Red flag

[Vetomo 69]

Good day

Me and my wife get married in 2015 she spend 2weeks with me before she travel back to state in 2016 she came again and we did our traditional wedding,she spend 3months with me but is baffing me is that we have age difference like 30years and we love each order even in my home country we had a property and joint account together and today make it 131days when she file for me and we nthat a red flag?

[Ahmed&Freda 628]

30 years between you both?  Which is older?  What country?  Some counties a large age different when the women is older can be a red flag.  I'm also curious why you are just now filing for the petition if you've been married since 2015?

 

If you can prove a bonafide relationship red flags can be overcome.  Some things you can't change and if you really love each other you'll stick it through.  

[Gorkhali 213]

This is interesting... If an immigrant is female and 30 years younger than USC (age ain't such issue) and if immigrant is male and 30 years younger than USC (oh boy you are done deal). This aspect baffles me a lot.

 

Anyway be prepared to be denied initially and it may take multiple years for you guys to get through. 

[Gorkhali 213]

1 minute ago, Ahmed&Freda said:

30 years between you both?  Which is older?  What country?  Some counties a large age different when the women is older can be a red flag.  I'm also curious why you are just now filing for the petition if you've been married since 2015?

 

If you can prove a bonafide relationship red flags can be overcome.  Some things you can't change and if you really love each other you'll stick it through.  

i presumed USC is wife and 30 years older than her (intending) immigrant husband

Edited October 22, 2017 by Gorkhali

[Vetomo 69]

47 minutes ago, Ahmed&Freda said:

I'm from nigeria and the woman is older than me and why I stay long is that I'm doing my tech school,I just graduate this year that what keep me in my home country.

 

45 minutes ago, Gorkhali said:

i presumed USC is wife and 30 years older than her (intending) immigrant husband

USC is wife and she older than me with 30years 

[Ontarkie 13,915]

14 minutes ago, Gorkhali said:

This is interesting... If an immigrant is female and 30 years younger than USC (age ain't such issue) and if immigrant is male and 30 years younger than USC (oh boy you are done deal). This aspect baffles me a lot.

 

Anyway be prepared to be denied initially and it may take multiple years for you guys to get through. 

It's only a red flag when from certain countries. If it's not a normal thing then it is suspicious. 

If a this same couple was Canadian mad with the USC wife being older it would not be looked at the same way as someone from a mena country. 

[jakelake 222]

11 minutes ago, Gorkhali said:

This is interesting... If an immigrant is female and 30 years younger than USC (age ain't such issue) and if immigrant is male and 30 years younger than USC (oh boy you are done deal). This aspect baffles me a lot.

 

Anyway be prepared to be denied initially and it may take multiple years for you guys to get through. 

Why does it baffle you?

It is very uncommon for a man to marry an older woman, let alone 30 years older. While not always the case, it is assumed that the man wants to start a family. It is very rare for a woman in her late forties to have multiple children.

On the other hand, a man in his sixties can certainly have many children with a woman 30 years younger than he is.

 

Having said that, while it would be a huge red flag for an older woman married to a much younger man, it is certainly possible to get approved if a strong case is presented.

[pushbrk 12,106]

A red flag is red flag, and this one is because it IS Nigeria.  The best way to overcome this kind of red flag is to spend a lot of time living together as husband and wife.

[Michael2017 368]

Why we always see those cases coming out of Nigeria and it is not common anywhere else in the world.

Not saying it does not happen, but Nigeria has a great track record for such kind of relationships.

 

In my opinion more than 90% of them are fake and I support the Embassy to apply the highest amount of scrutiny to protect the USC. 

[DandY 134]

18 hours ago, Gorkhali said:

This is interesting... If an immigrant is female and 30 years younger than USC (age ain't such issue) and if immigrant is male and 30 years younger than USC (oh boy you are done deal). This aspect baffles me a lot.

How so? There are two aspects to this: cultural norms (what is the ratio of older men/younger women to younger men/older women) and the fraud rates of younger man/older woman in immigration. It does not baffle me at all.

[dudeinTriBeCa 38]

Isn’t it highly unusual and almost a taboo in Nigeria for a man to marry a woman twice as old as him let alone a 30 years difference? I know it’s customary for older men to marry younger women, young enough to be their daughter/granddaughter. Most tribes and even the younger man’s family wouldn’t let that happen and if u find a family that supports such marriage, chances are they’re aware of the scheme and stand to gain something out of it. That being said it’s a 95% chance the marriage is sham but stranger things have happened!

[pushbrk 12,106]

3 hours ago, Michael2017 said:

Why we always see those cases coming out of Nigeria and it is not common anywhere else in the world.

Not saying it does not happen, but Nigeria has a great track record for such kind of relationships.

 

In my opinion more than 90% of them are fake and I support the Embassy to apply the highest amount of scrutiny to protect the USC. 

If you are referring to the reverse age difference issue, I can assure you that we see these cases coming from MANY different countries.  For example I see this often from Pakistan and Morocco.  Your statistical opinion is clearly pulled from thin air, but Consular Officers are trained to consider the totality of circumstances in deciding cases, including this issue.  All such cases get some level of additional scrutiny.  However, when a couple has lived together as husband and wife in the foreigner's home country for an extended period of time (multiple months) it is very difficult to conclude the relationship is not bona fide, pretty much no matter what the age difference.

[JR loves JR 196]

So in two years, you've spent 3 and a half months together? To be honest, that's more than my husband and I did but we only have a 4 year difference and we went through a much easier embassy. How did you two meet? How long did you talk before becoming engaged? Did you get engaged in person or was your first meeting when you got married? You're going to need lots of evidence of a real relationship and most of that evidence needs to be made face to face. Good luck on your journey. Prepare for a long stressful process. Immigration from Nigeria is normally neither fast not easy.

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