is three years older than me. Once upon a time, I was only interested in men at least 5 years older than me. Whenever I met guys within three years of my age, they always turned out to be so immature. But I tell you....africa breeds men different than they do out here. I've found alot of african men to be very mature, even at early ages. And I kinda like being in the same age range as my SO...I feel like I can relate to him better....and that we can grow together.

I don't know about all african men, but I know that my fiance is like that. He's only a year older than me, but I call him "old man" cause sometimes he really sounds like an old man. But it's nice because he's also very silly. It's nice to have a little of both. I found that he is more committed to a relationship, a marriage, a family that the men I met previously. It's a priority in his life and everything else is dessert. I'm finally mature enough to know what I want.

I am 7 years older than my husband, he is ok with it... I think his family is too. They didn't think I was older than him until he told them.

YAYYYY!! Another cougar! I am 10 years older than my husband. I'm 42 and he's 32. But the funny thing is, i am extremely young at heart. Don't feel or look my age. And i call him "an old soul" cuz we are absolutely perfect together. He is also the oldest of 9 children. His family had no problems with me(being white), my age or the fact i had children. Matter of fact when my 12yr old son and i lived there in Nigeria for 3 months, we were welcomed with open arms into his family. My son called his parents grandpa and grandma, and i call them mom and dad. And i am very close with his brothers and sisters, talking to them online regularly. I am truly blessed!

we were born the same year, me May 3rd, him July 27

Does my 8.5 year difference make me a cougar too? (smile)

I apologize for all of my posts tonight. I am really enjoying this site and feel like I should start contributing more, since I have gained such invaluable insight and information regarding the process I am about to embark on (K1). I am very grateful for this venue. I appreciate all of you.

Maybe we should have our own thread the African Cougar Club. I am also white and have 3 grown childern. His family was so nice to me. They went out of their way when I visited to make sure I was ok with the foods and that I was as comfortable as conditions allowed. When I met his parents one of the other brothers sat behind between his father and I and acted as interpetor. That allowed Joseph and I to speak without stopping to translate.

Growl....

My man is 3yrs older than me.....the interesting thing is that I always dated younger men.... my friends always warned me about rocking the craddle. Even now when we discuss my baby has to remind me that he is older than me

Its funny because I never heard of the term cougar until I read through this thread yesterday. Then when I got home and watched Desperate Housewives of Orange County, there was some woman on there calling herself a cougar too. I was like "heyyyyyyyy....i know what a cougar is".

Hello Everyone,

I am five years older than Hakeem.

We seem to have a trend going here. Actually both my ex's were younger men .

I am 3 years (and two weeks) older than my husband (and believe me, there are definitely days when I am constantly reminded of this) Even though he does have a "old African soul", his true age still finds a way to peak through. It's still all love though!!

3 years doesn't really seem like a very big difference.

It's not really, but some days it is...

maybe for such a small difference she is only a cougarette

Hmmmm, cougarette. I like that. Guess I'd be one too, only being 3 years older than my man.

Nani is 10 years younger than me.

I'm 2 years older than my fiance. He's 34 and I'm 36. It doesn't bother me at all.