Married to permanent green card holder 9yrs 2mo's found out he Fathered a child who is now 7 yrs old during our marriage with another woman.

[willow1948 0]

I had sponsored my Mexican citizen ex-husband for 9 yrs and 2 months; and now: as of Feb 17th, 2013, divorced him and just recently found out during our marriage he fathered a child with another woman, the child is now 7 yrs old, and I've been divorced from him 3 years now. This means he fathered a child the last 4 years we were still married unknown to me. He became very abusive and emotionally cruel. We no longer had intimate relations the last 4 years we were married and now I know why. He ended up marrying this other woman May 15, 2014, and they recently bought a huge house valued at $310,000 Jan 20 2015. I am not sure if he has obtained his Naturalization for US .Citizenship, but I do believe he violated his green card rights by fathering a child out of wedlock and continued to be married to me for 4 more years. He had his green card 10 yr permanent resident card the entire time we were married 9 years and 2 months. I believe he deceived me. Are their any penalities that can be held against him if he tries to get his Naturalization or can he be deported due to the deception during our marriage and fathering a ####### child? I just found out from a friend who saw his Facebook page and that of his wife and a picture of his Daughter. This needless to say has further devastated me and made me realize he was living 2 lives during our marriage and having another family unknown to me. I had gone through alot with this man traveling to Mexico 3 times at my expense and going for interview at American consulate for our marriage to end up my living an abusive existence the last 3-4 years being married and being horribly emotionally abused and demeaned. I need to know if there are any Legal avenues for Immigration to take against him. To deport him or bar him with a penality of 5 more years before he can pursue a Naturalization. This has turned into a total waste of many years and pain mentallly for me. Thanks for any info you can provide. Willow 1948

[veer143 5]

I had sponsored my Mexican citizen ex-husband for 9 yrs and 2 months; and now: as of Feb 17th, 2013, divorced him and just recently found out during our marriage he fathered a child with another woman, the child is now 7 yrs old, and I've been divorced from him 3 years now. This means he fathered a child the last 4 years we were still married unknown to me. He became very abusive and emotionally cruel. We no longer had intimate relations the last 4 years we were married and now I know why. He ended up marrying this other woman May 15, 2014, and they recently bought a huge house valued at $310,000 Jan 20 2015. I am not sure if he has obtained his Naturalization for US .Citizenship, but I do believe he violated his green card rights by fathering a child out of wedlock and continued to be married to me for 4 more years. He had his green card 10 yr permanent resident card the entire time we were married 9 years and 2 months. I believe he deceived me. Are their any penalities that can be held against him if he tries to get his Naturalization or can he be deported due to the deception during our marriage and fathering a ####### child? I just found out from a friend who saw his Facebook page and that of his wife and a picture of his Daughter. This needless to say has further devastated me and made me realize he was living 2 lives during our marriage and having another family unknown to me. I had gone through alot with this man traveling to Mexico 3 times at my expense and going for interview at American consulate for our marriage to end up my living an abusive existence the last 3-4 years being married and being horribly emotionally abused and demeaned. I need to know if there are any Legal avenues for Immigration to take against him. To deport him or bar him with a penality of 5 more years before he can pursue a Naturalization. This has turned into a total waste of many years and pain mentallly for me. Thanks for any info you can provide. Willow 1948

I feel for you, and can help you with this link, you can report the person as taken immigration advantage from your marriage. https://www.uscis.gov/avoid-scams/report-immigration-scams

On the other side of the coin, if you want you can file case for his infidelity, spousal abuse & possibly economic fraud. I don't think in this case the Statute of limitations must be over yet. So you must still be able to have him a go through the prosecution process. Police or Lawyer will be able to help you. But you can contact USCIS too, see what they can do now that you had voluntarily removed the 2 year conditions when he must have got the 10 year green card. The abuse & infidelity case will affect his naturalization case, and if he is seeking any immigration benefit for the other woman. Please keep the children out of it, and don't abuse them even in XXXXXX. Children are god's own image and they are not the one involved in any wrongdoing here.

Good luck

[Penguin_ie 5,984]

. The abuse & infidelity case will affect his naturalization case, and if he is seeking any immigration benefit for the other woman.

Incorrect. The OP was married a long time, and while infidelity is wrong morally, it is not immigration fraud, especially as timeline wise, he had the child after he already was in the USA with a legitimat greencard. There is nothing Op can do "against" her ex husband, except divorce him, which she already did.

[willow1948 0]

Thanks to everyone on their replies. My ex husband lied to me alot. He thought he was in fact concealing his double life and he did quite well, but I can read a little Spanish and 2 times caught him with his cell phone and a woman had emailed him 2 months after his 14 month wait in Mexico to get his green card. I approached him about this so obviously he was already involved with another US citizen of Mexican heritage even before he left for Mexico. I traveled to Ciudad Juarez to join him to pick up his packet at the American Embassy, we picked up the packet and crossed the border on December 4, 2006. 2 months after he got back home to our house in Dallas, Tx on Valentines Day, I had gone to pick up donuts in his SUV and discovered in the seat a CD with a womans hand writing in silver ink written in Spanish to Mi Amor S.........l and professing her love to him. This is only 8 wks after his return from a 14 month absence. I approached him about this and he denied and lied and said a friend of his did this as a joke. From that point on I didn't trust him. So 7 years later we divorced, 4 of those years were brutal. He would cuss me out on a daily basis, call me names, told me not to bother him on his cell phone. When we would go out to dinner he never talked to me but would constantly be texting this woman the entire time we were at the restaurant. At the end of our marriage and his numerous throwing food at me across the counter and I quit cooking and threatened my life I kicked him out. He paid for our divorce willingly and not 3 yrs later have opened a Pandora's box. He even admitted to me over private messaging that the little girl in the picture is his Daughter born out of wedlock as illigetiment. I had no clue, but this is bitter sweet. I carried him on my work health insurance and it costs me $110 a month and he never offered to reimburse me. I was so hurt during our divorce that I didn't ask for the $9200 back over 7 years. Now that I have found this out I am seriously thinking of hiring an Atty. to sue him to recoup this monies. He had BCBS full coverage medical and dental insurance and even had a back surgery. Look how I ended up. Taken advantage of. This is enough to really make a decent woman really emotionally sick even though we are divorced. I really appreciate everyones input. Think I'll contact the Attorney who did his papers for us to see if he can find out if he has already Naturalized with USCIS knowing he had fathered a child out of wedlock while we were still married. His admission in writing I still have from FB private posts. That is enough to really get him into trouble. This is just one BAD example how a person wasted 10 years of their life for what,,,,,emotional devastation. Thanks again!

[arken 4,197]

What happened to you is definitely sad, but as said, he will probably not get into trouble from immigration point of view just because he fathered his child out of wedlock. It's time to move on.

[Boiler 43,401]

There is a more specific site that has similar cases, www.immigrate2us.net.

The ones I have seen usually involve a second 'wife' and family n Mexico, divorce and then petitions for 'wife' and family.

Not sure how common it is, certainly not unknown.

Anyway all water under the bridge in your case.

[aaron2020 11,651]

I had sponsored my Mexican citizen ex-husband for 9 yrs and 2 months; and now: as of Feb 17th, 2013, divorced him and just recently found out during our marriage he fathered a child with another woman, the child is now 7 yrs old, and I've been divorced from him 3 years now. This means he fathered a child the last 4 years we were still married unknown to me. He became very abusive and emotionally cruel. We no longer had intimate relations the last 4 years we were married and now I know why. He ended up marrying this other woman May 15, 2014, and they recently bought a huge house valued at $310,000 Jan 20 2015. I am not sure if he has obtained his Naturalization for US .Citizenship, but I do believe he violated his green card rights by fathering a child out of wedlock and continued to be married to me for 4 more years. You believe incorrectly. Cheating and father a child is not a violation of his green card. He had his green card 10 yr permanent resident card the entire time we were married 9 years and 2 months. I believe he deceived me. Are their any penalities that can be held against him if he tries to get his Naturalization or can he be deported due to the deception during our marriage and fathering a ####### child? No. No penalties because there is no immigration violations. I just found out from a friend who saw his Facebook page and that of his wife and a picture of his Daughter. This needless to say has further devastated me and made me realize he was living 2 lives during our marriage and having another family unknown to me. I had gone through alot with this man traveling to Mexico 3 times at my expense and going for interview at American consulate for our marriage to end up my living an abusive existence the last 3-4 years being married and being horribly emotionally abused and demeaned. I need to know if there are any Legal avenues for Immigration to take against him. None. There is nothing you can do to him. To deport him or bar him with a penality of 5 more years before he can pursue a Naturalization. You cant do this thankfully. He has a child that you want to keep separated from him for 5 years, how cruel are you? This has turned into a total waste of many years and pain mentallly for me. Thanks for any info you can provide. Willow 1948

Thanks to everyone on their replies. My ex husband lied to me alot. He thought he was in fact concealing his double life and he did quite well, but I can read a little Spanish and 2 times caught him with his cell phone and a woman had emailed him 2 months after his 14 month wait in Mexico to get his green card. I approached him about this so obviously he was already involved with another US citizen of Mexican heritage even before he left for Mexico. I traveled to Ciudad Juarez to join him to pick up his packet at the American Embassy, we picked up the packet and crossed the border on December 4, 2006. 2 months after he got back home to our house in Dallas, Tx on Valentines Day, I had gone to pick up donuts in his SUV and discovered in the seat a CD with a womans hand writing in silver ink written in Spanish to Mi Amor S.........l and professing her love to him. This is only 8 wks after his return from a 14 month absence. I approached him about this and he denied and lied and said a friend of his did this as a joke. From that point on I didn't trust him. So 7 years later we divorced, 4 of those years were brutal. He would cuss me out on a daily basis, call me names, told me not to bother him on his cell phone. When we would go out to dinner he never talked to me but would constantly be texting this woman the entire time we were at the restaurant. At the end of our marriage and his numerous throwing food at me across the counter and I quit cooking and threatened my life I kicked him out. He paid for our divorce willingly and not 3 yrs later have opened a Pandora's box. You are opening the box, not him. He has moved on. You have not. He even admitted to me over private messaging that the little girl in the picture is his Daughter born out of wedlock as illigetiment. I had no clue, but this is bitter sweet. I carried him on my work health insurance and it costs me $110 a month and he never offered to reimburse me. I was so hurt during our divorce that I didn't ask for the $9200 back over 7 years. Now that I have found this out I am seriously thinking of hiring an Atty. to sue him to recoup this monies. You will lose. If this was a loan, you lost your chance when you failed to bring it up during the divorce. The courts does not have the time for every little grievence that you have after the divorce. He had BCBS full coverage medical and dental insurance and even had a back surgery. Look how I ended up. Taken advantage of. Yet you vouch to the US that he was a good guy. This is enough to really make a decent woman really emotionally sick even though we are divorced. A decent woman would not want to separate a father and daughter for 5 years. I really appreciate everyones input. Think I'll contact the Attorney who did his papers for us to see if he can find out if he has already Naturalized with USCIS knowing he had fathered a child out of wedlock while we were still married. If he is the client, you can not ask his attorney for any private information. His admission in writing I still have from FB private posts. That is enough to really get him into trouble. No, it's not. He will not be in any trouble. This is just one BAD example how a person wasted 10 years of their life for what,,,,,emotional devastation. Thanks again!

Hi,

You have been divorced for many years, it's time to move on. He has moved on. You have chosen not to move on.

You vouch for him to get a green card. You were in the best position to protect yourself.

Cheating and having an out-of-wedlock child has NOTHING TO DO WITH IMMIGRATION. Get over it since neither has anything to do with violating the terms of his green card.

It's extremely cruel that you want REVENGE and have him deported for years and keep him separated from his child.

You can file a lawsuit against him. Then watch it get tossed out of court. Money issues should have been settled in the divorce. You don't get to keep coming back to the court to keep suing him.

GET OVER IT. Your marriage has been over for a very long time. Leave him alone. Go on with your life. As long as you keep pursuing him, then it's your choice to keep the wounds open.

Best of luck.

Edited August 7, 2016 by aaron2020

[JFH 12,189]

I'm sorry to hear this. Marriage break-up always hurts, even when it's the best solution for all concerned and the marriage is beyond repair.

Just because he has been through an extensive visa process and we immigrants have to submit documents, police records, sign papers, have medicals and interviews doesn't mean he's a saint or will never do anything wrong. What he did was morally wrong. Very wrong. But some people cheat. It's just how they are. This could have happened if you married a man from the same city as you. There are good men all over the world and bad men. Having a green card doesn't mean he has won a prize for honesty or faithfulness. It says nothing about the kind of husband he is or will be. A green card doesn't come with a guarantee that you have the perfect spouse.

You did the right thing in divorcing him. Meanwhile there is a child in the picture who has done no wrong. It's possible the child's mother also knew nothing of this double life - if he fooled you, he could have fooled anyone. Why would you want him to be deported and for the young child to lose her father? You can move on and find a new husband. But the child will only ever have one father. Please don't hurt the child to score points against this man. He's not worth it. Let him stay with this other woman if she wants to keep him. Put it down to experience and thank your lucky stars you are rid of him.

Edited August 7, 2016 by JFH

[gregcrs2 1,777]

Your life will be better once you stop looking for revenge and realize you have to get on with your life.

Revenge will not heal you.

Emotions and money are gone so move on to the next chapter of your life.

[Unlockable 7,306]

You are not going to get the answers that you are looking for.

You can't prevent him from becoming a USC now.

[Beth & Achraf 328]

There is truly nothing you can do in a court of law or even with immigration. All you can do is move on .

Years ago I was married to an Egyptian, I thought we had a perfect marriage and shared a deep love, boy I was wrong. Turned out he remarried his first wife while still married to me , I found out by a family member who was just as shocked and surprised of what he did.

My revenge was I moved on, found happiness and married now for nearly 4 years to a wonderful man .That was the best revenge, as I heard he is miserable and every damn day she makes his life miserable for leaving her and marring me in the first place. The hurt will ease up, just hold your head high, and keep walking, no woman needs a two timer much less an abusive spouse. Count yourself lucky you got out.

Best wishes......

[Anitafeliz 1,133]

This happens a lot but in your case he stayed many years he knew exactly what to do to get the benefits he wanted.

You are divorced all you can do is sit by and watch Karma take care of him.

DONT let this man make you a bitter person let it go. He already took many years of your happiness.

Edited August 7, 2016 by Anitafeliz

[Georgia16 2,858]

How do you know it is his biological daughter?

My husband also calls my son for his son even though it is not his bio son. Could it be that your ex have taken that girl in as his own and thats why he write daughter on facebook?

[Cheezees 1,514]

How do you know it is his biological daughter?

My husband also calls my son for his son even though it is not his bio son. Could it be that your ex have taken that girl in as his own and thats why he write daughter on facebook?

What difference would it make?

[Ortolan 381]

Not one thing under the sun you can do to prevent him from getting his naturalization, so best to just try to put the whole horrible mess behind you.

If you want revenge, it's going to poison your life. You'll feel better, I hope, if you can just burn all his photos, do yourself a little dance that you're free of him, and move on with your life.